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Bride-to-be labelled as “ungrateful brat” for hating engagement ring

<p>A bride-to-be has been slammed as “ungrateful” after she complained that her partner proposed to her with a family heirloom instead of the “blingy” ring she had originally asked for.</p> <p>The anonymous woman took to online forum<span> </span><a rel="noopener" href="https://www.weddingbee.com/" target="_blank">Wedding Bee</a><span> </span>to discuss her “hate” for the ring that her boyfriend of 10 years proposed with.</p> <p>“A few months ago, my boyfriend asked me to send him photos of the ring styles I liked and I told him exactly what I wanted,” she wrote, describing her dream jewel as a “larger canary yellow diamond ring on yellow gold”.</p> <p>She further added, “I like really blingy looks.”</p> <p>Shortly after, his family got involved. “His mother called me later … she wanted me to have his grandmother’s ring.”</p> <p>The proposal finally came early in the year. “The ring he gave him is with his grandmother’s diamond which I didn’t want and I’m suppose [sic] to pass it down to our future children,” she wrote.</p> <p>“At first I liked the ring … but the more days that go by the more I hate it.”</p> <blockquote class="twitter-tweet" data-lang="en-gb"> <p dir="ltr">'Ungrateful' woman HATES her family heirloom engagement ring  <a href="https://t.co/w1gDRdRvOF">https://t.co/w1gDRdRvOF</a> <a href="https://t.co/KGLLI8Q8V6">pic.twitter.com/KGLLI8Q8V6</a></p> — The Scottish Sun (@ScottishSun) <a href="https://twitter.com/ScottishSun/status/1085850579073683456?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">17 January 2019</a></blockquote> <p>People were quick to call her out for being a “brat”.</p> <p>“That’s a big blingy ring,” wrote one user. “You sound extremely ungrateful. Hate is such a strong word. That’s his grandmothers ring that you say you hate. How disrespectful.”</p> <p>“I understand you’re disappointed it isn’t the large yellow diamond you wanted, but the stone you got is lovely,” said another. “I wouldn’t say anything until you’ve let a lot of time pass, because it will sound extremely ungrateful.”</p> <p>However, others sympathised with the woman, saying the bride-to-be’s disappointment was understandable.</p> <p>“I don’t think it’s ungrateful at all to want to love your ring!” one said. “You should probably talk about it (calmly) with him before any resentment builds.”</p> <p>“I’m not a fan of the idea that a woman should just shut up and be happy that their boyfriend proposed,” another user chimed in. “You have to wear this ring and be proud of it every day – not him, not his mother.”</p> <p>Do you think the woman has the right to be angry? Let us know in the comments below.</p>

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5 secrets of super happy couples

<p>There are at least three pressure areas in relationships once couples are aged 50+, says <a href="http://couplestherapyaustralia.com/">Peter Fox</a>, couples therapist. If we can control the A.B.C. of relationship isssues then we are at least off to a great start.</p> <p><strong>A) Financial pressure: </strong>This can affect couples in their second marriage more so than those in their first. The former have to re-build their finances including superannuation, and recoup losses from the family home, for example. As a result the couple becomes time-poor during a period in which they crave quality time together.</p> <p><strong>B) Step-family or blended-family relationships: </strong>The children in the family can be from a wide range of ages and each responds to a new family set up differently. Sometimes grown up children from the first family become estranged. Each generation of children is dealing with multiple new relationships and these can require a great deal of attention and management. Whatever the situation is, how does the couple at the head of the family find time for each other?</p> <p><strong>C) Chronic illness: </strong>Fox says new pressures arrive when one member of the couple, sometimes the one who had previously been the main decision maker, develops a chronic illness. As a result of the illness, their roles must reverse. A similar relationship turning point occurs when the previous main breadwinner is made redundant and becomes financially dependent on their spouse. A crisis of relevance may accompany this.</p> <p>The great news is that there is plenty that people can do, even if they’re in a perfectly healthy relationship, to increase happiness in their 'togetherness'.</p> <p>Here, we look at long-term changes you can start to implement in order to help support a happy relationship.</p> <p><strong>Tip 1: Prepare for ‘longevity risk’ </strong></p> <p>Most people anticipate an active life until the age of 75, but 75 is now considered to be young. In Australia, people have a good chance of living to 90 and beyond, and of staying healthy and active until that time. But do they have finances in place to take them through to that age? Looking ahead and planning for the future can be one of the keys to maintaining romantic love.</p> <p>“Plan financially and practically for the possibility of being alive and together and healthy until you’re beyond 90 and that will take away a lot of the stress couples can experience as they age,” Fox says. “It’s not just about finances, but also being close to family, in a suitable house and having access to support.”</p> <p><strong>Tip 2: Cultivate younger friendships </strong></p> <p>“We have a tendency to grow old around other people of the same age,” Fox says. “This means we all face the same difficulties and require the same sort of support at the same time. If your kids are busy, or are not nearby, it really helps to have someone younger who can drop in, check you’re okay and help out with the shopping.”</p> <p>A good relationship with people in a younger generation, Fox adds, can also be stimulating. It can help keep a relationship young and lively and inspire change and passion. “It keeps your outlook young, and that can be of real benefit to a relationship,” he says.</p> <p><strong>Tip 3: Get your shared priorities straight </strong></p> <p>How often do you find you’re distracted by responsibility for your grandchildren, or by other activities not directly related to your relationship? And are you sure that you’re on the same page in terms of how you feel about specific activities?</p> <p>Fox tells a story of a couple he counselled. The wife thought she was a long way down her husband’s list of priorities because he was always in the garage working on the car. He felt he was putting her at the top of the list because the car was to take them on a trip around Australia.</p> <p>“Have a check-in every few months about your real priorities and whether they are in alignment,” Fox says. “Figure out what it is in your life that is distracting you from those real priorities as a couple, and what you can do to re-balance. Often what couples say their priorities are and what their activities indicate are quite different.”</p> <p><strong>Tip 4: Enjoy your lives apart </strong></p> <p>This is simply ensuring you have a separate life and interests.</p> <p>“Make sure there is something in your life that you do away from your partner, and that you are truly passionate about,” Fox recommends. “If you are passionate about something then it brings a great deal of stimulation back into the relationship.”</p> <p>And it’s not just a feel-good suggestion, Fox says. A hobby or some other activity also introduces other vital ingredients into a relationship. It’s no secret, for instance, that a healthy social network is a great contributor to health and happiness. If you are able to introduce each other to new networks via your individual passions then it will be enormously beneficial to your relationship.</p> <p><strong>Tip 5: Share a leisure activity</strong></p> <p>The flipside to the previous point is that you should also share an activity you are both passionate about. Fox regularly sees a large group of kayakers in his local area heading off to yet another social or competitive event. Many are 50+, couples who paddle two-seater kayaks.</p> <p>“This ticks all the boxes,” Fox says. “They have shared leisure, develop a social network, and get out in the fresh air for some great exercise.”</p> <p>What are your secrets to a happy relationship? Let us know in the comments section below.</p> <p><em>Written by Chris Sheedy. Republished with permission of <a href="https://www.wyza.com.au/articles/lifestyle/relationships/5-secrets-of-super-happy-couples.aspx">Wyza.com.au.</a></em></p>

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Inside Princess Diana’s complicated relationship with her mother

