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Rebecca Loos claims Beckham is "playing the victim" over affair scandal

<p>Rebecca Loos, the woman at the centre of the alleged <a href="https://www.oversixty.co.nz/finance/legal/woman-at-the-centre-of-alleged-beckham-affair-breaks-silence" target="_blank" rel="noopener">affair scandal</a> with iconic football legend David Beckham, has recently shared her thoughts on the new <em>Beckham</em> docuseries, which was released on Netflix.</p> <p>Loos, now 47 and residing in Norway with her husband and two children, expressed her concerns regarding the way the affair was handled in the docuseries, which was produced in collaboration with Beckham's production company.</p> <p>In the early 2000s, Loos gained notoriety for her claims of a romantic involvement with David Beckham during his time as a football superstar. In the docuseries, the Beckhams primarily discussed the media frenzy that ensued following Loos' revelations in 2003, but skirted around the specifics of the affair itself.</p> <p>It was during that tumultuous period that Loos had declared her connection with the football player while working as his personal assistant, even suggesting that the Beckhams had been dealing with marital issues before her involvement came to light. At the time, the celebrity couple vehemently denied any wrongdoing and even considered legal action against Loos.</p> <p>Victoria Beckham, 49, revealed in the docuseries, "It was the most unhappy I have ever been in my entire life," while David Beckham, 48, tearfully stated, "Victoria is everything to me. To see her hurt was incredibly difficult… what we had was worth fighting for."</p> <p>Loos, however, took issue with David's statement. In a <a href="https://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-12657157/rebecca-loos-affair-david-beckham-netflix.html" target="_blank" rel="noopener">candid interview with the Daily Mail</a>, she expressed her frustration: "The [worst] bit for me is that he says he didn't like seeing his wife suffer. That bothered me. Because he's the one that's caused the suffering. He can say whatever he likes, of course, and I understand he has an image to preserve, but he is portraying himself as the victim and he's making me look like a liar, like I've made up these stories. He is indirectly suggesting that I'm the one who has made Victoria suffer."</p> <p>Loos also argued that the docuseries had thrust the affair back into the spotlight, an issue that many had forgotten about since the news first broke 20 years ago, thereby further impacting her reputation. She emphasised, "Yes, the stories were horrible, but they're true. He talks in the documentary about this ultimately being his private life, shutting it down. I think it's one thing to keep your private life to yourself. It's another thing to mislead the public."</p> <p>She suggested that David could have chosen to acknowledge that it was not one of his proudest moments or characterised it as a challenging period and moved on from the subject. However, she felt that he continued to phrase his statements in a way that indirectly shifted the blame onto her.</p> <p>"If you don't want to take responsibility for things because of your family and your children, that's absolutely fine," Loos commented, "But he specifically made it look like… my fault, that he had nothing to do with this."</p> <p>Loos, after the 2003 allegations, embarked on a path as a media personality, participating in various English and Dutch TV shows. In 2008, while filming the Dutch TV show <em>71 Graden Noord</em>, she crossed paths with her future husband, Norwegian doctor Sven Christjar Skaiaa. After becoming pregnant, the couple decided to relocate to Norway in 2009. Today, she works as a yoga teacher and a massage therapist in Norway while raising her two sons and only occasionally making media appearances.</p> <p><em>Images: Instagram</em></p>

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Woman at the centre of alleged Beckham affair breaks silence

<p>Rebecca Loos has decided to speak out amidst the wave of criticism she's facing in light of her <a href="https://www.oversixty.co.nz/lifestyle/relationships/david-and-victoria-beckham-open-up-about-alleged-affair" target="_blank" rel="noopener">alleged affair with David Beckham</a>. The former model, now 46, is pushing back against the 'disturbing' remarks being made about her on social media, which have resurfaced following the release of the Netflix series about Beckham.</p> <p>On October 6, a fan expressed their support for Loos amid the renewed attention and online harassment she's enduring. They voiced their disgust at some of the comments they had seen, stating, "Some of the comments on here are disgusting!!!" They went on to offer words of encouragement, saying, "Stay strong. You have a beautiful life with your gorgeous family, which, unlike others, doesn't have to involve Netflix!!!"</p> <p>Loos responded to this supportive message on Instagram, expressing her gratitude and resilience, stating, "Thank you 🙏🏼 am taking in the nasty comments with as much humour as I can," and ending her comment with a heartfelt red heart emoji.</p> <blockquote class="instagram-media" style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" data-instgrm-captioned="" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/p/Cx2cV7zMX2U/?utm_source=ig_embed&utm_campaign=loading" data-instgrm-version="14"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"> </div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"> </div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"> </div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"> </div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"> </div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <div style="padding: 12.5% 0;"> </div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; margin-bottom: 14px; align-items: center;"> <div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; height: 12.5px; width: 12.5px; transform: translateX(0px) translateY(7px);"> </div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; height: 12.5px; transform: rotate(-45deg) translateX(3px) translateY(1px); width: 12.5px; flex-grow: 0; margin-right: 14px; margin-left: 2px;"> </div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; height: 12.5px; width: 12.5px; transform: translateX(9px) translateY(-18px);"> </div> </div> <div style="margin-left: 8px;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 20px; width: 20px;"> </div> <div style="width: 0; height: 0; border-top: 2px solid transparent; border-left: 6px solid #f4f4f4; border-bottom: 2px solid transparent; transform: translateX(16px) translateY(-4px) rotate(30deg);"> </div> </div> <div style="margin-left: auto;"> <div style="width: 0px; border-top: 8px solid #F4F4F4; border-right: 8px solid transparent; transform: translateY(16px);"> </div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; flex-grow: 0; height: 12px; width: 16px; transform: translateY(-4px);"> </div> <div style="width: 0; height: 0; border-top: 8px solid #F4F4F4; border-left: 8px solid transparent; transform: translateY(-4px) translateX(8px);"> </div> </div> </div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center; margin-bottom: 24px;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 224px;"> </div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 144px;"> </div> </div> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;"><a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none;" href="https://www.instagram.com/p/Cx2cV7zMX2U/?utm_source=ig_embed&utm_campaign=loading" target="_blank" rel="noopener">A post shared by REBECCA LOOS (@rebeccaloosofficial)</a></p> </div> </blockquote> <p>Numerous other users also came forward to support Loos on her most recent Instagram post, where she was pictured practicing yoga with the reflective caption: "Letting go and finding strength in the mountains of life."</p> <p>One individual commented, "I have always admired your strength Rebecca! Keep being strong!" while another person hoped she was doing well and encouraged her not to let the negativity of others affect her soul.</p> <p>Another fan commented on the renewed criticism and social media attacks on a woman they don't even know, urging people to "do better."</p> <p>Back in 2004, Loos was accused of having an affair with Manchester United star David Beckham while she was working as his personal assistant. At the time, Beckham had been married to Spice Girls singer Victoria Beckham since 1999, and the allegations became a significant media sensation.</p> <p>On October 4, Netflix released the documentary series <em>Beckham</em>, which delves into the football player's career and marriage, including addressing the rumours of his infidelity in the early 2000s. Both David and Victoria Beckham discuss the impact of tabloid rumors on their marriage during the series.</p> <p>Victoria, in an individual interview for the series, admitted, "It was the most unhappy I have ever been in my entire life," and she shared how challenging it was, especially because they felt pitted against each other. David also acknowledged the difficulty of that period, emphasising Victoria's importance in his life and how hard it was to see her hurt but doubling down on their determination to overcome it together.</p> <p><em>Images: Instagram</em></p>

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David and Victoria Beckham open up about alleged affair

