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Chris Dawson tries to overturn guilty verdict ahead of tell-all interview

<p>Chris Dawson has lodged the paperwork to begin the process of overturning his guilty conviction for the murder of his wife Lynette 40 years ago.</p> <p>The 74-year-old has spent the last five weeks in Sydney's Silverwater Jail, as he awaits his sentencing day in court on November 11.</p> <p>Despite the high-profile case producing a guilty verdict, Dawson has always maintained his innocence over the disappearance of Lynette, whose body still hasn't been found.</p> <p>Sources told <a href="https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-11279117/Chris-Dawson-lodges-appeal-against-conviction-murdering-wife-Lynette-daughter-breaks-silence.html" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Daily Mail Australia</a> last month that Dawson's legal team had recently lodged a notice of intention to appeal with the NSW Court of Criminal Appeal.</p> <p><em>Nine News</em> also reported on Tuesday night the paperwork flagging Dawson's intention to appeal his conviction has now been formally submitted, as the network prepares to air an interview with one of his daughters.</p> <p>Shanelle Dawson is preparing to open up about growing up without her mother, along with the torment and confusion that arose form her disappearance in a tell-all interview with <em>60 Minutes</em>.</p> <p>Shanelle, who was just four years old when her mum Lynette vanished in 1982, said she was always told by her father that her mother left because she didn't love her and her other sisters.</p> <p>"I feel a lot of rage and anger towards him," Shanelle says in the <em>60 Minutes</em> preview.</p> <p>"It was manipulative and gaslighting us."</p> <p>"Whatever he said or threatened me kept me quiet for the next 40 years."</p> <p><em>Image credits: Getty Images / 60 Minutes</em></p>

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“I tried to protect her”: Victoria and David Beckham recount terrifying stalking incident

<p dir="ltr">David and Victoria Beckham have opened up about their ordeal with a stalker who has been charged with harassing the former athlete.</p> <p dir="ltr">The Beckhams are being represented by their lawyers in a Westminster Magistrate Court where 58-year-old Sharon Bell is facing stalking charges.</p> <p dir="ltr">Bell believed she was in a relationship with Beckham and, after trying to contact him through a series of letters, claimed he and his wife were conspiring to “steal her eggs from inside her body”, as reported by <em>The Daily Mail</em>.</p> <p dir="ltr">One of the letters Bell sent to the football star read: “I do love you and have done so since we were children.”</p> <p dir="ltr">In a statement read to the court, the father of four said he doesn’t have a relationship with Bell and had never seen her before.</p> <p dir="ltr">“I felt like the language in the letters was escalating and becoming more emotional and threatening towards me and my family and this worried me,” he said in his statement, addressing the impact the letters had on him.</p> <p dir="ltr">The court also heard of a terrifying event involving the couple’s youngest child, 11-year-old Harper.</p> <p dir="ltr">Bell reportedly appeared at Harper’s school in an attempt to abduct her.</p> <p dir="ltr">“I’m Harper’s mother. I’m here to pick her up,” she reportedly told the school.</p> <p dir="ltr">After police were called to the school, Bell was taken away.</p> <p dir="ltr">A statement from Victoria was also read out in court by prosecutor Arizuna Asante, detailing the fashion designer’s concern for her young daughter following the incident.</p> <p dir="ltr">“Due to the volume of attention [my husband and I receive from fans], we are rarely informed of the nature of communications from fans,” her statement read.</p> <p dir="ltr">“I tried to protect her and I am worried about her.</p> <p dir="ltr">“I am very concerned and anxious about Harper going to the park or being taken on school trips.”</p> <p dir="ltr">Prosecutor Asante added: “She is now scared to go out and it has made things harder for her.</p> <p dir="ltr">“She is worried, especially when Harper goes on school trips.”</p> <p dir="ltr">Bell, who is currently detained under the Mental Health Act, was deemed a risk to the couple's children because she was “obsessed with the family” by District Judge Michael Snow.</p> <p dir="ltr">Judge Snow charged Bell with stalking, though she will not face a criminal trial because of her mental health.</p> <p><span id="docs-internal-guid-67a13fe3-7fff-4486-81a6-ed6c3eb84440"></span></p> <p dir="ltr"><em>Image: Getty Images</em></p>

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"We have tried everything": TV host stops cancer treatment