<p>It’s no secret that Princess Diana and her mother had a complicated relationship.</p> <p>It is said that Diana’s relationships with different men after her marriage with Prince Charles ended, is the reason behind the feud with her mother Frances Shand Kydd.</p> <p>Diana was famously linked to many high profile men, including heart surgeon Hasnat Khan, businessman Gulu Lalvani and son of Egyptian billionaire Dodi Fayed.</p> <p>But after discovering details about one relationship in particular, Frances had decided to unleash on the late Princess.</p> <p>Speaking to <a rel="noopener" href="https://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/princess-dianas-explosive-feud-mum-13090276" target="_blank"><em>The Mirror</em></a>, Diana’s former butler Paul Burrell recounted what happened the day an emotional Diana was on the receiving end of an abusive phone call from her mother.</p> <p>“I heard her call, ‘Paul come quick’,” he said.</p> <p>“She waved me over with her hand. I joined her on the floor cross-legged and stuck close beside her. I leant my ear as near to the phone as possible and listened to the conversation – albeit one-way.</p> <p>“It was the slurring voice of Ms Frances Shand Kydd. What I heard was a torrent of abuse, swearing and upsetting innuendo towards the Princess and towards the male company she was keeping.</p> <p>“It was a hate-filled personal attack on the men and their religious beliefs.”</p> <p>The exact words that were said were revealed in a documentary Burrell was featured in.</p> <p>“[She said] you’re nothing but a prostitute and a whore, that’s what I’ve brought up, a prostitute,” Burrell shared.</p> <p>Diana then reportedly told him: “Paul, I’ll never speak to my mother again as long as I live.”</p> <p>Prior to Diana’s tragic death, Frances had a few things to say to <a rel="noopener" href="https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/1463517/Obituary-Frances-Shand-Kydd.html" target="_blank"><em>Hello! Magazine</em></a>.</p> <p>Speaking on the topic of Diana’s divorce and her battle with bulimia, Frances said it was “absolutely wonderful” that the late royal had lost her HRH title.</p> <p>Her interview haunted Diana and according to Burrell, Diana never spoke to her mother again.</p>

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The surprise matchmaker behind Roger Federer and wife Mirka's first kiss

<p>Although tennis superstar Roger Federer exudes class and confidence, that’s not the way it’s always been.</p> <p>The 20 time Grand Slam winner revealed just how awkward his first kiss was with his now wife, Mirka Federer.</p> <p>It happened in Australia, during the 2000 Sydney Olympic Games.</p> <p>"We were both playing for Switzerland in tennis," Federer remembered, "and then we spent two weeks together in those dorms.</p> <p>“We were together with the wrestlers and all the other cool athletes. I guess over the two weeks, we built up some chemistry."</p> <p>It turns out that the other “cool athletes” might’ve had an idea as to the budding chemistry, and it came to a head when one of them suggested that Federer makes a move.</p> <p>"He said, 'Hey, kiss her now.'"</p> <p>Federer giggles: "And I'm like, 'No, I don't know, maybe, should I?' So, anyway, I did."</p> <p>As he was hyperaware of the age difference between them (it’s only three years, but when you’re a teenager, it can feel like 10!), Federer tried to beef up the age difference.</p> <p>"She told me I was so young when she kissed me. I tried to tell her I was almost 18-and-a-half. I tried to sneak in a quarter year."</p> <p>Mirka mustn’t have seemed to mind too much, as the pair have been married since 2009. The happy couple now have two sets of twins, eight-year-old girls, Charlene and Myla, as well as four-year-old boys Lenny and Leo, and the happy family keeps a low profile.</p> <p>Do you remember your first kiss with your partner? Was it as smooth as Federers’? Let us know in the comments below.</p>

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Woman sells cheating ex-husband’s gift in brutal Gumtree ad

<p>2019 is the year for change, well … for one woman anyway.</p> <p>Wanting to remove all traces of her previous relationship, a lady took to Gumtree to sell a gift given to her by her ex-husband.</p> <p>The gift – a Pandora bracelet – was listed on the buy and sell website for NZ$370, but it wasn’t the product that caught people’s attention, but rather the detailed item description.</p> <p>The bracelet was filled with charms and the Melbourne based woman took the liberty to describe each of them with a reason as to why she left her husband.</p> <p style="text-align: center;"><img style="width: 500px; height: 468.9922480620155px;" src="/media/7822649/f409a5385c2fffb95830b6ebf32b4121.jpg" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/58087e68af474de69d76a29e7c669319" /></p> <p>“I’m selling the Pandora bracelet that my ex-husband thoughtfully put together for me while he lied to me throughout our marriage. It turns out that pretty trinkets don’t pay for betrayal,” she wrote.</p> <p>“Heart with a 14ct yellow gold arrow – symbolising the pain in my heart when I found out about the lies. And then again, when I found out how long they’d been going on for.</p> <p>“Chick – like the babies he was trying to force me to have because he wanted babies before he was 30 and wouldn’t entertain the discussion about what I wanted,” she continued.</p> <p>The bracelet also featured a limited edition teddy bear, complete with a 14ct yellow gold heart which she said was “much like the limited nature of his trustworthiness.”</p> <p>“The pieces are all in very good condition (much like I am now after the divorce),” she concluded, adding payment can be made via PayPal or cash because “apparently tears of my enemy is not a legitimate payment type”.</p> <p>Safe to say, he definitely got what he deserved.</p>

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Why Prince Charles ended his romance with Princess Diana’s older sister

<p>With Prince Charles being known as the ‘playboy’ whilst on a decade-long dating spree in the 1970s, there were urges from the Royal Palace for him to settle down. </p> <p><span>The next in line for the throne then went on to have a brief relationship with Princess Diana’s older sister, Sarah.</span></p> <p>From a social status perspective, they seemed like a good match. With Sarah Spencer having all the right connections, including close ties with the royal family that spanned on for several generations, it was a match made in royalty heaven.</p> <p>However, things took a turn for the worst when Sarah was openly speaking to reporters about their relationship. She met with reporter James Whittaker in 1977, where he recalls that Sarah<span> was very open.</span></p> <p>“Sarah was disarmingly frank about her boyfriend and declared she would not marry Charles ‘if he were the dustman or the King of England’,” Whittaker said.</p> <p>“That was good news from where I was sitting and Sarah seemed delighted I was so keen to share it with the nation.”</p> <p>However, after printing the words in an article, it became known to Whittaker that the couple had broken up.</p> <p>According to biographer Andy McSmith, Spencer was “frozen out of the royal entourage” after that article was printed.</p> <p>It wasn’t long after that article that Prince Charles met Sarah's younger sister, 16-year-old Diana. </p> <p>Sarah claimed later on that “I introduced them; I’m cupid,” according to <em>The Guardian</em>. </p> <p><img style="width: 500px; height: 281.25px;" src="/media/7822626/prince-charles-diana.jpg" alt="Prince Charles and Diana Spencer ended up marrying" data-udi="umb://media/d1e4263cf957417a9fcc9d306a058445" /></p> <p>Who knows, if Lady Sarah Spencer had not have been so candid, things within the royal family might have turned out very different indeed.</p> <p>Did you know Prince Charles dated Princess Diana's older sister, Sarah? Tell us in the comments below. </p>

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Heartwarming moment husband surprises wife of 67 years with new engagement ring