<p>David and Victoria Beckham have chosen to open up about the "unhappiest" period of their lives, in their highly-anticipated Netflix documentary. </p> <p>The power couple candidly spoke about David's alleged affair in 2003, where he was accused of cheating with his former personal assistant Rebecca Loos after they were spotted leaving a night club in Spain. </p> <p>The rumours spread just after David was transferred from the Manchester United club to Real Madrid . </p> <p>David called the claims “ludicrous” at the time, and now his wife Victoria has also shared her heartache during that time, describing it as the "unhappiest in her life". </p> <p>Ahead of the release of the four-part documentary series, director Fisher Stevens revealed how "unpleasant" it was for him to ask the couple such personal questions. </p> <p>"It wasn't pleasant, but we got into it," he said. </p> <p>"For me, I approached it as, "How did your marriage stay together?" and you'll see how he responds," he added. </p> <p>Producer John Battsek also told <em>The Sunday Times </em>that the couple "signed up” to a nothing off-limits contract, and were happy to discuss tougher subjects. </p> <p>“There was no, “You will not ask that or do that,’" he said</p> <p>"Fisher and I thought that might be the case, but we were clear from the start that we would only do this if we could go in any direction we wanted. And we did," he added. </p> <p>Aside from the alleged affair, the couple also opened up about their first date and are clearly still smitten with each other. </p> <p>“The fact I went to the games really was to - some might say I stalked him, I would say see him," she joked about their first meeting at a charity football match in 1997. </p> <p>She also added that she was immediately attracted to the football star when she spotted him chatting with his parents before the game. </p> <p>“When I saw him in the footballers’ lounge, all the other footballers were at the bar, and he was standing and talking to his parents, and I’m very close to my family, and I loved that side to him.”</p> <p>David's recollection of their first meeting was a bit more simple: “I just fancied her”.</p> <p>The couple have been married since 1999 and have four kids together - sons Brooklyn, 24, Romeo, 21, Cruz, 18, and a daughter Harper, 12.</p> <p><em>Image: Kevin Winter/Getty Images</em></p>

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"I will die sorry": Phillip Schofield breaks his silence on his career-ending affair

<p>Former <em>This Morning </em>host Phillip Schofield has broken his silence over his affair with a colleague 30 years his junior in an interview with <em>The Sun</em>. </p> <p>And while the disgraced British television star shared that he had been left feeling “utterly broken and ashamed” over the whole ordeal, he stressed that any rumours of grooming were not true. </p> <p>“I did not,” he told the publication, after a week of the social media rumour mill running riot. “I did not [groom him].”</p> <p>“I know the photos of us circulating on Twitter look shocking, but I’m not a groomer,” Phillip insisted.</p> <p>He noted that “there are accusations of all sorts of things”, but claimed that had never been an abuse of power, as “we’d become mates … but of course I understand that there will be a massive judgement, but bearing in mind, I have never exercised that anywhere else.”</p> <p>According to Phillip, the two remain friends. And although the ex-show runner had been 30 years younger than him at the time of their affair, he added that the relationship had only begun after the man was 20 years old, when “something just happened between us that changed everything.” </p> <p>“I assume somebody, somewhere, assumed something was going on, correctly” he shared, “and didn't say anything. </p> <p>“At the time I did not think about it possibly ruining my career. I really probably only thought about it when I saw the rumour mill, and saw it growing.</p> <p>“Then I saw the link with the drama school photo [from] all those years before, and thought, ‘this looks shocking’."</p> <p>However, as Phillip said, he hadn’t lied in order to protect his own career, but instead because the other man in the affair hadn’t wanted “his name in public. He wanted his own life.” </p> <p>Phillip explained that “the lies grew bigger and bigger and bigger”, and that it was starting to have a deep effect on both of them. </p> <p>“It got to the stage where it was out of control,” he said, “and for whatever cost, it had to stop.</p> <p>“I have massive guilt, and regret. I’ve made a mistake, I’ve had an affair at work.”</p> <p> “I think my greatest apology must go to him,” Phillip revealed. “It has brought the greatest misery into his totally innocent life, his totally innocent family, his totally innocent friends.</p> <p>“It has brought the greatest grief to them.”</p> <p>He added that the pair hadn’t spoken since the story broke - and that he also no longer speaks to his former friend and co-host Holly Willoughby - but that when things began to spiral out of control, he’d “paid for his lawyers to independently work on his behalf. </p> <p>“I am deeply sorry and I apologise to him because I should have known better. I should have acted the way I have always acted. I should not have done it.</p> <p>“I’m sorry. And I will forever be sorry. I will die sorry. I am so deeply mortified.”</p> <p><em>Images: Getty</em></p>

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“What a legend”: Groom exposes new wife’s affair during wedding speech

<p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;">A groom has exposed his new wife after finding out she had been having an affair with his best man during a speech at their wedding.</p> <p dir="ltr">The scorned groom handed out intimate photos and explicit videos of his wife and the best man together before announcing he would be “leaving now”, dropping the microphone and then walking off with his family, who had been pre-warned.</p> <p dir="ltr">On The Unfiltered Bride podcast, wedding planners Georgina and Beth spoke about the shocking story.</p> <p dir="ltr">Georgina said although his family knew, he wanted to go ahead with the wedding so that the bride would have to pay for all the food.</p> <p dir="ltr">They posted a snippet of their podcast on TikTok, which quickly went viral. </p> <p dir="ltr">Georgina said on the podcast, “I've got another story to tell you. I can't tell you who told me because I'm not really allowed to tell the story, but f**k it I'm going to tell the story anyway. So there was a wedding and they did the wedding, bride and groom got married, lovely ceremony, drinks reception, sat down for wedding breakfast, had their food, speeches after food.”</p> <p dir="ltr">“Father of the bride does his thing, groom stands up and says, ‘Just before I properly get started, there's some envelopes coming round now. If you could all open them up. Yeah those are pictures of the bride f*****g the best man so I'll be leaving now.’ Dropped the microphone and him and all his family knew about it and left because they wanted the bride to have to pay for the food.”</p> <p dir="ltr">Beth then asked, ”So the bride paid for everything?” To which Georgina replied, “The bride's family paid for everything.”</p> <p dir="ltr">The video sparked numerous reactions.</p> <p dir="ltr">“My mouth actually dropped. OMG!!!” one person said.</p> <p dir="ltr">“I don’t blame him at all!! I’d do the same 😂😂” another added.</p> <p dir="ltr">“But WHY did he still marry her?” a third asked.</p> <p dir="ltr">“I admire the patience of the groom and family to get through the whole thing without slipping up once. 😅” another added.</p> <p dir="ltr"><em>Image credit: Shutterstock</em></p>

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King Charles cuts ties with TV host over affair revelations

