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"Future husband": Ash Barty's sweet announcement

<p dir="ltr">Champion tennis player Ash Barty has announced her engagement to her partner of four years in a touching Instagram post.</p> <p dir="ltr">Ash posted an adorable photo with her partner, Garry Kissick, accompanied by the caption, “Future Husband 💍❤️”, late on Tuesday. She also tagged Kissick. In the photo, Kissick is smiling down at Ash, who has her hand placed on his chest, displaying her gorgeous engagement ring for the camera.</p> <blockquote style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" class="instagram-media" data-instgrm-captioned="" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/p/CWnDVdFBDJ_/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" data-instgrm-version="14"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"></div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"></div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"></div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"></div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"></div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;"><a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/p/CWnDVdFBDJ_/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" target="_blank">A post shared by Ash Barty (@ashbarty)</a></p> </div> </blockquote> <p dir="ltr">Kissick also made his own post, featuring a photo of him kissing the side of Ash’s head as she beams at the camera, with the date of their engagement, November 15, as the caption.</p> <blockquote style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" class="instagram-media" data-instgrm-captioned="" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/p/CWnDAoch2Wg/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" data-instgrm-version="14"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"></div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"></div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"></div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"></div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"></div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;"><a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/p/CWnDAoch2Wg/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" target="_blank">A post shared by Garry Kissick (@gazlfc90)</a></p> </div> </blockquote> <p dir="ltr">Ash, 25, has been in a relationship with Kissick, 30, since 2017. Kissick is a professional golfer, and the couple met at the Brookwater Golf Club in 2016, the same venue where Ash would go on to win a championship over four years later.</p> <p dir="ltr">Wellwishers flooded the comments, with the Women’s Tennis Association congratulating the couple, along with Tennis Australia, fellow tennis player Jaimee Fourlis, and director of the Brisbane Lions, Cathie Reid.</p> <p dir="ltr">Just this week, Ash joined the ranks of Serena Williams and Martina Navratilova by celebrating the achievement of holding the year-end No.1 ranking for the third consecutive time. Earlier this year, she became the first Australian to win the Cincinnati Masters title since Evonne Goolagong Cawley 48 years ago. The tennis superstar has claimed five titles this year, and announced in October that she would not be competing in any further tournaments in 2021.</p> <p dir="ltr"><em>Image: Instagram</em></p>

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Queen Elizabeth II marks first wedding anniversary without Prince Philip

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Queen Elizabeth II has reached her first wedding anniversary without her late husband, Prince Philip.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The milestone comes seven months after the Duke of Edinburgh </span><a rel="noopener" href="https://www.oversixty.co.nz/news/news/prince-philip-dies-aged-99" target="_blank"><span style="font-weight: 400;">passed away</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;"> aged 99, and would have been a celebration of their 74 years of marriage.</span></p> <blockquote class="twitter-tweet"> <p dir="ltr">Today should have been the 74th wedding anniversary of this special couple, HM Queen Elizabeth II and The Late Prince Philip Duke of Edinburgh🙏 <a href="https://t.co/ufHW5s00YH">pic.twitter.com/ufHW5s00YH</a></p> — The Royal Butler (@TheRoyalButler) <a href="https://twitter.com/TheRoyalButler/status/1462133052281438216?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">November 20, 2021</a></blockquote> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Princess Elizabeth married Lieutenant Philip Mountbatten on November 20, 1947, at Westminster Abbey.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The couple’s union has been the longest of any British sovereign in history.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">At the celebration marking their 50th anniversary in 1997, the monarch said her husband often gave her “strength” over the years.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“He has, quite simply, been my strength and stay all these years,” she </span><a rel="noopener" href="https://www.abc.net.au/news/2021-11-21/queen-elizabeth-wedding-anniversary-without-prince-philip-/100637618" target="_blank"><span style="font-weight: 400;">said</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;"> at the time.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Following his death in April, the Queen said she was comforted by the tributes that came from all over the world.</span></p> <blockquote style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" class="instagram-media" data-instgrm-captioned="" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/p/CNvYjpIn7CB/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" data-instgrm-version="14"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"></div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"></div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"></div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"></div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"></div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;"><a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/p/CNvYjpIn7CB/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" target="_blank">A post shared by The Royal Family (@theroyalfamily)</a></p> </div> </blockquote> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“My family and I would like to thank you all for the support and kindness shown to us in recent days,” she said in a message on her 95th birthday, shared to the royal family’s Instagram</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“We have been deeply touched, and continue to be reminded that Philip had such an extraordinary impact on countless people throughout his life.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The 95-year-old has faced a series of difficulties this year, with the </span><a rel="noopener" href="https://7news.com.au/entertainment/queen-elizabeth-ii/queens-wedding-anniversary-without-philip-c-4631731" target="_blank"><span style="font-weight: 400;">most recent</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;"> involving a back injury that forced her to pull out of attending the Remembrance Sunday service and only commit to light duties.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Previously, the Queen was admitted to hospital on October 20 for preliminary investigations and was ordered to rest by royal doctors.</span></p> <p><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">Image: @theroyalfamily (Instagram)</span></em></p>

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The 7 stages of marriage

<p><span>Building a successful marriage is a lifelong challenge. Understanding the different stages of marriage and the phases you’ll go through as a couple may help you build a stronger and more fulfilling relationship.</span></p> <p><strong>Stage one of marriage: Passion</strong></p> <p>This is the honeymoon stage, when romance and intense attraction bond a couple together and lead to commitment. In retrospect, it often seems as short-lived as springtime – by two years, most couples have usually lost that initial magic, though this can vary by couple. But when it is happening, the passion stage is very strong and significant. It is a wave of feel-good brain chemicals orchestrated by Mother Nature to make the two of you forsake all others and take action to ensure the survival of the species.</p> <p>Even if you’re marrying later in life, or for the second time, nature supplies these delicious bursts of neurotransmitters to make you bond. Couples not only frolic and fall madly in love in the passion stage – they begin to establish the trust, respect and emotional intimacy that will support their relationship forever.</p> <p><strong>Stage two of marriage: Realisation</strong></p> <p>In this stage, the honeymoon ends, and a more real vision of the rest of your life together begins. In this stage, you discover your spouse is not only human, he also doesn’t load the dishwasher or lower the toilet seat. Disappointment and early conflicts are the hallmarks of this difficult, unavoidable period, as the two of you make the first steps toward accepting each other for who you really are.</p> <p>The mission and challenge? No less than laying the groundwork for a long future together based on acceptance, respect and openness to change. You’ll need to assertively discuss and emphatically listen as you both introduce your deepest personal needs and wants. This creates a foundation for being truly known, understood and supported in the years ahead.</p> <p><strong>Stage three of marriage: Rebellion</strong></p> <p>She misses her friends; he misses his cool toys. She wants to travel; he wants to play weekly softball. She wants to build her career; he wants to build his career. Even for couples who successfully navigate the realisation stage of marriage and lay the foundation for a happy, respectful coexistence together, a time inevitably emerges when self-interest often overtakes the interests of the marriage. And when this happens, be ready for the battles.</p> <p>Love amid the power struggles of the rebellion stage is tricky business. You both believe you’re right, so of course your partner’s wrong. That means you’re simultaneously offended at being called wrong and claiming the moral high ground. Is this any way to run a marriage?</p> <p>Experts say the drama of the rebellion stage are unavoidable. Learning the art of the good fight is the mission now – often it is the nature of the battles, rather than the substance of the discussion, that leads to trouble. Why? Rebellious thoughts, when met with anger and frustration, often lead to rebellious actions, such as infidelity, outlandish spending, or saying yes to the sudden offer from work to transfer to a new city. Any of these can spell disaster for a marriage.</p> <p><strong>Stage four of marriage: Cooperation</strong></p> <p><span>As marriages progress over time, they inevitably become more complicated. Careers grow, houses get bigger, personal commitments grow deeper, and children arrive. In the cooperation stage, marriage takes on a business-like personality. Set aside all that love and emotion and personal-realisation stuff: there are mortgages to be paid, investments to be handled, careers to be directed, health to be managed, and – first and foremost – children to be raised.</span></p> <p><strong>Step five of marriage: Reunion</strong></p> <p>If you have children, the cooperation stage often lasts 10 to 20 years – then suddenly it is gone. Your parenting commitments are lessened, your finances established, your career set, your mortgage paid. What then? For happy couples, it is a time to appreciate each other again, not as parents and providers but as lovers and friends, thinkers and seekers. Achieve this and there’s peace, happiness and reconciliation.</p> <p>That all sounds wonderful but this ideal is often hard to achieve. The embers of passion need stoking; the disillusionment and distance of middle age need to be managed; the roles and expectations of the marriage need recalibrating.</p> <p><strong>Step six of marriage: Explosion</strong></p> <p>Job loss, major health problems, a move to a new city, financial troubles, the illness or death of a parent – as you pass through midlife and into the golden years, major life developments seem to come one upon the other. In the explosion phase, either you, your spouse, or both of you are dealing with major, life-shaking events that could affect your relationship for a day, a year, or the rest of your lives. While the other six stages tend to occur in order, the Explosion stage can happen at any time in a marriage – though it happens most as we pass through our 40s and 50s.</p> <p>Confronted by a personal crisis, your marriage can be a source of solace or be sorely tried by the unexpected pressure of new roles, new limitations and new fears. The mission of the explosion stage: deal the best you can with life’s challenges and changes, but at the same time, keep yourself happy and healthy. Letting your marriage see you through can be as simple as sharing daily joys, provided you sometimes practice the Zen-like art of putting aside fear and stress.</p> <p><strong>Stage seven of marriage: Completion</strong></p> <p>It’s no coincidence: lots of surveys find that marital happiness soars after several decades of a shared life. Experts say simply that it’s because the kids are grown, and couples know each other very, very well. But there’s more to it than that. Knowing each other isn’t merely about tolerating each other’s habits, quirks and needs. In the completion stage, ‘knowing’ each other has a far deeper meaning-and a bigger payoff as well.</p> <p>Part of being a happy man is to never lose the boy within; the same goes for women-there is the spirit of a young girl inside, no matter how many wrinkles edge the eyes. Maintaining a childlike love of life, laughter, nature, and each other is the real secret to a perpetually blessed relationship. It is also living in the present, not the past. In the completion stage of marriage, there is never a belief that the best times are over-they should always be today and tomorrow.</p> <p><em><span>This article first appeared in </span><a rel="noopener" href="https://www.readersdigest.co.nz/culture/the-7-stages-of-marriage" target="_blank"><span>Reader’s Digest</span></a><span>. For more of what you love from the world’s best-loved magazine, </span><a rel="noopener" href="http://readersdigest.innovations.co.nz/c/readersdigestemailsubscribe?utm_source=over60&amp;utm_medium=articles&amp;utm_campaign=RDSUB&amp;keycode=WRA87V" target="_blank"><span>here’s our best subscription offer.</span></a></em></p> <p><em><span>Image: Getty Images</span></em></p> <p><img style="width: 100px !important; height: 100px !important;" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/7820640/1.png" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/f30947086c8e47b89cb076eb5bb9b3e2" /></p>

