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What happens to the kids when parents play favourites?

<p>Many siblings, when they get together as adults, joke about which child was loved the most. But is it really a joke or is there an edge of truth that still rankles us?</p> <p>In one study, researchers asked adults whether their mom played favourites when they were kids. Close to <a href="https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1741-3737.2009.00650.x">85 per cent of respondents</a> perceived that she did.</p> <p>But surely once we move out of the nest, our annoyance regarding sibling favouritism subsides? No so. Upset from perceived favouritism appears to be long-lasting.</p> <p>It is likely that <a href="https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1467-8721.2008.00601.x">we will fret long into adulthood</a> over why a particular sibling got a better deal than we did.</p> <h2>Is sibling favouritism real, or perceived?</h2> <p>It turns out parents do behave <a href="http://dx.doi.org/10.1037/a0026321">differently with their children</a> and, of course, children have their different thresholds for noticing these differences.</p> <p>Researchers have studied favouritism both by observing children as they interact with their parents and by asking children and their parents to report on their interactions. How often do the parent and child laugh or play together? How often do they fight or argue?</p> <p>These ratings are then compared across the different siblings to determine if one child receives more positive or negative attention than the other.</p> <p>One of the reassuring findings from these studies is that when the differences in how siblings are treated by parents are small, it has little to no consequence.</p> <p>It is only when the <a href="https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2011-27537-001">differences are large</a> that we see links to children’s health and relationships.</p> <h2>Parental stress plays a role</h2> <p>Research on all different kinds of relationships shows us that a big part of how we get along with others is about the <a href="http://dx.doi.org/10.1037/0000100-000">fit of personalities</a>. We find one person easier or more interesting than another. The same holds for parents and children.</p> <p>Although most parents love and nurture all their children, they will inevitably find that they are more in tune with one child than another. One child is perhaps a bit more social; another is more ready to anger, a third finds learning easier.</p> <p>These differences in how parents treat siblings have a <a href="https://doi.org/10.1177/1088868313498308">basis in children’s genes</a>. Parents treat identical twins, who share 100 per cent of their DNA, more similarly than they treat non-identical twins, who share about 50 per cent of their genes.</p> <p>The more the personalities of siblings differ, the more their parents treat them differently.</p> <p>Another driver of parenting is, of course, a child’s age. Parents interact with and discipline their children based on changes in developmental capabilities as they grow. Age and personality explain some of the differences in the parental treatment that children perceive.</p> <p>But while age and personality play a role in why one child gets more from a parent than another, over and above this are issues of parental stress. When parents experience <a href="http://dx.doi.org/10.1037/0012-1649.39.1.99">financial strain, mental health problems or partner conflict</a>, differential parenting or sibling favouritism becomes more marked.</p> <h2>Impacts on physical and mental well-being</h2> <p>Unfortunately, perceived favouritism can create a divide between siblings. It is associated with siblings feeling less close to one another, both in childhood and adulthood.</p> <p>This finding has been established for both <a href="https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1741-3737.2009.00650.x">perceived</a>, as well as <a href="https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1469-7610.2011.02484.x">observed</a> favouritism.</p> <p>Popular wisdom suggests that the favoured child receives benefits from their special treatment. While this may be the case when favouritism is slight, research suggests that none of the siblings benefit when it is more marked. That is, when favouritism is considerable, it is associated with all siblings showing less <a href="https://doi.org/10.1016/j.socscimed.2012.01.017">physical and mental well-being</a>.</p> <p>Reasons for this are not currently clear. It is possible that children are activated by injustice. Or perhaps even when they are favoured they fear falling into the realm of being disfavoured.</p> <p>But most reassuring for parents are the findings that <a href="https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1467-8624.1997.tb01929.x">parental explanations for why they are treating siblings differently really change the experience</a> for children. Explanations that focus on their different personalities, ages or needs are associated with lower levels of distress for children.</p> <h2>Five tips for fairer parenting</h2> <ol> <li> <p>Be aware. The first step is to be aware that it happens, and to seek out help or support from partners, family members, friends or health professionals — to try to understand why it happens. As a reminder, playing favourites is more likely to occur when your stress levels are high.</p> </li> <li> <p>Listen. When your child complains or you see fights between siblings in which they mention one getting more than another, try not to discount it. Be receptive to the child’s feelings and think about why they might be feeling this way.</p> </li> <li> <p>Provide an explanation. Sometimes, children do need to be treated differently, like when one child is sick, hurt or has special needs. When this happens, explain it to avoid any misunderstanding.</p> </li> <li> <p>Avoid comparing children. While it may be a natural tendency to say “why can’t you be more like your sister?” this sets up an unfair comparison. Try to focus on what each child does well, without pitting them against one another.</p> </li> <li> <p>Carve out individual time for each child. As much as possible, try to find 10 minutes each day to spend one-on-one with each child so that each has your full attention. Do any activity that they love to do with you.<!-- Below is The Conversation's page counter tag. 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Husband and wife named oldest living couple in the world

<p><span>An American couple with a combined age of 211 years has been named the world’s oldest living couple by the Guinness Book of World Records.</span></p> <p><span>Charlotte Henderson is 105 and her husband, John is 106. The pair will celebrate their 80<sup>th</sup> marriage anniversary on December 15.</span></p> <blockquote class="twitter-tweet" data-lang="en"> <p dir="ltr">With a combined age of 211 years, one couple in Austin, Texas, has been named the oldest living couple in the world, according to Guinness World Records. John Henderson is 106 and his wife, Charlotte, is 105. <a href="https://t.co/3piaX2cPak">pic.twitter.com/3piaX2cPak</a></p> — The Desi Times (@TheDesiTimes) <a href="https://twitter.com/TheDesiTimes/status/1192887507144368129?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">November 8, 2019</a></blockquote> <p><span>The two met in class at The University of Texas in 1934, where Charlotte was studying to be a teacher and John played football for the Longhorns. They tied the knot five years later during the Great Depression.</span></p> <blockquote class="twitter-tweet" data-lang="en"> <p dir="ltr">Oldest living couple in the world live in Texas. On December 15, John Henderson, 106, and his wife, Charlotte, 105, will celebrate 80 years of marriage. HAPPY ANNIVERSARY! <a href="https://t.co/OXtUoIOHli">https://t.co/OXtUoIOHli</a> <a href="https://t.co/PgXrBO0N7F">pic.twitter.com/PgXrBO0N7F</a></p> — Day Trippin' Texas (@DayTrippinTexas) <a href="https://twitter.com/DayTrippinTexas/status/1192881208813854721?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">November 8, 2019</a></blockquote> <p><span>Ten years ago, the Hendersons moved into the Longhorn Village, a senior living community associated with a University of Texas alumni group.</span></p> <p><span>According to John, the secret to the longevity of their marriage is to live in moderation and be cordial to each other.</span></p>

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Gene Kelly’s wife reveals another side to the Hollywood icon

<p><span>When she first met him in 1985, she had no idea who he was – but Patricia Ward Kelly was soon to develop a special insight into Hollywood legend Gene Kelly both as an artist and a person.</span></p> <p><span>Patricia, then 26, was working on a documentary about the Smithsonian museum when she was introduced to the then-73-year-old Gene, who was tapped as the television special’s host. After she was made aware of his fame, Patricia took out videos from the store and carried out a marathon viewing. What she watched – from <em>Singin’ in the Rain </em>to <em>Brigadoon </em>– left her mouth “agape”.</span></p> <p><span>The two soon became closer and bonded over the poetry of William Butler Yeats. Before long, Gene invited her to California to become his biographer, and their working relationship turned into a romance.</span></p> <p><span>Gene and Patricia tied the knot in 1990. Throughout the decade they spent together, Patricia documented her partner’s words – be it in writing or tape recording – nearly every day, and in the process, grew a greater appreciation of the seemingly “two-dimensional” man that the audience knew and loved.</span></p> <p><span>“People have no idea of the magnitude of him,” she told <em>Over60</em>. “He looks great up on-screen dancing, [but] many people don’t realise he created what you’re seeing, that he directed and choreographed it, and that’s really what he wanted to be known for … for being behind the camera, and for changing the look of dance on film.”</span></p> <div class="embed-responsive embed-responsive-16by9"><iframe class="embed-responsive-item" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/x7CIgWZTdgw"></iframe></div> <p><span>Gene, she said, had some personal favourites from his impressive filmography. The first and most widely known was the 1949 musical <em>On the Town</em>, which Gene took part in co-directing and choreographing. </span></p> <p><span>“He would often say that because it broke new ground by shooting the opening number on location,” she said. “That just had not been done in that way, and that really influenced the French New Wave filmmakers like François Truffaut.”</span></p> <p><span>However, Gene also had a lesser-known pick – a work that grew out of his childhood interests. According to Patricia, Gene revealed in private that he really enjoyed <em>The Three Musketeers</em> because swordplay and acrobatics were some of “what he loved as a little boy growing up”.</span></p> <p><span>Gene died in 1996 at the age of 83 following a series of strokes – but Patricia has been determined to keep his legacy and memory alive. In 2012, Patricia launched <em>Gene Kelly: The Legacy</em> and has since toured with it around the world. </span></p> <p><span>Patricia said a “show” is not quite the right word to describe the program. “I often refer to it as a kind of an experience. It begins the minute the door is open,” she said.</span></p> <p><span>In the “one-woman presentation”, set to tour Australia next year, Patricia is set to share some stories, film clips, previously unreleased recordings, personal memorabilia, and insights culled from hours of interviews and conversations with her husband.</span></p> <p>“It’s like we’re sitting in the living room having a chat, and I’m bringing these things out,” she said. “Even though it’s a very large venue, people [will] just feel like we’re in this very intimate setting.”</p> <p><em>Gene Kelly: The Legacy is coming to Australia in February 2020.</em></p>

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These are the world’s best fine dining restaurants

<p>It serves contemporary European cuisine inside a Beijing historical temple dating back to the Qing Dynasty.</p> <p>And now, TRB Hutong has won the title of best fine dining restaurant in the world, coming on top of the 2019 Travellers’ Choice list based on <span>millions of reviews and ratings left by <a rel="noopener" href="https://www.tripadvisor.co.uk/TravelersChoice-Restaurants-cFineDining-g1" target="_blank">TripAdvisor</a> users over the past year</span>.</p> <p>The Beijing restaurant, which charges 688RMB (AU$143 or NZ$155 or SG$134) for a five-course menu, was first opened in 2012. Since then, it has earned various accolades, including Restaurant of the Year awards from<em> The Beijinger </em>and <em>Time Out</em>.</p> <p>“Charismatic GM and former sommelier Ignace Lecleir takes pains to make every guest feel like a VIP, and the regular arrivals of complimentary amuse bouche ensures nobody leaves unsatisfied,” the verdict read, according to <span><a href="https://edition.cnn.com/travel/article/tripadvisor-worlds-best-restaurants-2019/index.html"><em>CNN Travel</em></a></span>.</p> <p>Coming in second place was France’s Epicure, a three Michelin star restaurant headed by acclaimed chef Eric Frechon. Ristorante Ville Crespi in Italy grabbed the third spot, with the reviews noting its “creative, delicious and unique dining experience”.</p> <p><strong>The world’s best fine dining restaurants in 2019 according to TripAdvisor</strong></p> <ol> <li>TRB Hutong, Beijing, China</li> <li>Epicure, Paris, France</li> <li>Ristorante Villa Crespi, Orta San Giulio, Italy</li> <li>Restaurante Benazuza, Cancun, Mexico</li> <li>The Jane, Antwerp, Belgium</li> <li>Le Brouillarta, Saint-Jean-de-Luz, France</li> <li>David's Kitchen, Chiang Mai, Thailand</li> <li>El Celler de Can Roca, Girona, Spain</li> <li>Aramburu, Buenos Aires, Argentina</li> <li>Adam's, Birmingham, United Kingdom</li> </ol>