<p dir="ltr">British media personality Deborah James has shared that she had stopped treatment for her bowel cancer in an update she “never wanted to write”.</p> <p dir="ltr">The 40-year-old took to Instagram to update her fans, saying that she will spend her remaining time at home with her family.</p> <p dir="ltr">“The message I never wanted to write,” she began the post.</p> <p dir="ltr">“We have tried everything, but my body simply isn’t playing ball. My active care has stopped and I am now moved to hospice at home care, with my incredible family all around me and the focus is on making sure I’m not in pain and spending time with them.”</p> <p><span id="docs-internal-guid-ab24d231-7fff-cf6c-dbcf-98b91e9df4e0"></span></p> <p dir="ltr">James was diagnosed with incurable bowel cancer in 2016 and has been keeping her fans updated with her treatment and progress on social media.</p> <blockquote class="instagram-media" style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" data-instgrm-captioned="" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/p/CdWDrzYo3XM/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" data-instgrm-version="14"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"> </div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"> </div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"> </div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"> </div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"> </div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <div style="padding: 12.5% 0;"> </div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; margin-bottom: 14px; align-items: center;"> <div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; height: 12.5px; width: 12.5px; transform: translateX(0px) translateY(7px);"> </div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; height: 12.5px; transform: rotate(-45deg) translateX(3px) translateY(1px); width: 12.5px; flex-grow: 0; margin-right: 14px; margin-left: 2px;"> </div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; height: 12.5px; width: 12.5px; transform: translateX(9px) translateY(-18px);"> </div> </div> <div style="margin-left: 8px;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 20px; width: 20px;"> </div> <div style="width: 0; height: 0; border-top: 2px solid transparent; border-left: 6px solid #f4f4f4; border-bottom: 2px solid transparent; transform: translateX(16px) translateY(-4px) rotate(30deg);"> </div> </div> <div style="margin-left: auto;"> <div style="width: 0px; border-top: 8px solid #F4F4F4; border-right: 8px solid transparent; transform: translateY(16px);"> </div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; flex-grow: 0; height: 12px; width: 16px; transform: translateY(-4px);"> </div> <div style="width: 0; height: 0; border-top: 8px solid #F4F4F4; border-left: 8px solid transparent; transform: translateY(-4px) translateX(8px);"> </div> </div> </div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center; margin-bottom: 24px;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 224px;"> </div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 144px;"> </div> </div> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;"><a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none;" href="https://www.instagram.com/p/CdWDrzYo3XM/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" target="_blank" rel="noopener">A post shared by Deborah James (@bowelbabe)</a></p> </div> </blockquote> <p dir="ltr">In her latest update, James opened up about the condition she was in.</p> <p dir="ltr">“Nobody knows how long I’ve got left but I’m not able to walk, I’m sleeping most of the days, and most things I took for granted are pipe dreams,” her post continued.</p> <p dir="ltr">The journalist added that even with “all the innovative cancer drugs in the world or some magic new breakthrough”, her body “continue anymore”.</p> <p dir="ltr">She also reflected on the past five years of documenting her cancer journey, her writing, and her podcast <em>You, Me and the Big C</em>.</p> <p dir="ltr">“In over five years of writing about how I thought it would be my final Christmas, how I wouldn’t see my 40th birthday nor see my kids go to secondary school - I never envisaged writing the one where I would actually say goodbye,” she wrote.</p> <p dir="ltr">“I think it’s been the rebellious hope in me. But I don’t think anyone can say the last six months has exactly been kind!</p> <p dir="ltr">“It’s all heartbreaking to be going through but I’m surrounded by so much love that if anything can help me through I hope that will.”</p> <p dir="ltr">James then announced an initiative called Bowelbabe Fund for Cancer Research to raise funds for several charities close to her, including Bowel Cancer UK.</p> <p dir="ltr">“All I ask if you ever read a column, followed my Instagram, listened to the podcast or saw me dressed as a poo for no reason. Please buy me a drink to see me out of this world, by donating the cost to Bowelbabe Fund which will enable us to raise funds for further life saving research into cancer,” she wrote.</p> <p dir="ltr">“To give more Deborah's more time!”</p> <p dir="ltr">She concluded her post saying that her whole family will be around her and will “dance through this together” and enjoying every moment.</p> <p dir="ltr">“You are all incredible, thank you for playing your part in my journey,” she wrote.</p> <p dir="ltr">“No regrets. Enjoy life, Deborah.”</p> <p dir="ltr">Messages of support poured in from James’ fans, with many thanking her for being an inspiration and teaching others to never take life for granted.</p> <p dir="ltr">"We are all better people for having known you and knowing you today. Sending you and your family love,” one person wrote.</p> <p dir="ltr">"You changed so many peoples lives, you've spread so much joy and kindness," adds another, in reference to James' many social media posts dancing in a 'poo' emoji and holding a catheter bag.”</p> <p dir="ltr"><span id="docs-internal-guid-368927a1-7fff-f9a0-ab20-ab90f60d10f4"></span></p> <p dir="ltr"><em>Image: @bowelbabe (Instagram)</em></p>

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How to make the most of your super as you retire or semi-retire

<p dir="ltr">The transition from working life to retirement or semi-retirement is different for each individual.</p> <p dir="ltr">If you decide to keep working, it is important that you know you can access some of your super while you’re still working, once you have reached “preservation age” – the age at which you can access your super.</p> <p dir="ltr">With a transition to retirement stream (TTRS) strategy, you can begin receiving an income from your super once you reach your preservation age, even if you haven’t permanently retired.</p> <p dir="ltr">The benefits of TTRS include your income payments being generally tax free, if you’re 60 or over.</p> <p dir="ltr">Another benefit is being able to continue to grow your super if you’re still working, and using your TTRS payments to top up your take-home pay, so you can work less or save more.</p> <p dir="ltr">There are, however, some rules if you do want to transition into a retirement stream, which your super business can assist you with.</p> <p dir="ltr">The rules include:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">You generally can’t make lump sum withdrawals.</p> </li> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">You must receive between 2% and 10% of your TRIS balance each year.</p> </li> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">Drawing from your super now could mean you have a lower balance when you fully retire.</p> </li> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">While you’re under 60 years of age, your TRIS payments will be subject to tax – any taxable component will be taxed at your marginal tax rate less a 15% offset. From 60, you don’t pay any tax on income payments from your super.</p> </li> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">Earnings in your TRIS receive the same concessional tax treatment as your super – earnings are taxed at up to 15%.</p> </li> </ul> <p dir="ltr"><em>Image: Shutterstock</em></p>

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Huge travel no-no: Woman tries to claim six resort sunbeds before 7am

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">A TikTok user has angered</span> <span style="font-weight: 400;">holidaymakers after dumping water bottles and towels on six vacant sunbeds at a resort in Hawaii to ‘reserve’ them before 7am. </span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The clip was shared by an American mother </span><span style="font-weight: 400;">impersonating people who shamelessly scatter their belongings across rows of sunbeds before walking away to return later.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The video, which has racked up over two million views, was captioned, “We all know that one person at the resort.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">In the video, she walks around the poolside resort area and vigorously throws her personal belongings across the lounges, as the time stamp reads 6:55am</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The video sparked a slew of angry online comments, with many people branding the poor etiquette as the ultimate holiday sin. </span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">One person said, “I would be moving her stuff,” while another joked, “Ahh the vacation Karen.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">One commenter said they would “move their stuff” if they didn't turn up after an hour, while another remarked, “I go on vacation to get away from people like this.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Despite the comment section being flooded with angry remarks, some people admitted they have been guilty of the same actions while on their holidays. </span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">One person commented, “Nothing wrong with reserving a few chairs. I've done this. Early bird gets the worm - that's what you get for sleeping until 10!”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Another wrote, “I think this is ok and I'm ok with other people doing it. They worked for it by waking early.”</span></p> <p><em>Image credits: TikTok</em></p>

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Don’t leave me: Dog tries to stop trainer from retiring