<p>King Charles has cut all ties with UK television host Phillip Schofield, after he lied about having an affair. </p> <p>Schofield has been dumped from his hosting gig at <em>This Morning</em>, which he has been the face of for 21 years, after he admitted he had an affair with a much younger man who worked at the ITV network.</p> <p>The 61-year-old resigned from the network after lying about the “consensual on-off relationship", admitting in a statement that the affair was "unwise" but stressed it was "not illegal".</p> <p>He added that he was "deeply sorry" for having lied to his wife and to ITV about his relationship with the man reportedly 30 years his junior and who he first met as a teenager.</p> <p>“Contrary to speculation, whilst I met the man when he was a teenager and was asked to help him to get into television, it was only after he started to work on the show that it became more than just a friendship,” he said in his recent statement.</p> <p>In light of the affair, Schofield has been dropped by The Prince's Trust, after being an ambassador for several years. </p> <p>A spokesperson from the King's charity told <em><a title="The Telegraph" href="https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2023/05/30/phillip-schofield-dropped-princes-trust-this-morning-affair/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">The Telegraph</a> UK</em> that it was mutually agreed it was "no longer appropriate to work together".</p> <p>"In light of Phillip's recent admissions, we have agreed with him that it is no longer appropriate to work together," a Prince's Trust spokesperson said.</p> <p>All references to Schofield have been removed from the charity's website and also his own page.</p> <p>It previously read, "Outside of work, Phillip is an ambassador for the charity The Prince's Trust, dedicating time to further the work of supporting vulnerable young people in the UK".</p> <p>The Prince's Trust was created in 1976 by then-Prince Charles to help young disadvantaged people in the UK, with the hugely successful charity helping more than one million young people by providing them with business grants, education and training.</p> <p>Following the bombshell revelation of Schofield's affair, ITV said it had investigated the allegations of his affair "several times" from early 2020, but said it didn't find any evidence.</p> <p>It's been a trying time for the ex-presenter with his brother Timothy recently being jailed for 12 years over child sex offences.</p> <p><em>Image credits: Getty Images</em></p>

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Tennis legend Pam Shriver opens up on "traumatic" affair

<p dir="ltr">Tennis star Pam Shriver has shared an insight into the “inappropriate” and “traumatic” affair she had with her coach as a teen, hoping her story will prompt tennis organisations to address the “alarmingly common” issue.</p> <p><span id="docs-internal-guid-a378a0f4-7fff-9d01-33aa-4243bedd7673">Shriver wrote about her experience in a column for the <em><a href="https://www.telegraph.co.uk/tennis/2022/04/20/pam-shriver-exclusive-inappropriate-relationship-50-year-old/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">UK Telegraph</a></em>, revealing how the relationship she had with her Australian coach Don Candy was “inappropriate and damaging”.</span></p> <blockquote class="twitter-tweet"> <p dir="ltr" lang="en">This is not an easy story for me to tell, but it is time.</p> <p>You can listen to my story on the <a href="https://twitter.com/TennisPodcast?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">@TennisPodcast</a> - <a href="https://t.co/81m3Ryfwr4">https://t.co/81m3Ryfwr4</a></p> <p>You can read my story <a href="https://twitter.com/TelegraphSport?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">@TelegraphSport</a> - <a href="https://t.co/ckvTF4SSQQ">https://t.co/ckvTF4SSQQ</a> <a href="https://t.co/ZRHJMxPTjg">pic.twitter.com/ZRHJMxPTjg</a></p> <p>— Pam Shriver (@PHShriver) <a href="https://twitter.com/PHShriver/status/1516753194893778945?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">April 20, 2022</a></p></blockquote> <p dir="ltr">Candy, who passed away in 2020, began working with Shriver when she was just nine years old and coached her when she went through to the final of the US Open at 16.</p> <p dir="ltr">She said she told the 50-year-old she was falling in love with him when she was 17, with the pair going on to have an affair.</p> <p dir="ltr">“My main motivation is to let people know this still goes on - a lot,” she wrote.</p> <p dir="ltr">“I believe abusive coaching relationships are alarmingly common in sport as a whole. My particular experience, though, is in tennis, where I have witnessed dozens of instances in my four-and-a-bit decades as a player and commentator.</p> <p dir="ltr">“Every time I hear about a player who is dating their coach, or I see a male physio working on a female body in the gym, it sets my alarm bells ringing.”</p> <p dir="ltr">Shriver shared that she had “conflicted feelings” about Candy, and that though she wasn’t sexually abused, “there was emotional abuse”.</p> <p dir="ltr">“I felt so many horrendous emotions and I felt so alone. The worst would be my anger and jealousy when his wife came to tournaments,” the 22-time grand slam champion wrote.</p> <p dir="ltr">“It was horrible. I can’t even tell you how many nights I just sobbed in my room - and then had to go out and play a match the next day.</p> <p dir="ltr">“Yes, he and I became involved in a long and inappropriate affair. Yes, he was cheating on his wife. But there was a lot about him that was honest and authentic. And I loved him. Even so, he was the grown-up there.</p> <p dir="ltr">“He should have been the trustworthy adult. In a different world, he would have found a way to keep things professional. Only after therapy did I start to feel a little less responsible. Now, at last, I’ve come to realise that what happened is on him.”</p> <p dir="ltr">Shriver wrote the her ability to form normal relationships had been “stunted” by the affair, which had been a “traumatic experience” for her.</p> <p dir="ltr">“The after-effects lasted far beyond the time we spent together. Our affair shaped my whole experience of romantic life,” she wrote.</p> <p dir="ltr">Though she suggested some possible solutions to the issue, Shriver said she doesn’t have all the answers.</p> <p dir="ltr">“By the time they graduate to the main tennis tour, many patterns have already been set,” she wrote.</p> <p dir="ltr">“And then there’s the coaches. The best way to protect their charges is to put them through an education process before they arrive on tour.</p> <p dir="ltr">“The same goes for other credential-holders: physios, fitness trainers and so on. The point has to be made very clearly: these kinds of relationships are not appropriate, and there will be consequences for those who cross the line.”</p> <p><span id="docs-internal-guid-880a4695-7fff-b9d3-c532-a2b612c24e75"></span></p> <p dir="ltr"><em>Image: Getty Images</em></p>

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Australia's hefty legal bill in Novak saga revealed

<p>During a Senate hearing on Monday night, the cost of Australia's legal proceedings against tennis champ Novak Djokovic were revealed. </p><p>The Department of Home Affairs reportedly had to pay an estimated $360,000 over the weeks long saga, but this is not the official final figure of money spent. </p><p>This hefty sum doesn’t take into account the division of legal costs that were awarded in both court stoushes that took place.</p><p>The Department of Home Affairs was ordered to pay the legal costs for the first Federal Court matter in which Novak first had his visa cancelled. </p><p>But Djokovic was ordered to pay the costs in his subsequent failed bid to overturn Immigration Minister Alex Hawke’s decision to send the Serbian tennis champ packing for being unvaccinated.</p><p>“Hopefully they’ll net out to zero,” Home Affairs secretary Michael Pezzullo said during the hearing.</p><p>The department’s legal group manager Pip De Veau said that the fees had yet to be paid, but it was estimated to be $360,000, not taking into account these cost orders.</p><p>“The combined estimate at this stage was in the vicinity of $360,000 without any awards going either way,” she said.</p><p>“Costs were awarded against the department in the first proceedings, costs were awarded for the department in the second."</p><p>“We’ll need to get the invoices and make the determination in consultation with Mr Djokovic’s lawyers as to how those two cost orders are sorted out.”</p><p>Novak Djokovic was deported before the Australian Open, stopping him from competing. </p><p>“I will respect the court’s ruling and I will co-operate with the ­relevant authorities in relation to my departure from the country,” Djokovic said at the time.</p><p>“I am uncomfortable that the focus of the past weeks has been on me and I hope that we can now focus on the game and the tournament I love.”</p><p><em>Image credits: Getty Images </em></p>

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Grant Denyer’s big win over “false” affair story