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“I was trafficked to Prince Andrew”: Jeffrey Epstein’s victim comes out with explosive claims

<p>The extent of billionaire Jeffrey Epstein’s international sex-trafficking ring has been exposed in a<span> </span><em>60 Minutes</em><span> </span>investigation, after intense allegations came out against some of the world’s most rich and powerful people – extending all the way to the British Royal family.</p> <p>In the exclusive episode, those who managed to escape Epstein’s dark and insidious world exposed the entire plot that they fell victim to – and named the elite abusers they want brought to justice.</p> <p>At just 17-years-old, Virginia Roberts Giuffre was lured into Epstein’s sex trafficking ring and came face-to-face with her abuser: Prince Andrew, the Duke of York.</p> <p>Prince Andrew has denied all allegations and said he had no knowledge of Epstein’s activities and was not involved in his sex ring.</p> <p>But Virginia stands by her claims and says that she has undeniable evidence to prove that the sexual encounter occurred – a disturbing photo taken only moments before she was first trafficked to Andrew.</p> <p>The photograph in question was taken in 2001 and shows the Prince with his arms around the then 17-year-old Virginia in London. But despite Virginia insisting the photo is real, Prince Andrew has claimed that it’s fake.</p> <p>“That is Andrew, this is a real photo,” Virginia told<span> </span><em>60 Minutes</em><span> </span>reporter Tara Brown.</p> <p>“[The] photo has been verified as an original and it’s been given to the FBI, and they’ve never contested that it’s a fake. I know it’s real.”</p> <p>According to Virginia, she was trafficked to Prince Andrew three times – first at a party in London, again in Jeffrey’s New York mansion and finally on Epstein’s private island in the Caribbean, where she spoke about the eight other women who were stuck in the same situation as her.</p> <p>“There were a lot of younger girls with us,” she told Brown.</p> <p>“You’re not even acknowledged as being alive or there, or important or cared for, or worried about in any way. None of those human emotions were attached to me when I was trafficked to Prince Andrew.”</p> <p>Epstein would lure young, impressionable women with the promise of a better life, but that couldn’t be further from the truth.</p> <p>In a perverted pyramid scheme, where he and co-conspirator Ghislaine Maxwell would recruit girls as young as 12 and abuse them, the victims would be forced to have sex with Epstein’s wealthy associates.</p> <p>“I was trafficked to other billionaires, I was trafficked to politicians, professors even royalty,” she told<span> </span><em>60 Minutes.</em></p> <p>“It was the elite of the world. It was the people who run the world. It was the most powerful people in the world.”</p> <p>Now she’s working alongside lawyer David Boeis to hold Prince Andrew and the other alleged perpetrators accountable for their actions.</p>

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Landlord charged for truly “underhand” act that cost tenants $3700

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">A man has been charged after listing his ex-girlfriend’s flat to rent, pocketing the cash and heading overseas.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Phillip Allman and Lucy Sharp were in a relationship for six years before ending it last December.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The pair remained friends and Sharp allowed Allman to move into her apartment temporarily after his last relationship ended.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">However, the 29-year-old man abused that generosity by listing Sharp’s flat as available for rental online.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">According to Wales Online, Jolanta Goniuch responded to the advertisement on Gumtree that listed the flat at £400 ($NZD 808) and required a £400 deposit upfront.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Goniuch called Allman to arrange an inspection and was told that the flat would be available from late June.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">After the phone call, she then transferred £800 ($NZD 1616) into his bank account.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Another victim, Natera Morris and her partner Sean Malone, fell for the scam the next day and paid a total of £600 ($NZD 1212).</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">It wasn’t until later that another victim also paid £600.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">In total, Allman pocketed more than £2,000 ($NZD 4040) from the tenants.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">On June 10, Allman disappeared and Sharp only became aware of the con when Malone arrived on her doorstep.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Sharp tried to contact Allman, but was ignored. He was eventually caught by the police and sentenced to one year behind bars.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“The offences for which I have to deal with you are really mean and underhand offences of dishonesty,” he said, according to </span><a href="https://www.walesonline.co.uk/news/wales-news/phillip-allman-newport-jailed-court-17217610"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Wales Online</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;">.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“They come from a man who has been committing offences of dishonesty for years and years.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“You were fortunate enough to have a generous friend. You abused her friendship and trust to cheat people out of money.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Allman admitted to three counts of fraud in breach of a suspended sentence and all the victims were repaid the money they sent Allman via bank transfer.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">However, Morris and Lobina paid some funds in cash, which were unable to be recovered.</span></p>

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James Dean to star in new movie 64 years after his death

<p><span>James Dean is set to star in an upcoming Vietnam War film, 64 years after his death.</span></p> <p><span>Last week, Magic City Films announced that they will be casting the late Hollywood icon for their upcoming movie <em>Finding Jack </em>through computer-generated imagery (CGI).</span></p> <p><span>Directors Anton Ernst and Tati Golykh told <em><a href="https://www.hollywoodreporter.com/news/afm-james-dean-reborn-cgi-vietnam-war-action-drama-1252703">The Hollywood Reporter</a></em> they obtained the rights to use Dean’s image from the actor’s family. Dean will play a secondary lead character named Rogan.</span></p> <p><span>The announcement sparked backlash from fans and industry figures.</span></p> <p><span>Actor Chris Evans called the decision “awful”, saying, “Maybe we can get a computer to paint us a new Picasso. Or write a couple new John Lennon tunes. The complete lack of understanding here is shameful.”</span></p> <p><span>Actress Zelda Williams, whose late Robin Williams restricted exploitation of his image for 25 years following his death, expressed her concern on Twitter. “I have talked to friends about this for YEARS and no one ever believed me that the industry would stoop this low once tech got better,” she wrote.</span></p> <blockquote class="twitter-tweet" data-lang="en"> <p dir="ltr">I have talked to friends about this for YEARS and no one ever believed me that the industry would stoop this low once tech got better. Publicity stunt or not, this is puppeteering the dead for their ‘clout’ alone and it sets such an awful precedent for the future of performance. <a href="https://t.co/elS1BrbDGv">https://t.co/elS1BrbDGv</a></p> — Zelda Williams (@zeldawilliams) <a href="https://twitter.com/zeldawilliams/status/1192141551171854338?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">November 6, 2019</a></blockquote> <p><span>“Publicity stunt or not, this is puppeteering the dead for their ‘clout’ alone and it sets such an awful precedent for the future of performance.”</span></p> <p><span>Ernst said Dean’s estate has been “supportive” of the film. “I think they would have wanted their family member’s legacy to live on,” Ernst told <em><a href="https://www.hollywoodreporter.com/news/director-new-james-dean-movie-speaks-backlash-stars-casting-1253232">The Hollywood Reporter</a></em>. “That’s what we’ve done here as well. We’ve brought a whole new generation of filmgoers to be aware of James Dean.”</span></p> <p><span>Ernst said he was “saddened” and “confused” by the negative reaction to the news. “We never intended for this to be a marketing gimmick.”</span></p> <p><span>Visual effects companies Imagine Engine and MOI Worldwide will be working on a full-body CGI of Dean based on archival footage and photographs, while another actor will voice Dean’s character.</span></p> <p><span>The movie is expected to be released in November 2020.</span></p>

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Salmon with papaya salsa

<p><strong>Time to prepare 5 mins | Cooking Time 30 mins | Serves 4</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Tender salmon with a tangy and refreshing salsa, made for a relaxed summer night!</span></p> <p><strong>Ingredients</strong></p> <ul> <li style="font-weight: 400;"><span style="font-weight: 400;">2 avocados, diced</span></li> <li style="font-weight: 400;"><span style="font-weight: 400;">2 cups papaya, peeled, deseeded and diced</span></li> <li style="font-weight: 400;"><span style="font-weight: 400;">150g cherry tomatoes, quartered</span></li> <li style="font-weight: 400;"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Olive oil</span></li> <li style="font-weight: 400;"><span style="font-weight: 400;">4 x salmon fillets</span></li> <li style="font-weight: 400;"><span style="font-weight: 400;">1¼ cups brown rice</span></li> </ul> <p><strong>Directions</strong><span style="font-weight: 400;">:</span></p> <p>1. Combine avocado, papaya and cherry tomatoes in a bowl and set aside.</p> <p>2. Heat fry pan and add oil. Cook salmon skin-side down for 4-5 minutes before turning and cooking for about 4 minutes or until still slightly pink in the centre.</p> <p>3. Meanwhile, cook brown rice in rice cooker or according to the directions on the packet.</p> <p>4. Serve salmon on top of brown rice and top with salsa. Season to taste.</p> <p><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">Recipe thanks to</span><a href="http://australianpapaya.com.au/"><span style="font-weight: 400;"> Papaya Australia.</span></a></em></p> <p><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">Republished with permission of </span><a href="https://www.wyza.com.au/recipes/salmon-with-papaya-salsa.aspx"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Wyza.com.au.</span></a></em></p>

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“We’ve hatched the plan”: Kelsey Grammer excited about potential Frasier revival

<p>With what was arguably the most successful spin-off in television history, it’s safe to say that fans are thrilled with the news that Frasier Crane might be returning to the small screen.</p> <p>Frasier Crane, played by Kelsey Grammer, is entertaining the idea of returning to his iconic and neurotic character.</p> <p>"My hope is that we can bring it back," he said excitedly.</p> <p>"We're shopping for the right idea because I don’t think we should just pick up where we left off. Will and Grace has done a continuation, which is like the next day after they were last on the air–they picked up right where they left off. I don't think that's appropriate for <em>Frasier,</em>"<a rel="noopener" href="https://www.digitalspy.com/tv/ustv/a26835452/kelsey-grammer-frasier-crane-revival-pay-tribute-late-john-mahoney/" target="_blank"> he explained to </a><em><a rel="noopener" href="https://www.digitalspy.com/tv/ustv/a26835452/kelsey-grammer-frasier-crane-revival-pay-tribute-late-john-mahoney/" target="_blank">This Morning</a>.</em></p> <p>"He was leaving town at the end of the show previously, he was going to go and explore his life in Chicago with his new lady love. Whether that went badly or it went swimmingly, who knows, these are all themes we need to settle on and figure out what he's going to do next."</p> <p>This isn’t the first time that fans of the show have been teased with news, as Grammer said that he has approved a tentative story for the show. However, a network hasn’t been secured.</p> <p>“We’ve got it hatched. We’ve hatched the plan, what we think is the right way to go,” he said,<a rel="noopener" href="https://www.vulture.com/2019/11/kelsey-grammer-says-frasier-reboot-will-happen-in-2020.html" target="_blank"> during an appearance on <em>In Depth With Graham Bensinger</em></a>.</p> <p>“We’re sort of on standby a little bit. Working out a couple of possible network deals that we’re circling. Frasier is sort of in a second position to that at this point. So there’s still stuff going on. But a revisit to Frasier, Frasier’s world is I think definitely going to come.”</p> <p>While official details are slim at this point, Grammer has admitted that he wants a full cast reunion if possible.</p> <p>"We would need to deal with [Mahoney's passing] within the storytelling, but I'd want everybody back, if they want to come back," <a rel="noopener" href="https://www.digitalspy.com/tv/ustv/a26812750/fraser-reboot-kelsey-grammer/" target="_blank">he said</a>.</p> <p>This would mean his brother Niles, played by David Hyde Pierce, would be returning to the show.</p> <p>Grammer has also confirmed that Frasier has moved on from his role on the radio.</p> <p>"He’s passed the radio show. He might be an art dealer he might be a professor. We don’t know yet," <a rel="noopener" href="https://ew.com/tv/2019/02/12/frasier-revival-kelsey-grammer-james-corden/" target="_blank">Grammer told James Corden during an appearance on the <em>Late, Late Show.</em></a></p>