<p>Patricia May Johnson was in for a surprise after her husband of 67 years gifted her with a new engagement ring on Christmas Day.</p> <p>Surrounded by family, Patricia, 85, couldn’t contain her happiness as she unwrapped her present to reveal a stunning diamond engagement ring with a matching wedding band.</p> <p>The couple tied the knot 67 years ago, but the beautiful gesture brought a wave of emotion for Patricia as she had lost her original ring a year earlier.</p> <p>A video of the touching moment was shared on social media as footage shows the couple giving each other a peck on the lips as their family witness the joyous occasion.</p> <blockquote class="twitter-tweet" data-lang="en-gb"> <p dir="ltr">SPEECHLESS: A man surprises his wife of 67 years with a new diamond ring for Christmas, after she lost her wedding rings at the nursing home where they live. <a href="https://t.co/4wrZnBv0hV">https://t.co/4wrZnBv0hV</a> <a href="https://t.co/XhCbY9ZBaO">pic.twitter.com/XhCbY9ZBaO</a></p> — ABC News (@ABC) <a href="https://twitter.com/ABC/status/1080499948263739394?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">2 January 2019</a></blockquote> <p>After injuring her hand 12 months ago, Patricia was unable to wear her original ring due to swelling, and once she healed, the ring had been misplaced.</p> <p>Despite placing the ring in a jewellery box at the nursing home the couple reside in, the valuable item went missing.</p> <p>Which is why, when Christmas came around, Don knew that a new ring would make the perfect gift.</p> <p>“Dad asked me to take him shopping to buy mom a new engagement ring and wedding band,” the couple’s daughter, Diane Hawkins told <a rel="noopener" href="https://globalnews.ca/" target="_blank"><em>Global News</em></a>.</p> <p>“We had to lie to get him out of the nursing home,” she said, as she revealed they used the excuse of a speech appointment to help him choose the “perfect ring”.</p> <p>It was no easy feat, as the pair are said to be inseparable, so Patricia was adamant that she should come along – but the family succeeded, and Don was able to go to the jewellery store without her.</p> <p>The couple have seven children together and after 67 years of marriage, Diane claims that the pair are still very much in love.</p> <p>“It’s their love that just pulled them back together, always.”</p>

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Can you spot what’s wrong with this wedding photo?

<p style="margin-top: 0cm; background: white; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-size: 11.5pt; font-family: 'Helvetica',sans-serif; color: black;">Weddings can trigger all sorts of emotions among family and friends, but one bridesmaid had a very unusual response after her brother said “I do” to his bride.</span></p> <p style="margin-top: 0cm; background: white; vertical-align: baseline; box-sizing: border-box; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-numeric: inherit; font-variant-east-asian: inherit; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: inherit; orphans: 2; text-align: start; widows: 2; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-color: initial; word-spacing: 0px;"><span style="font-size: 11.5pt; font-family: 'Helvetica',sans-serif; color: black;">The groom shared a beautiful snap from his special day on Twitter, however, there was one thing that made the photo very unusual.</span></p> <p style="margin-top: 0cm; background: white; vertical-align: baseline; box-sizing: border-box; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-numeric: inherit; font-variant-east-asian: inherit; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: inherit; orphans: 2; text-align: start; widows: 2; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-color: initial; word-spacing: 0px;"> </p> <blockquote class="twitter-tweet" data-lang="en"> <p dir="ltr">Three years ago, I married the love of my life and my sister fell over <a href="https://t.co/9jaSazmiir">pic.twitter.com/9jaSazmiir</a></p> — Kevin Kennedy Ryan II🌹 (@K_47) <a href="https://twitter.com/K_47/status/1022113758083260422?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">July 25, 2018</a></blockquote> <p style="margin-top: 0cm; background: white; vertical-align: baseline; box-sizing: border-box; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-numeric: inherit; font-variant-east-asian: inherit; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: inherit; orphans: 2; text-align: start; widows: 2; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-color: initial; word-spacing: 0px;"><span style="font-size: 11.5pt; font-family: 'Helvetica',sans-serif; color: black;">The photo shows the newlyweds leaning in for their kiss as husband and wife while one of the bridesmaids lay face-down on the floor at the couple’s feet.</span></p> <p style="margin-top: 0cm; background: white; vertical-align: baseline; box-sizing: border-box; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-numeric: inherit; font-variant-east-asian: inherit; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: inherit; orphans: 2; text-align: start; widows: 2; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-color: initial; word-spacing: 0px;"><span style="font-size: 11.5pt; font-family: 'Helvetica',sans-serif; color: black;">Joking about the unique moment, the groom wrote on Twitter: “When you are marrying the love of your life and your sister is literally on the floor.”</span></p> <p style="margin-top: 0cm; background: white; vertical-align: baseline; box-sizing: border-box; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-numeric: inherit; font-variant-east-asian: inherit; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: inherit; orphans: 2; text-align: start; widows: 2; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-color: initial; word-spacing: 0px;"><span style="font-size: 11.5pt; font-family: 'Helvetica',sans-serif; color: black;">After posting the photo, the groom received many questions about what was happening when the moment was captured.</span></p> <p style="margin-top: 0cm; background: white; vertical-align: baseline; box-sizing: border-box; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-numeric: inherit; font-variant-east-asian: inherit; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: inherit; orphans: 2; text-align: start; widows: 2; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-color: initial; word-spacing: 0px;"><span style="font-size: 11.5pt; font-family: 'Helvetica',sans-serif; color: black;">“What happened? Was it planned? Did she just hit the deck without warning? Why isn't the vicar looking round? Why does the other bridesmaid have extra flowers? Who took this beauty?” one viewer wrote.</span></p> <p style="margin-top: 0cm; background: white; vertical-align: baseline; box-sizing: border-box; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-numeric: inherit; font-variant-east-asian: inherit; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: inherit; orphans: 2; text-align: start; widows: 2; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-color: initial; word-spacing: 0px;"><span style="font-size: 11.5pt; font-family: 'Helvetica',sans-serif; color: black;">It has since been revealed that the bridesmaid fainted at the exact moment the officiator announced: “You may now kiss the bride”.</span></p> <p style="margin-top: 0cm; background: white; vertical-align: baseline; box-sizing: border-box; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-numeric: inherit; font-variant-east-asian: inherit; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: inherit; orphans: 2; text-align: start; widows: 2; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-color: initial; word-spacing: 0px;"><span style="font-size: 11.5pt; font-family: 'Helvetica',sans-serif; color: black;">While it seems that everyone is oblivious to her fall, the groom reassured viewers that “a few seconds later” they all rushed to assist her.</span></p> <p style="margin-top: 0cm; background: white; vertical-align: baseline; box-sizing: border-box; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-numeric: inherit; font-variant-east-asian: inherit; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: inherit; orphans: 2; text-align: start; widows: 2; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-color: initial; word-spacing: 0px;"><span style="font-size: 11.5pt; font-family: 'Helvetica',sans-serif; color: black;">The groom confirmed that his sister was fine after being helped up and sat down for the remainder of the ceremony.</span></p> <p style="margin-top: 0cm; background: white; vertical-align: baseline; box-sizing: border-box; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-numeric: inherit; font-variant-east-asian: inherit; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: inherit; orphans: 2; text-align: start; widows: 2; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-color: initial; word-spacing: 0px;"><span style="font-size: 11.5pt; font-family: 'Helvetica',sans-serif; color: black;">Once his sister was well, the happy couple gave their interrupted kiss another go.</span></p> <p style="margin-top: 0cm; background: white; vertical-align: baseline; box-sizing: border-box; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-numeric: inherit; font-variant-east-asian: inherit; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: inherit; orphans: 2; text-align: start; widows: 2; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-color: initial; word-spacing: 0px;"><span style="font-size: 11.5pt; font-family: 'Helvetica',sans-serif; color: black;">“We restarted the first kiss once my sister was ok and sitting down,” he wrote.</span></p> <p style="margin-top: 0cm; background: white; vertical-align: baseline; box-sizing: border-box; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-numeric: inherit; font-variant-east-asian: inherit; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: inherit; orphans: 2; text-align: start; widows: 2; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-color: initial; word-spacing: 0px;"><span style="font-size: 11.5pt; font-family: 'Helvetica',sans-serif; color: black;">Many found the unusual photo very amusing.</span></p> <p style="margin-top: 0cm; background: white; vertical-align: baseline; box-sizing: border-box; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-numeric: inherit; font-variant-east-asian: inherit; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: inherit; orphans: 2; text-align: start; widows: 2; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-color: initial; word-spacing: 0px;"><span style="font-size: 11.5pt; font-family: 'Helvetica',sans-serif; color: black;">“I think it's impressive that she managed to keep one toe in one shoe!!” one user joked. “I really hope you have this framed! This is the best wedding picture I’ve ever seen!” said another.</span></p>

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The exact moment Queen Elizabeth II knew Prince Philip was the one