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Wheelchair-bound bride's amazing feat on her big day

<p>A Los Angeles bride has given her husband-to-be an emotional surprise when they met at the aisle.</p> <p>Chelsie Hill, who uses a wheelchair, walked proudly down the aisle with her father and a decorated walking frame to be eye-to-eye with her groom Jay Bloomfield.</p> <p>"As soon as I saw Jay, his jaw dropped", the 29-year-old bride told <a rel="noopener" href="https://www.insider.com/bride-wheelchair-surprised-groom-by-walking-down-the-aisle-2021-11" target="_blank">Insider</a> of the emotional moment.</p> <p>Chelsie was paralysed from the waist down in a car accident in 2010, but nothing could stop her from standing next to her groom on their big day.</p> <blockquote style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" class="instagram-media" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/reel/CVl4CX2FGHV/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" data-instgrm-version="14"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"></div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"></div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"></div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"></div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"></div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;"><a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/reel/CVl4CX2FGHV/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" target="_blank">A post shared by intimate wedding photographer (@ashabailey_)</a></p> </div> </blockquote> <p>The moment was captured by their wedding photographer and shared to Instagram, with the caption reading, "There wasn't a dry eye in the crowd."</p> <p>In order to help Chelsie's dream become a reality, she wore leg braces under her gown and had the support of her father, who Chelsie said is her biggest supporter.</p> <p><span>"My dad and I have talked about this moment forever," Chelsie gushed on Instagram. </span></p> <p><span>"He’s always had his tough guy face on trying to keep it together but he’s always been my big teddy bear."</span></p> <p><span>"Walking with my dad down the aisle was so special, every step, every breath, I didn’t take it for granted whatsoever. I’ll never forget this moment with my daddy."</span></p> <blockquote style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" class="instagram-media" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/reel/CV0ieZMjw2b/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" data-instgrm-version="14"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"></div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"></div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"></div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"></div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"></div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;"><a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/reel/CV0ieZMjw2b/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" target="_blank">A post shared by Chelsie Hill (@chelsiehill)</a></p> </div> </blockquote> <p><span>The videos from the wedding have racked up thousands of views, with commenters saying how moved they were by Chelsie's </span>strength.</p> <p>Later in the evening, Chelsie was also standing for her first dance with Jay, in their first moments of being husband and wife.</p> <p><em>Image credits: Instagram @ashabailey_ @chelsiehill</em></p>

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Simon Baker’s ex speaks for first time since split

<p dir="ltr">Simon Baker’s ex-girlfriend, Laura May Gibbs, fashion designer and founder of the Australian label Nagnata, has spoken publicly for the first time since Baker’s representatives confirmed the<span> </span><a rel="noopener" href="https://oversixty.com.au/lifestyle/relationships/simon-baker-quietly-splits-from-model-girlfriend" target="_blank">couple had split</a><span> </span>last week.</p> <p dir="ltr">There were rumours that Baker had decided to end things after Gibbs attended an anti-vaccine protest on November 7. In a video from the event that she uploaded to Instagram, a crowd can be seen dancing to ‘Power to the People’, while some hold signs with anti-vax messages and others hold Australian flags.</p> <blockquote style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" class="instagram-media" data-instgrm-captioned="" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/tv/CV-D5MMDtdr/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" data-instgrm-version="14"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"></div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"></div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"></div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"></div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"></div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;"><a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/tv/CV-D5MMDtdr/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" target="_blank">A post shared by LAURA MAY (@lauramay_)</a></p> </div> </blockquote> <p dir="ltr">Taking to Instagram on Tuesday, Gibbs wrote a lengthy post explaining her justification for attending the protest, opposing vaccine mandates more generally, and seeking to quash the rumours that her anti-vax beliefs were the reason for the breakup.</p> <p dir="ltr">Gibbs wrote, “Last weekend, the Northern Rivers community gathered peacefully alongside the local police and around 10,000 others, including nurses, teachers and first responders who are being subject to unreasonable mandates, currently in place in NSW. There was a march, followed by speeches and conversation, music and hope from people across all walks of life coming together to question - what is happening in our beautiful Country?</p> <p dir="ltr">I care about these people. I care about my staff and community, without division or prejudice. Regardless of our differences we are moving through this time together. The decisions being made by those in power effect all of us, including our children and their future freedoms. I have always been here, standing up for Freedom of Speech and Freedom of Choice, despite the politics of the time or what is considered appropriately ‘trendy’.</p> <p dir="ltr">So, to the gossip columnists, who have slandered my name across their platforms and used a false narrative around the relationship I’ve been in this year - it’s simply not true. And to the tabloid media I want to say - try harder. Stop using lies and sloppy journalism to make an example out of me. I never discuss my private life, but I will say this - the friendship and respect I share with this person runs too deep for the media’s noise to have any true impact in our lives.</p> <p dir="ltr">Instead, while we’re here, let’s start talking about the REAL issues facing our country - the mental health crisis, the housing crisis and the very real health crisis. This is not just about me, or my “rights”, this is about Freedom for all. Our freedom is not something that the government gives or takes away. It is our right from the moment we are born. So I won’t apologise for voicing my concerns, when I see so many struggling, losing their livelihoods and being silenced, shamed and ridiculed for wanting to ask questions.</p> <p dir="ltr">Activism is important to me, I’ve attended numerous environmental rallies and Indigenous rights protests, and taken action in all of these areas. If the media is going to cover issues I make a stand on, then report the full scope of the matter - and while you’re at it, lead with my name.”</p> <blockquote style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" class="instagram-media" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/p/CWSNMJ4PBta/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" data-instgrm-version="14"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"></div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"></div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"></div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"></div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"></div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;"><a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/p/CWSNMJ4PBta/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" target="_blank">A post shared by LAURA MAY (@lauramay_)</a></p> </div> </blockquote> <p dir="ltr">Gibbs and her brand previously made headlines for their decision to<span> </span><a rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/p/CU1hl96lZTl/" target="_blank">close their Byron Bay store</a><span> </span>rather than require customers to wear masks and check in using QR codes, per the NSW government’s rules for retailers after NSW’s lockdown lifted last month.</p> <p dir="ltr"><em>Image: Instagram</em></p>

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“We ain’t done”: What happens now Britney Spears is free