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​Never before seen images of William Tyrrell show heartbreaking final moments

<p>Never-before-seen footage has been released of missing boy, William Tyrrell, which shows him in a happy moment with his family the night before he disappeared from his grandmother’s house. </p> <p>The NSW deputy state coroner Harriet Grahame has released CCTV stills of William and his family grabbing a bite to eat from a McDonald’s on September, 11 2014 - just a day before he vanished.</p> <p>At the time, William, his sister and foster parents were travelling up from Sydney to stay at William's foster grandmother's home in Kendall, on the state's north coast. </p> <p>The security footage shows the family pop into Heatherbrae McDonalds which is a well known rest stop for travellers near Newcastle. </p> <p>They stopped at around 6:26 PM. </p> <p>The family leave about 6.40 pm and detectives have noted a vehicle “appears to be parked in the vicinity of the top middle of the CCTV frame”.</p> <p>The footage however is seemingly unremarkable with the family ordering food and sitting down to eat while William’s foster dad collected napkins and straws. </p> <p>The police noted the clan left “with both William Tyrrell and the female foster carer stopping to place something in the bin.”</p> <p>“William then runs off to catch up to the male foster carer”.</p> <p>The foster mother of William told an inquest he was playing “tiger” in his grandma’s yard when he went quiet. </p> <p>He has never been seen since and police suspect the child was abducted by a stranger. </p> <p>No arrests have been made. </p> <p>The new footage released in response to a media application and there were pictures also released which belonged to one of the first officers involved in the case. </p> <p>Senior constable Wendy Hudson revealed the details of the initial search for William and his family’s reaction. </p> <p>Ms Hudson said she took the family to a nearby beach, in plain clothes, which people looked for William on September 16. </p> <p>“We travelled a distance up the beach before stopping. We searched for shells with (William's sister),” Ms Hudson said. </p> <p>“(The) male foster carer became upset and stood down near the water. I played in the sand with (William's sister) and we built a sand castle.</p> <p>“Female foster carer joined us after spending some time with male foster carer, male foster carer then joined us placing a large stick into our sand castle.”</p> <p>The Tyrrell inquest reopens for public hearings in March next year.  </p> <p>Scroll through the gallery to see the CCTV footage released of William Tyrrell just a day before he went missing. </p>

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Royal Family’s emotional gathering for Remembrance Sunday memorial

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The Queen shed a heartfelt tear for Britain’s war heroes at a Remembrance Sunday service. </span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">As Britain fell silent, Her Majesty watched on alongside the Duchess of Cornwall and Duchess of Cambridge on the balcony of the Cenotaph in Central London. </span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The royals saw the traditional wreath-laying service as Prince Charles laid a wreath of poppies on behalf of their 93-year-old mother as thousands gathered around in Whitehall for the ceremony. </span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Duchess Meghan attended the event alongside her husband Prince Harry and stood alongside Sophie, the Duchess of Wessex and Vice Admiral Timothy Laurence. </span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Other high profile politicians were also in attendance including Labour’s Jeremy Corbyn, Home Secretary Priti Patel and Commons leader Jacob Rees Mogg. </span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">A two-minute silence was observed across the UK at 11am. </span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The silence was swiftly followed by the firing of a gun by the King's Troop Royal Horse Artillery.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Over 10,000 veterans then marched past the memorial following the service.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The Royal Family’s official Instagram account shared a quote from English poet John Maxwell Edmonds which read: "When you go Home, tell them of us and say, For your Tomorrow, we gave our Today".</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Scroll through the gallery above to see the Royal Family attending the Remembrance Sunday service. </span></p>

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William Shatner hits out at millennials in Twitter feud

<p>William Shatner has hit out at millennials after being called a “boomer” on Twitter.</p> <p>The <em>Star Trek </em>actor waded into a intergenerational row after one Twitter user replied to his post with “OK Boomer”.</p> <p>According to the <em><a href="https://www.abc.net.au/news/2019-11-07/how-the-phrase-ok-boomer-suddenly-went-all-over-the-internet/11680868">ABC</a></em>, the popular catchphrase is generally used to respond to “what’s perceived to be some older people’s sense of entitlement, outdated ways of thinking, or condescending attitudes towards younger generations”.</p> <p>The 88-year-old actor does not fall into the baby boomer generation, which includes people being born between 1946 and 1964.</p> <p>Shatner responded to the “Boomer” comment: “Sweetheart, that’s a compliment for me.”</p> <p>“I’m not really into pejoratives, but what’s the term for people when they can’t interpret a joke?” the user replied.</p> <p>“Millennial?” Shatner hit back.</p> <p>Shatner wrote on another post, “I feel it’s like one of those childish insults in fandom that seem to affect the delicate types to the point they meltdown and go over the rest of our heads as something ridiculous.”</p> <blockquote class="twitter-tweet" data-lang="en"> <p dir="ltr">Sweetheart, that’s a compliment for me. 😘 <a href="https://t.co/djCtjiGBwr">https://t.co/djCtjiGBwr</a></p> — William Shatner (@WilliamShatner) <a href="https://twitter.com/WilliamShatner/status/1192087298877247488?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">November 6, 2019</a></blockquote> <p>One user explained that the line was directed at “boomers who don’t realise that the hardships that the millennials inherited are not their fault”, and that the younger generation “are trying to survive a world that has all but been destroyed and that doesn’t make them lazy”.</p> <p>Shatner replied, “And the meek shall inherit... is that all your generation does is point fingers and blame others for their pity parties? You don’t get a participation trophy for life; you take what you get and play your best hand. It’s been that way since forever.”</p> <blockquote class="twitter-tweet" data-lang="en"> <p dir="ltr">🤣👇🏻 And the meek shall inherit... is that all your generation does is point fingers and blame others for their pity parties? You don’t get a participation trophy for life; you take what you get and play your best hand. It’s been that way since forever. 🙄 <a href="https://t.co/aUyVVUIfTK">https://t.co/aUyVVUIfTK</a></p> — William Shatner (@WilliamShatner) <a href="https://twitter.com/WilliamShatner/status/1192115660131713025?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">November 6, 2019</a></blockquote> <p>The phrase “OK Boomer”, which has been widely used on the internet, gained greater public recognition after 25-year-old MP Chloe Swarbick used the line in New Zealand parliament when speaking in support of the Jacinda Ardern government’s Zero Carbon Bill.</p> <p>"In the year 2050, I will be 56 years old. Yet, right now, the average age of this 52nd Parliament is 49 years old,” she said.</p> <p>"Mr Speaker, how many world leaders, for how many decades have seen and known what is coming but have decided that it is more politically expedient to keep it behind closed doors. My generation and the generations after me do not have that luxury.”</p>

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Inside the popular island paradise that hides a deadly secret

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Sitting among the quiet island of Stromboli, Italy, is a ticking time bomb that has also made the island home.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The 300-full time residents are used to the rumbles that frequently disturb the island that’s surrounded by the Tyrrhenian Sea.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The rumbles are due to a deadly volcanic mountain that rises 924 metres above sea level and extends more than 1,000 metres below.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Earlier this year, the volcano erupted twice, separated by 30 seconds.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Residents and tourists were quickly evacuated from the island as lava spat from the active mouths of the mountain. </span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“It was like being in hell because of the rain of fire coming from the sky,” Stromboli priest Giovanni Longo told local media.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The explosion killed one hiker and covered the island in ash.</span></p> <blockquote style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" class="instagram-media" data-instgrm-captioned="" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/p/B3VDSRiCEmY/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" data-instgrm-version="12"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"></div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"></div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"></div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"></div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"></div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <p style="margin: 8px 0 0 0; padding: 0 4px;"><a style="color: #000; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none; word-wrap: break-word;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/p/B3VDSRiCEmY/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" target="_blank">Italy, together with Iceland, presents the highest concentration of active volcanoes in Europe and is one of the first in the world #volcano #volcanoes #italy #etna #vesuvio #stromboli #vulcano #naples #napoli #catania #pompei #eruption #risk #risks #alerts #eruption #lava #lapilli #island</a></p> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;">A post shared by <a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/i_love_made_in_italy/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" target="_blank"> I love made in Italy</a> (@i_love_made_in_italy) on Oct 7, 2019 at 12:35pm PDT</p> </div> </blockquote> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">After the small town recovered, there was a “high intensity” blast just two months later.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">No one was injured, but footage emerged of residents fleeing the island in a panic.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Experts believe that the volcano on the island has been in nearly continuous eruption for at least 2,000 years, but it’s the unknown that keeps residents and tourists on edge.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">More and more tourists are heading to the island to witness the powerful experience of a volcanic eruption.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“Volcanoes are one of the forces of nature that truly are beyond human power to control: We can’t do anything about eruptions, other than get out of the way,” Amy Donovan, a geographer at the University of Cambridge, wrote for a paper published in December with the Royal Geographical Society.</span></p>

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How do you help grandchildren adjust when they’re moving?

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">When our children move house, we’re often asked to help store their clutter so their home is looking at its best during marketing. However, looking after grandchildren is sometimes added to the list of our desirable contributions when children are moving. And, given that moving home can be particularly stressful for young children and teenagers, there are a few tips to consider – before and after they move.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Routines are understandably disrupted in major ways during moving and sensitive planning can help all family members, but especially young children, to better cope with the impending changes.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">One of the problems is that busy parents, hectic professional lives, and the necessities of an extremely competitive real estate market can mean little thought is given to the effect moving has on young children and teenagers, both of whom respond differently. Certainly no thought is given to the advice grandparents might need when asked to look after children in the middle of the moving process or how to deal with what comes up afterwards.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Firstly, kids need time to get used to the idea of moving, so parents should give them as much advance warning as possible. It is important for other family members such as grandparents provide them with as much additional information as possible about why the family is moving and what they can expect in their new home and suburb.</span></p> <p><strong>Before the move</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Here are some tips that should help smooth the process of looking after kids when they are in the process of moving suburb, interstate or overseas:</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Ask grandchildren to share their feelings with you:</strong> Although you’ll undoubtedly be going through your range of emotions, experts say open discussion is very important so your grandchildren can voice the feelings they’re encountering. Listen to what they have to say and assure them that you understand any concerns. Talk to them about your moving experiences and reassure them about life’s journey, and how change can often opens doors to new and exciting chapters and friends.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Don’t take their reactions personally:</strong> Children can have problems adjusting to a move, or the idea of moving, and can blame a parent or parents for causing it. Don’t fall into the trap of defending a parent’s decision making if this happens. Explain that sometimes big decisions can’t be avoided and reinforce some of the positive outcomes that are possible from a move.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Make them a part of the process.</strong> Ask your children to help very young grandchildren pack some of their favourite items as their house is being packed up. It can help them understand that although the family will be moving to a new home, their belongings will be moving with them. Personalise their boxes with labels and stickers. Perhaps even ask them if they would like some of their belongings to holiday at your house, during the move.
</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Be cautiously optimistic.</strong> It’s important to be positive and optimistic because your grandchildren’s attitude will largely mirror yours and that of their parents. However, don’t insist everything is going to be wonderful. Even if the new house is fantastic, it’s normal for it to take some time to adjust.
</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Help grandchildren to explore the new neighbourhood on the Internet:</strong> If they’ll be moving to a new suburb or town, use Google Street View, Google Earth, maps, tourism information websites, local council websites and Wikipedia pages from your new local council or the Internet to explain where you’ll be living. Explain any differences in weather and geography and talk about any nearby attractions that may be interesting, such as moving closer to the beach or to a park. 
</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Try to keep a routine:</strong> A child’s world is based on routine and it’s important to try and keep some semblance of normalcy throughout the process. We suggest sticking to a set time for dinner every evening, no matter how chaotic things seem to be, and to regular weekend activities the family enjoys.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">For younger children and toddlers, it can be useful to speak to your doctor about issues such as a new diet or the start of toilet training. It may be better to put any further new experiences on hold until you’ve settled in to the new home.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">With teenagers, the most prevalent concerns revolve around the loss of peer groups, friends and what to expect from a new school. It’s vitally important not to invalidate their feelings but to openly acknowledge their fears and discuss the importance of keeping a sense of proportion and context. Moving house can be exceptionally challenging for teenagers but also an important, strengthening, life experience when handled sensitively.</span></p> <p><strong>After the move</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">After your grandchildren have moved, there’s bound to be a settling in period – perhaps for you as well. If they’ve moved some distance away, you may feel just as heartbroken as them. In fact, it can be doubly difficult for grandparents because you may be experiencing considerable anxiety about the loss of regular visits to your children as well as your grandchildren.</span></p> <p><strong>There are a few things you can do to make the separation less arduous:</strong></p> <ul> <li style="font-weight: 400;"><span style="font-weight: 400;">If you’re not particularly tech-savvy, or if you’d like to teach your grandchildren the art of snail mail, make a folder with some paper for very young grandchildren to write notes or draw pictures of their new neighbourhood and friends on. Include some addressed, stamped envelopes (taking account of any looming postal increases) and encourage them to snail mail you at any time.</span></li> </ul> <ul> <li style="font-weight: 400;"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Set up a Skype account or try out Facetime with the kids before they move. It’s a great way of providing a fun and reassuring way of them keeping in touch whenever they like.</span></li> <li style="font-weight: 400;"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Create a photo album or a framed photo collage with all the great times you’ve shared.</span></li> <li style="font-weight: 400;"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Give your grandchildren a special possession for safekeeping and to remember you by.</span></li> <li style="font-weight: 400;"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Provide the recipe for one your grandchildren’s favourite treats or meals.</span></li> <li style="font-weight: 400;"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Finally, it’s important to let children know that they’ll always be in your heart and in your thoughts, that their future holds exciting new adventures that will also include you, and that you have a pact to find ways to stay in contact and strengthen your bond until you see each other again next time.</span></li> </ul> <p><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">Republished with permission of </span><a href="https://www.wyza.com.au/articles/property/how-do-you-help-grandchildren-adjust-when-they%E2%80%99re-moving.aspx"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Wyza.com.au.</span></a></em></p>