<p>This year, the Queen and Prince Philip celebrated their 71st wedding together after tying the knot in Westminster Abbey on November 20, 1947.</p> <p>The couple have overcome many adversities together and their marriage is the longest of any British sovereign.</p> <p>The duo first met when Elizabeth was just eight, at the wedding of Princess Marina of Greece and Denmark (Philip’s cousin) and Prince George, Duke of Kent (Elizabeth’s uncle) in 1934.</p> <p>However, they crossed paths again five years later and it was on this day that the then heir-to-the throne fell in love with her future husband.</p> <p>When Elizabeth was 13, she visited the Royal Naval College in Dartmouth with her sister Margaret and her parents.</p> <p>Speaking on <a href="https://honey.nine.com.au"><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>9Honey</strong></span></a>’s <em style="font-weight: inherit;">The Windsors</em> podcast, royal commentator Victoria Arbiter says: “[The princesses] were escorted around the property by an 18-year-old blonde-haired blue-eyed midshipman, Prince Philip, who was charged with taking care of the girls while the royal parents were off doing duties."</p> <p>“She was totally in lust, I think," says Juliet Rieden, author of <em style="font-weight: inherit;">The Royals in Australia</em>.</p> <p>"He was devilishly handsome. People at the time said that he looked like a Greek God, this shock of blonde hair, he was very tall, he was very muscular."</p> <p>On the weekend of the royal family’s Dartmouth visit, Philip joined them for dinner on their yacht.</p> <p>Elizabeth’s infatuation with the officer was noticed by Lord Louis Mountbatten, an aide to the King who was also on the trip.</p> <p>It was several years before the couple dated because of Elizabeth’s age, however, Arbiter believes that moment was when their relationship began.</p> <p>Rieden explains, "It’s been widely reported that the Queen was smitten the minute she met him. That was it.</p> <p>"Of course, she was only 13 and he was 18, so they wrote letters to each other while he was off on naval service. They were writing to each other all the time."</p> <p>In 1946, Philip asked King George VI for permission to marry his daughter and the future Queen.</p> <p>The King agreed on the condition that the official announcement would not be made until Elizabeth turned 21 the following April.</p>

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Bride-to-be’s heartless reaction to sister’s miscarriage prompts groom to cancel their wedding

<p>A heartless bride caused her groom to call off their wedding after he witnessed her cruel reaction to news of her sister’s miscarriage.</p> <p>The bride’s wedding planner shared the horrific story on the website <a href="https://notalwaysright.com/"><strong style="font-style: inherit;"><u>Not Always Right</u></strong></a>, explaining that the drama first began when the sister first announced that she pregnant.</p> <p>After the sister, who was also chosen to a bridesmaid for the wedding, revealed that she was pregnant, the bride became enraged and called it “inconvenient”.</p> <p>“The Bridezilla informed her that her pregnancy is inconvenient and threw a fit at her poor timing because the dress will have to be altered to handle the pregnancy,” she wrote.</p> <p>“I fled to another room and shut the door, but they were having it out so loudly I could still hear the fight,” the wedding planner recalled. </p> <p>The sister reminded the bride that she and her partner had been struggling to conceive for three years.</p> <p>“While the wedding may be your day, you knew what I was going through to get the chance to have a baby,” the sister said.</p> <p>The heartless bride then kicked her out of the bridal party, saying: “Well, then, I guess you can’t be in my wedding, because I don’t want to deal with the problems your pregnancy will cause.”</p> <p>The sister walked out of the meeting and the wedding planner said she had to put on her “best retail face” to continue on with their session.</p> <p>A few months later, the wedding planner was in a meeting with the bride and her mum when the mum excused herself to answer a phone call.</p> <p>After spending a while on the phone, the mum returned with a red face and tears in her eyes, letting her daughter know that the sister had lost her baby.</p> <p>The wedding planner’s heart immediately broke and she felt sympathy tears beginning to form in her eyes.</p> <p>However, the bride remained unaffected by the devastating news.</p> <p>“Oh. Well, I guess she can be in my wedding, then, since she’s not pregnant anymore,” the bride responded.</p> <p>The wedding planner said the mum’s eyes “snapped” before she proceeded to say in a “deadly calm voice” that she would no longer be paying for the wedding.</p> <p>“It looks like my daughter will be taking over paying for everything,” she told the wedding planner.</p> <p>“I hope this doesn’t cause your business any trouble.”</p> <p>The bride immediately started to panic, waving her arms” and “screeching horrified questions” that the mum refused to answer.</p> <p>The wedding planner explained that the groom was also exposed to the bride’s heartlessness shortly after.</p> <p>“The wedding was cancelled entirely, twenty-four hours later, by the would-be groom,” she revealed at the end of the post. </p>

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This may be the secret to happiness in relationships