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">In a landmark decision, Britney Spears has been freed from her conservatorship after almost 14 years.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“Effective today, the conservatorship of the person and estate of Britney Jean Spears is hereby terminated,” Judge Brenda Penny said after the hearing on Friday.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Ms Spears appeared at the hearing virtually, and later shared a clip of her fans celebrating outside the courthouse.</span></p> <blockquote style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" class="instagram-media" data-instgrm-captioned="" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/reel/CWMXjAMp-aJ/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" data-instgrm-version="14"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"></div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"></div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"></div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"></div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"></div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;"><a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/reel/CWMXjAMp-aJ/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" target="_blank">A post shared by Britney Spears (@britneyspears)</a></p> </div> </blockquote> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The decision comes two months after her father Jamie Spears stepped down as her conservator.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The singer’s lengthy legal battle began gaining traction on social media in 2020, with a group of fans called the #FreeBritney movement being behind most of the growing attention.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Outside of their full-time jobs, fans began investigating the details of Ms Spear’s conservatorship, looking for clues on her social media pages, examining court documents, and holding demonstrations outside court hearings and concerts to raise awareness of the situation.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Now that she’s free, some of her fans have begun teaming up with disability rights advocates to increase awareness of the estimated 1.3 million Americans living under conservatorships.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Speaking to a small gathering of the movement near the White House in October, disability rights campaigner and lawyer Jonathan Martinis called for the movement to expand beyond freeing Britney.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“We ain’t done,” he </span><a rel="noopener" href="https://www.abc.net.au/news/2021-11-14/britney-spears-shines-light-on-america-conservatorship-laws/100605612" target="_blank"><span style="font-weight: 400;">said</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;">. “And we ain’t going anywhere until Free Britney becomes Free the People.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Jasmine Harris, a law professor at the University of Pennsylvania, said Ms Spears would likely still be under the control of her conservator had she not been able to speak out in open court.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;"><img style="width: 500px; height: 281.25px;" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/7845646/britney5.jpg" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/b37d5cc810ee444ea429f0da369ee9e6" /></span></p> <p><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">#FreeBritney protestors celebrate outside the Stanley Mosk Courthouse following Friday’s hearing. Image: Getty Images</span></em></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">She also said the #FreeBritney movement has raised awareness about how these kinds of arrangements trap people with disabilities.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“This affects young people with disabilities across the country. And so this deserves our sustained attention,” she told </span><em><a rel="noopener" href="https://www.theguardian.com/music/2021/nov/14/freebritney-movement-britney-spears-conservatorship" target="_blank"><span style="font-weight: 400;">The Guardian</span></a></em><span style="font-weight: 400;">.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Judy Mark, the cofounder and president of Disability Voices United, which worked with the movement, agreed that Ms Spears’ freedom could be attributed to the movement.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“That never would have happened a year ago,” she said. “All of this changed the day Britney Spears got on the phone and spoke to the judge about how bad things are and the only way that happened is because of the #FreeBritney movement.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Ms Mark said the fight for those still under conservatorships needed to happen, while people still remembered what happened to Britney.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“We realise this is a moment in time that we must take advantage of,” she said.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“The moment may not come again.”</span></p> <p><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">Image: Getty Images</span></em></p>

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Couple wed in aged-care home for heartwarming reason

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">A Melbourne couple chose to hold their wedding in an aged-care facility for one very sweet reason: they didn’t want the bride’s 92-year-old mother to miss the big day.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Brigette Taylor and Paul Williams were together for 15 years before deciding to tie the knot at the aged-care home where Ms Taylor’s mother, Daphne, lives.</span></p> <p><em><span style="font-weight: 400;"><img style="width: 500px; height:281.25px;" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/7845593/wedding-agedcare1.jpg" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/8c7547c0b5a0411bbd25bc0977b8cc90" /></span></em></p> <p><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">Image: Nine</span></em></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">After the couple became concerned that Daphne wouldn’t be able to be moved to attend the wedding at another venue, Mr Williams had the idea to bring the ceremony to her.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“It’s been a rough year,” he </span><a rel="noopener" href="https://www.9news.com.au/national/melbourne-wedding-couple-brigette-taylor-and-paul-williams-marry-at-brighton-arcare-aged-care-home/a0ca668e-4ee9-4bee-aa56-7093117acf01" target="_blank"><span style="font-weight: 400;">said</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;">.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“So finish it on a high.”</span></p> <p><img style="width: 500px; height:281.25px;" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/7845594/wedding-agedcare2.jpg" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/bc703d7c52b049d5a0452efbfc2be60d" /></p> <p><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">Ms Taylor’s mother Daphne was able to see her daughter tie the knot. Image: Nine</span></em></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Ms Taylor said the decision was a good thing for her mum for a simple reason: “because she’s the best”.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“Mum hasn’t seen much of us so there’s always the sadness they feel that they’re not loved,” she added.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Staff at the facility pitched in to help transform the centre’s craft room into a wedding venue, complete with an arch, champagne, rose petals, and the couple’s dog, Zulu.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Mr Williams said the staff’s hard work had made the setting “above and beyond” what they were expecting.</span></p> <p><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">Image: Nine</span></em></p>

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Etiquette rules everyone in the royal family must follow

<p><strong>Sit like a royal</strong></p> <p><span>One of the worst things a woman in the royal family can do—as far as etiquette rules go—is sit with her legs crossed at the knee. Legs and knees must be kept together, although crossing at the ankle is fine. One popular pose is called “the duchess slant,” coined by Beaumont Etiquette and named for the Duchess of Cambridge, Kate Middleton. Her go-to sitting position involves keeping her knees and ankles tightly together and slanting her legs to the side. It keeps her posture modest and makes her legs appear longer. In fact, the late Princess Diana was known to sit the exact same way.</span></p> <p><strong>Enter the room in order</strong></p> <p><span>When the royal family is part of a procession, they enter and are seated in the order of precedence, which is essentially the order of who’s next in line to the throne. The order is Queen Elizabeth II, the Duke of Edinburgh, the Prince of Wales and the Duchess of Cornwall (Prince Charles and his wife, Camilla), the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge (Prince William and Kate Middleton), and so on.</span></p> <p><strong>Make your curtsy subtle</strong></p> <p><span>Royal curtsies don’t need to reach the floor; simply put one leg behind the other, bend your knees, and bow your head slightly. However, deeper curtsies and long pauses are a sign of respect and formality, for instance, when meeting the queen.</span></p> <p><strong>Dress appropriately</strong></p> <p><span>The royals have a knack for being fashionable. Princess Diana’s fashion sense was functional but sophisticated, one that many women still copy today. The queen famously wears neon outfits on more occasions than not. Kate Middleton loves different patterns and textures. Yet they all have one thing in common: They dress modestly and for the occasion.</span></p> <p><strong>Cover up cleavage</strong></p> <p><span>While Queen Elizabeth’s purse is used to send messages to her staff, Princess Diana’s had a different purpose. When she exited a vehicle, she always put a clutch to her chest so she wouldn’t show too much cleavage and give paparazzi the chance at a compromising photo.</span></p> <p><strong>Follow tiara protocol</strong></p> <p><span>Tiara fashion has changed over the years. In the past, it was worn fairly far forwards on one’s head, but the modern style is to wear it farther back, </span><em>Forbes</em><span> reports. It should be at a 45 degree angle when viewed from the side. In addition, tiaras are a must for a royal bride’s wedding day. Though that tiara would be from the bride’s family, tradition says that from that point on, she would be expected to wear the groom’s jewellery as a sign that she was now part of his family. However, this custom has fallen by the wayside. The last time it happened was when Lady Diana Spencer married Prince Charles.</span></p> <p><strong>Never, ever play Monopoly</strong></p> <p><span>Yes, as in the classic board game. In 2008, the Leeds Building Society gave Prince Andrew (the Duke of York and Queen Elizabeth’s third child) the game as a gift, but he responded, “We’re not allowed to play Monopoly at home. It gets too vicious.” Which leaves us and the entire world with so many questions about how competitive the royal family really is.</span></p> <p><strong>Hold utensils in the correct hands</strong></p> <p><span>You may not put much thought into how you cut your food, but the royal family takes dining etiquette very seriously. They hold knives in their right hand and forks in their left with the tines facing down. Instead of stabbing their food, they balance food on back of their forks, then bring it to their mouth. Sure, it’s proper, but it sounds like it turns eating into an acrobatic feat.</span></p> <p><strong>Hold teacups properly</strong></p> <p><span>The royals love their tea time, etiquette expert Myka Meier told PEOPLE. So it’s especially important that they hold their cups correctly. They use their thumb and index finger to hold the top of the handle, while the middle finger supports the bottom. They also sip from the same spot so the entire rim doesn’t have lipstick stains. If you’re more of a coffee drinker, protocol is to loop your index finger through the handle. And when in doubt, NO pinkies out. That’s too pretentious, even for royals.</span></p> <p><strong>Leave the table without a fuss</strong></p> <p><span>If royals need to use the restroom during a meal, they don’t announce their intentions. They simply say, “Excuse me,” and leave it at that. If they’re not done eating, they cross the utensils so wait staff know not to take the plate. When finished with the meal, they place utensils at an angle, putting the handles at the bottom right of the plate (like 4.20 on a clock).</span></p> <p><strong>Stop eating when the queen does</strong></p> <p><span>Queen Elizabeth gets to set the pace at every meal. As soon as she takes her last bite and puts down her fork, everyone else has to follow her lead, whether or not they’re full too.</span></p> <p><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">Written by Claire Nowak. This article first appeared in </span><a rel="noopener" href="https://www.readersdigest.co.nz/culture/etiquette-rules-everyone-in-the-royal-family-must-follow" target="_blank"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Reader’s Digest</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;">. For more of what you love from the world’s best-loved magazine, </span><a rel="noopener" href="http://readersdigest.innovations.co.nz/c/readersdigestemailsubscribe?utm_source=over60&amp;utm_medium=articles&amp;utm_campaign=RDSUB&amp;keycode=WRA87V" target="_blank"><span style="font-weight: 400;">here’s our best subscription offer.</span></a></em></p> <p><em>Image: Getty Images</em></p> <p><img style="width: 100px !important; height: 100px !important;" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/7820640/1.png" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/f30947086c8e47b89cb076eb5bb9b3e2" /></p>