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Why Africa should be on your bucket list

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The other day I was enjoying my morning coffee and some raisin toast at the local cafe and I couldn’t help eavesdropping on the conversation at the table next to me.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">This conversation was philosophical as it had to do with “Bucket Lists”. The group consisted of five ladies who were happily chatting about things that they had always wanted to do but just hadn’t gotten around to. </span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">One lady, let’s call her Sarah, piped in that she had always wanted to learn how to juggle! “Well, grab three oranges from the counter and give it a try now” were my immediate thoughts, but none of her friends seemed to channel my suggestion.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Another lady we’ll call Susan who, from what I could tell was the quiet one of the group finally had her say and announced that she wanted to see Africa. Well this is getting interesting now, I thought, I can be of assistance here!</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“Africa, wow! What do you want to do over there?” asked her friends. “Well, firstly, I’d like to see all of the animals, you know elephants and lions and things.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Aha! I thought, A visit to Kruger National Park will help Susan to see some of the “Big 5” African animals and she could stay at one of the affordable private lodges and game reserves that surround the national park. </span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Kruger National Park is world renowned and offers a wildlife experience that ranks with the best across all of Africa. Most of us have only ever seen Africa’s amazing animals at the zoo but imagine how fantastic if would be to see them up close in the wild.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Another in the group seemed to baulk at the idea of the “flies, the heat, tent-camping”, adding “and I’m not keen on trekking through jungles or rafting down rivers.“ At this point I nearly opened my mouth, but Susan added, ”I was watching a program on TV a few weeks ago which featured a luxury train in South Africa so I would love to take a trip by rail and just stare at the country side passing by” </span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">‘Bingo!’ I thought ‘What a great idea Sue! The Blue Train is a luxurious 5-star rolling hotel and is a perfect alternative to flying between Cape Town and Pretoria. The trip takes around 27 hours and covers 1600 kilometres. The Blue train is described as opening “A window to the soul of South Africa” The train is packed with luxury including magnificent suites, elegant lounge areas and fine dining. Travellers enjoy all of this luxury while taking in some of South Africa’s most diverse and spectacular scenery.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“What about Zimbabwe and Victoria Falls?” chimed Sarah the potential juggler, revealing that she too, had looked into the idea “Oh yes that would be fantastic as well” dreamed Susan.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The Victoria Falls Safari Lodge, I nearly interrupted. It’s amazing! You can take a guided walking tour around the falls and enjoy a sunset cruise on the Zambezi River then relax in the luxury of your lodge accommodation which overlooks the Zambezi National Park.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">I had to leave the ladies to their dreaming and musings as there was so much more I could suggest about travelling in Africa; a self guided driving holiday through the Winelands on Route 62, a classic luxury camping safari in Namibia or a visit to the Masai Mara in Kenya. We can’t forget trekking on Mount Kilimanjaro or visiting the gorillas in the wilds of Rwanda.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">I finished my coffee and as I passed their table I quietly handed each of them my travel agency’s business card and smiled, “I can make dreams come true” I said which made them laugh as they worked out what I meant. I left the cafe with a spring in my step and a smile on my face.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Of course there are so many more amazing experience awaiting you across the African continent, from small intimate safari lodges to grand 5 star resorts- Africa has it all!</span></p> <p><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">Written by Lynton Jones, Republished with permission of </span><a href="https://www.wyza.com.au/articles/travel/why-africa-should-be-on-your-bucket-list.aspx"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Wyza.com.au.</span></a></em></p>

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Man attacked by 2.5 metre croc used this tip to escape

<p>An off-duty wildlife ranger has made a surprising escape from the jaws of a 2.5 metre crocodile after it launched at him while flyfishing.</p> <p>Craig Dickmann, 54, was flyfishing at the remote Cape York Peninsula when the crocodile shot out of the water and attacked his thigh.</p> <p>While he was wrestling free from the crocodile, his hand became degloved and he was able to poke the crocodile in the eye.</p> <p>After escaping from the jaws of the saltwater crocodile, Dickmann drove more than an hour to Heathlands Ranger Station where he works to get help.</p> <p>Queensland Ambulance Service superintendent Warren Martin said that it was incredible that Dickmann survived such an attack.</p> <p>"This was a life or death response," he said to<span> </span><a rel="noopener" href="https://www.abc.net.au/news/2019-11-11/ranger-pokes-crocodile-in-eye-after-attack-cape-york/11693150" target="_blank">ABC</a>.</p> <p>"The patient really understood the gravity of the situation and knew that he was fighting for his survival."</p> <p>After arriving at Heathlands Ranger Station, Dickmann called emergency services and was given first aid by another ranger. The ranger then drove Dickmann to Bramwell Station to wait for a Royal Flying Doctor Service (RFDS) plane.</p> <p>Bramwell Station owner Wendy Kozicka said that Dickmann was in good spirits despite the attack.</p> <p>"He was very cheerful — but he's a very cheerful person," Ms Kozicka said.</p> <p>"His hands were wrapped up and we were teasing him about that, saying 'Are you sure you have all your fingers?'"</p> <p>Superintendent Warren Martin said that the incident was a “remarkable story” of survival.</p> <p>"There wouldn't be many people in Cape York who could say they have had an interaction with a crocodile like this and still be talking about it," he said.</p> <p>"Not only was [Mr Dickmann] by himself fishing, but after being released by the crocodile having to drive for an hour back to his residence to seek help."</p> <p>Dickmann remains in a serious but stable condition at Cairns Hospital, where he is expected to undergo surgery. He is being supported by his family and senior departmental staff.</p>

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How to: Dating with confidence

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Marina’s advice on dating with confidence will assist you to begin to make changes in the way you believe, think and feel about yourself so you can begin moving towards fulfilling your love goal with confidence.</span></p> <p><strong>Confidence equals attraction</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Confidence has been attributed to the greatest attraction factor for both men and women. So let’s start by becoming clear about what confidence is. Basically confidence is being comfortable in your own skin – confidence reflects what you think and feel about your abilities. Therefore, I know my worth, I know my life matters, I know how to promote my internal assets and more importantly I pursue my goals with passion and purpose. Confidence is not about trying to be like others – confidence is accepting yourself as you are and allowing your uniqueness to shine.</span></p> <p><strong>Know your worth</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">So, what it is the fastest way to increase your confidence? Knowing that your life has meaning and that your contributions to the world are of value is one of the quickest and fastest ways to increase your confidence. But confidence is not something we can fake. It is a feeling we give out to others – people feel what we think and believe about ourselves. A common mistake many people make when they begin dating is that they only focus on their external assets; their hair, going to the gym, losing weight, buying a new wardrobe or a new car, Botox and the list goes on. Although good looks, sexy clothes and a great body may attract men and women to you it is no guarantee that they will fall in love with you or want to establish a long term relationship. Research informs us that men do not necessarily fall in love with the prettiest and sexiest of women and not all women fall for the best looking guy (or the one with the most money).</span></p> <p><strong>Tips to increase your Dating Confidence</strong></p> <p><strong>Let go of past relationships and attachments: </strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">This is one of the biggest reasons why people prevent the right partner from finding them. They are still emotionally attached to a past love/s.</span></p> <p><strong>Make a list of your strengths and your good qualities:</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Become clear about why you are a great catch and more importantly why you will no longer accept anything less than what you deserve. Remember having something is not better than having nothing; particularly when it comes to love.</span></p> <p><strong>Break free from your comfort zone: </strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Are you still doing the same thing you always have to find the love of your life? Then the chances are high that you will keep attracting the same type of person or situation.</span></p> <p><strong>Re-evaluate and then re-create your “must-list”:</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Think about what is on your ‘must have’ list when it comes to a partner. Then look honestly at yourself and identify what qualities you could still do some work on to strengthen. Then take positive steps to become the best you can be to attract the person you would like in your life. Remember, like attracts like!</span></p> <p><strong>Spend time with friends that celebrate you:</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The calmer and happier you are, the more confident you will feel about attracting your special person. The way people treat us directly impacts on our self-esteem.</span></p> <p><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">Read more from Marina about how to find new love </span><a href="https://www.wyza.com.au/lifestyle/boomer-life/preparing-for-love-in-your-50s.aspx"><span style="font-weight: 400;">here.</span></a></em></p> <p><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">Written by Marina Bakker. Republished with permission of </span><a href="https://www.wyza.com.au/articles/lifestyle/relationships/dating-with-confidence.aspx"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Wyza.com.au.</span></a></em></p>

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How to start a vegetable garden