<p><strong><em>Susan Krauss Whitbourne is a professor of Psychology and Brain Sciences at the University of Massachusetts Amherst. She writes the Fulfilment at Any Age blog for Psychology Today.</em></strong></p> <p><span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/laughter">Laughter</a></span> can be, if not the best, at least <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/blog/fulfillment-any-age/201007/laughter-certain-types-can-be-the-best-medicine">great medicine</a></span> for your personal <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/health">health</a></span>. You may not be aware, however, of the many <em>relationship</em> health benefits of sharing a smile or laugh. Couples who successfully navigate their inevitable periods of conflict and disagreement in long-term <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/relationships">relationships</a></span> know how best to use <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/blog/fulfillment-any-age/201206/the-12-ties-bind-long-term-relationships">constructive, rather than destructive</a></span>, methods of resolution. In <em>constructive</em> conflict resolution, you focus on the <em>problem</em>, not the <em>person</em>; in <em>destructive</em> conflict resolution, you make things <em>personal</em>.</p> <p>A key component to relationship health is that happy couples know how to relish their happy moments together. It seems obvious that sharing the joys of everyday life with your partner could promote your long-term bond. When you laugh with your partner, you’re serving as a source of positive reinforcement. As your partner increasingly comes to associate you with rewarding experiences, you boost your partner’s <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/motivation">motivation</a></span> to be with you (and vice versa).</p> <p>Positive emotions do more than provide psychological comfort, however. According to University College of London’s Sophie K. Scott and colleagues (2014):</p> <p><em>“Laughter is one of the positive emotional expressions, which are expressly linked to a physiological reduction in the stressful reactions to negative emotions (e.g., </em><span><em><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/fear">fear</a></em></span><em>, </em><span><em><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/anger">anger</a></em></span><em>, disgust), in a way which may be more effective than other ways of managing negative emotions” (pp. 619-620).</em></p> <p>Laughing helps your body as well as your mind: Scott and her <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/teamwork">team</a></span> bolstered their argument with evidence taken from a long-term study of middle-aged and older married couples. That study focused on the general relationship benefits of being able to manage emotions. Called "<span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/blog/fulfillment-any-age/201502/5-ways-get-your-unwanted-emotions-under-control">emotion regulation,</a></span>" this is essentially the ability to make yourself feel better when you feel bad. If you’re capable of emotion regulation, you can put the brakes on such negative emotions as anger, frustration and hostility. You can also keep humorous reactions in bounds, reflecting the situation as appropriate (unlike the “<span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/blog/fulfillment-any-age/201503/does-everyone-really-love-joker-does-anyone">class clown</a></span>”).</p> <p>Stanford University psychologist Lian Bloch and collaborators (2014) used data from a 13-year study of heterosexual marriages among middle-aged and older couples to examine whether the ones who used the process of “downregulating” negative emotion (i.e., getting themselves to feel better) would be better able to cope when faced with relationship strife. The researchers examined the predictive power of negative downregulation as the first assessment on marital satisfaction over the course of the 13 years of the study.</p> <p>In a long-term study such as this, you could argue from the “correlation doesn’t equal causation” perspective that the same quality that allows couples to regulate negative emotions at one point in time allows them to feel more satisfied with each other. Only a true experiment could rule out this possibility. Because earlier scores were being used statistically to predict later outcomes, however, there’s also a strong case to be made for a directional arrow from downregulation at one point in time to marital satisfaction in the following years.</p> <p>On each testing occasion, the Stanford study brought married couples to a lab session during which they spent 15 minutes each talking about:</p> <ul> <li>events of the day;</li> <li>a topic of continued disagreement; and</li> <li>a pleasant topic or something they enjoyed doing together.</li> </ul> <p>Their physiological reactions were monitored at the same time, and participants also rated their emotions during these encounters. Participants also rated the quality of their own conflict resolution, and whether it was constructive or destructive in <u><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/environment">nature</a></u>. </p> <p>The key question, then, was whether emotion regulation would predict marital satisfaction. However, the data were also broken down by spouse (husband vs. wife) so the researchers could also examine <em>whose </em>downregulation was more important for the relationship’s long-term health. The subtitle of the article – “More than a Wives’ Tale" – gives away the punch line because the <em>wife’s</em> downregulation more successfully predicted marital satisfaction over time. Her ability to communicate constructively played the key role in making good things happen long-term.</p> <p>We know from this study, then, that regulating negative emotions (by wives in particular) is helpful in maintaining relationship bonds. How do the findings relate to the sharing of positive emotions? Were couples benefited at all by focusing on an enjoyable, mutual activity? Berkeley psychologist Joyce Yuan and colleagues (2010), using the same married couples in the Bloch <em>et al.</em> research, found that couples who experienced positive emotions were better able to calm themselves physiologically as well. Positive emotions, in short, “have the capacity to ‘undo’ physiological arousal” (p. 471).</p> <p>Laughter is certainly one of the strongest reactions we have to positive emotions. You may smile when you’re feeling good, but you’ll only laugh if something strikes you as out-and-out funny. Scott and her team noted that people laugh surprisingly often, perhaps as much as 5 times in a 10-minute conversation. </p> <p>People also tend to laugh more at what <em>they</em> say than at what <em>others </em>contribute to the dialogue, according to the Scott<em> </em>et al. analysis. We seem to use laughter more as a tool in communicating our thoughts to others than in reacting to what those around us are trying to communicate. (The next time you're chatting with a friend or your partner, take note of the times you laugh and see if this observation matches your own experience.)</p> <p>Returning to the research, these findings suggest that you may be able to control the emotional climate of your relationship <em>by bringing laughter into it</em>. At first, it might seem strange or forced, but over time, you may find that you and your partner actually find more to laugh about in common. Press the pause button on conflicts before they become destructive and take a moment to put things in perspective. Who knows? Once you take that step back, the whole situation may become laughable. As difficult as it might be the first time, getting in the habit of downregulating together may be the best medicine for long-term relationship fulfillment.</p> <p><em>Written by Susan Krauss Whitbourne. Republished with permission of <span><strong><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/blog/fulfillment-any-age/201506/may-be-the-secret-happiness-in-relationships">Psychology Today.</a></strong></span> </em></p>

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Is it better to be loyal or honest in your relationship?

<p><strong><em>Susan Krauss Whitbourne is a professor of Psychology and Brain Sciences at the University of Massachusetts Amherst. She writes the Fulfilment at Any Age blog for Psychology Today.</em></strong></p> <p>An old friend is in town on a trip that you’ve known about for months. Back when you made a date to get together for the evening, it seemed like a great idea. You definitely want to see this person, or at least you did at the time. Now that it’s getting closer to the actual event, you’re starting to regret having made those plans. Things have gotten hectic at work, and you’d like to take the evening to sit around in your sweats and binge watch that new program which just became available for streaming. </p> <p>Perhaps it’s not an evening out, but a lunch date on a weekday close by to where you work. The weather forecast is predicting a messy, rainy, day and you don’t think you’ll want to venture out any more than is necessary to get from home to the office. These situations present you with a classic dilemma: Do you tell the truth to your friend but risk the relationship or preserve the relationship by making up a legitimate-sounding excuse?</p> <p>Testing the values of loyalty vs. honesty in moral judgments, Cornell University’s John Angus D. Hildreth and University of California Berkeley’s Cameron Anderson (2018) asked “Does loyalty <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/president-donald-trump">trump</a></span> honesty?” As they note, “Groups often demand loyalty, but all too often, loyalty can corrupt individuals to engage in deceit."</p> <p>Among the list of possible deceptions that loyalty to organisations or causes can prompt is pretending to believe in something you don’t or overlooking bad behaviour by people who are a part of your group. A politician might downplay a fellow office-holder’s illicit activity, or a sales manager might turn a blind eye to the shoddy products that the company is putting out on the market. You might lie to help your <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/teamwork">team</a></span> win in a competitive match. The deceptions involved in these instances have more serious consequences than those associated with <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/deception">lying</a></span> to a friend to preserve the relationship, but the same underlying dynamic is at play in that honesty and loyalty operate at cross-purposes.</p> <p>As the Cornell-Berkeley researchers go on to observe, most people view lying as unethical but may be more accepting when a lie is the result of a prosocial motive. In fact, they cite evidence that you’ll gain more trust from the people who know you if you have a reputation as a prosocial liar. A friend may overhear you saying to a mutual acquaintance that her new hairstyle looks great when, clearly, the cut and colour are all wrong. Your coming out with this slight untruth shows how much you value other people’s feelings. Such lies are preferable to lies that are intended to give you an advantage over other people in order to get ahead. When you tell someone she looks nice so that you can get her to do a favour for you, this is no longer a prosocial lie because you’re doing this to increase the odds of getting something you want.</p> <p>However, when a lie isn’t just prosocial but a “loyal lie,” other people are likely to view you far more negatively. A lie that is intended to protect shady operations by a group of which you are a part comes closer to a self-serving lie than one that is <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/altruism">altruistic</a></span>, even though “loyal” implies some sort of higher purpose. There is a philosophical reason for this notion as well. Philosophers such as Jeremy Bentham and John Stuart Mills regard loyalty as “immoral” due to its “inherent partiality”. Because loyal lies benefit one’s group as well as oneself over others, they should be perceived as immoral by those who observe the lie being told. The liar, by contrast, sees no such problem and, in fact, feels “a moral imperative to act in the best interests of the group.” By not lying, the individual runs the risk of “negative social judgment, ostracism and social exclusion."</p> <p>Putting these ideas to the test, Hildreth and Anderson conducted a series of four studies involving nearly 1400 participants involving both online surveys and laboratory experiments. In the online version of the test of the study’s hypotheses (later replicated with college students), participants read scenarios varying in the behaviour described by an individual who either lied or did not lie either to benefit their group in its <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/sport-and-competition">competition</a></span> with another group. The question was whether participants would regard deceit as unethical and immoral. In the condition involving loyalty and intergroup competition, participants perceived deceit as being relatively less unethical than in other conditions. However, participants rated loyal deceit (lying to benefit their group) as more unethical than disloyal honesty (being honest at the expense of one’s own group).</p> <p>The research team placed college student participants in the experimental study similarly in conditions involving either intergroup competition or no competition. Here the question was whether or not they would lie when their loyalty was triggered. Rather than judging the <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/ethics-and-morality">morality</a></span> and ethicality of others, then, participants judged their own behaviour.</p> <p>As shown in prior studies, participants were more likely to lie when they thought it would help their own group. In general, they judged their own behaviour as less ethical when they lied compared to when they were honest. However, there was an important exception – when they lied to benefit their group, the participants did not see any ethical problem in their own behaviour. In fact, they actually saw their behaviour as slightly more ethical when they lied compared to when they told the truth.</p> <p>As the authors concluded, “These individuals seemed to ground their self-perceptions in a morally pluralistic framework, focusing on loyalty above and beyond truthfulness as a critical moral dimension in this context” (p. 90). In other words, liars can compartmentalise enough to be able to justify their lying if it serves a purpose of protecting their group.</p> <p>The final study in the series randomly assigned participants in the laboratory simulation to actor or observer role. As in the prior studies, loyal lies received the harshest judgments by observers, but not by the actors themselves.</p> <p><strong>To sum up</strong>, in answer to the article’s title, loyalty really does trump honesty in the view of the person committing the lie. Loyal liars don’t just rationalise their lying after the fact; instead, they have different standards for loyal lying than they do for honesty. Returning to the quandary you find yourself in when you feel you need to lie to get out of a prior obligation, the Cornell-Berkeley study suggests that it’s all too easy to slip into a mode where you see your lying as needed to protect your relationship. This may be fine on an occasional or extreme basis, but it’s quite likely that you can easily slip down that slope into habitual lying.</p> <p>Rather than lie to protect your relationship, then, a dose of honesty may be needed even if it seems difficult at the time. Alternatively, perhaps you shouldn’t lie at all. If you’ve made a social commitment that now seems inconvenient, consider following through on it. You may have a much better time than you realised you would, and the loyalty you show toward those in your life might just provide the basis for more fulfilling <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/relationships">relationships</a></span>.</p> <p><em>Written by Susan Krauss Whitbourne. Republished with permission of <a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com"><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>Psychology Today.</strong> </span></a></em></p>

