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"Am I being too sensitive?": Woman's dilemma after partner forgets 60th birthday

<p>A woman has shared her dilemma on how to approach her partner of 30 years, after he forgot her 60th birthday. </p> <p>"It's my 60th birthday today, and my partner of 30 years has not acknowledged it. Should I tell him?" she titled her post on Reddit. </p> <p>"It's my actual birthday today, and whilst we have planned a big party for next weekend, when I woke up this morning I expected a 'Happy Birthday!' and a smile," she continued. </p> <p>"I didn't get anything. He started my coffee but he does that almost every morning.</p> <p>"At first I thought maybe he forgot but now I am thinking that he thinks he doesn't have to say anything because we are having a big party this weekend. </p> <p>"Am I being too sensitive? Should I tell him? If so, how?" she asked in her post. </p> <p>Hundreds of Reddit users took to the comments to share their thoughts on how to approach the situation, with a few sharing crafty solutions of their own. </p> <p>"I'd make a joke of it. 'I can't believe they moved my birthday!' Or 'I saw on the TV we should ask easy questions to check for dementia- I'll ask you first, when's my birthday?'" one user playfully suggested. </p> <p>"I'm going to say the absolute minimum I'd expect for ANY birthday is my wife wishing me a Happy Birthday. Don't let it fester and ruin your day - just ask him about it" another added. </p> <p>One user saw the bright side of things and said:  "He's handed you the best birthday present of all - the opportunity to use this against him for the next twenty years.</p> <p>"I'd be rubbing my hands with glee. Happy Birthday!" </p> <p>"Happy Birthday. Go out and buy a large cake. Eat it all yourself. Nobody need ever know" to which she responded: "there is a Costco not that far away. Go big or go home." </p> <p>Another Redditor came up with an elaborate plan on how she could get her partner's attention. </p> <p>"Purchase this 'Acknowledge Me' t-shirt of WWE wrestle Roman Reigns. Then write 'Birthday' on a piece of card and use some tape to stick on the t-shirt. 'Acknowledge Me Birthday.' Then just wear it around the house," they said. </p> <p>The woman was onboard with the plan, but luckily she didn't need to apply any of their crafty solutions and shared an update. </p> <p>"He just came up to my home office and gave me a big hug, admitting he had forgotten because he was so focussed on both work and next weekend's party," she wrote. </p> <p>"He apologised sheepishly, which was exactly the best outcome possible. Now I have both my birthday acknowledged as well as a fine story and/or bit of ammo to be saved for another day.</p> <p>"So there you go. I've cancelled the 'acknowledge me' t-shirt order, and shall now share my Costco cake with him instead of eating it from across the table, glaring.</p> <p>"Thank you everyone for the very fine passive aggressive suggestions which made me smile. Much appreciated!"</p> <p><em>Image: Getty</em></p> <p> </p>

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"Thoughtful and sensitive": The Crown's plan to recreate Diana's death

<p><em>The Crown</em> have announced that they will be covering the death of Princess Diana in the upcoming season of the show, saying they will be handling the recreation "carefully". </p> <p>The Netflix drama based on the story of the royal family will be returning later this year for season six, which is expected to be the final season of the show. </p> <p>The final season of <em>The Crown</em> is set to take place between the years of 1997 to the early 2000s, including a delicate recreation of the death of the late Princess of Wales. </p> <p>Producer of the show Suzanne Mackie spoke of the upcoming season at the Edinburgh International Conference Centre, saying it took a long and careful conversation to reach the decision to cover Diana's death on the show. </p> <p>She said, "The show might be big and noisy, but we're not. We're thoughtful people and we're sensitive people."</p> <p>"And so there was a very, very careful, long, long, long conversation about how we do it – and I hope, you know, the audience will judge it in the end, but I think it's been delicately, thoughtfully recreated."</p> <p>Australian actress Elizabeth Debicki will be returning as Diana after her portrayal of the late Princess in season five. </p> <p>Mackie said Debicki was an "extraordinary actress" who treated the subject carefully.</p> <p>"She was so thoughtful, considerate and loved Diana," Mackie said.</p> <p>"So there was a huge amount of respect from us all. I hope that's evident when you see it."</p> <p>Season six of the show is also set to include the early days of Prince William and Kate Middleton's love story, beginning when they met while at St Andrew's University in Scotland in 2001. </p> <p><em>Image credits: Getty Images</em></p>

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New censorship target for "sensitivity readers"