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">TV presenter Grant Denyer has recently celebrated his win against tabloid magazine </span><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">New Idea</span></em><span style="font-weight: 400;">, after the publication was forced to publicly apologise for publishing a false story about him having an affair.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">In mid-October, </span><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">New Idea</span></em><span style="font-weight: 400;"> published a story implying that Denyer was having an affair with his </span><span style="font-weight: 400;">Dancing with the Stars</span><span style="font-weight: 400;"> partner Lily Cornish.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Taking to Instagram on Monday, the Gold Logie winner shared two photos of the apology, which appeared on both </span><a rel="noopener" href="https://www.newidea.com.au/grant-denyer-chezzi-denyer-lily-cornish-apology" target="_blank"><span style="font-weight: 400;">their website</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;"> and latest printed edition.</span></p> <blockquote style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" class="instagram-media" data-instgrm-captioned="" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/p/CXHTazzBfoa/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" data-instgrm-version="14"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"></div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"></div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"></div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"></div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"></div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;"><a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/p/CXHTazzBfoa/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" target="_blank">A post shared by Grant Denyer (@grantdenyer)</a></p> </div> </blockquote> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“As many of you have already read and raised with us, <em>New Idea</em> have printed today on the editor’s page an apology to Chezzi, Lily and myself for their most recent attack - The false, sensationalised, out of context and WRONG front cover,” he began in the caption.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“And they have admitted (which very rarely ever happens) that the article was false.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“They also have admitted that they regret publishing the article.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">He </span><a rel="noopener" href="https://thenewdaily.com.au/entertainment/celebrity/2021/12/06/grant-denyer-wins-new-idea-battle/" target="_blank"><span style="font-weight: 400;">also revealed</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;"> that he received a “confidential settlement” from the magazine almost two months after the “sensationalised” claims emerged.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Denyer said that he had every intention of suing the publication, employing lawyers from Corrs Chambers Westgarth to argue his case, but a “suitable” settlement was reached outside of court.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">He noted that the settlement included, “most importantly, a public apology and an admission that the story and headline were false”.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Though he said he, his wife Chezzi, and Cornish couldn’t remove the edition from circulation, “we hope this sets a serious precedent for the future”.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“Thanks to each and every one of you who have sent us letters, emails and messages of support throughout this, and to all of those who passed on their distain (sic) to <em>New Idea</em></span><span style="font-weight: 400;"> and boycotted the magazine, we thank you from the bottom of our heart,” he continued.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“Without your support the 3 of us may not have been brave enough to take on this media giant.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;"><em>New Idea</em> released the apology earlier on Monday and conveyed its regret in publishing the story.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“Are Media and <em>New Idea</em></span><span style="font-weight: 400;"> </span><span style="font-weight: 400;">acknowledge that Grant Denyer and Lily Cornish are not having an extramarital affair. They have never had an affair,” it said.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“Are Media and <em>New Idea</em></span><span style="font-weight: 400;"> </span><span style="font-weight: 400;">regret publishing the article.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“Are Media and <em>New Idea</em></span><span style="font-weight: 400;"> wish to sincerely apologise to Grant Denyer, Chezzi Denyer and Lily Cornish for the hurt and embarrassment caused by this article.”</span></p> <blockquote style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" class="instagram-media" data-instgrm-captioned="" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/p/CV4nf66Jw2G/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" data-instgrm-version="14"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"></div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"></div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"></div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"></div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"></div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;"><a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/p/CV4nf66Jw2G/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" target="_blank">A post shared by Grant Denyer (@grantdenyer)</a></p> </div> </blockquote> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">When the story first emerged, the </span><a rel="noopener" href="https://www.oversixty.com.au/lifestyle/relationships/grant-and-chezzi-denyer-slam-cheating-rumours" target="_blank"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Denyers refuted its claims</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;"> that Grant was “caught out” with Cornish.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“Lilz is like our adopted daughter,” Chezzi said at the time, adding that Cornish was a close friend of both her and Denyer.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“We grew extremely close during her month long stay with us here in Bathurst. We absolutely adore her!”</span></p> <p><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">Image: Getty Images</span></em></p>

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“It was a shock”: Affair between missing campers confirmed

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The sister of Carol Clay - who went missing along with Russell Hill - has spoken out about the secret affair between the pair.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">She revealed that Ms Clay and Mr Hill had taken multiple trips together to remote campsites prior to the disappearance last year.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Ms Clay’s sister Jill shared what she knew about the relationship during an interview with </span><span style="font-weight: 400;">60 Minutes</span><span style="font-weight: 400;"> over the weekend.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“I knew that she was going camping, not just on that occasion, but on other occasions,” Jill </span><a rel="noopener" href="https://www.news.com.au/national/victoria/news/affair-between-missing-campers-confirmed-in-bombshell-interview/news-story/bd33d5e64fc93b511065db574982ce30" target="_blank"><span style="font-weight: 400;">said</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;">.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“And I knew that she was having the relationships and that they were doing these trips.</span></p> <p><img style="width: 500px; height:281.25px;" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/7845438/clay-russell4.jpg" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/358a4d311d4d42f29fea9709552fad2b" /></p> <p><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">Ms Clay’s sister, Jill, calls on anyone with information to come forward. Image: 60 Minutes</span></em></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“They had to keep it secret, and in some ways, I feel that that’s why they went to such a remote place.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">It appeared that the relationship occurred without Mr Hill’s wife, Robyn, having any knowledge of it until his disappearance was investigated.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Mr Hill’s daughters were just as unaware of any relationship between them</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“It was a shock when the police mentioned something about, do we know a Carol? But that was the first we knew about it,” Colleen, one of Mr Hill’s daughters, told the program.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“We didn’t know anything about him and Carol being together.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Sisters Colleen and Carol agreed that knowing their dad wasn’t alone when he disappeared was of some comfort, but that their mum was struggling with the news.</span></p> <p><img style="width: 500px; height:281.25px;" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/7845439/clay-russell5.jpg" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/4d8ded169b2c499da4b77eaac6ce9c46" /></p> <p><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">Mr Hill’s daughters, Colleen (left) and Debbie (right). Image: 60 Minutes</span></em></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“It’s been really hard on mum. Not only losing her husband, but also all the talk about Carol, and so she’s got both, she’s lost her husband and she’s grieving the loss of her relationship,” Colleen said.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“It’s been very hard for her to get through both.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Ms Clay’s sister said it was an “extremely difficult” topic to talk about, and that she felt “very sorry (for) Robyn”.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“Because she found out two things at one time. One that Russell was missing and two, he was camping with someone else.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Mr Hill and Ms Clay were last seen on March 20, 2020, and police have conducted extensive searches since.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Detective Inspector Andrew Stamper believes the bodies of Mr Hill, 74, and Ms Clay, 73, are still within Wonnangatta Valley.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">On Sunday, police released an image of a blue mid-late 1990s Nissan Patrol towing a trailer that they believe could be crucial in discovering what happened to the couple.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Inspector Stamper </span><a rel="noopener" href="https://www.9news.com.au/national/search-for-russell-hill-and-carol-clay-four-wheel-drive-and-trailer-could-be-the-key-in-the-search-for-missing-victorian-campers/de8db0a2-4ce8-43dd-9d26-48d779e6afa1" target="_blank"><span style="font-weight: 400;">said</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;"> witness statements placed the vehicle in Wonnangatta Valley - and near the campsite - at the same time as Ms Clay and Mr Hill.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Police are calling for the driver or any witnesses who may have seen the vehicle to come forward and speak with them.</span></p> <p><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">Image: Victoria Police</span></em></p>

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Prince Charles haunted by past as The Crown blasts affair