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Growing your own vegetables can save you money and give you a huge amount of satisfaction. Ready to get a green thumb?</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Your own homegrown vegetables taste much better and are fresher than any that you buy in the shops. Fruiting vegetables, like beans, tomatoes, capsicum and sweet corn, have the best flavour if they’re eaten as quickly as possible after harvest; leafy vegetables, such as lettuce, lose water and rapidly become limp, and all vegetables are more nutritious if they are consumed when as fresh as possible. </span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Growing your own can save a considerable amount on food costs and will also give you a wider choice of vegetables. Unusual vegetables are often difficult to buy in shops, but are easily grown in the home garden. Lots of vegetables are ornamental so can be grown for their good looks as well as their produce.  </span></p> <p><strong>WHEN TO GROW VEGGIES</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Vegetables can be loosely grouped according to their growing season.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Cool Season Vegetables:</strong> Grow best when temperatures are between 10-20 degrees C or even lower. They include: broad beans, broccoli, brussels sprouts, cauliflower, onions, peas, spinach and turnips.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Intermediate Season Vegetables:</strong> These are best between temperatures of 15-25 degrees. They include: beetroot, carrot, parsnip, celery, leek, lettuce, radish, silver beet.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Warm Season vegetables:</strong> Are grown best when temperatures are above 20 degrees celsius. They include: Beans, capsicum, eggplant, potato, sweet corn, sweet potato, tomato and cucurbits (including cucumbers, zucchini, pumpkins etc.) </span></p> <p><strong>VEGETABLE CULTIVATION</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Position:</strong> Vegetables must have sun! Try to select a growing area that is sunny for most of the day, is sheltered, and is close to a source of water. </span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Soil: S</strong>oil is often the easiest thing to adjust to your growing needs. In fact, strictly speaking, soil is not absolutely necessary. Vegetables can be grown in potting mix or in a hydroponic set up, but the most common medium is still good garden soil. Soil must have good drainage and a good structure. Regular incorporation of old organic matter (such as compost) will keep the soil functioning well. </span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Nutrients</strong>: Vegetables, more than most other plants, need to be supplied with adequate nutrients.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Mineral fertilisers:</strong> are reliable sources of good quantities of nutrients. Mixes with a balanced NPK ratio are suited to a wide range of crops. Balanced, all-purpose fertilisers, such as Thrive All Purpose, can be mixed into the soil before planting. Soluble fertilisers, such as Thrive, can be applied in liquid form to plants during their early stages of growth. Additional dressings of Sulphate of Potash and Superphosphate may be necessary, especially for fruiting and root crops.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Organic Fertilisers:</strong> are derived from once-living material. They’re excellent for improving soil, but their nutrient levels can be very variable. In recent years, however, increased interest in these products has led to many improvements, with fertilisers such as Dynamic Lifter organic pellets now having guaranteed nutrient levels. </span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>pH:</strong> pH is the level of acidity or alkalinity in the soil. Most vegetables produce best results if grown at a soil pH level of 6.0 to 7.0. In some areas this may mean adding lime before planting. Checking the pH level of the soil is recommended. </span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Mulching:</strong> Mulching over plants’ root systems, preferably with an organic mulch, will retain moisture, suppress weeds, reduce temperature fluctuations, and prevent soil crusting. </span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Watering:</strong> Water thoroughly so that the entire root system of the plant is moistened. Thorough waterings are more effective than light sprinklings. Don’t allow plants to reach wilting point but, conversely, don’t flood them as this washes away nutrients and may cause drainage problems. </span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Crop rotation:</strong> It’s important to avoid growing successive crops of the same type of vegetable in the same spot in the garden. This practice, which is called crop rotation, helps prevent build up of soil diseases. Seasonal crop changes often lead to natural crop rotation. </span></p> <p><strong>FAVOURITE VEGGIES</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Beans –</strong> Available in dwarf or climbing forms, beans produce pods that are sliced or eaten whole. They must be grown during the warm season. Origin: Tropical America. Nutrition Value: Vitamin C, Vitamin A (beta carotene), iron, fibre and some protein.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Beetroot – T</strong>he deep crimson swollen root of beetroot is cooked in stews and soups or cooled for salads. Its leaves can also be used as a vegetable. Origin: Southern Europe. Nutrition Value: Excellent source of folate.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Brassicas</strong> (cabbages, cauliflower, broccoli, Brussels sprouts) – All grow better when temperatures are not too hot or too cold although new varieties are more heat tolerant. The introduction of Chinese cabbages and other oriental brassicas has encouraged new culinary uses for this group of vegies. Origin: Europe and Asia. Nutrition Value: Vitamin A, Vitamin C, mineral salts, fibre, protein.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Broad Beans –</strong> Grow on upright bushes during the cooler time of year. The whole pod can be eaten when young or (more commonly) the seeds are removed and cooked. Origin: Prehistoric Europe and ancient Egypt Nutrition Value: High in carbohydrates, fibre, minerals, Vitamin A and Vitamin C.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Vegetable -</strong>garden -carrots -potatoes -wyza -com -au</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">If you're short of space for growing veggies, try square foot gardening</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Carrot</strong> – A root vegetable that is traditionally bright orange in colour. Must be grown in well-drained, friable soil that is free of stones, fresh manure or fertiliser. Origin: Europe. Nutrition Value: Potassium, carotene (Vitamin A), Vitamin C and fibre.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Cucurbits –</strong> Includes vine plants such as pumpkin, cucumber, zucchini, melons. They must grow during warm season and almost all have separate male and female flowers. Only the females produce fruit. Origin: Tropical America and the Orient. Nutrition Value: Vitamin C, minerals and fibre.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Lettuce –</strong> The most popular salad plant in the world, lettuce is grown for its crisp green leaves. Butterhead lettuce has soft, buttery leaves; crisphead or iceberg have firm, solid hearts; cos has upright, loose leaves. Origin: Mediterranean. Nutrition Value: Carotene (Vitamin A), Vitamin C, fibre.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Onions –</strong> Onions are bulbs with a pungent flavour. The bulb develops in response to day length and correct sowing times are critical for onions. Origin: Central and Western Asia. Nutrition Value: Vitamin C, calcium.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Peas –</strong> The pea is a legume that is grown for its pods or for the seeds they contain. For many centuries peas were eaten only in their dried form but the fresh pea has a sweet, pleasant flavour. Available in dwarf or climbing forms. Origin: Asia and North Africa.Nutrition Value: Protein, fibre, Vitamin A, Vitamin C, mineral salts. One of the most nutritious vegetables.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The underground tuber of a warm season plant that is now one of the world’s staple foods. Easily grown in the home garden but needs plenty of room. Origin: South America. Nutrition Value: Protein, Vitamin C, carbohydrate and fibre.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Sweet Corn</strong> – A warm season cereal that is grown for its sweetly flavoured seeds, sweet corn grows on a tall plant. The seeds must be pollinated by pollen falling from the tassel at the top of the plant. Origin: South America. Nutrition Value: Vitamin C, fibre, minerals and protein.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Tomatoes</strong> – A warm season fruiting vegetable that is popular both in salads and cooked dishes. Fresh tomatoes are best eaten at room temperature. Origin: South and Central America. Nutrition Value: Vitamin A, Vitamin C, fibre and protein.</span></p> <p><strong>MATT’S TOP 7 TIPS</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Sydney based Landscape Gardener Matt Paton says the secret to growing a great home veggie patch is finding the right location to plant, using a good potting mix and watering regularly. </span></p> <p><strong>1. Choose the best location:</strong> Always plant in a bright and sunny area which is away from any windy spots.This will maximise the growing potential for your vegetables and will help to provide years of fresh vegetables for you and your family.</p> <p><strong>3. When planting in clay:</strong> If you have a clay type soil use a liberal dose of clay breaker or gypson. This powder needs to be worked into the soil with a garden fork (as a guide you should go as deep as the garden fork goes in the soil) for best results. This helps breaks down the clay to release the other vital nutrients in the soil to the plants but must be done several days before planting the seeds.</p> <p><strong>4. Draw up a plan:</strong> Then mark up the spacing with a tape measure and create holes with your finger or a stick to show where you are planning to put the seeds. Then tag the area with whatever is handy such as coloured pegs or if you want the professional look then buy specific plant tags from a nursery.</p> <p><strong>5. Use a good quality potting mix:</strong> Buy this from a nursery and use your garden fork to mix this into the soil. This winning combination gives added nutrients to your growing vegetables and provides a healthy environment for a great crop to grow.</p> <p><strong>6. Space out your vegetables:</strong> Follow the instructions given on the side of seed packets regarding spacing out the vegetables. They will grow better and it really does make a difference to help maximise your seasonable vegetables crop. If they are planted too close together then pests and diseases are likely to become more prevalent in your vegetable garden. </p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>7. Apply a layer of mulch:</strong> This should be about 50-75 mm thick of mulch to the whole area of the vegetable garden (just cover the rows you will be planting and harvesting) as this reduces weeds and provides organic matter to the plants when it breaks down. </span></p> <p><strong>8. Liquid fertilisers give good results:</strong> Consider using a liquid fertiliser as the plants take up the nutrients of the fertiliser quicker than they do with a granular fertiliser. It also saves you time. If you use a granular fertiliser then always water when the soil appears dry and apply the fertiliser before you water.You can use a granular slow release fertiliser such as 'Osmacote' for vegetables.You can also use a liquid fertiliser such as 'Seasol’. This has the added benefit of watering the plants and fertilising them simultaneously.</p> <p><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">Republished with permission of </span><a href="https://www.wyza.com.au/articles/property/how-to-start-a-vegetable-garden.aspx"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Wyza.com.au.</span></a></em></p>

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9-month-old’s saving chance: Court order prevents hospital pulling the plug

<p>A Texas court has allowed a family to place a temporary restraining order on a hospital wanting to take their 9-month-old baby off life support. </p> <p>Tinslee Lewis was born with congenital heart issues and has been under the care of the Cook’s Children’s Hospital for the better part of her whole young life. </p> <p>Her family is rejoicing after a court order has allowed them to buy more time to find a hospital who is willing to keep their baby on life-saving machines. </p> <p>The child was born with Ebstein Anomaly, a rare heart defect meaning there is an abnormality in the tricuspid valve. </p> <p>The disorder separates the right atrium from the right ventricle so normal blood flow cannot occur. </p> <p><span>In some rare cases, the disorder can cause the right atrium to swell, and even result in congestive heart failure. </span></p> <p><iframe src="https://www.facebook.com/plugins/post.php?href=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.facebook.com%2Ftrinity.lewis.3551%2Fposts%2F2476561655891273&amp;width=500" width="500" height="586" style="border: none; overflow: hidden;" scrolling="no" frameborder="0" allowtransparency="true" allow="encrypted-media"></iframe></p> <p>While Tinslee has already undergone numerous surgeries for the disorder, for the past several months the young infant has been kept on a ventilator. </p> <p>The doctors worry the 9-month-old baby’s health will not improve and that she is “suffering”. </p> <p>However, her family could not agree less. </p> <p>"We are a family who believes where there's just a little air, there's hope," Beverly Winston, the infant's relative, told<span> </span>CBS DFW. </p> <p>"Regardless of your reason, what the law is -- she deserves the chance to fight for her life, and she has a troop who will help her 100 percent and above."</p> <p>Ahead of the court’s ruling, the hospital has issued a statement explaining the doctor’s conclusions. </p> <p>“Tinslee Lewis is a beautiful baby who has captured the hearts of many at Cook Children’s since her premature birth nine months ago,” a statement from the Cook Children’s hospital read, according to CBS DFW.</p> <p>“In the last several months, it’s become apparent her health will never improve,” the statement continued. </p> <p>“Despite our best efforts, her condition is irreversible, meaning it will never be cured or eliminated. Without life-sustaining treatment, her condition is fatal. But more importantly, her physicians believe she is suffering.”</p> <p>“To maintain the delicate balance necessary to sustain Tinslee’s life, and to prevent her from pulling out the lines that are connected to the ventilator, doctors have had to keep her constantly paralyzed and sedated.</p> <p>“While Tinslee may sometimes appear alert and moving, her movements are the result of being weaned off of the paralyzing drugs. We believe Tinslee is reacting in pain when she’s not sedated and paralyzed.”</p> <p>The hospital says they have reached out to nearly 20 hospitals who have all declined to accept the infant as a patient. </p> <p>Tinslee's life support was due to be switched off on the 17th of November, however a judge sided with her family with preventing from doing so. </p> <p>Another hearing is scheduled on November 22. </p> <p>“I thought that they were going to pull the plug on my baby,” Trinity Lewis, the baby’s mother, told Fox 7 Austin. </p> <p>“I didn’t think she was going to still be here today, and that’s what I’m grateful for.”</p>

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Is your home keeping you awake?