<p>Enid Blyton is known around the world, across all generations, as the author behind the children’s classics <em>The Magic Faraway Tree</em>, <em>The Adventures of the Wishing Tree</em>, <em>Noddy</em>, and <em>The Famous Five</em>. </p> <p>And now, the late Blyton is also known as the latest author to face edits and rewrites at the hands of her publisher, Hodder Children’s Books. They have confirmed that they will be carrying out the work to remove “offensive terms” as part of their “ongoing process”. </p> <p>Such changes have made the news already in 2023 - people had a lot to say about proposed edits to Roald Dahl’s books. Edits like those to Dahl’s work, dubbed by critics as “woke”, see publishers rewriting older texts after feedback from sensitivity readers, and removing certain terms that are deemed to be offensive to modern audiences. </p> <p>According to a report by <em>The Australian</em>, an audiobook version of one of <em>The Famous Five</em> books, a collection of short stories, has undergone edits to remove the words “idiot”, “a**”, and “shut up”.</p> <p>One story sees cousins Julian, Dick, George, Anne, and their canine companion Timmy, investigate lights on the island - Kirrin Island - by George’s home. In a bid to get their adventure started, George wakes her cousin Anne, and Anne tells her “oh George, don’t be an a**.”</p> <p>In the new edition, Anne simply says “oh George.” </p> <p>Meanwhile, in the original text, Anne’s big brother - and George’s cousin - Julian, at one point tells George to “shut up” and “be sensible”. Now, Julian only tells her “George, be sensible.” </p> <p>Additionally, two other instances of characters being told “don’t be an idiot” have been removed.</p> <p>Those particular phrases still feature in a Hodder Children’s Books e-book version of the text, though “a**” remains unseen, substituted in this case with “idiot”. </p> <p>The publishing house previously faced backlash in 2010 when they put out “contemporary” adaptations of Blyton’s books, replacing the likes of “headmistress” with “teacher”.</p> <p>These revisions were seemingly put to rest when Hodder Children’s Books declared that they weren’t working. </p> <p>“The feedback we have had six years on shows that the love for The Famous Five remains intact, and changing mother to mummy, pullover to jumper, was not required,” Anne McNeil, their publishing director, explained to The Guardian in 2016. “We want Enid Blyton’s legacy to go on. Millions of readers have learned to read with her.”</p> <p>However, as a 2023 statement reads, the publisher’s parent company - Hachette UK - consider the edit of Blyton’s books to be an “ongoing process”, as part of their “intention to keep Enid Blyton’s books and stories at the heart of every childhood, as they have been for generations.” </p> <p>“To do so, we work to ensure that there are no offensive terms in the books - changing words where the definition is unclear in context and therefore the usage is confusing, and where words have been used in an inappropriate or offensive sense - while retaining the original language as far as is possible,” a spokesperson for the company said. “This enables a very wide international audience of children to enjoy the books, while also understanding that they were written and set in the past.</p> <p>“In new editions, we do not change language for the sake of modernising it. We retain old-fashioned terms such as ‘bathing-suit’ and references to pre-decimal currency. The books’ period setting is part of their charm and is enjoyed by readers of all ages.</p> <p>“Any historic changes previously made to new editions, which come under the category of ‘modernisation’ in this context, have been or are being restored to the original text at the point of reprint.”</p> <p><em>Images: Getty</em></p>

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Prince Charles is "immensely sensitive" and ignoring Prince Harry

<p>Princess Diana's former voice coach, Stewart Pearce, has claimed the reason Prince Charles has had a hard time with Prince Harry's parenting criticisms is that Prince Charles is "immensely sensitive".</p> <p>Pearce revealed to US Weekly that the future king of England is a "very very shy man".</p> <p>“Prince Charles is a very, very shy man, a very sensitive and delicate man, but we see his public personality, but in private, he’s immensely sensitive,” he said.</p> <p>“When we’re sensitive, if we’re dealing with very strong, combustible emotion on the outside of us,” people tend to go into fight or flight.</p> <p>For example, when Princess Diana accused him of having an affair with Camilla Parker Bowles, “what he did was to shrink back and as a result of that became aloof,” Pearce explained. “Well, that doesn’t heal the challenge that’s taking place.”</p> <p>Pearce said that when reports broke about Prince Harry and Meghan being "troubled" by the 'lapse of contact", Pearce wasn't surprised as "that's what Charles does".</p> <p>“He can’t deal with it because of his sensitivity, so he hides. And what Harry’s trying to do is to heal that. Not out of umbrage, not out of anger or revenge or criticism or accusation…I felt that he was just somebody saying, ‘This is the way that it is, and this is why we want to make change.’”</p> <p>The comments that Pearce is referring to were made by Prince Harry on his Apple TV+ series with Oprah The Me You Can't See.</p> <p>“My father used to say to me when I was younger, he used to say to [Prince] William and I, ‘Well, it was like that for me, so it’s gonna be like that for you.’" he said.</p> <blockquote style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" class="instagram-media" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/p/B2bL_xMgwoL/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" data-instgrm-version="13"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"></div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"></div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"></div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"></div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"></div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;"><a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/p/B2bL_xMgwoL/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" target="_blank">A post shared by Clarence House (@clarencehouse)</a></p> </div> </blockquote> <p>"That doesn’t make sense. Just because you suffered, it doesn’t mean that your kids have to suffer. In fact, quite the opposite. If you suffered, do everything you can to make sure that whatever experiences, negative experiences that you had, you can make it right for your kids.”</p> <p>The conversation was said to leave Prince Charles "quite devastated" according to an insider who told <a href="https://www.vanityfair.com/style/2021/05/all-charles-has-wanted-is-for-harry-to-be-happy-can-this-father-son-relationship-ever-heal"><em>Vanity Fair.</em></a></p> <p>“He is such a gentle man and a dedicated father first and foremost. Knowing him, he’ll be feeling wretched and will take no joy or happiness in what’s going on within the family. But he will also want to seek a reconciliation. He is not vindictive at all, and he wants to make peace with Harry.”</p>