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Simon Baker quietly splits from model girlfriend

<p><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">The Mentalist </span></em><span style="font-weight: 400;">star Simon Baker has </span><a rel="noopener" href="https://celebrity.nine.com.au/latest/simon-baker-girlfriend-laura-may-gibbs-breakup/eb897d82-0729-487f-8945-e517868ac3ba" target="_blank"><span style="font-weight: 400;">reportedly</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;"> ended his relationship with girlfriend Laura May Gibbs.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The news was confirmed by a representative of the Aussie actor, who told </span><span style="font-weight: 400;">The Daily Mail</span><span style="font-weight: 400;"> that the pair went their separate ways a couple months ago.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Though the rep didn’t want to reveal the reason behind the breakup, they noted that it was not because of Gibb’s anti-vaxxer stance.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The 36-year-old fashion designer made headlines last month after her brand Nagnata announced that its Bryon Bay store would only reopen once both vaccinated and unvaccinated customers would be allowed to enter retail venues.</span></p> <blockquote style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" class="instagram-media" data-instgrm-captioned="" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/p/CUv4my_vZGg/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" data-instgrm-version="14"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"></div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"></div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"></div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"></div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"></div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;"><a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/p/CUv4my_vZGg/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" target="_blank">A post shared by NAGNATA (@nagnata_)</a></p> </div> </blockquote> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">In a follow-up post on the store’s Instagram page, Gibbs addressed the “hate” that had been directed at the page and stated that “the majority of our Nagnata team are fully vaccinated”.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“The decision to close was in no way to support an ‘anti-vax’ mentality, as that is not where we stand as a team,” the caption read, accompanied by a photo of Gibbs and her sister and co-founder Hannah Gibbs.</span></p> <blockquote style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" class="instagram-media" data-instgrm-captioned="" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/p/CU1hl96lZTl/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" data-instgrm-version="14"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"></div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"></div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"></div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"></div> <div style="display: block; 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Malala ties the knot in intimate ceremony

<p dir="ltr">24-year-old female education activist and the world’s youngest Nobel Peace Prize laureate, Malala Yousafzai, has tied the knot in a small ceremony in Birmingham. The Pakistani human rights advocate and Oxford graduate, often referred to by just her first name, announced the marriage on social media on Tuesday.</p> <p dir="ltr">Posting several photos of her and her new husband, cricket official Asser Malik, Yousafzai wrote, “Today marks a precious day in my life. Asser and I tied the knot to be partners for life.</p> <p dir="ltr">“We celebrated a small nikkah ceremony at home in Birmingham with our families. Please send us your prayers. We are excited to walk together for the journey ahead.”</p> <blockquote class="twitter-tweet"> <p dir="ltr">Today marks a precious day in my life. <br />Asser and I tied the knot to be partners for life. We celebrated a small nikkah ceremony at home in Birmingham with our families. Please send us your prayers. We are excited to walk together for the journey ahead. <br />📸: <a href="https://twitter.com/malinfezehai?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">@malinfezehai</a> <a href="https://t.co/SNRgm3ufWP">pic.twitter.com/SNRgm3ufWP</a></p> — Malala (@Malala) <a href="https://twitter.com/Malala/status/1458128016157052938?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">November 9, 2021</a></blockquote> <p dir="ltr">A nikkah ceremony is the Muslim marriage ceremony, during which the marriage contract is sign and the bride and groom say ‘I do’. One of the photos shared to Twitter shows the couple signing what is presumably their marriage contract, while being supervised by a religious official. They are seated in front of a wall of white flowers, with the occasional pink rose making an appearance. Another photo shows the couple with Yousafzai’s parents in front of that same wall.</p> <p dir="ltr">Yousafzai has previously questioned the need for marriage, asking in a<span> </span><em>Vogue<span> </span></em>interview in July of this year, "If you want to have a person in your life, why do you have to sign marriage papers? Why can't it just be a partnership?"</p> <p dir="ltr">Yousafzai made headlines around the world in 2012, when, at the age of 15, an attempt was made on her life by members of the Taliban in an act of retaliation for her advocacy for women’s education. She was hit in the head with a bullet and rendered unconscious, but her condition eventually improved enough for her to be transferred to a hospital in Birmingham, where she has been based since.</p> <p dir="ltr">In June of last year, Yousafzai revealed she had passed her final examinations and completed her Philosophy, Politics, and Economics degree at Lady Margaret Hall, the University of Oxford. Benazir Bhutto, who Yousafzai has previously cited as an inspiration, also attended the college.</p> <p dir="ltr">Little is known about Yousafzai’s husband, Asser Malik, except that he works for the Pakistan Cricket Board.</p> <p dir="ltr">Many celebrities wished the couple well on social media, including Greta Thunberg, who met with Yousafzai at Oxford last year, and Reese Witherspoon, who wrote, “Congratulations on this wonderful moment! 💫❤️”.</p> <p dir="ltr"><em>Image: Twitter</em></p>

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“It was a shock”: Affair between missing campers confirmed

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The sister of Carol Clay - who went missing along with Russell Hill - has spoken out about the secret affair between the pair.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">She revealed that Ms Clay and Mr Hill had taken multiple trips together to remote campsites prior to the disappearance last year.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Ms Clay’s sister Jill shared what she knew about the relationship during an interview with </span><span style="font-weight: 400;">60 Minutes</span><span style="font-weight: 400;"> over the weekend.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“I knew that she was going camping, not just on that occasion, but on other occasions,” Jill </span><a rel="noopener" href="https://www.news.com.au/national/victoria/news/affair-between-missing-campers-confirmed-in-bombshell-interview/news-story/bd33d5e64fc93b511065db574982ce30" target="_blank"><span style="font-weight: 400;">said</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;">.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“And I knew that she was having the relationships and that they were doing these trips.</span></p> <p><img style="width: 500px; height:281.25px;" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/7845438/clay-russell4.jpg" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/358a4d311d4d42f29fea9709552fad2b" /></p> <p><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">Ms Clay’s sister, Jill, calls on anyone with information to come forward. Image: 60 Minutes</span></em></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“They had to keep it secret, and in some ways, I feel that that’s why they went to such a remote place.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">It appeared that the relationship occurred without Mr Hill’s wife, Robyn, having any knowledge of it until his disappearance was investigated.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Mr Hill’s daughters were just as unaware of any relationship between them</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“It was a shock when the police mentioned something about, do we know a Carol? But that was the first we knew about it,” Colleen, one of Mr Hill’s daughters, told the program.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“We didn’t know anything about him and Carol being together.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Sisters Colleen and Carol agreed that knowing their dad wasn’t alone when he disappeared was of some comfort, but that their mum was struggling with the news.</span></p> <p><img style="width: 500px; height:281.25px;" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/7845439/clay-russell5.jpg" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/4d8ded169b2c499da4b77eaac6ce9c46" /></p> <p><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">Mr Hill’s daughters, Colleen (left) and Debbie (right). Image: 60 Minutes</span></em></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“It’s been really hard on mum. Not only losing her husband, but also all the talk about Carol, and so she’s got both, she’s lost her husband and she’s grieving the loss of her relationship,” Colleen said.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“It’s been very hard for her to get through both.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Ms Clay’s sister said it was an “extremely difficult” topic to talk about, and that she felt “very sorry (for) Robyn”.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“Because she found out two things at one time. One that Russell was missing and two, he was camping with someone else.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Mr Hill and Ms Clay were last seen on March 20, 2020, and police have conducted extensive searches since.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Detective Inspector Andrew Stamper believes the bodies of Mr Hill, 74, and Ms Clay, 73, are still within Wonnangatta Valley.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">On Sunday, police released an image of a blue mid-late 1990s Nissan Patrol towing a trailer that they believe could be crucial in discovering what happened to the couple.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Inspector Stamper </span><a rel="noopener" href="https://www.9news.com.au/national/search-for-russell-hill-and-carol-clay-four-wheel-drive-and-trailer-could-be-the-key-in-the-search-for-missing-victorian-campers/de8db0a2-4ce8-43dd-9d26-48d779e6afa1" target="_blank"><span style="font-weight: 400;">said</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;"> witness statements placed the vehicle in Wonnangatta Valley - and near the campsite - at the same time as Ms Clay and Mr Hill.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Police are calling for the driver or any witnesses who may have seen the vehicle to come forward and speak with them.</span></p> <p><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">Image: Victoria Police</span></em></p>

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Mum hits back at neighbour over chalk complaint