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Princess Eugenie releases never-before-seen wedding photo: "The greatest day of my life"

<p>On October 12, Princess Eugenie said “I do” to her boyfriend of seven years Jack Brooksbank.</p> <p>The Queen’s granddaughter looked breathtaking in a stunning Peter Pilotto gown and now, she has shared a never-before-seen photo from her big day.</p> <p>The 28-year-old posted the black and white photo to her Instagram account, which showed her donning a massive smile alongside her beau.</p> <blockquote style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" class="instagram-media" data-instgrm-captioned="" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/p/BqfSQgZF-Xo/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading" data-instgrm-version="12"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"></div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"></div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"></div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"></div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"></div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <p style="margin: 8px 0 0 0; padding: 0 4px;"><a style="color: #000; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none; word-wrap: break-word;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/p/BqfSQgZF-Xo/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading" target="_blank">#tbt to THE greatest day of my life</a></p> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;">A post shared by <a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/princesseugenie/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading" target="_blank"> Princess Eugenie</a> (@princesseugenie) on Nov 22, 2018 at 8:10am PST</p> </div> </blockquote> <p>“#tbt to THE greatest day of my life,” Eugenie captioned the sweet snap.</p> <p>Eugenie’s wedding dress featured long sleeves, a sweeping train and a low back, which allowed her to proudly show off her scoliosis scars.</p> <p>The Queen also loaned her the emerald York tiara to wear for her ceremony in St George’s Chapel at Windsor Castle.</p> <p>Following the ceremony and the couple’s carriage procession, they celebrated with guests at their reception in Royal Lodge.</p> <blockquote style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" class="instagram-media" data-instgrm-captioned="" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/p/Bo43MillrLq/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading" data-instgrm-version="12"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"></div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"></div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"></div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"></div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"></div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <p style="margin: 8px 0 0 0; padding: 0 4px;"><a style="color: #000; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none; word-wrap: break-word;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/p/Bo43MillrLq/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading" target="_blank">Princess Eugenie and Jack Brooksbank are pictured at Royal Lodge, Windsor ahead of the private dinner, following their Wedding. Princess Eugenie's evening dress was designed by Zac Posen, who was inspired by the beauty of Windsor and the surrounding countryside. The White Rose of York is subtly embroidered on both the shoulder and back which hold together the cape. Princess Eugenie is wearing diamond and emerald drop earrings which were a Wedding gift from the Groom. Princess Eugenie also wears a hair slide belonging to Her Majesty The Queen. For more detail on the Dress and Jewellery, visit: https://bit.ly/2NF0Q2b</a></p> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;">A post shared by <a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/hrhthedukeofyork/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading" target="_blank"> The Duke of York</a> (@hrhthedukeofyork) on Oct 13, 2018 at 2:31pm PDT</p> </div> </blockquote> <p>For the reception, Eugenie changed into a blush and ivory silk dress from designer Zac Posen.</p> <p>The glamorous gown was reportedly inspired by the beauty of Windsor and the symbol of the House of York, the White Rose of York.</p> <p>Eugenie also let her neatly styled bun out for the reception, using one of the Queen’s hair slides to secure the front section. </p>

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Another royal is getting married!

<p>This year the Queen saw two of her grandchildren, Prince Harry and Princess Eugenie, tie the knot to their respective partners.</p> <p>Now, it has been revealed that another royal wedding is on the cards next year.</p> <p>One of the Queen’s goddaughters, Princess Theodora of Greece, has announced her engagement to her American boyfriend, Matthew Kumar.</p> <p>The 35-year-old is the youngest daughter of King Constantine II and Queen Anne-Marie of Greece.</p> <p>In 1974, the monarch was formally abolished in Greece, however, members of the family are still known by their royal titles and mingle within European royal circles.</p> <p>The bride-to-be announced the news on Instagram along with a sweet photo of her and her fiancé.</p> <blockquote style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" class="instagram-media" data-instgrm-captioned="" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/p/BqPuwQ6FvFY/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading" data-instgrm-version="12"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"></div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"></div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"></div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"></div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"></div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <p style="margin: 8px 0 0 0; padding: 0 4px;"><a style="color: #000; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none; word-wrap: break-word;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/p/BqPuwQ6FvFY/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading" target="_blank">Words can’t express our happiness and excitement. I can’t wait to marry this wonderful man. I love you Matt ♥️</a></p> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;">A post shared by <a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/tgreece/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading" target="_blank"> Theodora</a> (@tgreece) on Nov 16, 2018 at 7:11am PST</p> </div> </blockquote> <p>"Words can’t express our happiness and excitement. I can’t wait to marry this wonderful man. I love you Matt," she wrote.</p> <p>Theodora’s parents released a statement expressing their joy over the happy news.</p> <p>"Their Majesties King Constantine and Queen Anne-Marie are delighted to announce the engagement of their youngest daughter Theodora to Mr. Matthew Kumar.</p> <p>"Further details about the forthcoming wedding will be provided in due course.</p> <p>"Mr. Matthew Kumar, 34, was born and raised in Southern California to Sam and Lonnie Kumar. He is a practicing attorney in Los Angeles."</p> <p>The guest list for the lavish wedding is likely to feature many European royals, including Queen Elizabeth II.</p> <p>Her Majesty became Theodora’s godmother at her christening in 1983.</p> <p>If the Queen is unable to attend the wedding, it is expected that Prince Charles and the Duchess of Cornwall will go in her place.</p> <p>Princess Mary will also receive an invitation to the ceremony as her husband, Denmark’s Crown Prince Frederik, is Theodora’s cousin.</p> <p>Theodora was raised in England but moved to America to pursue acting and now goes by the stage name 'Theodora Greece'.</p> <p>She is best known for playing the character Alison Montgomery on <em>The Bold and the Beautiful</em>. </p>

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The woman Prince Charles proposed to before Princess Diana