<p>Viral footage from China has captured the touching moment a detection dog tried to stop its retiring handler from leaving.</p> <p>The German Shepherd, named Bei Bei, can be seen holding onto the officer’s duffel bag with its mouth, unwilling to let go.</p> <p>It even tries to stop the car door from closing, and chases the moving vehicle after the trainer bids a tearful goodbye to his loyal friend.</p> <p>Millions of social media users were moved by the animal helper and the “true comradeship and love” between the sergeant and his four-legged partner.</p> <p>The retiring sergeant, Zhang Wei, was leaving the barracks in China’s north-western region Xinjiang when the <a rel="noopener" href="https://weibo.com/tv/show/1034:4542480302145580?from=old_pc_videoshow" target="_blank">footage</a> was filmed, according to Chinese media reports.</p> <p>During his retirement ceremony, the officer is seen handing over the sniffer dog to his colleague as he prepares to leave.</p> <p>As Zhang hugs another officer to say goodbye, Bei Bei suddenly bites the corner of his duffel bag, seemingly trying to stop its handler from leaving.</p> <p>The sergeant immediately bends down and gives the detection dog a kiss, trying to hold back tears.</p> <p>After Zhang climbs into the military van, Bei Bei barks profusely before eagerly running towards the officer again.</p> <p>The hound is seen resting its paws on the vehicle door, unwilling to move, as the officer rubs its head and waves goodbye.</p> <p>Bei Bei even tries to chase the moving car carrying its beloved best friend, before being pulled back by another officer.</p> <p>The heart-warming video has touched millions of Chinese citizens, with one commenter writing: “This has brought me to tears. This is the kind of real and inseparable friendship!”</p> <p><strong>IMAGES:</strong> Weibo/js7tv</p>

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Dismantling the police: lessons from three places that tried it

<p>The killing of George Floyd by Minneapolis police officers sparked protests across the US and brought the Black Lives Matter movement back to the forefront of American politics. The intensity of these protests means that previously unthinkable demands for radical reform are now on the table.</p> <p>The defunding of America’s heavily armed police forces, a long-term demand of racial justice activists, looks increasingly achievable. In early June, a veto-proof supermajority of Minneapolis City council members supported efforts to <a href="https://theappeal.org/minneapolis-city-council-members-announce-intent-to-disband-the-police-department-invest-in-proven-community-led-public-safety/">“dismantle” and “abolish”</a> the police department and replace it with a new system of community policing. In Los Angeles, the mayor put forward a proposal to <a href="https://www.latimes.com/california/story/2020-06-03/lapd-budget-unrest-garcetti">divert between US$100 million and US$150 million</a> from the police department to invest in jobs and education for communities of colour.</p> <p>What this would look like in practice is still unclear. While reforms need to be matched to the specific national context and goals, there are a number of countries that have attempted to defund, demobilise and radically reform their police forces.</p> <p>Although this often occurs following armed conflict, the experience of three places in particular can provide important lessons for today.</p> <p><strong>Iraq and de-Ba’athification</strong></p> <p>Following the 2003 occupation of Iraq, the US ambassador Paul Bremer took the decision to “de-Ba’athify” the Iraqi state by removing civil servants from the era of Saddam Hussein en masse. US military planners <a href="https://www.jstor.org/stable/resrep12200">had assumed</a> they would inherit a functioning state, including the security system. However de-Ba’athification changed this by essentially disbanding the Iraqi security forces, leaving its personnel with no re-integration programme or alternative source of work.</p> <p>This top-down imposition created <a href="https://doi.org/10.1080/02684521003588120">a large pool of unemployed men</a>, many of whom retained their access to arms and explosives in the post-war chaos. Many felt humiliated and hostile to the US forces, which <a href="https://books.google.co.uk/books/about/Surge.html?id=9dQ_AQAAQBAJ&amp;redir_esc=y">researchers have argued</a> led to the <a href="https://books.google.co.uk/books/about/Surge.html?id=9dQ_AQAAQBAJ&amp;redir_esc=y">political basis for the subsequent Iraqi insurgency</a>. From the elite level to the rank-and-file, these newly desperate men helped to create and sustain the insurgency, with many of Hussein’s ex-generals and spies going on to <a href="https://time.com/3900753/isis-iraq-syria-army-united-states-military/">direct the activities of the Islamic State group</a>.</p> <p>The Minneapolis Police Department will not be demobilised into an environment of generalised chaos, foreign occupation and sectarian violence. Nevertheless, the blunders in post-war Iraq provide a clear lesson: you shouldn’t take jobs away from people who are trained in the use of coercion and violence without some idea of how to retrain and reintegrate them.</p> <p>In the US context this would be unlikely to lead to outright civil conflict as in Iraq – although anything is possible. A more realistic worry is that the police could simply move sideways into private security, a <a href="https://pulitzercenter.org/reporting/industry-inequality-why-world-obsessed-private-security">quickly expanding sector</a> that was ironically trialled <a href="https://www.brookings.edu/articles/the-dark-truth-about-blackwater/">with horrifying results</a> in Iraq and Afghanistan. The extended use of private security on US soil could be even <a href="https://doi.org/10.1080/0731129X.2012.740907">more violent and less accountable</a> than the current system of policing.</p> <p><strong>Guatemala – rebranding not reform</strong></p> <p>The end of the 36-year-long Guatemalan civil war in 1996 saw an ambitious peace programme. It promised to demilitarise the country’s internal security by transitioning from a brutal military-led counterinsurgency to a civilian police force. However, in practice the reforms failed to effectively move past the legacy of wartime repression.</p> <p>One important factor was that the newly democratic government adopted wholesale the model of the Spanish Guardia Civil, a highly militarised internal security force. The Guardia Civil has been used for internal repression in Spain since its <a href="https://english.elpais.com/elpais/2014/10/20/inenglish/1413807111_949949.html">inception</a> in the mid-19th century, to the recent attempts to <a href="https://www.independent.co.uk/news/world/europe/catalonia-independence-referendum-catalan-police-storm-ministries-arrested-josep-maria-jov-a7956581.html">target the Catalan independence movement</a>.</p> <p>Guatemala’s decision to follow the Spanish model ran against the idea of a new policing approach even at the time. The reasoning behind the government’s decision was unclear, but bears the hallmarks of the continued influence <a href="https://www.jstor.org/stable/3339023">of the Guatemalan military establishment</a>. The outcome is a security state that is still extremely violent towards both <a href="https://www.insightcrime.org/news/brief/extrajudicial-killings-on-the-rise-in-guatemala/">suspected criminals</a> and <a href="https://nacla.org/news/2018/06/21/terror-guatemala">political activists</a>.</p> <p>The lesson for the US here is that meaningful reform requires a clear sense of direction rather than simply a re-packaging of the existing model. Beyond this, it also shows the dangers of a fragmented security system. Changing the practices of local police forces will be less effective if agencies such as immigration and customs enforcement are able to continue engaging <a href="https://www.aclu.org/issues/immigrants-rights/ice-and-border-patrol-abuses">in widespread violence</a>. This is a particular vulnerability for the US, given its <a href="https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0022343320913089">overlapping security agencies</a> which lack centralised Federal control.</p> <p><strong>Bougainville and bottom-up reform</strong></p> <p>More positive lessons can be taken from the experiences of countries that have radically re-orientated their policing model away from retribution and towards reconciliation and restoration. The autonomous region of Bougainville, <a href="https://www.npr.org/2019/12/30/789697304/trying-to-form-the-worlds-newest-country-bougainville-has-a-road-ahead?t=1591805961684">likely to become the world’s newest nation</a>, used the end of a secessionist conflict with Papua New Guinea in 1998 as an opportunity to return to a form of community justice which emphasised honesty, forgiveness and rehabilitation.</p> <p>This functioned as a way of overcoming wartime trauma and encouraging reconciliation but was also extended out as a general policing model. This approach, while supported by international donors and peacekeepers, relied on long-standing local customs and practice. The result is a society which, while not problem free, is <a href="https://www.researchgate.net/publication/273755447_Bougainville_Community_Crime_Survey_2006">significantly safer</a> than the rest of Papua New Guinea. Crucially, the community-based police force enjoys <a href="http://dx.doi.org/10.1080/13533312.2013.853961">broad popular support</a> among previously victimised rural communities.</p> <p>The US can’t replicate the traditional cultural practice of Bougainville, but it can learn the lessons from its experience. Rather than imposing a particular model, local politicians and international peacekeepers empowered local people to take control of their own safety and security. It is this bottom-up, consensual approach that can form the basis of effective security reform in the US.</p> <p><em>Written by Daniel Odin Shaw. Republished with permission of <a href="https://theconversation.com/dismantling-the-police-lessons-from-three-places-that-tried-it-140303">The Conversation.</a> </em></p>