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">A New York mum and author who received complaints from a neighbour over her son’s chalk drawings in their apartment block’s courtyard has responded with a public letter - and it’s written in chalk.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Ashley Woodfolk then shared her letter on Twitter, receiving a flood of positive responses.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“GOOD EVENING TO EVERYONE EXCEPT the woman at my co-op who complained to the board about me and my toddler using sidewalk chalk in the courtyard,” Ashley Woodfold captioned the photo of her handiwork.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The letter, written in blue and yellow chalk, reads: “This will be the last time using sidewalk chalk in the courtyard since it seems to be such a problem for you (and only you).</span></p> <blockquote class="twitter-tweet"> <p dir="ltr">GOOD EVENING TO EVERYONE EXCEPT the woman at my co-op who complained to the board about me and my toddler using sidewalk chalk in the courtyard.<br /><br />So I wrote her a little letter. <br />In sidewalk chalk. In the courtyard. <a href="https://t.co/Tbw52ZtVV1">pic.twitter.com/Tbw52ZtVV1</a></p> — Ashley Woodfolk (@AshWrites) <a href="https://twitter.com/AshWrites/status/1452812801651757056?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">October 26, 2021</a></blockquote> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“I’m sorry harmless fun that brought my toddler joy (and has actually helped him learn all of his letters and most of his numbers - his favourites are E and 8) causes you so much distress that you had to complain to the board and waste everyone’s time when our building has so much bigger real problems.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Ms Woodfolk also detailed how the COVID-19 pandemic had seen her have to entertain her son in new, safe ways.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“I think you’re aware that we’re in a pandemic and while I’d love to take my kid to museums and the movies I don’t feel safe doing that, and sometimes even local parks are more crowded than I’m comfortable with,” she continued.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“The courtyard was a safe space but now there are limits on that too.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“There are only a few weeks of nice weather left, and I sincerely hope that you enjoy the use of the sidewalk-chalk free courtyard for the remainder of the fall.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“And I hope that every time it rains, rain that would have washed away any colourful ABCs I wrote on the ground, you think of me. All my love, Ashley.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Her post has received more than 200,000 likes, as well as a flood of positive comments.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">One fan even sent her a package of sidewalk chalk from their Etsy shop for her son.</span></p> <blockquote class="twitter-tweet"> <p dir="ltr">I own a small business making sidewalk chalk in all sorts of fun shapes and colors. I would love to donate chalk to you and your son ❤️ please check your DM’s! <a href="https://t.co/2MoQzpxIHX">pic.twitter.com/2MoQzpxIHX</a></p> — Amy ✨ (@alj_jayhawk) <a href="https://twitter.com/alj_jayhawk/status/1453114023868833794?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">October 26, 2021</a></blockquote> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Others shared their opinions and the enjoyment they received from seeing kids’ chalk drawings.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“An elderly lady in our neighbourhood bought chalk for all the kids during the pandemic because she said she felt less lonely taking walks and seeing their art,” one person </span><a rel="noopener" href="https://honey.nine.com.au/parenting/author-ashley-woodfolk-writes-epic-courtyard-letter-to-neighbour-who-complained-about-her-childs-drawings/342b88f6-5acd-4eae-8019-5a87c6821ccf" target="_blank"><span style="font-weight: 400;">shared</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;">.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“As a childless guy, even I think chalk doodles are cute and bring a spark of life and creativity to the environment,” a second person said. “I can’t fathom how someone could be upset about it.”</span></p> <p><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">Image: @AshWrites / Twitter</span></em></p>

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"Enjoy having mutant children": Woman dumped by anti-vaxxer

<p>A lot of people have hilarious anecdotes about questionable experiences with the world of online dating. </p> <p>But one woman has taken the crown with a dramatic exchange with an anti-vaxxer she met on the dating app Hinge. </p> <p>Olivia Krueger took to her TikTok account to share her text thread with an unnamed man, saying the bar for dating "is in literal hell at this rate".</p> <p>He started out by wanting to ask Olivia "a stupid question", to which she responded "there are no stupid questions".</p> <p>His responded with a single word, reading "Vax?"</p> <p>Olivia, probably rolling her eyes behind the screen, responded saying, "I am. Is that a problem?"</p> <p>The man's attitude flipped, saying "F**k, I liked you so much," with Olivia pointing out that her Covid vaccine status was in her Hinge profile and available for him to read.</p> <p>Olivia cut her losses with the anti-vaxxer, saying "Alright well it was fun while it lasted."</p> <p>The man proved how difficult it can be for anti-vaxxers to be silenced, as he unleashed a baseless tirade against Olivia. </p> <p>He said, “Good luck having mutant children. So ridiculous that some made up bullsh*t by the government can tear people apart that actually enjoy each other for no f***ing reason other than political gain."</p> <p>“Sad. Sad you caved. I should have known. ‘It’s history and that’s what my make my life off of’. You’re (sic) kids will Literally be f***ing mutants. Hahaha. Jesus. How’s Biden looking now?”"</p> <p>Olivia's video has racked up over 50,000 views, with a lot of people commenting in support of her decisions. </p> <p>One person said, "You dodged a bullet, sis! Congrats!"</p> <p>Another called out the man's claims saying "Bold of him to assume any woman would want to have his children."</p> <p>New York couples therapist Kelly Scott told <a rel="noopener" href="https://www.insider.com/how-to-talk-to-your-partner-about-vaccines-disagreements-2020-7" target="_blank">Insider</a> earlier this year that couples need to clarify their differing vaccine stances, as it can often be a point of contention within relationships. </p> <p><em>Image credits: TikTok @oliviakrueger11</em></p>

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Men are just more competitive? Science says it’s not that simple

<p>When trying to understand America’s persistent gender wage gap, researchers have in the past decade suggested that women are less competitive than men, and are therefore passed over for higher-ranking roles.</p> <p>But a new study from the University of Arizona shows it’s probably not that simple; in fact, women are just as likely to enter into a competition as men – but only when there’s the option to share their winnings with the losers.</p> <p>The <a rel="noreferrer noopener" href="https://dx.doi.org/10.1073/pnas.2111943118" target="_blank">study</a>, published today in <em>Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences,</em> was led by Mary Rigdon from the University of Arizona’s Center for the Philosophy of Freedom, in cooperation with Alessandra Cassar, a professor of economics at the University of San Francisco.</p> <p><strong>Gender wage gap persists</strong></p> <p>In 2021, women will earn 82 cents for every dollar earned by men, says Rigdon. This means women work nearly three months more to receive the same amount of pay as men. When these results are adjusted to cover age, experience, and level of education, women still earn about 98 cents on the male dollar – in other words, an equally qualified woman is paid 2% less than her male counterparts.</p> <p>Economists have considered a few possible explanations for this, Rigdon says. One theory, known as the “human capital explanation”, suggests that there are gender differences in certain skills, leading women to careers that pay less. Another theory – perhaps the most widely considered – is patent discrimination.</p> <p>The researchers decided to test the other prevailing theory – the competitiveness theory – because they reasoned that if women were so reluctant to compete, they would occupy fewer high-ranking positions at the top of major companies, a trend that is not represented in the growing presence of women in leadership roles.</p> <p>“We thought it must be the case that women are as competitive as men, but they just exhibit it differently, so we wanted to try to get at that story and demonstrate that that is the case,” Rigdon says. “Because that’s then a very different story about the gender wage gap.”</p> <p><strong>Testing a troublesome theory</strong></p> <p>Rigdon and Cassar randomly assigned 238 participants – split nearly evenly by gender – to two different groups for the study. Participants in each of the two groups were then assigned to four-person subgroups.</p> <p>For all participants, the first round of the study was the same: each was asked to look at tables of 12 three-digit numbers with two decimal places and find the two numbers that add to 10. Participants were asked to solve as many tables as possible – up to 20 – in two minutes. Each participant was paid $2 for every table they solved in the first round.</p> <p>In round two, participants were asked to do the same task, but the two groups were incentivized differently. In the first group, the two participants in each four-person team who solved the most tables earned $4 per table solved, while their other two team members were given nothing. In the other group, the top two performers of each four-person team also earned $4 per table, but they had the right to decide how much of the prize money to share with one of the lower performing participants.</p> <p>In the third round, all participants were allowed to choose which payment scheme they preferred from the two previous rounds. For half the study participants, this meant a choice between a guaranteed $2 per correct table, or potentially $4 per correct table if they became one of the top two performers in their four-person subgroup. For the other half of the participants, the choice was $2 per correct table, or $4 per correct table for the top-two performers with the option to share the winnings with one of the losing participants.</p> <p>The number of women who chose the competitive option nearly doubled when given the option to share their winnings; about 60% chose to compete under that option, while only about 35% chose to compete in the winner-take-all version of the tournament.</p> <p>About 51% of men in the study chose the winner-take-all option, and 52.5% chose the format that allowed for sharing with the losers.</p> <p>While the sample size is relatively small, the results deserve attention.</p> <p>Rigdon and Cassar have a few theories about why women might be more inclined to compete when the winnings are shared. One suggests that female participants are interested in controlling the way winnings are divvied up; another, popular among evolutionary psychologists, is that female participants may be inclined to smooth over bad feelings in a group setting. Yet the answer may lie less in biology and more in socialisation, perhaps that women are encouraged from a young age to be “nice=”: at this point, the jury’s still out.</p> <p>“We really have to ask what it is about this social incentive that drives women to compete,” Rigdon says. “We think it’s recognising the different costs and benefits that come from your different biological and cultural constraints. But at the end of the day, I think we still have this question.”</p> <p>Rigdon and Cassar are now designing a study to drive to the heart of that question.</p> <p>“If we’re finally going to close the gender pay gap, then we have to understand the sources of it – and also solutions and remedies for it,” Rigdon says.</p> <!-- Start of tracking content syndication. 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He's real! Dolly Parton shares rare snap of reclusive husband