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Could your home’s sleeping environment be contributing to your sleepless nights? There are several ways you can change your bedroom to help you nod off and get a great night’s sleep.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">If you've bought a new home and are having a tough time nodding off, have you tried making small environmental changes to improve your chance of a good night's sleep? Well, here are some handy home hints to help you fight insomnia.</span></p> <p><strong>Feng shui</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Feng shui expert Steven Post, along with neurosociologist John Zeisel, had a lively discussion at the Brain Event in the Museum of Art in New York. They discussed whether there was an effect of feng shui on the human brain. They both concluded that feng shui is a state of mind - if you believe that your environment affects you, then making your environment peaceful, may help you, especially when you move into a new home. For example, having the bed facing the door can help people feel less claustrophobic because they can see an "escape". </span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">What’s our advice to new homeowners who are environmentally sensitive? Feng shui your bedroom to your heart's content. It may just be the trick to a good night's sleep.</span></p> <p><strong>Make sure your bedroom is just for sleeping</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">It is so easy to make your bedroom your living room and study all in one. Time is fleeting and because of that, we seem to cram everything into one place. A 2011 poll conducted by the National Sleep Foundation discovered that 95 per cent of adults use technology an hour before bedtime.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Phones, TVs, iPads and computers all stimulate the brain and increased stimulation doesn't help you fall asleep, especially if you use them just before or in bed. So, the key is to make your living room or study a nice place to spend some time. When you create a warm, inviting environment to use your technology in, it will stop the temptation to take those mobile devices with you when you go to bed.</span></p> <p><strong>Pay attention to noise suppression </strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">If your home is near a source of constant background noise, such as an airport, main road, or even a highway several kilometres away, this might be impacting on your quality of sleep. Studies have found that consistent background noise can affect cognitive function, blood pressure, the nervous system and cause physiological stress.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Options to consider would be to move to a bedroom in your home away from the source of noise or, if that’s not possible, consider installing better insulation or a double glazed window to your bedroom.</span></p> <p><strong>Sleep in the dark for better quality Zzzzz </strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Another study conducted by the National Sleep Foundation found that when you are exposed to light, your brain will respond with a message to keep you awake. Therefore, when it is time to sleep it is important for the room to be as dark as humanly possible. Light-blocking curtains and eye masks can eliminate your exposure to unwanted light and make it so much easier to fall asleep.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Don't forget that your bad sleeping patterns may not be your body's fault. If you buy a home or start renting a new house, then it could be the new environment that is disrupting your snooze time. Try making these changes before you nod off and hopefully you won't be sleepless in the suburbs for much longer.</span></p> <p><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">Republished with permission of </span><a href="https://www.wyza.com.au/articles/property/is-your-home-keeping-you-awake.aspx"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Wyza.com.au.</span></a></em></p>

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10-minute summer pizza

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">A light and luscious pizza perfect for the warmer months.</span></p> <p><strong>Ingredients</strong></p> <ul> <li><span style="font-weight: 400;">4 x 20cm plain pizza bases</span></li> <li><span style="font-weight: 400;">1/4 cup tomato passata</span></li> <li><span style="font-weight: 400;">200g fresh ricotta, crumbled</span></li> <li><span style="font-weight: 400;">2 bunches asparagus, woody ends removed</span></li> <li><span style="font-weight: 400;">4-5 sprigs fresh thyme</span></li> <li><span style="font-weight: 400;">1 teaspoon black peppercorns</span></li> </ul> <p><strong>Basil oil:</strong></p> <ul> <li><span style="font-weight: 400;">1 bunch fresh basil, leaves and tender stems stripped off</span></li> <li><span style="font-weight: 400;">1/3 cup extra virgin olive oil</span></li> <li><span style="font-weight: 400;">Watercress, to garnish</span></li> </ul> <p><strong>Directions</strong></p> <p>1. Preheat the oven to 200°C. Brush the pizza bases with the passata and scatter with the ricotta, asparagus, thyme and peppercorns. Bake in the preheated oven for 5-10 minutes until crisp and bubbly.</p> <p>2. In the meantime, prepare the Basil Oil: Place the basil in a heatproof bowl and cover with boiling water. Using a slotted spoon, remove basil immediately and refresh in cold or iced water. Drain basil well and place in a food processor. Add the olive oil and process until bright green and smooth.</p> <p>3. When cooked, drizzle the hot pizzas with a little basil oil and serve immediately.</p> <p><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">Recipe provided by the </span><a href="http://asparagus.com.au/"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Australian Asparagus Council.</span></a></em></p> <p><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">Republished with permission of </span><a href="https://www.wyza.com.au/recipes/summer-pizza.aspx"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Wyza.com.au.</span></a></em></p>

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How do I talk to my elderly parents about aged care?

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">We navigate you through this highly sensitive topic to help you find the best outcome for both you and your parents.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">When the need for care arises in parents and the issue becomes a talking point, the overwhelming reaction is often shock, sadness and fear from both parents and children.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Of course, adult kids want what is best for their parents and for them to continue to live a safe and fulfilling life with all their needs being met. Unfortunately we don’t always know how to say the right things when discussing aged care with our loved ones. It is often not a simple process to convince parents to allow that practical level of help into their lives.</span></p> <p><strong>Why might parents resist help?  </strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">According to counsellor and psychotherapist, Joanne Wilson, from TheConfidante Counselling, Sunshine Coast, there are many reasons for parents to want to resist care and it’s important for children and loved ones to consider them when broaching the subject.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“It may be that the person needing care was a very capable person all their lives and that they find it hard to face the fact that they have a more limited capability. It may be that they have lived in their home for generations and fear leaving it. In some cases it might be the fact that they still see themselves as a patriarch or matriarch of the family and don’t want to see this role diminished,” says Wilson.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">In other cases, when there is a rapid deterioration physically it can be a case of change coming too quickly without the person being able to take in what’s happening to them, and this can cause confusion and fear about loss of independence says Wilson.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“I’ve worked with families that are in what we call the pre-contemplation stage – when they know some care is going to be needed at some stage, but suddenly there is a fall and a broken hip or another broken bone and this loss of mobility can be quite confronting and confusing for the person when that happens,” she says.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Getting informed about different care options can help the way your parents view the process</span></p> <p><strong>Why is it hard for children? </strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">For adult children, shock and sadness are also common reactions, but there are also feelings of guilt and frustration that they are letting their parents down in some way by not being able to offer the care themselves. These feelings can lead children to feel like they need to act hastily or to force the issue home, but this is entirely counterproductive says Wilson.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">While people needing care make up about 20 per cent of Wilson’s clientele, quite often the problem surfaces in other relationship therapy sessions. “What our parents do affects us and our relationships in different ways.” Wilson points out.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">More often than not the practicalities of finding the right kind of care can lead to sibling arguments, with everyone but the person needing care getting a say in what should actually happen.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Among the chief concerns are financial worries, the issue of finding the right carers, and even the question of whether the carers will do as good a job as the children think they can. “It’s quite common for children to say something like ‘I give mum or dad medicine three times a day. How will I know that the new carer will do as good a job as I do?’” says Wilson.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">So how should you approach the subject with your parents? Here Wilson offers her top tips for positive communication with your parents from years of experience in counselling families on the subject.</span></p> <p><strong>Step 1. Be respectful </strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Avoid being disrespectful and talking down to your parents, recommends Wilson. Instead, reinforce the reason you want them to accept care is because you love them and you want to see them safe and happy. “It’s important to focus on the positives in the conversation. Say something like ‘Mum, dad I’m worried about your health and safety. You burnt yourself yesterday and I’m concerned about you. I love you and I want you to be happy,”’ she says.</span></p> <p><strong>Step 2. Be patient</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Wilson warns about trying to make things happen too quickly. “Being rushed and hurried can lead to a great deal of stress at that age,” she says. Rather than forcing the issue when they’re psychologically not ready, she encourages children to start the ball rolling early before care is needed by having an open conversation about the topic over a period of time. “The families that I see coping best at this transition time are the ones that have opened those communication lines early and discussed the options available,” she says. “Your parents might not listen to you this month, but next month they might,” she adds.</span></p> <p><strong>Step 3. Address the key topics</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Your loved one’s health and safety is key, says Wilson and it’s important not to skirt around that issue. “If you notice that they are suffering burns, if they are becoming confused about appointments, or if you notice something else that makes you worried, you have to ask yourself ‘Can my parents live alone without being supported?’, and then make sure you cover this in your conversation with them,” advises Wilson.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Addressing the key issues through positive communication can help express your concerns without causing resentment</span></p> <p><strong>Step 4. Avoid negative talk</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Try not to complicate the topic by bringing up negative memories from your past. Stay away from saying things like “You were a bad parent, this is how you brought me up,” says Wilson. These sorts of comments are only going to cause resentment.</span></p> <p><strong>Step 5. Call in a third party</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">It’s often the case that the closer we are to someone the less they want to listen to our advice. This is commonly the case in parent child relationships. If communication breaks down completely often a third party can help reignite the topic in a positive way, says Wilson.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“That person may be a family friend, next door neighbour or even a counsellor. “As a counsellor I like to see where in the circle of change that person is, and then I can help them find that needs to be done to move on to the next stage in the best way possible,” she says.</span></p> <p><strong>Step 6. Explore the issue together</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Gathering information by speaking to a service provider about the different care options can really change the way your parents view the whole process. “Think about what your parents like doing and how they might be able to achieve that in their care situation. Sometimes when the person learns what aged care will allow them to do, they get really excited and that can really invigorate their lives,” says Wilson. </span></p> <p><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">Written by Dominic Bayley. Republished with permission of </span><a href="https://www.wyza.com.au/articles/lifestyle/relationships/how-do-i-talk-to-my-elderly-parents-about-aged-care.aspx"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Wyza.com.au.</span></a></em></p>

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How to create an edible garden with Indira Naidoo