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"I want to get out": Panic as man tries to open door mid-flight

<p>A man who was suffering from a panic attack was restrained by fellow passengers after attempting to open the door of the plane mid-flight.</p> <p>Without warning, an agitated man tried pulling on the lever on the door at the back of the plane screaming “I want to get out!” in broken English.</p> <p>It was here that his fellow passengers intervened, but it wasn’t until half a dozen air stewards rushed down the aisle with one carrying handcuffs that the passengers felt safe.</p> <p>Ian McNally, who first spotted what was happening, was shaken up by the incident, but praised the efforts of another passenger.</p> <p>“I was mightily relieved when I saw him rushing to help,” he added.</p> <p>Another witness who did not want to be named was frozen in panic, according to <em><a href="https://www.theguardian.com/business/2019/dec/03/man-restrained-after-trying-to-open-door-of-ba-aircraft-in-midair?CMP=aff_1432&amp;utm_content=The+Independent&amp;awc=5795_1575396722_23a2856c3503f3524c8a7f4b83339901">The Guardian</a></em>.</p> <p>“I thought that was it,” he said. “Everyone who intervened were heroes.”</p> <p>Passenger Dean Whyte, who is a shocking 2 metres tall and a boxer, also intervened with the anxious man, telling him to “calm down”.</p> <p>“It was like something out of a movie. When I got there, he was shouting ‘I want to get out’ in broken English.</p> <p>“I managed to grab him and was preparing to slam him hard if necessary but myself and the steward could see he wasn’t quite right in the head, so I held him and tried to calm him down. Eventually it worked.”</p> <p>Whyte later took a screenshot of the article from <em>The Guardian</em> and said that he was just “happy I was there to help”.</p> <blockquote class="twitter-tweet" data-lang="en"> <p dir="ltr">Just Happy I Was There To Help<a href="https://t.co/613bYU1ZRi">https://t.co/613bYU1ZRi</a> <a href="https://t.co/TlrtXY7RRm">pic.twitter.com/TlrtXY7RRm</a></p> — Dean Whyte (@DeanWhyte8) <a href="https://twitter.com/DeanWhyte8/status/1201791740409241600?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">December 3, 2019</a></blockquote> <p>A British Airways flight attendant said that they had “never seen anything like that before”.</p> <p> </p>

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"She tried to kill us”: Mother who adopted 9-year-old girl claims her new daughter is really a 22-year-old “sociopath”

<p>It sounds far-fetched but it’s an unfortunate reality for a family in Indiana, USA as they realised that the child that they adopted was really a 22-year-old woman.</p> <p>Kristine Barnett and her husband Michael are alleged to have dumped Ukrainian-born Natalia Grace at an apartment in Indiana in 2013 before heading to Canada and having contact cut off by Natalia.</p> <p>In an exclusive interview with<span> </span><a rel="noopener" href="https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-7479061/Mom-claims-Ukrainian-daughter-9-adopted-really-22-year-old-dwarfism.html" target="_blank">The Daily Mail</a>, Kristine has outlined the horrors of living with Natalia.</p> <p>“She would make statements and draw pictures saying she wanted to kill family members, roll them up in a blanket and put them in the backyard,” she told DailyMailTV.</p> <p>‘She was standing over people in the middle of the night. You couldn't go to sleep. We had to hide all the sharp objects.</p> <p>“I saw her putting chemicals, bleach, Windex something like that, in my coffee and I asked her, what are you doing? She said, ‘I am trying to poison you."</p> <p>“The media is painting me to be a child abuser but there is no child here,’ said Kristine through tears.</p> <p>“Natalia was a woman. She had periods. She had adult teeth. She never grew a single inch, which would happen even with a child with dwarfism.</p> <p>“The doctors all confirmed she was suffering a severe psychological illness only diagnosed in adults.”</p> <p>Natalia also had some odd behaviour issues, according to Kristine.</p> <p>“She was jumping out of moving cars. She was smearing blood on mirrors. She was doing things you could never imagine a little child doing.”</p> <p>The couple had just 24 hours to complete the emergency adoption and had no hesitation in accepting Natalia into their family of now five.</p> <p>There were few details of Natalia’s background, as she needed a home immediately, but she did have a Ukrainian birth certificate reading that she was born on September 4, 2003 and had been in the US for two years.</p> <p>Natalia also needed a home immediately as her previous adoptive parents had given her up for undisclosed reasons.</p> <p>“Out of compassion for their situation, I didn’t want to press them for information on what had gone wrong,” Kristine went on.</p> <p>As the family got closer, Kristine started to realise that something wasn’t adding up.</p> <p>“The boys rushed into the water and Natalia wanted to be carried into the ocean. Michael and I were physically exhausted, so we asked her to wait just a few minutes,” she said.</p> <p>“With that she just got up and ran into the ocean. I remember looking at Mike and thinking, what’s going on? She couldn’t walk a second ago and now she just got up and ran.”</p> <p>There were other circumstances that had the family questioning whether Natalia was who she said she was, as she didn’t have any traces of a foreign accent and when the family asked a Ukrainian friend to speak their native language, Natalia couldn’t understand a word.</p> <p>As Natalia’s mental health declined sharply, she was placed in a state-run psychiatric unit as she allegedly posed a risk to others. It was here that she confessed to being older than she appeared.</p> <p>A clinical therapist in January 2012 said that Natalia claimed to them that she was 18. The Barnett family successfully applied to Marion County Superior Court in Indianapolis to have Natalia’s age corrected so she could receive the help she needed as an adult.</p> <p>Kristine and her husband rented an apartment for Natalia and helped her get a social security number as well as apply for benefits.</p> <p>The Barnett family headed to Canada as their older son Jacob was attending the Perimeter Institute for Theoretical Physics, and left Natalia behind in the rented apartment.</p> <p>It was as they were in Canada that Natalia vanished.</p> <p>"The last time we spoke on the phone, she told me she was cooking spaghetti for her new family,” said Kristine.</p> <p>"I did not abandon anyone. I went to Canada to further my son's education. These accusations are absolutely devastating."</p> <p><em>Photo credits: Kristine Barnett and <a rel="noopener" href="https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-7479061/Mom-claims-Ukrainian-daughter-9-adopted-really-22-year-old-dwarfism.html" target="_blank">DailyMail.com</a></em></p>