<p>Many royal fans know that Prince Charles chose to propose to Diana after the Royal Family deemed his now wife, Camilla, was an unsuitable match.</p> <p>However, a new documentary, released for the UK royal heir’s 70th birthday, has revealed that Diana wasn’t the first woman Charles was encouraged to propose to.</p> <p>Channel 4’s documentary, <em>The Royal House of Windsor</em>, said that Charles’ honorary grandfather, Lord Mountbatten, encouraged him to pursue his granddaughter Amanda Knatchbull.</p> <p style="text-align: center;"><img style="width: 344.6327683615819px; height: 500px;" src="/media/7822034/image_.jpg" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/44e0c524082d4a868520c167389160f0" /></p> <p style="text-align: center;"><em>Amanda Knatchbull</em></p> <p>The documentary claims Lord Mountbatten had spent years “secretly lining Amanda up as a future queen”.</p> <p>Amanda was the daughter of Patricia Knatchbull, Countess Mountbatten of Burma and John Knatchbull, Baron Brabourne.</p> <p>Amanda’s brother, Norton, was a close friend to Charles and was given the honour of being the godfather to Prince William.</p> <p>Lord Mountbatten was reportedly so determined to stop Charles’ pursuit of Camilla that he encouraged the Prince to propose to “perfect candidate” Amanda, who was nine years younger than him.</p> <p>Charles’ obeyed his wishes and began courting Amanda, inviting her on the Royal Yacht Britannia for a trip to Eleuthera in the Caribbean back in 1977.</p> <p>Allegedly, Charles then popped the question to Amanda and said: “Will you be my wife?”</p> <p>The documentary claims that Amanda rejected his offer because they were close friends and their relationship was more like “brother and sister”.</p> <p>Soon after his rejection, Charles pursued Lady Diana Spencer.</p> <p>Charles and Diana eventually tied the knot on July 29, 1981.</p> <p>Amanda went on to marry author Charles Vincent Ellingworth in 1987 and they had three children together.</p>

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Another royal wedding? Princess Beatrice dating multi-millionaire property tycoon

<p>With her sister tying the knot a little over a month ago, it seems Princess Beatrice has also found love as friends say she could be engaged soon to her multi-millionaire, divorced, father-of-one boyfriend.</p> <p>Beatrice, 30, is reported to have fallen for property developer Edoardo Mapelli Mozzi, 34, and was seen introducing him as her boyfriend when she attended a party in London last week hosted by Indian billionaire Lakshmi Mittal.</p> <p>Mozzi, who has a two-year-old son, has been dating the Princess for the last two months.</p> <blockquote style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" class="instagram-media" data-instgrm-captioned="" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/p/BqTxXtTl9Bf/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading" data-instgrm-version="12"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"></div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"></div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"></div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"></div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"></div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <p style="margin: 8px 0 0 0; padding: 0 4px;"><a style="color: #000; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none; word-wrap: break-word;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/p/BqTxXtTl9Bf/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading" target="_blank">Rumor-Princess Beatrice has fallen for divorcee, father and multi-millionaire property developer, Edoardo Mapelli Mozzi of 34 years of age.#princessbeatrice #princesseugenie @princesseugenie @theroyalfamily #BritishRoyal #BritishRoyals #BritishRoyalty #britishroyalfamily #RoyalFamily #instaroyals #London #TheYorkSisters #news #royalnews #katemiddleton #catherinemiddleton #duchessofcambridge #meghanmarkle #duchessofsussex #uk #princess #unitedkingdom #hrhprincessbeatrice #hrhprincessbeatriceofyork #princessdiana</a></p> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;">A post shared by <a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/hrhprincessbeatrice/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading" target="_blank"> HRH Princess Beatrice Of York</a> (@hrhprincessbeatrice) on Nov 17, 2018 at 8:51pm PST</p> </div> </blockquote> <p>It is said the pair have also went on holiday together and frequently go out for dates.</p> <p>According to the Princess’ close friends, Beatrice has already introduced her new man to her parents Prince Andrew and Sarah Ferguson.</p> <p>The couple were allegedly introduced to each other through a mutual acquaintance and share the same circle of friends before they started dating.</p> <p>Speaking to <a rel="noopener" href="https://www.thesun.co.uk/news/7766865/princess-beatrice-dating-property-developer/" target="_blank"><em>The Sun</em></a>, a friend said that the pair felt a connection immediately and they have a “real laugh together".</p> <p>“They’ve been on holiday together and Beatrice introduced him to Fergie and her dad. Things are moving very quickly, and it wouldn’t surprise anyone if they got engaged within a short period of time.</p> <p>“They could even be tying the knot in 2019 – it’s already been discussed by her friends.</p> <p>“Everyone is thrilled that Bea is so happy and in such a good place right now.”</p> <p>The two met a month before Eugenie’s wedding which happened on October 12.</p> <p>Mozzie is Beatrice’s first boyfriend after her split with Dave Clark, who she dated for 10 years until 2016.</p>

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Michelle Obama’s surprising marriage confession

<p>The former First Lady of the United States has revealed that her and husband Barack Obama, who many look at as the pinnacle of a stable relationship, went through marriage counselling in a candid interview.</p> <p>The 54-year-old sat down with <em>Good Morning America</em> and said that her relationship with Barack is like any other marriage.</p> <p>“I know too many young couples who struggle and think there’s something wrong with them and I want them to know that Michelle and Barack Obama, who have a phenomenal marriage and love each other, we work on our marriage,” she said to interviewer Robin Roberts.</p> <p>Michelle and Barack, who met for the first time at a law practice they were both working at, credit marriage counselling for teaching them ways to take care of themselves and each other.</p> <p>“Marriage counselling for us was one of those ways where we learned how to talk out our differences. What I learnt about myself was my happiness was up to me,” she told Roberts.</p> <p>The full interview aired on Tuesday this week on <em>Good Morning America</em> and was the same day Michelle’s first book, <em>Becoming</em>, was released.</p> <p>The memoir is an inside look into the life of the former First Lady as she shares her struggles and triumphs throughout her life.</p> <p>One particular struggle was the difficulty she faced when trying to conceive before welcoming her two daughters Malia and Sasha.</p> <p>“We were trying to get pregnant and it wasn’t going well,” she writes in her book, according to <em>The Associated Press</em>.</p> <p>“We had one pregnancy test come back positive, which caused us both to forget every worry and swoon with joy, but a couple of weeks later I had a miscarriage, which left me physically uncomfortable and cratered any optimism we felt.”</p> <p>But the couple soon had Malia and Sasha with the help of IVF.</p> <p>Are you keen to read Michelle Obama's new book<span> </span><em>Becoming</em>? Let us know in the comments below.  </p>

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The one person stopping Fergie and Prince Andrew from remarrying

<p>Although Prince Andrew and Sarah Ferguson split in 1996, the couple still continue to live together at Royal Lodge in Windsor Great Park.</p> <p>Despite their past, the duo continue to display an amicable relationship in public and have afternoon tea together with their daughters, Princess Beatrice and Princess Eugenie.</p> <p>Now, the Duchess of York has addressed the longstanding rumour that the only thing stopping them from remarrying is Prince Philip.</p> <p>According to W Magazine, Philip bears a "long-standing hatred" toward Fergie for the infamous photos that captured American businessman John Bryan sucking her toes.</p> <p>"We know he would oppose any remarriage, that’s why we all say it can only happen after he has gone," said a friend of the couple.</p> <p>Speaking to the <a href="https://www.dailymail.co.uk"><strong><em style="font-weight: inherit;"><u>Daily Mail</u></em></strong></a>, Fergie responded to the age-old question – will they remarry?</p> <p>“So many people have asked me that, but we’re so happy with the way we are right now," she said.</p> <p>“We enjoy each other’s company; we allow each other to blossom. I know it sounds like a fairytale but that’s the way we are.”</p> <p>Fergie praised Prince Andrew for his work for his country.</p> <p>“My duty is to him. I am so proud of him. I stand by him and always will. The way we are is our fairytale,” she gushed.</p> <p>“Although we are not a couple, we really believe in each other. The Yorks are a united family. We’ve shown it. You saw it at the wedding.</p> <p>“We stand up for each other, fight for each other. We’re totally respectful of each other’s position and thoughts and we listen to each other. Our children listen to us, too.</p> <p>“And we sit round the table and have afternoon tea together. It’s a very important part of our lives.”</p> <p>The duo’s relationship continues to baffle royal spectators 22 years after their high-profile split.</p> <p>“We’re the happiest divorced couple in the world. We’re divorced to each other, not from each other.”</p> <p>In the interview, Fergie also opened up about the heartbreak of not having her “best friend” Princess Diana present at Eugenie’s wedding last month.</p> <p>“I thought of absent friends and family; of Diana — but she’s with me all the time,” the 59-year-old said.</p> <p>“What I miss most is her tinkling laughter.”</p> <p>Diana and Fergie grew up together, with the duo being distantly related and their parents going to school together.</p> <p>“Diana was my best friend and the funniest person I knew. She had such timing and wit.”</p> <p>“It was a total joy to be with her because we just laughed and enjoyed life so much, and I know she would have loved the wedding.”</p> <p>Eugenie married James Brooksbank on October 12 at Windsor Castle. </p>