<p><span>The Prince of Wales is not the most popular royal member, and season four of <em>The Crown</em> has only plummeted his approval rating even further.</span><br /><br /><span>While popular with only 47 per cent of Briton, Prince William and Her Majesty sits at 73 per cent.</span><br /><br /><span>The duchess of Cornwall is liked by only 34 per cent of the population.</span><br /><br /><span>Charles has the Netflix series, <em>The Crown</em>, to thank for that – a program watched by more viewers than William's 2011 wedding to Kate Middleton.</span></p> <p><img id="__mcenew" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/7839171/queen-prince-william-2.jpg" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/fcad4d5d3e0648fb920577da9920d79d" /><br /><span>The current season portrays him as emotionally abusive toward his now-deceased ex-wife, Princess Diana.</span><br /><br /><span>The wave of backlash against the 72-year-old heir has been so intense that the pair have disabled comments on their official Clarence House Instagram account.</span><br /><br /><span>There have also been demands for the royal to stand down as the next King of England.</span><br /><br /><span>"Charles experienced extreme hate when his affair with Camilla was outed, and when Diana was killed – but it was never as bad as this," a source for Woman’s Day said.</span><br /><br /><span>"The public is reliving those moments now – though obviously in a dramatised way – only this time everyone has a social media account through which to spout their vitriol.</span><br /><br /><span>“Clarence House is scrambling to contain it, but not many of his PR flunkies truly believe his reputation can recover from this."</span><br /><br /><span>There are rumours that The Queen may give in to demands to have Prince Charles step down.</span><br /><br /><span>"For the Queen, the monarchy comes above all else – even her own son," says an insider.</span><br /><br /><span>"At the rate things are going with everyone turning on Charles, Prince Andrew in hot water for his friendship with Jeffrey Epstein and Prince Harry leaving the family, she feels she can really only trust leaving her empire in Prince William's hands.</span><br /><br /><span>“He and Catherine have proved themselves to be a steady ship time and time again."</span><br /><br /><span>"At 94, the Queen should be enjoying her twilight years. Instead, the spectre of her son's failed marriage is back to bite them all.</span><br /><br /><span>"It's going to be huge if one of her final acts is to cast Charles and Camilla aside and declare that <em>the crown</em> will go to William."</span></p>

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Bill Clinton reveals why he had an affair with Monica Lewinsky

<p>Bill Clinton claims that his affair with Monica Lewinsky was one of the “things I did to manage my anxieties”.</p> <p>In a tell-all documentary, the former President revealed that the reason behind his affair with the ex-White House intern while he was in office was because it helped him with issues he was dealing with at the time.</p> <p>Bill said that at the time he met Lewinsky, the pressure of the job made him feel like a boxer who had done 30 rounds and he looked at Lewinsky as “something that will take your mind off it for a little while”.</p> <p>He makes the claims in an interview featured in the new documentary series about his wife Hillary Clinton, called<em><span> </span>Hillary</em>, where the former First Lady and Secretary of State candidly reveals that in the aftermath of the scandal the couple underwent “painful” marriage counselling.</p> <p>Bill apologised to Lewinsky in the documentary that is set to premiere on Friday and says he felt “terrible” that her life was defined by the affair.</p> <p>But he said that at some point when things don’t return to normal "you’ve got to decide how to define normal", suggesting the former intern should just move on.</p> <p>The scandal resulted in Bill being impeached in 1998. But he survived the trial in the Senate and remained in office during his second term.</p> <p>His hand was forced in 1998 when it became clear that he had lied to a grand jury which was investigating his personal affairs by denying the affair.</p> <p>Bill had also lied to Hillary, and she believed him.</p> <p>He said in the interview: “I went and sat on the bed and talked to her. I told her exactly what happened, when it happened. I said I feel terrible about it. We’ve been through quite a bit in the last few years. I said I have no defence, it’s inexcusable what I did”.</p> <p>Hillary told the cameras: “I was just devastated. I could not believe it. I was so personally just hurt and I can’t believe this, I can’t believe you lied.”</p> <p>Hillary then told her husband that he was the one who had to come clean to their daughter Chelsea, who was 18 at the time. He said it was worse than telling his wife and he said that doing so was “awful”.</p>

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Ivan Milat: Sister-in-law reveals year-long affair

<p><span>Ivan Milat’s former sister-in-law has revealed she had a year-long affair with the convicted serial killer while she was married to his brother Wally.</span></p> <p><span>Speaking to <em><a href="https://www.9news.com.au/national/ivan-milats-sister-in-law-maureen-has-no-feelings-over-his-death-60-minutes-exclusive/2938c380-3ad6-4a5e-852c-6fd034b0d2f3">60 Minutes</a> </em>on Sunday, Maureen Murray said she found the backpacker murderer to be “charming and attentive”.</span></p> <p><span>“That’s a part of my life I’m not really proud of but I had been [intimate with Ivan]. At certain points… just things happen,” she said.</span></p> <p><span>But she said she believed Milat was responsible for the deaths of seven backpackers whose bodies were found in the Belanglo State Forest between 1989 and 1992.</span></p> <p><span>“I believe he did it. He’s not innocent,” she said. </span></p> <p><span>“To me, he died 20 odd years ago, when he was arrested for this. I have no feelings whatsoever. He’s just a person that's died.”</span></p> <p><span>“I’d rather remember the person I knew – a nice person.”</span></p> <p><span>Ivan Milat died on Sunday at the age of 74 in Sydney’s Long Bay Prison Hospital. He was diagnosed with terminal stomach and oesophageal cancer in May.</span></p> <p><span>NSW Corrections Minister Anthony Roberts said he was glad that Milat was dead.</span></p> <p><span>“He can rot in hell,” Roberts said. </span></p> <p><span>“He showed no remorse.</span></p> <p><span>“He was sentenced to remain in jail for life, that sentence was carried out and he died in jail.”</span></p> <p><span>In 1996, Milat was handed down seven life sentences for the murders of seven hitchhikers and the abduction of British backpacker Paul Onions.</span></p> <p>Milat, who was also linked to the disappearance of three women in the Newcastle region in the late 1970s, never admitted to any of the crimes.</p>

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Inside Princess Diana’s love affair with her bodyguard

<p>The mid-1980s were a tough time for Princess Diana, who was busy raising her two young sons William and Harry, while her husband Prince Charles had once again started his affair with Camilla Parker-Bowles.</p> <p><span>According to Charles’s authorised biography, he began his</span><span> affair with Camilla in 1986, five years after he married Diana. </span></p> <p><span>Not knowing where to go or who to turn to, Diana crossed paths with a police officer at the Royal Protection Squad, Barry Mannakee, who was assigned as her bodyguard.</span></p> <p>He was 10 years older than the princess and had a reputation for being “Jack the lad”, but his tall stature and well-built physique drew Diana in.</p> <p>Mannakee became her confidante. Spending hours talking to each other as he accompanied Diana, William and Harry on long trips, including the royal country house Highgrove on weekends.</p> <p>During that time, there were rumours circulating of a potentially flirtatious relationship between the two, with a story of Diana wearing a tight mini skirt and asking Mannakee, “Do I look all right?”, coming to light.</p> <p>“Sensational, as you know you do,” he apparently replied. “I could quite fancy you myself.”</p> <p>“But you already do, don’t you?” Diana allegedly asked back.</p> <p>But despite it all, it has never been proven that they were lovers.</p> <p>“He was a flamboyant character who overstepped the mark,” said former protection officer, Ken Wharfe, to <em>ITV</em> years later. “There was a lot of rumour, but one thing is certain: Had there been a sexual relationship, which Diana clearly said there was not, rest assured we would have known about it then, not now.”</p> <p>In March 1986, those above Mannakee believed he was becoming “over familiar” with the princess, and they transferred him to diplomatic protection duties.</p> <p>A little over a year later, Mannakee was sitting on a motorbike with his friend and fellow officer Steven Peat when a new driver, Nicola Chopp, turned her car in front of the bike. Mannakee was thrown off the back of the bike and through the window of Chopp’s vehicle. He died almost immediately after suffering from a broken spine.</p> <p>It was Charles who revealed the tragic news to Diana, who allegedly was so overcome with emotion that she tore at her clothes on the way to the Cannes Film Festival.</p> <p>It wasn’t until years later when Diana admitted her feelings for Mannakee. Sitting down with a voice coach, Peter Settelen in 1992 and 1993, the princess opened up about falling “deeply in love” with one of her royal protection officers.</p> <p>It wasn’t hard to figure out that she was talking about Mannakee.</p> <p>“He was the greatest fellow I have ever had,” she said on tape. “I was always waiting around trying to see him. I just wore my heart on my sleeve. I was only happy when he was around.</p> <p>“I was quite happy to give it all up, just to go off and live with him. Can you believe it? And he kept saying he thought it was a good idea, too.”</p> <p>She then went on to explain how the relationship ended. </p> <p>“It was all found out and he was chucked out. And then he was killed. And that was the biggest blow of my life, I must say. And I think he was bumped off. But there we are. I don’t know – we’ll never know.”</p>