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Worth reading: Tried and true manuals for success

<p><em>The Conversation Canada asked our academic authors to share some recommended reading. In this instalment, Michael Armstrong, an operations research professor at Brock University who has written for</em> The Conversation Canada <em>on topics as diverse as <a href="https://theconversation.com/how-well-do-students-perform-when-retaking-courses-82559">student success rates in school</a> to the <a href="https://theconversation.com/picketts-charge-what-modern-mathematics-teaches-us-about-civil-war-battle-78982">mathematics of Civil War battle</a>, shares the top three books that he recommends for guidance on making the most of your career at any age.</em></p> <p>Here are three books that I often recommend to my students and friends. All are practical guides that have stood the test of time. The first will help you start your career, the second will help you succeed in it and the third will help you profit from it.</p> <p><strong><em>What Color Is Your Parachute? </em></strong><strong><em>A Practical Manual for Job-Hunters and Career-Changers </em></strong>by Richard N. Bolles (Non-fiction. Paperback, 2016 and others. Ten Speed Press.)</p> <p>This is a popular guide for job seekers. Like most such books, it gives advice on the mechanical details of job hunting, such as good ways to organize a resume.</p> <p>More importantly — and less commonly — it helps people figure out what they want to do with their lives. What kind of career will best fit your personality? Will you be happier working with people or with data?</p> <p>The book is an obvious fit for graduates seeking their first job. But it could also help teenagers choose the best education to pursue after high school, or adults trying to make their careers more satisfying.</p> <p><strong><em>The Ropes to Skip and the Ropes to Know: </em><em>Studies in Organizational Theory and Behavior </em></strong>by R. Richard Ritti, Steve Levy and Neil Toucher (Non-fiction. Hardcover, 2016 and others. Chicago Business Press.)</p> <p>Don’t let the academic-sounding subtitle deter you. This is a highly readable book. It consists of short stories or parables that illustrate how people behave and interact at work.</p> <p>Every workplace has an official structure and formal rules. But workplaces contain people with individual personalities and relationships. This book will help you understand the unofficial structures and unwritten rules, before they get you into trouble.</p> <p>I often recommend <em>The Ropes to Skip and the Ropes to Know</em> to people starting their first job. It would be especially good for someone promoted to their first management or supervisory role.</p> <p><strong><em>The Wealthy Barber: </em><em>The Common Sense Guide to Successful Financial Planning </em></strong>by David Chilton (Non-fiction. Paperback, 2002 and others. Stoddart.)</p> <p>Once you receive your first paycheque, you’ll want to read this beginner’s guide to personal finance. It covers the basics of investing: retirement savings, mutual funds, etc. It also introduces a lot of other financial topics: savings versus spending, insurance that you do or don’t need, and so on.</p> <p>This probably isn’t the only financial guide you’ll ever need, but it is a good first one. I typically recommend it to recent graduates starting their careers. But it also suits mature adults dealing with money issues for the first time, perhaps after the death or divorce of their spouse.</p> <p>Have an enjoyable and productive season!<!-- Below is The Conversation's page counter tag. Please DO NOT REMOVE. --><img style="border: none !important; box-shadow: none !important; margin: 0 !important; max-height: 1px !important; max-width: 1px !important; min-height: 1px !important; min-width: 1px !important; opacity: 0 !important; outline: none !important; padding: 0 !important; text-shadow: none !important;" src="https://counter.theconversation.com/content/82305/count.gif?distributor=republish-lightbox-basic" alt="The Conversation" width="1" height="1" /><!-- End of code. If you don't see any code above, please get new code from the Advanced tab after you click the republish button. The page counter does not collect any personal data. More info: http://theconversation.com/republishing-guidelines --></p> <p><em>Written by <span>Michael J. Armstrong, Associate professor of operations research, Brock University</span>. Republished with permission of </em><a href="https://theconversation.com/worth-reading-tried-and-true-manuals-for-success-82305"><em>The Conversation</em></a><em>. </em></p>

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Aussie woman opens up about cruise ship horror: “My partner tried to push me overboard”

<p>A woman, who was lucky to survive a five-day cruise, has bravely discussed the terrifying moment her partner attempted to throw her off their balcony.</p> <p>Kim and her partner David James Fysh, 46, saved up to cruise from Sydney to Tasmania on Radiance of the Seas for almost a year before they embarked on their holiday.</p> <p>However, less than 48 hours after departing on October 16, their getaway quickly turned into a nightmare, reported <em style="font-weight: inherit;">A Current Affair.</em></p> <p>Kim claimed David was uninterested in the cruise they had worked so hard to experience, focusing his time on drinking and sleeping instead.</p> <p>She also alleged that her fiancé packed Valium for the cruise.</p> <p>After growing frustrated by his disinterest, Kim confronted him before the pair got into an argument about him wasting the holiday.</p> <p>Kim then said the argument took a violent turn.</p> <p>“He locked me outside on the balcony and pulled the room out looking for them (Valium) and then when he couldn't find them, he came outside on to the balcony,” she said.</p> <p>“Had me by the back of my arms and was trying to push me overboard and I was just screaming.”</p> <p>When asked if she thought she was going to die during the <em style="font-weight: inherit;">ACA </em>interview, Kim replied with an emotional: “Yep.”</p> <p>“I was screaming, 'Please don't kill me, please don't kill me, please don't throw me overboard.’”</p> <p>Remembering the terrifying ideal, Kim said her partner didn’t say much as he allegedly held her over the balcony.</p> <p>She explained that she managed to free herself because she was wearing a silky robe and “slipped out of his grip like a ninja”.</p> <p>After escaping from her attacker, she locked him on the balcony and called cruise staff immediately.</p> <p>David was arrested and charged with attempted murder after the cruise docked in Hobart.</p> <p>Police allege that David tried to throw Kim from the cruise balcony by grabbing her under the arms at 3:30am.</p> <p>Kim claimed that passengers in nearby rooms heard her piercing screams.</p> <p>In the emotional interview, Kim said her relationship with David had been volatile and she felt guilty she let the abuse get as far as it did.</p> <p>David pleaded not guilty at Hobart Magistrates Court on October 19 and bail was not granted.</p> <p>In February, the case will appear before the Supreme Court.</p>