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Must end soon! The catch with time-limited sales tactics

<p>You may be getting a lot of emails offering you attractive discounts for a short period only. You may see flash sales or special deals that exhort you to “buy now” to avoid missing out.</p> <p>These digital “time-limited” offers, as they are called, are actually an old sales tactic.</p> <p>Those in the game of selling cars, for example, have long used the trick of alluding to that other very interested buyer who’s likely to return and snap up the bargain that’s before you. Telephone salespeople routinely offer deals that must be accepted during the call. Want time to think about it? Too bad.</p> <p>Online time-limited sales work on the same basis, but with technology taking it to a whole new level. Now retailers can bombard you with offers that are highly customised and super-short – a deal, perhaps, for something you might have been searching online for, and now available at a discount only until midnight.</p> <p>But for these tactics to work, our research suggests, requires finding a Goldilocks zone between being too pushy and not all. Time needs to be limited to deter you from searching elsewhere for a better deal. But paradoxically you also need enough time to convince yourself that buying is the best decision.</p> <p><strong>Experimenting with time limits</strong></p> <p>To find out what makes time-limited offers effective, I and my colleagues Robert Sugden and Mengjie Wang from the University of East Anglia <a href="https://doi.org/10.1016/j.jebo.2019.09.008">ran experiments</a> to see what leads people to accept or reject such offers.</p> <p>What we found is that these offers leverage risk-aversion. That is, the more you dislike risk, the more likely it is you will take the bait and buy now.</p> <p>In our experiments, using university students, we asked participants to complete 30 “price search” tasks. These tasks involved giving participants a “budget” and asking them to buy a product from six different price offers, shown to them sequentially with a few seconds between each. Any unspent money they got to keep.</p> <p>In half of the tasks they could consider all six offers before making their choice. In the other half, one of the first three offers would be time-limited, lapsing after either four or 12 seconds, which they could only accept before the next offer appeared.</p> <p>We also varied, when participants accepted a time-limited offer, between showing them no more offers or showing all remaining offers immediately. This was to test if greater feedback (increasing the possibility of regret) reduced the probability of a time-limited offer being chosen.</p> <p>Participants then did 15 related risk-taking tasks based on their choices in the tasks with time-limited options. This helped us determine what was going on with their choices.</p> <p><strong>A time paradox</strong></p> <p>Overall our results point to choosing time-limited options being linked to risk aversion. People generally prefer to secure a certain cake now over the uncertain possibility of a better cake in the future. We really do believe the old proverb that a bird in the hand is worth two in the bush.</p> <p>But there was a catch – and a big one. Somewhat paradoxically, people also need to think things through to jump on the time-limited offer. Time-limited offers were accepted more when participants had 12 seconds to decide rather than four seconds.</p> <p>This indicates people need enough time to reflect on the task to decide they are better off going for the “safe” deal.</p> <p>As we <a href="https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0167268119302823?via%3Dihub#sec0008">warn in our paper</a>, one should be wary about extrapolating too directly from laboratory behaviour to real markets, but our results suggest time-limited offers do not rely on limits to the consumers’ ability to make a rational decision. When they work it is because they are mechanisms of search deterrence – restricting the consumers’ opportunities to compare available offers – amplified by risk aversion.</p> <p>So businesses may be shooting themselves in the foot when they create offers that are too short, too pushy. If you’re like most people, you need time to reflect on the risk of not buying. If the offer is too fast and furious, you’re likely to just be turned off.<!-- Below is The Conversation's page counter tag. Please DO NOT REMOVE. --><img style="border: none !important; box-shadow: none !important; margin: 0 !important; max-height: 1px !important; max-width: 1px !important; min-height: 1px !important; min-width: 1px !important; opacity: 0 !important; outline: none !important; padding: 0 !important; text-shadow: none !important;" src="https://counter.theconversation.com/content/124897/count.gif?distributor=republish-lightbox-basic" alt="The Conversation" width="1" height="1" /><!-- End of code. If you don't see any code above, please get new code from the Advanced tab after you click the republish button. The page counter does not collect any personal data. 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How to tell the difference between sensitive and sensitised skin