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Have you ever wanted to grow your own vegetables but didn’t know where to start? Or perhaps you feel you don’t have the space or time to grow everything you need? Cookbook author and gardener, Indira Naidoo, 47, says maintaining an edible garden is easier than most people think and you don’t need a sea change or tree change to get started.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">In the 1990s, Indira was best known as a news broadcaster on ABC’s Late Edition and SBS’s World News Tonight. She also entertained audiences with her comedic talents, making guest appearances on ABC’s Club Buggery, Good News Week, The Fat, and the McFeast Show.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">According to the former news broadcaster turned green thumb, gardening has brought back a sense of balance to her life.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“We outsource so much of the fun bits in our life, and all we’ve left ourselves with is the boring bits, which is work. And that balance isn’t there,” she says.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">As a journalist, Indira would often cover stories about emerging environment and food issues but she never felt truly connected with the space around her. </span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“I think in our modern society most of us are very over-connected with our screens and our phones, our laptops. It can make you quite neurotic. And just be disconnected from that is very important.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Going back to basics, Indira started growing her own vegetables on her inner-city balcony, documenting the journey on her popular blog Saucy Onion. </span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">That was more than eight years ago. Since then, Indira’s been trained in climate change by former US President Al Gore, she’s released two books The Edible Balcony and The Edible City and conducts weekly gardening classes on the Wayside Chapel award-winning rooftop vegetable garden.</span></p> <p><strong>1. What are your top 3 tips for starting your own edible garden?</strong></p> <p>The key thing is to start small, start with the lettuces. As you get more confident and see how it grows move on to your other greens, tomato, capsicums, chilies.</p> <p>When you’ve got more space and you’re more confident about the time involved, then you can go to your root vegetables and your carrots and radishes and your potatoes.</p> <p><strong>2. How different is your career today?</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">I’m still exploring the same ideas and issues I did as a news broadcaster and journalist but just with a different level of connection, I guess. So for me it’s not that big a journey really. But I can imagine for some people it would be you know, coming from a manicure to having manure on your hands, can be quite a change! I just looked at my environment differently. I looked at my balcony differently.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">We always tell ourselves that these little changes will happen when you retire, when you cash in your superannuation and you move to the beach or the coast or the country and I guess in a way I’m sort of challenging that because most of us aren’t going to do that.</span></p> <p><strong>3. What are unexpected benefits of growing your own food? </strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">I had no idea it would be so much fun, so enjoyable and in fact hard to leave my garden and go and do something else. Just connecting with nature, the greenery, and the lovely aromas. And it’s just fun to share your food with other people.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The great thing about being a gardener is that you see seeds, and you see them differently, and you think, ‘wow look at that’</span></p> <p><strong>4. How has gardening changed your views on food and the environment? </strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The growing has changed my awareness, just the variety of things out there. And then obviously with waste. I mean, I can’t describe when you wait two to three months waiting for a fruit or vegetable to ripen, you are obsessed with it. Every little bug or caterpillar that tries to eat it, you protect it like a mother lion to her cub. It’s almost impossible to waste anything you grow yourself, you value it so much, because you invest so much time into it. And then that flows on to everything else. You can’t bear to waste their [farmers] food as well. I hate waste now. I hate any food scrap going into my bin. Any peelings. . . I try to take them to the worm farm.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">I try different varieties, different vegetables that I normally don’t get at the supermarket. That really changed my palate. Most people just do tomatoes, carrots, bananas, capsicums, and zucchini.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The great thing about being a gardener is that you see seeds, and you see them differently, and you think, ‘wow look at that’. You just want to put it in and see what grows. And without being aware of it you’re educating yourself, you’re connecting with it.</span></p> <p><strong>5. What’s new in the gardening space? </strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Vertical gardens or green walls are a huge trend at the moment. And over the years I’ve been trialling a few methods where you can have systems that are expensive or as high tech as you can afford.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The wonderful thing compared to when I first started gardening in small spaces, there wasn’t a lot of design or technology in the marketplace to support you. The wonderful thing now is companies are building specific growing mediums and growing containers for people with small spaces or limited or urban spaces.</span></p> <p><strong>6. Can edible gardens be as attractive as ornamental plants?</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Edibles can be very attractive if you’re an ornamental grower. People think that edible gardens can’t be pretty gardens. I found that edibles can have beautiful leaves and beautiful flowers as well. Flowers from eggplants and capsicums can be really pretty. They have their own fragrances and smells as well.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Written by Mahsa Fratantoni. Republished with permission of </span><a href="https://www.wyza.com.au/articles/property/how-to-create-an-edible-garden-with-indira-naidoo.aspx"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Wyza.com.au.</span></a></p>

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How to make the best of a small space

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The smallest of changes can make the world of difference when decorating any confined spaces in your home. If you’ve recently downsized and discovered your smaller rooms have become a little too cluttered, fear not, there’s plenty you can do.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Small changes can make the rooms in your house appear larger and could allow for a tone of new space. Consider these subtle differences you can make without breaking the bank.</span></p> <p><strong>The difference furniture can make</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">If you have a small study or room that you want to get the most out of, an important piece of furniture to consider is the couch. It will generally be the biggest item in the room therefore, once you get the right style and fit, you'll have a starting point for the rest of your lounge's design.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Floor Planner is a wonderful tool to plan out and utilise the space in your room. It can give you a digital look of your room to make it easy to plan for the space.</span></p> <p><strong>Mirror, mirror, on the wall</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Apartment Therapy suggests that using mirrors within a confined space can do wonders to a room's atmosphere and feng shui. You can group small mirrors together or have large one that hangs half way down the wall. A floor length mirror which will create the illusion that the room if taller than it is. This is particularly beneficial if you have short ceilings. Mirrors will also reflect light around the room, and light can be so valuable in eliminating dark corners.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Word of warning, be careful what your mirror reflects. If it is a study with stacks of paperwork, it may make the room look cluttered and untidy. Simplicity in a small room is always best.</span></p> <p><strong>Shelving in small spaces</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Shelving in small spaces can be tricky, but once you figure out the right shape and size, they can look elegant. One space that is often under-utilised is under the stairs. If there is a gap, try creating horizontal shelving across the bottom of the stairs. Utilise Spaces suggests the space can be used for storage or be a small library. Also placing hooks or shelves on the inside of cupboard doors can do wonders with limited space.</span></p> <p><strong>Hang TVs on the wall</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">According to Harvey Norman, hanging a flat screen TV on the wall will cost anywhere between $187 to $300, depending on the size of the TV. This will create a vast amount of space considering you won't need a TV cabinet.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Whatever your challenge, there are always fresh ideas for changing your space before your space changes you.</span></p> <p><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">Written by Stewart Bunn. Republished with permission of </span><a href="https://www.wyza.com.au/articles/property/how-to-make-the-best-of-a-small-space.aspx"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Wyza.com.au.</span></a></em></p>

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3 easy ways to eradicate mould at home

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">It can be difficult to identify hidden mould in an older home. However, once you have discovered it, you can learn to eliminate it forever.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Spores are small, often incognito little gremlins that can grow from one to many in a very short amount of time. They can remain invisible for months or even years, but if they are left alone, they can slowly take over your house and affect your family's health.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">So, what should you do to identify exactly where those unwanted little spores are lurking?</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Energy-efficiency expert and scientist Jenny Edwards from Light House Architecture and Science has uncovered helpful mould precautions tips specifically for Australian homes.</span></p> <p><strong>Tip 1: Don’t block off airways </strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">In the winter months it is easy to close the blinds early and lock in the heat from the heater. However, doing this will create a petri dish of mould in your room, especially bathrooms. Edwards suggests that you should always install a new extractor fan in the bathrooms of older homes. It will stop the moisture from growing spores.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Handy hint:</strong> Keep the extractor fan on after you leave the shower because it needs time to work. </span></p> <p><strong>Tip 2: Try not to dry your clothes inside </strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Sometimes drying your clothes inside is unavoidable. However, if there is a ray of sunshine outside and a slight breeze, try and let your garments blow in the wind. Wet clothes drying inside will increase the moisture in the air and lead to condensation. Condensation, of course, grows the mould and that is what we are trying to avoid.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Handy hint:</strong> If you do dry clothes inside then at least put them in the sunniest room in the house and have the windows open to allow some sun and air in.</span></p> <p><strong>Tip 3: What do to if your house already has mould </strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">You can be super cautious and attentive but mould can still creep through the cracks. So, if you do discover mould that you missed upon execution, here is what you do.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">CEO for Mycology Dr Heike Neumeister-Kemp says that the best way to get rid of mould is using white vinegar and a microfibre cloth. If there is a huge amount of mould that you can't reach, then the last resort would be to use a dehumidifier to attack the build-up of moisture.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">If you live in a home that is a little older, have a building inspector check for any mould if you think you can smell it but can’t find the source of. It can make the difference.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;"><strong>Handy hint:</strong> The best way to get rid of mould is using white vinegar and a microfibre cloth.</span></p> <p><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">Written by Stewart Bunn. Republished with permission of </span><a href="https://www.wyza.com.au/articles/property/3-easy-ways-to-eradicate-mould-at-home.aspx"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Wyza.com.au</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;">.</span></em></p>

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How easy is it to flip a property?

<p>‘Flipping’ or buying properties to do up and sell can be a lot of work but the pay-off could be huge when the time comes to selling your fixer-upper. With risk comes rewards and flipping properties may just be the best financial decision for you, but weigh up the odds first.</p> <p><strong>Risk versus profit</strong> <br />Most people recognise the risks that come with flipping properties. You invest your time and hard earned money into renovating a home but it may not always pay off when it comes time to sell. Before you do anything, you must plan your budget for fixing up the fixer-upper and budget down to the smallest of things. Investing Answers suggests that you pay for the house in cash and avoid getting a mortgage for it. Even splitting the investment with a partner will be better. Having a mortgage is a "fixed obligation" and it adds extra pressure for you to be successful with flipping.</p> <p><strong>What do buyers look for?</strong> <br />The <a href="http://www.nationalpropertybuyers.com.au/buyers-agents-australia/?gclid=CLXI2pmL_c4CFQuMvQodUnQG9A">Real Estate Buyers Agents Association</a> recently released a survey of the most popular features that Australians want for their new home. These are the top 10 features:</p> <p>1. Open plan living</p> <p>2. At least two bathrooms</p> <p>3. Natural light </p> <p>4. Close to schools and shops</p> <p>5. Kitchens that flow out to outdoor entertainment</p> <p>6. Two living areas</p> <p>7. Level yard</p> <p>8. Pantry</p> <p>9. Storage space</p> <p>10.Secure car space</p> <p>Now that you know the most popular features, you can start to plan your renovations with them in mind. Aussies love to renovate their homes but perhaps more importantly, they like to do it themselves. This means that there will be a lot of costs saved on hiring people to build or demolish.</p> <p><strong>Best house on the worst street or worst house on the best street?</strong> <br />Location can make or break your gains when flipping a property; just remember -  it's all about the serenity. Buying a run-down house and fixing it up can be great, but not if it is on a terrible street. You have to ask yourself if the features of the neighbourhood are going to add value to your home. Research the past rates of property growth in surrounding streets, as well as nearby schools and amenities.</p> <p>If you are now entering the world of flipping property, know that it is a tough game to play. But if you win, the rewards can set you up for a successful financial future. Talk to the team at <a href="https://www.firstnational.com.au/">First National Real Estate</a> to find out the best places to buy for your next investment. </p> <p><em>Republished with permission of <a href="https://www.wyza.com.au/articles/property/how-easy-is-it-to-flip-a-property.aspx">Wyza.com.au.</a></em></p>

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How to have a real work-life balance