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The moment Emma Thompson tried to sneak a kiss from Prince William

<p>Oscar-winning actress Emma Thompson has received one of Britain’s highest awards and used the opportunity to playfully joke with the second-in-line to the throne, Prince William.</p> <p>On Wednesday, the <em style="font-weight: inherit;">Love Actually </em>star was invited to Buckingham Palace to be appointed a Dame Commander of the Oder of the British Empire.</p> <p>The honour, which is the female equivalent of a knighthood, was made even more special as it was given to her by her long-time friend.</p> <p>Recalling the ceremony to reporters, Thompson said: “I love Prince William. I’ve known him since he was little, and we just sniggered at each other. I said, ‘I can’t kiss you, can I?’ And he said, ‘No, don’t!'”</p> <blockquote class="twitter-tweet" data-lang="en"> <p dir="ltr">Congratulations to Dame Emma Thompson! Today at Buckingham Palace, the actor received her Damehood from The Duke for services to Drama. <a href="https://t.co/1gSfaawBii">pic.twitter.com/1gSfaawBii</a></p> — Kensington Palace (@KensingtonRoyal) <a href="https://twitter.com/KensingtonRoyal/status/1060200145969733632?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">November 7, 2018</a></blockquote> <p>Although Thompson didn’t receive a kiss from the prince, she praised the royal father-of-three for all his accomplishments.</p> <p>“He’s looking wonderful and doing so well,” the actress, who wore sneakers and a suit to the ceremony, commented.</p> <p>“He said, ‘This day isn’t about me, it’s about you.'”</p> <p>“It’s really lovely because I’ve always loved the boys, and I’ve always been a long-term correspondent with their dad,” Thompson added. </p> <p>“It’s a very lovely feeling.”</p> <p>After Prince Charles went through his divorce with Princess Diana in 1996, Thompson wrote him several letters to lift his spirits.</p> <p>“I would get periodical messages from the boys that look after him at Highgrove saying: ‘[Could you] drop him a note because he’s a bit low in the water,’ so I’d pick up my pen and write as funny a letter as I could think of,” Thompson revealed in the book <em style="font-weight: inherit;">Charles: The Heart of a King.</em></p>

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Secret documents reveal teen tried to kill Queen in NZ