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The best way for adult children and parents to communicate

<p><strong><em>Susan Krauss Whitbourne is a professor of Psychology and Brain Sciences at the University of Massachusetts Amherst. She writes the Fulfilment at Any Age blog for Psychology Today.</em></strong></p> <p>When I speak with other <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/parenting">parents</a></span> of adult children, I often wonder if I am being a negligent parent. Since sending our children off to college, to jobs, or <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/marriage">marriage</a></span>, some of my friends talk to and text their children endlessly. I, on the other hand, do not. I notice disbelief on their faces when I report not speaking to my married son for two-week stretches at a time.</p> <p>Adult children – particularly daughters as I learned from the research for my book <span><a href="http://amzn.to/1R7szpy">Nobody’s Baby Now: Reinventing Your Adult Relationship with Your Mother and Father</a></span> – report speaking with a parent two, three or more times a day in conversations that range from important to trivial. Mobile phones and texting have made sharing information inexpensive, easy and more immediate. But, is keeping in close or constant touch – in any mode of communication – beneficial for parents?</p> <p>Current forms of communication can be frustrating for parents. Many adult children don’t answer their mobile phones; they keep the voicemail boxes full; and if you can leave a message, it’s doubtful they listen to it. Emails don’t get read unless you send a text to alert them to read your email.</p> <p>However as one study reveals, parental feelings after contact with grown children are varied; they can be quite uplifting or upsetting in different circumstances. In short, it may be a mixed blessing that you can’t reach your adult child.</p> <p><strong>How contact with grown children affects parents’ mood</strong></p> <p>Calling and texting grown children – versus face-to-face interaction – may not be the emotionally best choice for parents. In the study, “The Ties That Bind: <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/mid-life">Midlife</a></span> Parents’ Daily Experiences With Grown Children,” lead author Karen Fingerman at the University of Texas, Austin, found that 96 percent of the sampled 247 parents with children over the age of 18 spoke with, texted or saw them in person during a one-week period.  A surprising number had daily contact.</p> <p>But researchers wanted to know whether the mode of communication was influenced by the quality of the parent-child relationship, and if the encounters had a significant impact on the mood and wellbeing of the parent.</p> <p><strong>A mixed bag of reactions</strong></p> <p>“Pleasant and stressful experiences with grown children were associated with parents’ positive and negative daily moods,” the study found.</p> <p>Fingerman and her <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/teamwork">team</a></span> used daily diaries for parents to report their contact intervals and whether their interaction was pleasant or negative. Of the many parents that communicated with their children in the study week, 88 percent spoke on the phone, three-fourths saw them in person and two thirds texted. “Nearly all” subjects laughed or had a pleasant interaction.</p> <p>But, more than 50 percent had stressful experiences, such as a child “getting on nerves,” or having thoughts of <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/anxiety">anxiety </a></span>over children. Most parents experienced either an overall positive or an overall negative communication, with few having neutral interactions.</p> <p><strong>The most rewarding ways to stay in touch</strong></p> <p>The quality of the parent-child relationship does matter; both the frequency of contact and its <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/basics/environment">nature</a></span> hinge on it. Parents who had more positive relationships with their adult children were more likely to report daily contact using all three modes of communication (phone, text, in person). Those who rated their overall relationship as positive were almost one and a half times likelier to see their children in person.</p> <p>Also notable is that parents reported more negative relationship quality when they communicated with children via phone or text message. By contrast, in-person parent-child contact was not significantly associated with more negative relationships.</p> <p>One aspect of the study questioned what kinds of relationships were more rife with parental worry; researchers questioned whether positive relationships had more parents worrying about children – wondering about their wellbeing, for example. The opposite was found: “Stressful thoughts were more likely to occur regarding offspring with whom parents had less positive relationship qualities.”</p> <p><strong>Positive chats heal negative interactions</strong></p> <p>A positive <span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/therapy-types/parent-child-interaction-therapy-pcit">parent-child interaction</a></span> appeared to “mitigate the effects” of a negative one no matter which adult child caused the initial parental upset on a given day:</p> <p>“A grown child may call with a problem, upsetting the parent. Later that day, the same child or a different child may call and share a joke at work or a funny story about how his or her toddler sings the ABCs to fall asleep. The amusing story may alleviate the distress over the problem.”</p> <p>How do you communicate with your adult children? How often? Do they ignore your phone calls, texts and emails? Are in-person visits less upsetting than your electronic connections? Share your thoughts with us in the comments below.</p> <p><em>Written by Susan Krauss Whitbourne. Republished with permission of <strong><u><a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com">Psychology Today</a>. </u></strong></em></p>

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Man set to marry 9th wife two days after they met

<p><span>Ron Shepard, 70, is Britain’s most famous monogamist and is set to marry a 32-year-old after his latest fiancé, 28-year-old Cristel Lalec, dumped him in November 2017. </span></p> <p><span>Ron, who has been married eight times – with his relationships spanning a variation of lengths, ranging from 11 years to just 8 months – admitted, “I have been lonely over the last 10 months and I just want to be with someone who I can love and trust.”</span></p> <p><span>The 70-year-old was married to his seventh wife Wan when he met a young 15-year-old Cristel for the first time – a mutual friend of Wan’s – whilst on holiday in Thailand with a group of friends.</span></p> <p><span>Shortly after his next marriage to wife number 8, Weng, ended, Ron proposed to Cristel.</span></p> <p><span>Cristel, who is planning to be wife number 9, initiated the relationship with Ron on an online adult dating site, reports <em><u>The Sun</u></em>. </span></p> <p><span>“She messaged me on Friday and we’ve spoken loads since and she said she doesn’t want to speak to anyone else,” Ron informed <em>The Sun</em>.</span></p> <p><span>Meanwhile, Ron continues to boast about his female pursuers, claiming, “It’s been incredible. I’ve got 60 pages of notifications from women of all ages, including married ones who want to have a fling.”</span></p> <p><span>Ron is a father to eight children from his previous marriages, and admitted, “People have said if I keep going I’ll end up with a football team. I think it’s a case of just wait and see.”</span></p> <p><strong><span>Ron’s previous marriages:</span></strong></p> <ol> <li><span>Margaret – 1966, married for 2 years with three children before divorcing in 1968.</span></li> <li><span>Jeanette – 1973, married for one year.</span></li> <li><span>Lesley – 1976, Lesley and Ron had two sons together before he walked out in 1981.</span></li> <li><span>Kathy – 1982, married for four years with one daughter before splitting.</span></li> <li><span>Sue – 1986, Sue and Ron shared 11 years of marriage and had two sons. She eventually threw him out in 1997.</span></li> <li><span>Usha – 1999, married four years.</span></li> <li><span>Wan – 2003, moved home to Bangkok after 8 months of marriage.</span></li> <li><span>Weng – 2004, parted ways in 2015</span></li> </ol> <p><span> What do you think of Ron marrying for a 9th time? Share your thoughts with us in the comments below. </span></p>

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