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Far too many Australians are stressed at work and it’s taking a toll on our physical and mental wellbeing. According to the Australian Bureau of Statistics (ABS), one in five workers suffers from some form of mental illness whether that be depression, anxiety, stress disorders or suicidal thoughts.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Untreated mental health conditions cost Australian workplaces approximately $10.9 billion every year. The importance of easing this stress and anxiety is clear. But is the solution as simple as cutting down on work?</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Shannah Kennedy, life coach, corporate speaker, author and co-creator of the Master Class of Wellness, a program that empowers professionals to reach their highest potential, says you can have a successful career and achieve a happy, balanced life without giving up your work.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“We’re taking our work with us everywhere we go these days. Work-life balance isn’t about having lots of time off work, it’s about blending our work and recreation to where we feel we have a sense of control over our health - mentally, physically and emotionally,” she says.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Kennedy says we are often to blame for pushing ourselves too hard. One way we do this is that we don’t set clear boundaries on how we use technology and there is often no separation between our work life and our personal life.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“Checking phones next to our beds, checking our emails constantly affects the neural pathways for addiction. So people aren’t sleeping properly, they are overwhelmed by information and there is no off switch,” she says.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The inability to say no to people’s requests when we really should be looking after our own interests is another contributing factor. We quite often put others’ interests ahead of our own trying to be the best family member, employee, or friend that we can be. Kennedy calls this the ‘disease to please’ and it’s a habit that has to be broken if we are going to find a better work-life balance.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Many people may not even be aware that they are stressed, caught up in what Kennedy calls the ‘treadmill of life’. Telltale signs include sleep apnoea, overreacting to situations and having thoughts that replay in your head constantly. You may also find that you’re not really present in your relationships, may have high blood pressure or have trouble tasting your food.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Those close to retirement age can be particularly at risk of stress and anxiety as they often haven’t prepared for life beyond work and find themselves having to contemplate starting all over again. “Many have forgotten to work on their friendships and hobbies and have to start from scratch when they retire,” says Kennedy.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Life coaches Shannah and Lyndall share their tips for achieving that work-life balance we all long for</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">But by managing your workplace stress you can become more productive at work and a healthier, happier and more inspired version of yourself. Follow these key strategies to begin your transformation.</span></p> <p><strong>Learn to say “No”</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“We fear rejection and we fear missing out, but it’s important to realise that you can’t do everything without it having a detrimental effect on you,” says Kennedy. But how can you say no without offending people? Kennedy says it’s about being nice first. “Thank the person for their invitation and then say ‘unfortunately I can’t make it this time’. Use the time to do something that helps you rest and rejuvenate instead,” advises Kennedy.</span></p> <p><strong>Have a plan and track your time</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Track your time with a timetable and include work but also activities such as yoga, meditation and social catch ups that improve your mind, body, hobbies and relationships. You should schedule this time in the same as you would important business meetings, advises Kennedy. “Book in the asset first. You are that asset in life and it’s about protecting that asset and booking time out to work on and with that asset,” says Kennedy.</span></p> <p><strong>Have technology boundaries</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Don’t sleep with your phone next to your bed and incorporate technology blackout periods into your day. Not checking your work emails will make you feel calmer, but you will also find you become more productive, free from distractions like social media. “From 8pm at night in my house, it’s phones and tablets switched off. Similarly, phones and devices are kept off until after exercise and breakfast and that gives us time to switch off too,” says Kennedy.</span></p> <p><strong>Move your body</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Exercise is a perfect stress release and has the added benefit of keeping us fit, healthy and reenergised. Instead of coming home from work and having more ‘screen time’, invest in your body by going for a walk or taking an exercise class. You will feel more refreshed when you do have to tackle those stressful work deadlines.</span></p> <p><strong>Breathe deeply</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Kennedy calls this her big secret that allows her to perform better and without stress in her working life. “Most of the population use only 30 per cent of their lung capacity. They are not maximising the oxygen intake into their bodies and their brains so they can’t think; they can’t make decisions,” she says. To reap the benefits of life-giving oxygen take five deep breaths three times a day. “You can change your whole mental state if you learn how to breathe properly,” says Kennedy.</span></p> <p><strong>Use technology to help you</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Don’t be a slave to technology. “Make it your slave and become more productive,” says Kennedy. Program your phone’s calendar with things that are non-negotiable to you and set your phone to notify you when you should be doing them. “That means my yoga, my walk, my friend time, my finances. When you get a notification to do your finances for example, you know you can’t go to bed until you finish them,” Kennedy says.</span></p> <p><strong>See a life coach</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Bring some extra help into your life by finding a life coach. “A qualified life coach can help educate you about how to better manage your work-life balance and then help you create the structure you need to be the best version of yourself by helping you improve your health, wellbeing, your family life and career,” says Kennedy.</span></p> <p><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">Written by Dominic Bayley. Republished with permission of <a href="http://www.Wyza.com.au">Wyza.com.au.</a></span></em></p>

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What the royals would earn if they had real-life jobs

<p><span>As members of the royal family, the Dukes and Duchesses might be <a href="https://www.oversixty.com.au/travel/international-travel/the-world-s-richest-royal-in-2019-revealed/">worth millions of dollars</a> – but how much would they earn as a commoner?</span></p> <p><span>Training and qualifications provider <a rel="noopener" href="http://www.theknowledgeacademy.com/" target="_blank">The Knowledge Academy</a> has analysed the royals’ skills and qualifications to discover the job and the salary they would have if they were part of today’s job market.</span></p> <p><span>Duchess Meghan came out as the top earner with an expected annual salary of £350,000 thanks to her acting experience, while Prince Harry and Prince William could earn between £21,000 and £55,000 as a charity worker or a major in the army.</span></p> <p><span>Duchess Kate – the first royal bride with a university degree – could earn up to £23,000 in a corporate administrative or marketing role, considering her experience working for high-end retailer Jigsaw and her parents’ party supplies company Party Pieces.</span></p> <p><span>Sophie, Countess of Wessex would earn £40,000 with her secretarial training and PR experience. Her husband Prince Edward, who had worked in production for theatre and television, could earn up to £28,000 as an experienced production assistant.</span></p> <p><span>Princess Anne and Duchess Camilla, who had limited work experience, were expected to have a salary of £19,000 and £17,500 as a charity worker and a secretary respectively.</span></p>

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“He was proud”: George Michael’s sister rejects Elton John’s claim that Michael was “uncomfortable” being gay

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">George Michael’s sister has hit back at Sir Elton John’s claims that the late singer was uncomfortable with his sexuality.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">John made the comments to Sharon Osbourne on her US TV show The Talk, according to </span><a href="https://www.thesun.co.uk/tvandshowbiz/10208853/elton-john-george-michael-died-gay/"><span style="font-weight: 400;">The Sun</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;">.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“He couldn’t get it, George. And he resented the fact I had hinted that maybe he change his life a little bit and he’d be happier if he tried something else.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“The person has actually got to want it. It’s like me in the end. I really wanted it.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“I had two alternatives: one to die, and one to live, and I wanted to live,” John said.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">John also said that Michael was “so uncomfortable in his skin about being gay even though he said he wasn’t.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Michael’s sister Melanie Panayiotou said that George was “my ‘very proud to be gay’ brother, contrary to what you may have read recently”.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Michael’s sister is referencing some of Michael’s most famous solo work, as it was speaking about his sexuality.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">He later said in an </span><a href="https://www.theguardian.com/music/2016/dec/26/george-michael-lgbt-rights-i-never-had-a-problem-with-being-gay"><span style="font-weight: 400;">interview</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;"> that he never had a “moral problem” being gay.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“I never had a moral problem with being gay.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“I thought I had fallen in love with a woman a couple of times. Then I fell in love with a man, and realised that none of those things had been love.”</span></p>

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How to hold a successful garage sale

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Clearing your home of clutter or old and unwanted items is an important task when you’re planning to sell or move house, but it can be also be a great way of simply freshening up and re-organising your home.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">If you hold a garage sale after the clean up, you also have a chance to make some extra money and have a fun day with family, friends and neighbours. If you don’t know where to start, the key is planning and preparation. Here are our five tips for a garage sale.</span></p> <p><strong>1. Decide on a date</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Choose a Saturday or Sunday, three to four weeks ahead. You need time to collect, clean up, arrange and price items. By deciding on a date in advance, you also have a deadline to work towards. Make sure the date does not clash with any major local events or sport activities, and that helpers are free to assist on that day. </span></p> <p><strong>2. Start Collecting </strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Begin sorting through your home for goods you are willing to sell, including everything you want to get rid of. You will be surprised - your junk can be another person's treasure. Remember, though, that some items may need to be cleaned or repaired to ensure a good price. It’s important that you tell as many neighbours, friends and family as possible that you are having a garage sale, as they may have some items they want to sell and may be willing to help out on the day. </span></p> <p><strong>3. Spread the word</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Advertise in your local paper two weeks before the day, but don’t forget to use social media (many neighbourhoods have their own Facebook pages) or websites such as gumtree.com.au. Facebook has recently launched its ‘Market’ in Australia aimed at helping people find things for sale locally. Ask local shops and supermarkets if they allow signs in their windows, and consider community notice boards.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Also place signage on the corner of your street and main road, either the evening before or early on the morning of the sale. Often your local real estate office will be able to help you with the supply of pointer signs because agents are frequently asked to help their clients with garage sales. Remember to keep all signs and advertisements brief - the day, date, start and finish time and your property address is all that is required.</span></p> <p><strong>4. Be prepared </strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Make sure all items are clearly priced with stickers before the day. Keep pricing simple – saves having to do a lot of adding up on the day. Have plenty of change available, including small change and notes. Money belts are useful for collecting cash or you can use a till as long as it is never left unattended. It is also a good idea to have a calculator, pencil and paper, bags, boxes and newspaper to wrap valuables. And don’t forget to have drinks and seating handy for you and your helpers – it can be a long morning! </span></p> <p><strong>5. On the day </strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Don’t be surprised if you find serious buyers knocking on your door an hour or two before start time. A good ‘official’ starting time is 9am, so that visitors won’t disturb you too early. During the day, remember to keep your house locked at all times, and ensure you have a secure place inside your home to put cash as it accumulates. State a clear finish time so people are not coming too late in the day. </span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">After the sale has finished, donate leftover items to a local charity. By being prepared you will be able to relax and enjoy the day, ending up with a clean house and a little extra cash at the end.</span></p> <p><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">Written by Stewart Bunn. Republished with permission of </span><a href="https://www.wyza.com.au/articles/property/how-to-hold-a-successful-garage-sale.aspx"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Wyza.com.au.</span></a></em></p>

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Facebook unveils “empathetic” new logo that’s designed to promote “clarity”

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Facebook has taken the need to rehabilitate its image quite literally and unveiled a new corporate logo.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The company, which also owns other platforms such as Instagram and encrypted messaging site WhatsApp has released a new logo that it can use to differentiate itself from the social media site that shares the same name.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;"><img style="width: 0px; height: 0px;" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/7832331/body-facebook.jpg" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/7728c133ea8f44fc92f9f8fd49f36b30" /></span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The company is planning to introduce clearer Facebook branding on the other two popular social media channels it owns and use the new block lettering logo to show the difference. </span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Facebook’s chief marketing officer Antonio Lucio announced the reasoning behind the change. </span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“The new branding was designed for clarity, and uses custom typography and capitalisation to create visual distinction between the company and app,” he said.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“People should know which companies make the products they use … this brand change is a way to better communicate our ownership structure to the people and businesses who use our services to connect, share, build community and grow their audiences,” Mr Lucio said in a statement.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">In a separate statement to </span><a href="https://www.bloomberg.com/news/articles/2019-11-04/facebook-adds-more-corporate-branding-to-instagram-whatsapp"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Bloomberg</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;">, he said that it was due to “emphatic” millennials.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“All the research that we’ve had from Generation Z and millennials was all very emphatic as to they need to know where their brands come from,” Mr Lucio said.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“We needed to be more transparent with our users in showcasing that everything is coming from the same company.”</span></p>

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"I was terrified": Elton John recalls performing sober for the first time

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Iconic singer Sir Elton John has revealed that he was worried he wouldn’t be able to perform sober after taking a year off music to get treatment for his addiction issues back in 1990.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">He attended Narcotics and Alcoholics Anonymous meetings in order to get sober but admitted going back to performing was difficult.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">He spoke to </span><a href="https://variety.com/2019/music/news/elton-john-sober-addiction-recovery-1203392566/"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Variety</span><span style="font-weight: 400;">’s</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;"> recovery issue about the fear he was facing. </span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“After I finally surrendered and decided to seek treatment for my addiction, there came a point when I wondered if I would ever go back to work as Elton John again. </span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“But at that time, I wasn’t thinking too much about being an artist. I had reached the lowest ebb in my life – the absolute bottom. </span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“I hated myself so much. I was consumed with shame. All I wanted to do was get well. I put all of the energy I had left toward my recovery.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">John made a point of clearing his diary in order to give him time to focus on his recovery but realised there was one charity concert he didn’t want to back out of.</span></p> <blockquote style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" class="instagram-media" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/p/BoULFFHloU_/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" data-instgrm-version="12"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"></div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"></div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"></div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"></div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"></div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;"><a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/p/BoULFFHloU_/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" target="_blank">A post shared by Elton John (@eltonjohn)</a> on Sep 29, 2018 at 8:33am PDT</p> </div> </blockquote> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">This made him realise that he would be able to perform again. </span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“When the day arrived, I was terrified, but I did manage to get through the performance. It was the only time I stepped on a stage that year, and I had to do it on my own without the band. </span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“In retrospect, I’m glad I went straight in at the deep end… That show gave me confidence to know that I could still perform sober.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">John went onto write his 1992 album </span><span style="font-weight: 400;">The One</span><span style="font-weight: 400;"> and worked on </span><span style="font-weight: 400;">The Lion King</span><span style="font-weight: 400;"> soundtrack for which he won an Oscar after his treatment.</span></p>

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