<p>Declassified secret documents have confirmed an assassination attempt on Queen Elizabeth II in Dunedin, and potentially implicate New Zealand police in a "cover-up".</p> <p>On October 14, 1981, teen criminal Christopher John Lewis hid in a deserted toilet cubicle on the fifth floor of a building overlooking the Royal parade. He wanted to assassinate the Queen but his gunshot missed. Incredibly, although the 17-year-old was arrested he was never charged with attempted murder and media, who heard the shot, were told it was a falling sign.</p> <p>Why?</p> <p>The Security Intelligence Service (SIS) has now released previously classified information to <em>Stuff</em> after <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><a href="https://www.stuff.co.nz/national/crime/99760154/the-snowman-and-the-queen-the-story-of-a-kiwi-teen-terrorist-and-wouldbe-assassin" target="_blank"><em>The Snowman and the Queen</em> series</a></strong></span> was published in January.</p> <p>The SIS documents include the file <em>Possible Attempt on the Life of Queen Elizabeth II by National Imperial Guerilla Army</em>, which is dated November 9, 1981 and marked 'SECRET'. </p> <p>The documents, released under an Official Information Act (OIA) request to the intelligence agency, reveal unnamed SIS officials were investigating the assassination attempt, after initial media reports questioning whether an attempt had been made.</p> <p>The documents confirm police officers and members of the public heard "what they took to be a shot".</p> <p>Police initially downplayed the incident, telling local and international media the sound of what appeared to be a gunshot was, in fact, a council sign falling over.</p> <p>It was later revealed the then 17-year-old Christopher Lewis <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><a href="https://www.stuff.co.nz/national/crime/99877641/the-snowman-and-the-queen--chapter-two-the-shot" title="">fired a shot</a></strong></span> as the Queen exited her motorcade at the Otago Museum on the afternoon of October 14, 1981.</p> <p>An SIS official was given access to police reports, including interview notes, after the arrest of Christopher Lewis and two of his teenage off-siders.</p> <p>The newly released SIS file references "two persons who may well be fictitious whom Lewis would only describe as Snowman and Polar Bear respectively".</p> <p>According to Lewis' police interviews he commanded the National Imperial Guerilla Army, alongside a higher ranker person known as the Polar Bear while The Snowman was the leader who ordered the fledgling army<a href="https://www.stuff.co.nz/national/crime/99877641/the-snowman-and-the-queen--chapter-two-the-shot"> <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>"to terrorise Dunedin".</strong></span></a></p> <p>While police expressed doubts over Lewis' claims over the existence of the shadowy pair, the SIS investigated the allegations.</p> <p>SIS had "no knowledge" of the <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><a href="https://www.stuff.co.nz/national/crime/99877641/the-snowman-and-the-queen--chapter-two-the-shot" title="">National Imperial Guerilla Army</a> </strong></span>organisation, and did not believe it was linked to the right-wing National Front movement, which was pro-monarchy.</p> <p>"They are a figment of my imagination," Lewis later conceded to police.</p> <p>The SIS documents appear to vindicate claims made by Tom Lewis, a former Dunedin detective who went public about the assassination attempt in 1997.</p> <p>After he <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><a href="https://www.stuff.co.nz/national/crime/99979652/the-snowman-and-the-queen--chapter-three-the-coverup.html" target="_blank">went public</a></strong></span> it prompted another memo from SIS - also released under the OIA - to an undisclosed recipient. </p> <p>"(Christopher) Lewis did indeed originally intend to assassinate the Queen, however did not have a suitable vantage point from which to fire, nor a sufficiently high-powered rifle for the range from the target," the memo concluded.</p> <p>Tom Lewis, who is no relation to Christopher Lewis doubted the complete truth would ever come out.</p> <p>"It will be like ripping the scab off . . . so much pus would come out."</p> <p><img width="435" height="253" src="https://static3.stuff.co.nz/snowman1-b91dd7dc.jpg" style="display: block; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"/></p> <p style="text-align: center;"><em>A memo confirming Christopher Lewis did intend to kill the Queen.</em></p> <p><strong>CLASSIFIED INFORMATION</strong></p> <p>The released information, which included a hand-drawn map, confirmed the shot was heard in the vicinity of Dunedin's Walsh St, metres from the royal motorcade.</p> <p>That supports statements by two witnesses - including a former soldier -  who told <em>Stuff</em> they heard a shot nearby.</p> <p><img width="446" height="259" src="https://static3.stuff.co.nz/snowman4-2e09a554.jpg" style="display: block; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"/></p> <p style="text-align: center;"><em>A hand-drawn map confirms the shot was heard near Walsh St, metres from where the Queen travelled. </em></p> <p>The documents noted the same unnamed SIS official asked questions of the Police Terrorist Intelligence Unit (PTIU) following media reports of the shot.</p> <p>According to the SIS file, Lewis gave a "long meandering story" to police about his self-styled army, known as National Imperial Guerilla Army, which he used to keep his accomplices in line "to feed his own delusions".</p> <p>It took police some time to get the full story from Lewis, but when coupled with the multitude of charges, "the following points appeared certain", the SIS document said.</p> <p>Those include: </p> <p>- The possibility a firearm was <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><a href="https://www.stuff.co.nz/national/crime/99877641/the-snowman-and-the-queen--chapter-two-the-shot" target="_blank">discharged in the vicinity of the Queen</a> </strong></span>was highly likely although it may not have been aimed directly at the Queen or the royal party.</p> <p>- The police received a .22 rifle with a discharged cartridge in the breech from the fifth floor of the Adams Building as a result of Lewis' admissions.</p> <p>- Lewis possibly fired a shot at a nearby road at the time in question, although he does say that he changed his mind about wanting to hurt anyone.</p> <p>- The angle of fire and range would have made it difficult for the Queen to have been a target. Buildings screened her from the firing point except on four occasions of about two seconds duration.</p> <p>- Police ballistic tests subsequently found the bullet's trajectory was more likely to have passed high above the crowd than to have been fired at a road. Lewis will not countenance this suggestion.</p> <p><strong>MEDIA MISLED?</strong></p> <p>The earliest SIS memo was written after Christopher Lewis appeared on initial armed robbery and burglary charges, and while his accomplices were bailed he was remanded in custody.</p> <p>"Current police investigations into the shots have been conducted discreetly and most media representatives probably have the impression that the noise was caused by a firework of some description," the report said.</p> <p>"There is a worry, however, that in court the press may make the connections between the date of the offence and the Queen's visit."</p> <p>Former news editor at Dunedin radio station 4XO, Allan Dick, recalled being called into a meeting with a high ranking detective who said reports of a shot being fired were not true.</p> <p>"We all left that meeting more mystified about what had happened," Dick said.</p> <p>"I have no doubt the matter was covered-up, the cops were embarrassed - they didn't want the media to know and we got embarrassed that we allowed ourselves to be snowballed to such a degree."</p> <p><img width="417" height="242" src="https://static3.stuff.co.nz/15-dp-lewis962-1-68085563.jpg" class="NSImage_photoborder DT_NSImage_photoborder" style="display: block; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"/></p> <p style="text-align: center;"><em>Christopher Lewis pictured in December 1996, less than a year before his death.</em></p> <p>Tom Lewis said despite the initial "push from journalists", the latest tranche of released documents confirmed police <a href="https://www.stuff.co.nz/national/crime/99979652/the-snowman-and-the-queen--chapter-three-the-coverup.html" target="_blank">wanted the matter to disappear</a> from the outset.</p> <p>"Once you start to cover-up, you then have to keep covering up the cover-up," Tom Lewis said.</p> <p>The documents revealed that while the police investigation was ongoing, police did not intend to charge Christopher Lewis with anything more than unlawful possession and/or discharge of a firearm.</p> <p>That revelation stunned Tom Lewis, who said the teen was facing a charge of treason, and then attempted treason.</p> <p>"We knew we would get home on attempted treason."</p> <p>Those close to the case alleged political interference came into play over fears the country would lose future royal tours due to the security lapse.</p> <p>After the incident police told media that Christopher Lewis, who was never charged with treason or attempted treason, shot at a road. </p> <p>He was sentenced to three years jail.</p> <p>Christopher Lewis went on to commit a string of armed robberies, sparked a mass police manhunt, was given a taxpayer-funded holiday and was then charged with murder.</p> <p>He <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><a href="https://www.stuff.co.nz/national/crime/100176797/the-snowman-and-the-queen--chapter-five-the-end" target="_blank">electrocuted himself</a></strong></span> in his Mt Eden prison cell while on remand on September 23, 1997.</p> <p>After being approached by <em>Stuff</em> about claims of a cover-up, a police spokesman said: "Given the interest in this historic matter, the Police Commissioner Mike Bush has asked the Deputy Commissioner National Operations, Mike Clement, to oversee an examination by current investigation staff of the relevant case file.  </p> <p>"Given the passage of time, it is anticipated this examination of the old file and its associated material will take some time. NZ Police will share the outcome of this examination once it has been completed."</p> <div> <p><strong><em><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><a href="https://www.stuff.co.nz/national/crime/99760154/the-snowman-and-the-queen-the-story-of-a-kiwi-teen-terrorist-and-wouldbe-assassin" target="_blank">The Snowman and the Queen is a Stuff series</a></span> looking at the life and crimes of Christopher John Lewis, a self-styled teen terrorist and trained "ninja" whose bizarre criminal antics kept police busy from his school days until his strange suicide in prison at age 33.</em></strong></p> </div> <div> <div class="NSImage"> <p><strong><em>The series was meant to be five parts but newly declassified information meant we produced a sixth chapter. </em></strong></p> </div> </div> <p><em>Written by Hamish McNeilly. Republished with permission of <strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><a href="https://www.stuff.co.nz/national/crime/101794948/the-snowman-and-the-queen-declassified-nz-intelligence-service-documents-confirm-assassination-attempt-on-queen">Stuff.co.nz.</a></span></strong></em></p>

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We tried home exchange and loved it!