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It's not just sex: Why people have affairs and how to deal with them

<p>Barnaby Joyce’s affair with his former staffer Vikki Campion, and his subsequent downfall from the position of Australia’s deputy prime minister and head of the National Party, made headlines for weeks. It’s not surprising. From politicians to actors and entertainers, stories of high profile individuals caught “cheating” on their partner often make front-page news.</p> <p>We believe a romantic partner is there to provide us with love, comfort and security. So people are quick to make judgements and lay blame on perpetrators of what they see as a significant violation of relationship norms and betrayal of trust. Infidelity highlights the potential fragility of our closest and most important of relationships.</p> <p>But despite the blunt belief infidelity is the result of immoral and over-sexed individuals wanting their cake and eating it too, the reality is far more nuanced. For instance, infidelity is rarely just about sex. In fact, when it comes to purely sexual infidelity, the average occurrence <a href="https://www.routledge.com/Foundations-for-Couples-Therapy-Research-for-the-Real-World/Fitzgerald/p/book/9781138909632">across studies</a> is around 20% of all couples. However, this rate increases to around a third of couples when you include emotional infidelity.</p> <p>An affair is generally a sign things aren’t right with someone’s relationship. Without the necessary skills to heal the issues, a partner may engage in an affair as an ill-equipped way of attempting to have their needs fulfilled – whether these be for intimacy, to feel valued, to experience more sex, and so on. So, the straying partner views an alternative relationship as a better way to meet these needs than their existing relationship.</p> <p><strong>Who has affairs, and why?</strong></p> <p>Studies into why people cheat are many and varied. Some find <a href="http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1002/per.520/full">people who lack</a> traits such as agreeableness and conscientiousness are more likely to be sexually promiscuous, as are those higher in neurotic and narcissistic traits. Other studies find infidelity is more likely to occur among people who hold <a href="https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/00224540903536162">less restrictive views</a> about sex, such as that you don’t have to limit yourself to one sexual partner.</p> <p>Other important factors relate to people’s commitment to their partner and relationship satisfaction. Those low on these measures appear more likely to have an affair. Recent work suggests one of the <a href="https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S2352250X16300227">biggest predictors</a> of having an affair is having strayed before.</p> <p>A survey of <a href="https://www.relate.org.uk/policy-campaigns/publications/lets-talk-about-sex">5,000 people in the UK</a> found striking parallels between men and women’s reasons for infidelity, and neither prioritised sex. The top five reasons for women related to lack of emotional intimacy (84 per cent), lack of communication between partners (75 per cent), tiredness (32 per cent), a bad history with sex or abuse (26 per cent), and a lack of interest in sex with the current partner (23 per cent).</p> <p>For men the reasons were a lack of communication between partners (68 per cent), stress (63 per cent), sexual dysfunction with one’s current partner (44 per cent), lack of emotional intimacy (38 per cent) and fatigue or being chronically tired (31 per cent).</p> <p>So if we have difficulty genuinely communicating with our partner, or they don’t make us feel valued, we may be more likely to stray. People need to invest time and energy into their relationships. Experiencing chronic tiredness over many years means one’s capacity to put in the necessary work to keep a relationship strong is also compromised.</p> <p>While some couples report additional reasons, which can include a greater desire for sex, the majority speak to issues that reside either within the couple or outside the relationship. The latter can be stressors that challenge the couple’s ability to make the relationship work.</p> <p>If you’re experiencing relationship difficulties, getting help from a therapist may well short-circuit the risk factors that can lead to infidelity.</p> <p><strong>Disclosure and therapy</strong></p> <p>Some people choose to keep their affair secret because they may want it to continue, feel too much guilt or believe they’re protecting their partner’s feelings. But the secret only perpetuates the betrayal. If one is serious about mending their existing relationship, then disclosure is necessary, along with seeking professional guidance to support the couple through the turbulent period towards recovery.</p> <p>Most <a href="https://www.relate.org.uk/policy-campaigns/our-campaigns/way-we-are-now-2016">relationship therapists suggest</a> issues around infidelity can be improved through therapy. But they also report <a href="http://psycnet.apa.org/record/1997-05658-009">infidelity as one of the most difficult </a> issues to work with when it comes to rebuilding a relationship.</p> <p>There are various evidence-based approaches to dealing with infidelity, but most acknowledge the act can be experienced as a form of trauma by the betrayed person, who has had their <a href="https://www.routledge.com/Foundations-for-Couples-Therapy-Research-for-the-Real-World/Fitzgerald/p/book/9781138909632">fundamental assumptions</a> about their partner violated. These include trust and the belief that the partner is there to provide love and security rather than inflict hurt.</p> <p>But it’s not only the betrayed person who can experience mental health issues. <a href="http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1093/clipsy.bpi014/full">Research</a> has found that, when the affair is revealed, both partners can experience mental health issues including anxiety, depression and thoughts of suicide. There can also be an increase in emotional and physical violence within the couple.</p> <p>So a couple should seek professional help to deal with the aftermaths of an affair, not only to possibly heal their relationship but also for their own psychological well-being.</p> <p>There are many approaches to counselling couples after an affair, but generally, it’s about addressing the issues that precipitated and perpetuated the infidelity. One of the most <a href="https://www.routledge.com/Foundations-for-Couples-Therapy-Research-for-the-Real-World/Fitzgerald/p/book/9781138909632">well researched methods</a> of helping a couple mend these issues involves addressing the initial impact of the affair, developing a shared understanding of the context of the affair, forgiveness, and moving on.</p> <p><strong>Choosing to stay or go</strong></p> <p>Overall, therapy seems to work for about <a href="https://www.routledge.com/Foundations-for-Couples-Therapy-Research-for-the-Real-World/Fitzgerald/p/book/9781138909632">two-thirds of couples</a> who have experienced infidelity. If a couple decides to stay together, they must identify areas of improvement and commit to working on them.</p> <p>It’s also vital to re-establish trust. The therapist can help the couple acknowledge the areas of the relationship in which trust has already been rebuilt. Then the betrayed partner can be progressively exposed to situations that provide further reassurance they can trust their partner without having to constantly check on them.</p> <p>But if therapy works for two thirds of couples, it leaves another one third who experience no improvement. What then? If the relationship is characterised by many unresolved conflicts, hostility, and a lack of concern for one another, it may be best to end it. Ultimately, relationships serve the function of meeting our attachment needs of love, comfort and security.</p> <p>Being in a relationship that doesn’t meet these needs is considered problematic and dysfunctional by anyone’s definition.</p> <p>But ending a relationship is never easy due to the <a href="https://www.elsevier.com/books/adult-attachment/gillath/978-0-12-420020-3">attachment we develop</a> with our romantic partner. Even though in some relationships, our attachment needs are less likely to be fulfilled, it doesn’t stop us wanting to believe our partner will (one day) meet our needs.</p> <p>The impending end of a relationship fills us with what is termed “separation distress”. Not only do we grieve the loss of the relationship (no matter how good or bad), but we grieve over whether we will find another who will fulfil our needs.</p> <p>The period of separation distress varies from person to person. Some may believe it’s worth celebrating the end of a toxic relationship, but they will still experience distress in one form or another. If the couple decides to end the relationship and are still in therapy, the therapist can help them work through their decision in a way that minimises feelings of hurt.</p> <p>So infidelity is less about sex and more about matters of the heart and a misguided quest to have one’s relationship needs met. The problem is that some people choose to seek their relationship needs in the arms of another rather than working on their existing relationship.<!-- Below is The Conversation's page counter tag. Please DO NOT REMOVE. --><img style="border: none !important; box-shadow: none !important; margin: 0 !important; max-height: 1px !important; max-width: 1px !important; min-height: 1px !important; min-width: 1px !important; opacity: 0 !important; outline: none !important; padding: 0 !important; text-shadow: none !important;" src="https://counter.theconversation.com/content/92354/count.gif?distributor=republish-lightbox-basic" alt="The Conversation" width="1" height="1" /><!-- End of code. If you don't see any code above, please get new code from the Advanced tab after you click the republish button. The page counter does not collect any personal data. 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King Edward's affair with "sweetheart" before marrying Wallis Simpson