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The famed country songstress has shared a rare photo with her fans of her husband of 55 years, Carl Thomas Dean.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The 75-year-old shared the snap on Instagram, in which Dean seems to be wearing a shirt that’s been digitally edited to include several pictures of her.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“Find you a partner who will support you like my Carl Dean does!” Parton captioned the sweet photo.</span></p> <blockquote style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" class="instagram-media" data-instgrm-captioned="" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/p/CVygjSrFInE/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" data-instgrm-version="14"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"></div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"></div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"></div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"></div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"></div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;"><a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/p/CVygjSrFInE/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" target="_blank">A post shared by Dolly Parton (@dollyparton)</a></p> </div> </blockquote> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Fans quickly shared their adoration for the image, with one writing, “Carl Dean is super handsome!”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“Hahaha the queen of photoshop! Y’all are adorable,” another commented, noting that is “may be the first time” they’ve seen a picture of Parton’s husband.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“What a love story,” another added.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Parton and Dean first met at a Nashville laundromat the day after she arrived in the city.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">They married in 1966 and renewed their vows in 2016 in celebration of their 50th wedding anniversary.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Parton’s romantic photo also serves as a promotion of the Dolly Vintage Collage Tee, which is on sale for approximately $48 on her website.</span></p> <blockquote style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" class="instagram-media" data-instgrm-captioned="" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/p/CVlJ6wqFHTu/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" data-instgrm-version="14"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"></div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"></div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"></div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"></div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"></div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;"><a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/p/CVlJ6wqFHTu/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" target="_blank">A post shared by Dolly Parton (@dollyparton)</a></p> </div> </blockquote> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The country star opened up about her rarely-seen husband last year while laughing off rumours that he was fictional.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“A lot of people have thought that through the years, because he does not want to be in the spotlight at all,” Parton </span><a rel="noopener" href="https://celebrity.nine.com.au/latest/dolly-parton-throwback-photo-husband-carl-dean/496e01f5-156c-4aad-81bd-ef562479523b" target="_blank"><span style="font-weight: 400;">told</span></a> <em><span style="font-weight: 400;">Entertainment Tonight</span></em><span style="font-weight: 400;">.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“It’s just who he is. He’s like, a quiet, reserved person and he’s figured if he ever got out there in that, he’d never get a minute’s peace and he’s right about that.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">When asked about how her marriage has lasted for so long, she said it was, “Because I stay gone”.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“And there’s a lot of truth in that — the fact that we’re not in each other’s faces all the time,” she explained. “But we do have a great respect and admiration for each other. We both have a great sense of humour. So, we have a lot of fun.”</span></p> <p><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">Image: @dollyparton / Instagram</span></em></p>

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3 ways we sabotage relationships (and 3 ways to kick the habit)

<p>Popular culture has plenty of examples of people sabotaging their romantic relationships.</p> <p>In the movie <em><a rel="noopener" href="https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0147800/" target="_blank">10 Things I Hate About You</a></em>, Kat says she has no interest in romantic engagements. Then Patrick <a rel="noopener" href="https://www.moviequotedb.com/movies/10-things-i-hate-about-you/quote_150.html" target="_blank">asks</a> about her dating style:</p> <blockquote> <p>"You disappoint them from the start and then you’re covered, right?"</p> </blockquote> <p>But as the plot develops, we learn this is Kat’s way of protecting herself, to cope with the trauma of a previous relationship.</p> <p>Other people move through relationships searching for “the one”, making quick assessments of their romantic partners.</p> <p>In the TV series <em><a rel="noopener" href="https://www.imdb.com/title/tt2211129/" target="_blank">The Mindy Project</a></em>, Mindy is a successful obstetrician and gynaecologist with poor relationship skills. She has a trail of relationship failures, and partners who did not measure up. She is looking for the “perfect” love story with unrealistic expectations.</p> <p><iframe width="440" height="260" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/8iCwtxJejik?wmode=transparent&amp;start=0" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen=""></iframe></p> <p><em><span class="caption">Jacob moves through sexual partners night after night to avoid a serious commitment, in the movie Crazy, Stupid, Love.</span></em></p> <p>Another example is Jacob in the movie <em><a rel="noopener" href="https://www.imdb.com/title/tt1570728/" target="_blank">Crazy, Stupid, Love</a></em>. He quickly moves through sexual partners night after night to avoid a serious commitment.</p> <p>In the same movie, we meet Cal and Emily, who stayed in a marriage long term but had become complacent. This caused them to split, but once they started to work on themselves, they found a way to reconnect.</p> <p><strong>What is relationship sabotage?</strong></p> <p>My team and I <a rel="noopener" href="https://www.cambridge.org/core/journals/journal-of-relationships-research/article/defining-romantic-selfsabotage-a-thematic-analysis-of-interviews-with-practising-psychologists/35531B41927851905281C7D815FE4199/share/ed27f1606df159cf7e3240f5c3136174c4991fe0" target="_blank">define</a> relationship sabotage as self-defeating attitudes and behaviours in (and out of) relationships. These stop relationships succeeding, or lead people to give up on them, justifying why these relationships fail.</p> <p>Most importantly, relationship sabotage is a self-protection strategy for a win-win outcome.</p> <p>For example, you might feel you win if the relationship survives despite your defensive strategies. Alternatively, if the relationship fails, your beliefs and choice to protect yourself are validated.</p> <p><strong>Why do we do this?</strong></p> <p><iframe width="440" height="260" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/kpIbl34SPNc?wmode=transparent&amp;start=0" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen=""></iframe></p> <p><em><span class="caption">Why do we sabotage love?</span></em></p> <p>We <a rel="noopener" href="https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/15332691.2020.1795039" target="_blank">found</a> people sabotage their relationships mainly because of fear. This is despite wanting an intimate relationship.</p> <p>As Sam Smith says in his song <em><a rel="noopener" href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J_ub7Etch2U" target="_blank">Too Good at Goodbyes</a></em>:</p> <blockquote> <p>I’m never gonna let you close to me</p> <p>Even though you mean the most to me</p> <p>‘Cause every time I open up, it hurts.</p> </blockquote> <p>However, fear responses are not always visible or easy to identify. This is because our <a rel="noopener" href="https://www.guilford.com/books/Emotionally-Focused-Therapy-for-Couples/Greenberg-Johnson/9781606239278" target="_blank">emotions are layered</a> to protect us. Fear is a vulnerable (and core) emotion, which is commonly hidden beneath surface (or secondary) emotions, such as defensiveness.</p> <p><strong>Recognise any of these patterns?</strong></p> <p>Relationship sabotage is not a “one off” moment in a relationship. It happens when fear triggers patterns of responses from one relationship to the next.</p> <p>My research highlights <a rel="noopener" href="https://rdcu.be/czwUo" target="_blank">three main patterns</a> of attitudes and behaviours to look out for.</p> <p><strong>Defensiveness</strong></p> <p>Defensiveness, such as being angry or aggressive, is a counter-attack to a perceived threat. People who are defensive are motivated by wanting to validate themselves; they are looking to prove themselves right and protect their self-esteem.</p> <p>Threats that trigger defensiveness are a previous relationship trauma, difficulty with self-esteem, loss of hope, the possibility of getting hurt again, and fear of failure, rejection, abandonment and commitment. However, defensiveness is an instinctive response that sometimes makes sense.</p> <p>People can believe relationships often end up in “heart break”. One <a rel="noopener" href="https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/15332691.2020.1795039" target="_blank">research participant</a> was tired of being criticised and having their feelings misunderstood:</p> <blockquote> <p>I protect myself from getting hurt in a romantic relationship by putting up all of my walls and not letting go of my guard.</p> </blockquote> <p><strong>Trust difficulty</strong></p> <p>Having difficulty trusting others involves struggling to believe romantic partners and perhaps feeling jealous of their attention to others. People who feel this way might not feel safe and avoid feeling vulnerable in relationships.</p> <p>This is often a result of past experiences of having trust betrayed, or expecting to be betrayed. Betrayals could be as a result of small deceptions (a white lie) or bigger deceptions (infidelity).</p> <p>People explained choosing not to trust, or being unable to trust, was a way of avoiding being hurt again. One <a rel="noopener" href="https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/15332691.2020.1795039" target="_blank">research participant</a> said:</p> <blockquote> <p>I no longer trust my romantic partners 100%. I will always be thinking about what I would do if they left or cheated, so I never get fully invested.</p> </blockquote> <p><strong>Lack of relationship skills</strong></p> <p>This is when someone has limited insight or awareness into destructive tendencies in relationships. This may be a result of poor relationship role models, or negative interactions and outcomes from previous relationships.</p> <p>One <a rel="noopener" href="https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/15332691.2020.1795039" target="_blank">research participant</a> said:</p> <blockquote> <p>What used to hold me back was lack of experience, poor relationship examples (from my parents), and my own immaturity.</p> </blockquote> <p>But relationship skills can be learned. Healthy relationships can help foster relationship skills and in turn lessen the effects of defensiveness and trust difficulty.</p> <p><strong>The cost of relationship sabotage</strong></p> <p>Relationship sabotage does not necessarily end relationships. This depends on whether these patterns are long term.</p> <p>For singles, relationship sabotage might prevent you from starting a relationship in the first place. For people in relationships, a long-term effect of repeatedly using self-defensive strategies might be to see your fears turn into reality, like a <a rel="noopener" href="https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/9731324/" target="_blank">self-fulfilling prophecy</a>.</p> <p>Difficulties in intimate relationships are among the <a rel="noopener" href="https://janzssa.scholasticahq.com/article/8074-anzssa-heads-of-counselling-services-hocs-benchmarking-survey-2018-summary-report" target="_blank">top</a> main reasons for seeking counselling. Such difficulties are also <a rel="noopener" href="https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2003-88322-003" target="_blank">significant contributors</a> to anxiety, depression and suicidal thoughts.</p> <p><strong>So, what we can you do about it?</strong></p> <p>I have seen <a rel="noopener" href="https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/15332691.2020.1795039" target="_blank">countless testimonials</a> from people who sabotaged their relationships and felt helpless and hopeless. But here are three ways to <a rel="noopener" href="https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2013-34594-002" target="_blank">do something about it</a>:</p> <ul> <li> <p><strong>insight:</strong> we need to know who we are first, and the “baggage” we bring to relationships. Be honest with yourself and your partner about your fears and what you might be struggling with</p> </li> <li> <p><strong>expectations:</strong> we need to manage our expectations of romantic engagements. Understand what you can realistically expect of yourself and your partners</p> </li> <li> <p><strong>collaboration:</strong> you need to collaborate with your partner to implement strategies to maintain a healthy relationship. This means learning how to communicate better (across all topics, while being honest) and showing flexibility and understanding, especially when dealing with conflict.</p> </li> </ul> <p>Above all, believe you can have healthy relationships and deserve to be loved.</p> <p><em>If this article has raised issues for you, or if you’re concerned about someone you know, call Lifeline on 13 11 14.</em><!-- Below is The Conversation's page counter tag. 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Five strict rules every royal bride HAS to follow