<p><em><strong>Vicki Jacks and her husband first tried a home exchange a few years ago and they haven’t looked back! Here, Vicki shares the secret to making a home exchange program work for retirees looking to travel the world.</strong></em></p> <p>Well before I retired I came across an article about home exchange while sitting in the waiting room for a routine mammogram. I was immediately taken with the idea, so I ripped it out and took it home to show my husband.</p> <p>Fast-forward a few years and by this time we’d both retired and relocated from Perth to Melbourne.     We decided that our motto would be to travel and do as much as we could while we were fairly young and able. We’d both worked all our adult lives and now was the time to have some adventures. </p> <p>Realistically we didn’t have the money to travel to far-flung places and so the home exchange idea was revisited.</p> <p>We briefly researched various websites and decided on one that seemed like it had been going for many years and had large numbers of listings in various parts of the world. We paid our subscription for a year, entered photos and a full description of our home and our area and sat back to see what would happen. We didn’t have to wait long!</p> <p>Very soon we began to get offers for exchanges and plans began to evolve. Our first exchange was to a lovely little terrace house in Edinburgh for the month of December. All our (adult) kids were elsewhere that Christmas so it was a perfect chance to try something different and the exchange person was happy for my sister and brother in law from Western Australia to join us.</p> <p>It was great fun to experience Edinburgh at Christmas and especially New Year, to explore all the museums and galleries, to drive out to nearby places (a car was included in the exchange) and to be able to head home to our warm and cosy house each night.</p> <p style="text-align: center;"><img width="480" height="640" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/7267187/in-text-one.jpg" alt="In Text One (1)"/></p> <p style="text-align: center;"><em>Our ‘London home’.</em></p> <p>Since then we’ve spent two wonderful weeks in Ballinskelligs on the Ring of Kerry (again our exchanges were happy for friends to join us) where we explored this magical part of Ireland, did a fair amount of walking and spent many hours at the local music festival and of course, the pubs. Following this we had three weeks in a lovely home in Essex where we explored the fascinating muddy, “smuggler” coastline, quaint villages, historical Colchester and Chelmsford and we were able to easily commute from the local train station into London for shows and concerts. </p> <p>The following year, we returned to “our” Edinburgh house for two incredible weeks of the Edinburgh Festival when we attended four performances a day every day! This was truly a bucket list item!</p> <p>We’ve spent two glorious late autumn weeks in Noosa. While our friends and family in Melbourne were rugging up, we were swimming every day and enjoying our four-bedroom home with pool. This exchange also welcomed us having friends come to stay and a car to explore further afield. </p> <p>In 2017 we completed four exchanges – a three week exchange to a four bedroom, three bathroom home in London (we never did get to the end of our “Museums and galleries list”), a 2.5 week exchange to a great funky 19th floor apartment in the middle of Berlin, a week in a large ranch style home in Phoenix, Arizona and a two week stay in a lovely eclectic home in wonderful Boulder, Colorado where were able to use the exchangees car to explore the surrounding mountains and where we woke up one morning to find it had snowed. </p> <p>One aspect of our home exchange site is “hospitality exchange” and we’ve tried that in Galloway, Scotland. Our hosts are now our good friends and we catch up with them every year when they come to Melbourne to visit family.</p> <p>There are some ‘cons’ to this type of travel. You have to like organizing! Organising the actual exchange takes time – sending requests, answering emails promptly, researching if this is actually somewhere you want to visit and so on. Once you have the exchange you have to be prepared to organize your own holiday, this would not suit everyone. We research the area in advance quite a bit to find guided walking tours and search out museums, galleries and concerts. We’ve booked tickets (Berlin Philharmonic, London Symphony, West End Theatre etc) well in advance but we’ve also had great luck with ‘last minute” tickets as we’re not restricted to one particular night.</p> <p style="text-align: center;"><img width="480" height="640" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/7267186/in-text-two.jpg" alt="In Text Two (3)"/></p> <p style="text-align: center;"><em>Sampling some of Berlin’s local delicacies.</em></p> <p>We agree to simultaneous and non-simultaneous exchanges and this works well in our favour as we can be flexible. We’ve found that most offers from the UK and Europe are for our summer and we don’t want to experience too many winters, so the flexibility works well. We’ve found it challenging to arrange USA and Canadian exchanges as Australia seems so far away to many people, even if they have listed “anywhere, anytime”!</p> <p>We have not experienced any negative aspects at all in the 5 or so years we have been involved in home exchanges.  We have always returned to a perfectly cleaned and wonderfully tidy home.  Our next trips are to Washington DC, a village between Bath and Bristol and Kilkenny in Ireland. </p> <p>When you’re only paying the airfare and no hotel costs – what’s not to like?</p> <p>Have you tried home exchange? What was your experience like? Do you have any tips to share? Let us know in the comments below.</p> <p><em>Image credits: Vicki Jacks</em></p>

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Angelina Jolie reveals how she tried to save her marriage to Brad Pitt

<p>Angelina Jolie has revealed that she tried to save her marriage to ex-husband Brad Pitt by working on the film <em>By the Sea</em> together.</p> <p>The couple met while working on <em>Mr &amp; Mrs Smith</em> in 2005 and have six children together. They hadn’t worked tougher again until the 2015 film about a marriage in crisis, which Jolie also wrote and directed.</p> <p>“We had met working together and we worked together well,” Jolie told The Hollywood Reporter’s podcast, Awards Chatter. “I wanted us to do some serious work together ... I thought it would be a good way for us to communicate.”</p> <p>However, Jolie said working on the film with Pitt may not have helped their marriage.</p> <p> “In some ways it was, and in some ways we learned some things,” she said. “But there was a heaviness probably during that situation that carried on and it wasn’t because of the film.</p> <p>“It was something that we were dealing [with] ... things happen for different reasons, and things ... why did I write that exact piece? Why did we feel that way when we made it? I’m not sure.</p> <p>“A piece of art can be something that’s healing or something that’s difficult,” added Jolie. “I don’t know. I’m glad we did that film because we did explore something together. Whatever it was maybe it didn’t solve certain things, but we did communicate something that needed to be communicated to each other.”</p> <p>Jolie also spoke about the difficulties of divorce while promoting her most recent directorial effort, <em>First They Killed My Father.</em></p> <p>“Sometimes maybe it appears I am pulling it all together. But really I am just trying to get through my days.”</p> <p>“I don’t enjoy being single. It’s not something I wanted,” she said in an interview with The Telegraph. “There are no upsides, there’s nothing nice about it. It’s just hard.”</p>

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