<p>As the only British monarch to abdicate voluntarily, the story of King Edward VIII is not to be missed.</p> <p>In 1936, King Edward VIII – who was the brother of Queen Elizabeth's father – rocked the British monarchy after he expressed his wish of marrying twice-divorced American woman Wallis Simpson. As head of the Church of England, Edward was advised against tying the knot with a divorcee, and his proposal was met with opposition from the religious institution and most politicians in the Commonwealth.</p> <p>After failing to find a solution, Edward finally abdicated his throne in December – making Queen Elizabeth's father King George VI of England – and left for Europe to marry Simpson the following year. The couple, who became the Duke and Duchess of Windsor, stayed together until Edward’s death in 1972.</p> <p>However, before the marriage, Edward also had a series of affairs with married women. One of them was English socialite and textile heiress Freda Dudley Ward, who Simpson once described as “my husband’s <a href="https://www.nytimes.com/1983/03/18/obituaries/marquesa-first-true-love-of-edward-viii-is-dead-at-88.html">first true love</a>”.</p> <p>Dudley Ward first met Edward, then the Prince of Wales, in 1918 during an air raid in London, when she had been married for five years to Liberal politician William Dudley Ward. The two soon became smitten with each other and began their relationship.</p> <p>In the letters to Dudley Ward, which were later sold at Sotheby’s New York, the prince repeatedly avowed his love. “'I love you love you so so madly &amp; desperately,” he wrote in one of the correspondences. “I worship &amp; adore you my sweetheart &amp; cant bear being away from you.”</p> <p>He called her his “Sweetheart &amp; Tormentor” and “my little Fredie” while signing himself as her “little slave” and “little parpee” (puppy). He would also phone her four to five times a night, and would reportedly become bereft when the line was busy or she was out of the house.</p> <p>Soon the affair became well-known among the high society, with Winston Churchill <a href="https://winstonchurchill.org/publications/churchill-bulletin/bulletin-082-apr-2015/winston-the-windsors/">once commenting</a>, “It is quite pathetic to see the Prince and Freda. His love is so obvious and undisguisable.”</p> <p>Dudley Ward’s marriage with her politician husband was dissolved in 1932. She enjoyed the prince’s company for a couple more years until their relationship was abruptly ended.</p> <p>In 1934, she called the St James’s Palace after a few weeks of not hearing from the prince. However, the operator informed her, “I have orders not to put you through.”</p> <p>Sotheby’s expert Marsha Malinowski said even though Dudley Ward was “admired by almost everyone in the prince’s circle”, she knew “their relationship wasn’t going anywhere and never would.”</p> <p>Since then, the two never spoke or wrote to each other again. According to the <a rel="noopener" href="https://www.nytimes.com/2003/06/08/style/fractured-fairy-tale-an-archive-of-a-royal-romance.html" target="_blank"><em>New York Times</em></a>, the prince had become attached to Simpson, who did not favour any contact with old girlfriends.</p> <p>Dudley Ward went on to marry Pedro José Isidro Manuel Ricardo Monés in 1937, but they ultimately split up in 1954. She died in London in 1983 at the age of 88.</p>

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A Current Affair busts cancer con-artist Belle Gibson on lavish $15K holiday

<p>Cancer con woman Belle Gibson has been caught out returning from a luxury trip overseas.</p> <p>Gibson convinced thousands of Australians that she was suffering from a brain tumour but healed herself due to natural remedies.</p> <p>As she was charged with five breaches of Australian Consumer Law, she was fined $AUD400,000 ($NZD 417,424) in 2017 as her empire crumbled around her. Many have questioned how she can afford to go overseas on a luxurious escape to East Africa, as her five-week trip reportedly cost $AUD15,000 ($NZD 15,653).</p> <p><em>A Current Affair</em> revealed details of her luxury overseas stay, as well as catching a refreshed-looking Gibson arriving back at Melbourne Airport with her partner by her side.</p> <blockquote class="twitter-tweet" data-lang="en"> <p dir="ltr">BUSTED! <a href="https://twitter.com/tinekae9?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">@tinekae9</a> catches-up with Belle Gibson after she touches down from a luxury getaway... she asks why Belle still hasn't made any effort to pay her 410K fine. <a href="https://twitter.com/ACurrentAffair9?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">@ACurrentAffair9</a>. <a href="https://t.co/WlW0l9l6dh">pic.twitter.com/WlW0l9l6dh</a></p> — Jonathan Gwinner (@gwinnerism) <a href="https://twitter.com/gwinnerism/status/1100645341035032576?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">February 27, 2019</a></blockquote> <p>This is the first time that Gibson has been confronted since her interview with <em>60 Minutes</em> in 2015, which Gibson reportedly received $AUD75,000 ($NZD 78,267) for.</p> <p>Gibson falsely claimed she had brain cancer and healed herself with natural remedies. She also lied to her supporters about donating money from her Whole Pantry app and her book sales to charities.</p> <blockquote style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" class="instagram-media" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/p/BlcU_udDzfK/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading" data-instgrm-version="12"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"></div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"></div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"></div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"></div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"></div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;"><a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/p/BlcU_udDzfK/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading" target="_blank">A post shared by QNA Investigations (@qna.investigations)</a> on Jul 19, 2018 at 11:00pm PDT</p> </div> </blockquote> <p>One of these charities included a family whose son was suffering from the same inoperable brain tumour that Gibson herself claimed she had. Gibson was supposed to donate one week’s profit from app sales, or $150,000 to the family, but never ended up donating the funds.</p> <p>Justin Lawrence, of Henderson &amp; Ball Lawyers, told<span> </span><em>A Current Affair</em>:</p> <p>“There can actually be another situation where she’s taken back to court and wheeled out from court to the jail cell,” he said.</p> <p>“That can happen, and this is not fake jail, jail in her (Belle’s) own mind. This is real jail.</p> <p>“The court understands when people can’t pay, that’s different to circumstances where they won’t pay.”</p> <p>What do you think? Let us know in the comments.</p>