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Royal weddings are widely publicised and look absolutely stunning. But there are some behind-the-scenes </span><span style="font-weight: 400;">rules</span><span style="font-weight: 400;"> that dictate how each and every royal wedding goes, including these five.</span></p> <p><strong>1. Permission is needed from Her Royal Highness</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Unlike most of us, royal couples must get the tick of approval before they can get engaged, thanks to the Royal Marriages Act 1772.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The Queen is also well within her right to say no to couples, with one example being the time she prevented her sister Margaret from marrying war hero Peter Townsend. </span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Luckily, Queen Elizabeth has approved almost all of the royal weddings in the last few decades.</span></p> <p><strong>2. Royal brides-to-be undergo training</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">For those brides-to-be who aren’t born royal, there are some things they need to learn before they can join the royal family.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">‘Commoners’ are taught royal customs and protocols before their big day, including how to curtsey, how to carry themselves, and even which hand to carry bags in.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">They also learn how to work with security personnel to ensure that they’re safe.</span></p> <p><strong>3. Wedding outfits are somewhat restricted</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Though choosing a wedding dress is one of the fun parts of the preparations, royal brides must choose a dress that follows royal standards of fashion, has the Queen’s approval, and can’t be too revealing. Brides are also only allowed to wear British designers on their special day.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The wedding day also comes as the first time royal brides can wear a tiara - a right limited to married royals.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">But, the tiara isn’t designed to match their dress or accessories, and is instead chosen from the Queen’s own collection.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Royals are also restricted in their choice of wedding rings, as all royal wedding bands (for the bride and groom) must be made from Welsh gold gifted to them by the reigning monarch.</span></p> <p><strong>4. Brides must follow bouquet traditions</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Flowers are another important part of the wedding tradition, and royal weddings have some particular rules they need to follow.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">For their own bouquets, brides can choose whatever flowers they like, but sprigs of myrtle should be featured. The tradition of including myrtle in bouquets dates back to 1858 and the wedding of one of Queen Victoria’s daughters, and it has been included in almost every bouquet since.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">After the wedding, royal brides must also follow another tradition regarding their bouquets. While many ‘commoner’ brides choose to dry or press their flowers as mementos, royals must lay their bouquets at the Tomb of the Unknown Warrior in Westminster Abbey.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The tradition, done out of respect for those who lost their lives in war, was started in 1923 by Lady Elizabeth Bowes-Lyon, the Queen’s mother. She placed her flowers at the tomb in memory of her brother, who died at the 1915 Battle of Loos.</span></p> <p><strong>5. Official portraits are a MUST</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Taking photographs during weddings is a must for almost every bride, and the royals are no exception. </span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Every newlywed royal couple is required to pose for official portraits after their ceremonies, and usually take individual portraits and photos with different members of the royal family and bridal party.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Though it can be a lengthy process, the photos become a treasured memento for each wedding.</span></p> <p><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">Image: Getty Images</span></em></p>

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3 ways we sabotage relationships (and 3 ways to kick the habit)