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4 steps to get your financial affairs in order

<p>It’s a difficult topic to discuss but getting your financial affairs in order could help your family get through a difficult time and ensure your wealth is distributed as desired. Here are a few things you could to <span><a href="https://www.oversixty.com.au/finance/legal/planning-ahead-checklist-have-you-ticked-all-of-the-boxes">prepare</a></span> ahead.</p> <p><strong>1. List all assets</strong></p> <p>Put together a list of what you own (assets such as property, deeds, bank accounts, superannuation, investments, insurance policies and more), as well as what you owe (liabilities such as mortgages and loans). This will give you and your will executor a better idea on ways to administer your estate.</p> <p>You could also start making arrangements with your banks and insurance providers that would allow your partner and/or family to access your funds after you die.</p> <p><strong>2. Write or update your will</strong></p> <p>A will is a legal document that sets out what will happen to your estate (assets) after your death. Besides distributing your wealth, a will also allows you to donate to charities, name an executor and transfer trust control.</p> <p>You can create your own will by buying kits from a newsagency, a post office or online, but in general it is recommended that you enlist a lawyer or solicitor to make sure your document is signed and witnessed properly. Public Trustees can also help prepare your will for free if you appoint them as the will’s executor.</p> <p>Your will might also need to be updated when there are significant changes in your circumstances. Events that necessitate revisions might include relationship changes (marriage, separation or divorce), death of executor or beneficiaries, the entrance of new family members, and assets purchase or sale.</p> <p><strong>3. Appoint people you trust</strong></p> <p>Tapping a trusted person or party to manage your affairs can help the transition process go smoothly. One of the most important roles to consider is the will’s executor, who will be responsible for collecting and distributing your assets as well as repaying your debts. This role often requires special skillsets and involves making difficult decisions, so you may want to consider nominating a professional third party such as a private or public trustee instead of a friend or family member.</p> <p>It is also important to plan for who would make decisions on your behalf if something unexpected occurred and you could not look after your own personal and financial affairs. General power of attorney could make financial and legal decisions for you for a limited time – for example, if you are overseas. On the other hand, enduring power of attorney could make decisions on your behalf if you no longer have the capacity to do so on your own – for example, if you are mentally incapacitated – until you cancel or change them.</p> <p><strong>4. Organise your paperwork</strong></p> <p>Gather all important documents so that the person(s) managing your affairs will be able to locate them easily. These may include, but are not limited to: birth, citizenship and marriage certificates; bank account details; tax returns; vehicle registrations; Medicare card; life and medical insurance policies; house deeds; sources of assets and debts (including superannuation and investments); any pre-made funeral arrangements, and more.</p> <p>Create both physical and digital copies of these files for safekeeping.</p> <p>When in doubt, talk to a professional to discuss any matter of concern.</p> <p>How have you prepared to get your financial affairs in order? Let us know in the comments.</p>

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Hillary Clinton's surprising comment about Bill’s affair with Monica Lewinsky

<p>While speaking about her husband’s presidential affair with then-22-year-old Monic Lewinsky, Hillary Clinton provided an unexpected answer.</p> <p>During an interview with <em style="font-weight: inherit;">Sunday Morning</em> in the US, Mrs Clinton claimed that Bill Clinton’s affair wasn’t an abuse of power because Lewinsky “was an adult”.</p> <p>The response of the former First Lady was surprising considering her passion for championing gender equality and that her 2016 presidential campaign focused on her becoming the first female president if elected.</p> <p>When asked if her husband should’ve resigned the presidency after the affair was exposed, Mrs Clinton replied: “Absolutely not”.</p> <p>Pressed on whether it had been an abuse of power, as the president couldn’t have a consensual relationship with an intern, Mrs Clinton held her stance, reiterating that Lewinsky was old enough at the time.</p> <p>Mr Clinton was 49 years old when the affair took place.</p> <p>Mrs Clinton then focused on President Donald Trump, who has been accused of sexually assaulting several women before the 2016 election.</p> <p>“Let me ask you this: Where’s the investigation of the current incumbent, against whom numerous allegations have been made and which he dismisses, denies and ridicules?” Mrs Clinton said.</p> <p>Regarding her husband’s affair, she said: “So there was an investigation, and it — as I believe — came out in the right place.”</p> <p>The US House voted to impeach Mr Clinton for an obstruction of justice and lying under oath, however, the US Senate later acquitted him and he remained as president.</p> <p>Despite the spotlight that has been placed on sexual misconduct with campaigns such as #MeToo, Mrs Clinton believes sexism is still rampant in politics.</p> <p>Mrs Clinton believes sexism, as well as the investigation into her e-mails and Russian election meddling, were the reasons for her loss to Mr Trump.</p> <p>“If you watched the way Trump debated me, it was just imbued with sexism. Making fun of me for preparing. Well, you know, that’s the old, like, ‘Oh, yeah, the girl in the class who’s always prepared. I don’t need to be prepared,’” Mrs Clinton said.</p> <p>During the 2016 election, <em style="font-weight: inherit;">Access Hollywood </em>leaked a damning video where Mr Trump could be heard bragging about grabbing women’s genitalia.</p> <p>Mr Trump responded to the footage by holding a press conference with several women who accused Mr Clinton of sexual misconduct and accused Mrs Clinton of trying to silence them.</p> <p>However, Mrs Clinton said she played “no role” in silencing the women who accused her husband.</p> <p>“No role,” Mrs Clinton said. “I take responsibility for my life and my actions.”</p>

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Colin Firth’s wife admits to affair with her alleged stalker

<p>Colin Firth’s wife Livia Giuggioli has admitted she had an affair with the man she is now accusing of stalking her.</p> <p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><a href="https://www.thetimes.co.uk/article/colin-firth-s-wife-livia-giuggioli-admits-affair-with-stalker-journalist-marco-brancaccia-0zh5cc566" target="_blank">Livia Giuggioli has accused an Italian journalist of harassing her</a></strong></span> with a campaign of “frightening” messages, The Times reports.</p> <p>The 48-year-old film producer, who married Firth, 57, in 1997, claims journalist Marco Brancaccia, 55, was stalking her.</p> <p>He denied the accusation telling the publication that she was lying to cover up their relationship which occurred between 2015 and 2016.</p> <p>In a statement, the couple confirmed Giuggioli’s past relationship with Brancaccia, explaining, “A few years ago Colin and Livia privately made the decision to separate. During that time Livia briefly became involved with former friend Mr. Brancaccia. The Firths have since reunited.”</p> <p>The statement continued, “Subsequently, Mr. Brancaccia carried out a frightening campaign of harassment over several months, much of which is documented. For obvious reasons, the Firths have never had any desire to make this matter public.”</p> <p>“The reporting this week on this case is understood to be the consequence of a leaked court document. This is greatly to be regretted,” the statement concluded.</p> <p>Brancaccia has denied the harassment claims, saying they were “romantically involved.”</p> <p>“She wanted to leave Colin for me,” he said, adding that the marriage had “been over for years.”</p> <p>“My ‘stalking’ consisted of two messages via WhatsApp after she ended our relationship in June 2016, and an email. I wrote an email to Colin about my relationship with Livia, which I now regret sending, and she filed a complaint against me for stalking out of fear that I could go public with what she had revealed to me about her marriage and work,” he said.</p> <p>Brancaccia said, “In a year she sent me hundreds of messages of love, photos and videos, even a diary.”</p>

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