<p>Popular culture has plenty of examples of people sabotaging their romantic relationships.</p> <p>In the movie <a href="https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0147800/">10 Things I Hate About You</a>, Kat says she has no interest in romantic engagements. Then Patrick <a href="https://www.moviequotedb.com/movies/10-things-i-hate-about-you/quote_150.html">asks</a> about her dating style:</p> <blockquote> <p>You disappoint them from the start and then you’re covered, right?</p> </blockquote> <p>But as the plot develops, we learn this is Kat’s way of protecting herself, to cope with the trauma of a previous relationship.</p> <p>Other people move through relationships searching for “the one”, making quick assessments of their romantic partners.</p> <p>In the TV series <a href="https://www.imdb.com/title/tt2211129/">The Mindy Project</a>, Mindy is a successful obstetrician and gynaecologist with poor relationship skills. She has a trail of relationship failures, and partners who did not measure up. She is looking for the “perfect” love story with unrealistic expectations.</p> <p><iframe width="440" height="260" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/8iCwtxJejik?wmode=transparent&amp;start=0" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen=""></iframe> <span class="caption">Jacob moves through sexual partners night after night to avoid a serious commitment, in the movie Crazy, Stupid, Love.</span></p> <p>Another example is Jacob in the movie <a href="https://www.imdb.com/title/tt1570728/">Crazy, Stupid, Love</a>. He quickly moves through sexual partners night after night to avoid a serious commitment.</p> <p>In the same movie, we meet Cal and Emily, who stayed in a marriage long term but had become complacent. This caused them to split, but once they started to work on themselves, they found a way to reconnect.</p> <h2>What is relationship sabotage?</h2> <p>My team and I <a href="https://www.cambridge.org/core/journals/journal-of-relationships-research/article/defining-romantic-selfsabotage-a-thematic-analysis-of-interviews-with-practising-psychologists/35531B41927851905281C7D815FE4199/share/ed27f1606df159cf7e3240f5c3136174c4991fe0">define</a> relationship sabotage as self-defeating attitudes and behaviours in (and out of) relationships. These stop relationships succeeding, or lead people to give up on them, justifying why these relationships fail.</p> <p>Most importantly, relationship sabotage is a self-protection strategy for a win-win outcome.</p> <p>For example, you might feel you win if the relationship survives despite your defensive strategies. Alternatively, if the relationship fails, your beliefs and choice to protect yourself are validated.</p> <h2>Why do we do this?</h2> <p><iframe width="440" height="260" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/kpIbl34SPNc?wmode=transparent&amp;start=0" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen=""></iframe> <span class="caption">Why do we sabotage love?</span></p> <p>We <a href="https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/15332691.2020.1795039">found</a> people sabotage their relationships mainly because of fear. This is despite wanting an intimate relationship.</p> <p>As Sam Smith says in his song <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J_ub7Etch2U">Too Good at Goodbyes</a>:</p> <blockquote> <p>I’m never gonna let you close to me</p> <p>Even though you mean the most to me</p> <p>‘Cause every time I open up, it hurts.</p> </blockquote> <p> </p> <p>However, fear responses are not always visible or easy to identify. This is because our <a href="https://www.guilford.com/books/Emotionally-Focused-Therapy-for-Couples/Greenberg-Johnson/9781606239278">emotions are layered</a> to protect us. Fear is a vulnerable (and core) emotion, which is commonly hidden beneath surface (or secondary) emotions, such as defensiveness.</p> <h2>Recognise any of these patterns?</h2> <p>Relationship sabotage is not a “one off” moment in a relationship. It happens when fear triggers patterns of responses from one relationship to the next.</p> <p>My research highlights <a href="https://rdcu.be/czwUo">three main patterns</a> of attitudes and behaviours to look out for.</p> <p><strong>Defensiveness</strong></p> <p>Defensiveness, such as being angry or aggressive, is a counter-attack to a perceived threat. People who are defensive are motivated by wanting to validate themselves; they are looking to prove themselves right and protect their self-esteem.</p> <p>Threats that trigger defensiveness are a previous relationship trauma, difficulty with self-esteem, loss of hope, the possibility of getting hurt again, and fear of failure, rejection, abandonment and commitment. However, defensiveness is an instinctive response that sometimes makes sense.</p> <p>People can believe relationships often end up in “heart break”. One <a href="https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/15332691.2020.1795039">research participant</a> was tired of being criticised and having their feelings misunderstood:</p> <blockquote> <p>I protect myself from getting hurt in a romantic relationship by putting up all of my walls and not letting go of my guard.</p> </blockquote> <p><strong>Trust difficulty</strong></p> <p>Having difficulty trusting others involves struggling to believe romantic partners and perhaps feeling jealous of their attention to others. People who feel this way might not feel safe and avoid feeling vulnerable in relationships.</p> <p>This is often a result of past experiences of having trust betrayed, or expecting to be betrayed. Betrayals could be as a result of small deceptions (a white lie) or bigger deceptions (infidelity).</p> <p>People explained choosing not to trust, or being unable to trust, was a way of avoiding being hurt again. One <a href="https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/15332691.2020.1795039">research participant</a> said:</p> <blockquote> <p>I no longer trust my romantic partners 100%. I will always be thinking about what I would do if they left or cheated, so I never get fully invested.</p> </blockquote> <p><strong>Lack of relationship skills</strong></p> <p>This is when someone has limited insight or awareness into destructive tendencies in relationships. This may be a result of poor relationship role models, or negative interactions and outcomes from previous relationships.</p> <p>One <a href="https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/15332691.2020.1795039">research participant</a> said:</p> <blockquote> <p>What used to hold me back was lack of experience, poor relationship examples (from my parents), and my own immaturity.</p> </blockquote> <p>But relationship skills can be learned. Healthy relationships can help foster relationship skills and in turn lessen the effects of defensiveness and trust difficulty.</p> <h2>The cost of relationship sabotage</h2> <p>Relationship sabotage does not necessarily end relationships. This depends on whether these patterns are long term.</p> <p>For singles, relationship sabotage might prevent you from starting a relationship in the first place. For people in relationships, a long-term effect of repeatedly using self-defensive strategies might be to see your fears turn into reality, like a <a href="https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/9731324/">self-fulfilling prophecy</a>.</p> <p>Difficulties in intimate relationships are among the <a href="https://janzssa.scholasticahq.com/article/8074-anzssa-heads-of-counselling-services-hocs-benchmarking-survey-2018-summary-report">top</a> main reasons for seeking counselling. Such difficulties are also <a href="https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2003-88322-003">significant contributors</a> to anxiety, depression and suicidal thoughts.</p> <h2>So, what we can you do about it?</h2> <p>I have seen <a href="https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/15332691.2020.1795039">countless testimonials</a> from people who sabotaged their relationships and felt helpless and hopeless. But here are three ways to <a href="https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2013-34594-002">do something about it</a>:</p> <ul> <li> <p><strong>insight:</strong> we need to know who we are first, and the “baggage” we bring to relationships. Be honest with yourself and your partner about your fears and what you might be struggling with</p> </li> <li> <p><strong>expectations:</strong> we need to manage our expectations of romantic engagements. Understand what you can realistically expect of yourself and your partners</p> </li> <li> <p><strong>collaboration:</strong> you need to collaborate with your partner to implement strategies to maintain a healthy relationship. This means learning how to communicate better (across all topics, while being honest) and showing flexibility and understanding, especially when dealing with conflict.</p> </li> </ul> <p>Above all, believe you can have healthy relationships and deserve to be loved.</p> <hr /> <p><em>If this article has raised issues for you, or if you’re concerned about someone you know, call Lifeline on 13 11 14.</em><!-- Below is The Conversation's page counter tag. 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“I don’t think I can do this”: Serena Williams shares heartbreaking news

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Serena Williams has shared the moment she broke down while revealing her close friend’s battle with pancreatic cancer, with the hope of raising awareness for the disease.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Serena </span><a rel="noopener" href="https://honey.nine.com.au/latest/serena-williams-breaks-down-in-emotional-video/1316f7d2-0262-4e1d-92d5-ecb561b4e2d1" target="_blank"><span style="font-weight: 400;">shared a short clip</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;"> to Twitter and was emotional while speaking about her friend Dr Esther Lee.</span></p> <blockquote class="twitter-tweet"> <p dir="ltr">My friend Esther is in treatment for pancreatic cancer. I've joined Team Esther for the LA Cancer Challenge 5K on on October 31st to raise awareness and do my part to help find a cure. Register and make a donation today! <a href="https://t.co/Egqv0UdHKO">https://t.co/Egqv0UdHKO</a> <a href="https://t.co/491clTcVO9">pic.twitter.com/491clTcVO9</a></p> — Serena Williams (@serenawilliams) <a href="https://twitter.com/serenawilliams/status/1451590492102201349?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">October 22, 2021</a></blockquote> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“Last year, my friend Esther was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer, and she’s been by my side whenever I’ve needed her,” Williams said, visibly tearing up and struggling to speak.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“I don’t think I can do this, this is going to be too hard.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“My dear friend Esther has been a huge part of my own health journey, and now she needs our help as she battles pancreatic cancer.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Dr Lee, a physiotherapist, has worked with Serena and her sister Venus throughout their tennis careers.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">In the clip, Williams said she would be supporting her close friend by taking part in the LA Cancer Challenge 5K initiative, with proceeds from her fundraising going towards pancreatic research.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“Esther has been named the honorary starter for the LA Cancer Challenge 5K walk-run on October 31st in UCLA, benefiting the Hirshberg Foundation for pancreatic cancer research,” Williams said.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“My family and I have joined Team Esther to help support everyone fighting this disease. Please join us as we raise awareness and race towards a cure by finding and advancing critical research.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The tennis champion has previously credited Dr Lee with saving her life, after Williams developed a blood clot that could have killed her if she hadn’t of followed her friend’s advice to go to hospital.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“I didn’t want to go and she told me, ‘You got to go,’ and that was the beginning of stuff that was really bad but ended up being good for me,” Williams told reporters in 2012.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“I’ve thanked her so many times for that because it literally could have been life-changing.”</span></p> <p><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">Image: @serenawilliams / Twitter</span></em></p>

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Princess Diana’s godson on track to win the world record for Most Royal Weddings

<p dir="ltr">Prince Phillippos, son of King Constantine II and Queen Anne-Marie of Greece and godson of Princess Diana, just enjoyed his third wedding ceremony to wife Nina Flohr, because when you’re (ex-)royalty, such excesses just make sense.</p> <p dir="ltr">35-year-old ex-royal Phillippos celebrated his relationship to 34-year-old VistaJet heiress Nina at the Metropolitan Cathedral in Athens over the weekend, marking the third such celebration after a small, COVID-restricted ceremony in St. Moritz in December and an event at Stibbington House in Cambridgeshire in May, thrown by socialite Alice Naylor-Leyland.</p> <p dir="ltr">The December ceremony was only attended by the couple’s fathers, whereas the most recent ceremony, a Greek Orthodox one, saw many members of the couple’s extended families in attendance.</p> <p dir="ltr">Phillippos, whose title ‘Prince of Greece’ with the style<span> </span><em>Royal Highness<span> </span></em>is not legally recognised by the Greek government following the deposition of his father in 1973, has many royal godparents in addition to the late Princess Diana. They include King Juan Carlos I of Spain, Princess Beneditke of Denmark, the current Right Honourable Countess Mountbatten of Burma, Penelope Knatchbull, and Bulgarian royal, Kyril, Prince of Preslav, Duke in Saxony. Evidently this is not a family that believes that less is more.</p> <p dir="ltr">Flohr wore a “white silk more taffeta gown, modified from Chanel’s 2021 A/W Couture Collection”, according to the royal fan website RoyalHats.net. They also reported that she “topped her gown with a lengthy silk tulle veil and the antique corsage pearl and diamond floral tiara, a diadem of Scandinavian royal origin that Queen Anne-Marie inherited weeks before her marriage to King Constantine.”</p> <p dir="ltr">Phillippos is the youngest son of King Constantine II, the last monarch of Greece, and Queen Anne-Marie, originally of Denmark. The family holds no political power in Greece thanks to the country abolishing the monarchy in 1973, and they lived in exile for decades. The Danish royal family also holds no political power, but the constitution requires the Queen, Phillippos’ aunt Margarethe II, to perform periodic functions.</p> <p dir="ltr">The bride’s father, Thomas Flohr, founded the luxury private airline company VistaJet in 2004. Her mother, Katharina Konečný, is a founding editor of Russian<span> </span><em>Vogue<span> </span></em>and a creative director at Fabergé.</p> <p dir="ltr"><em>Image: Milos Bicanski/Getty Images</em></p>

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