<p>Shopping for skincare can be a difficult task to say the least. With so many options available, it can be hard to determine what is right for us. You may have noticed that many skin products claim to be for “sensitive skin”, but did you know that not all sensitive skin is the same? As a matter of fact, there are two types: sensitive skin, and sensitised skin.</p> <p>To put it simply, sensitive skin is something you’re born with. Sensitised skin on the other hand, is when different environmental factors have contributed to the weakening of your skin.</p> <p>Speaking to <a href="https://www.bhg.com.au/difference-between-sensitive-and-sensitised-skin?category=health"><em>Better Homes and Gardens</em></a>, Biologi dermal specialist Lucy Kuper says that sensitised skin is becoming more and more common throughout the world.</p> <p><strong>So, what is sensitised skin? </strong></p> <p>“Sensitised skin is caused by a damaged barrier function that leads to irritated nerve endings,” says Lucy. “It’s a more intermittent problem that flares up in line with specific lifestyle and environmental factors, or as a reaction to products.”</p> <p>Factors that contribute to the sensitising of your skin can include different products that you’re using on your face, the environment you live in, lack of sleep, or stress and chemicals. Extreme temperatures such as intense heat or freezing winds can also wreak havoc on your skin, making it more susceptible to damage over time.</p> <p><strong>What does sensitised skin look like?</strong></p> <p>“In most cases, you won’t need a professional to tell you if you have sensitised skin, you’ll feel it. It can reveal itself in the form of dryness, itchy patches, redness, bumps, flushed patches, irritation and stinging when you apply products,” says Lucy.</p> <p><strong>What is sensitive skin?</strong></p> <p>Sensitive skin is a part of your genetic makeup and is usually something you’re born with. Conditions such as eczema, rosacea and allergic reactions are more commonly associated with sensitive skin.</p> <p>“Sensitive skin refers to an underlying skin condition that is usually caused by a genetic predisposition, usually inherited,” says Lucy. “It’s often the result of a defect in the skin’s epidermal lipid barrier layer (the protective layer) which then causes irritants, and allergens to penetrate the skin and cause various reactions. A disturbed epidermal lipid barrier is an important component in several inflammatory skin diseases such as rosacea, atopic dermatitis, psoriasis and eczema.” </p> <p><strong>Can these two types of skin be fixed?</strong></p> <p>Due to sensitive skin being a genetic trait, there is little that can be done to “fix” it, however, there are ways to keep symptoms at bay. Keeping a close eye on your diet and using gentle skincare can help relieve the uncomfortable sensation that comes with having fragile skin.</p> <p>“Sensitised and sensitive skin can be both painful and uncomfortable but can be treated. Start by learning about the ingredients you’re using in your skincare products and avoid the ones that can cause irritation, or those containing fragrance. Try to avoid touching your face, as your hands can contain bacteria which can irritate already irritated skin. Exfoliate regularly to keep skin free from bacteria and use a serum daily to hydrate, nourish and protect cells deep within the dermal layer,” Lucy tells <a href="https://www.bhg.com.au/difference-between-sensitive-and-sensitised-skin?category=health"><em>Better Homes and Gardens</em></a><em>.</em></p>

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The reason behind your sensitive teeth

<p>If you are someone who experiences teeth sensitivity when enjoying a coffee or ice cream, you might be feeling quite frustrated. Sensitivity can stop you from enjoying your meals, as you are so worried about the pain that could come at any moment. </p> <p>But working out the cause of your sensitive teeth can play a major role in helping you to get rid of it.</p> <p><strong>Have you got gum disease?</strong></p> <p>When you have this, your gums start to recede, causing exposure to sensitive tissue underneath. You will also feel sensitivity if you have a tooth that is damaged and left untreated. Avoid this by ensuring good dental hygiene, brushing and flossing regularly, and having annual check ups at the dentist.</p> <p><strong>Are you a bit heavy handed when brushing and using the wrong products?</strong></p> <p>Use a soft bristled toothbrush and avoid putting too much pressure on your teeth when you brush as this affects your gums.  When it comes to mouthwash and toothpaste, avoid those with whitening agents if you already have sensitivity, as the alcohol content will make it worse.  Go for a sensitive toothpaste as these contain potassium nitrate, which will provide some relief.</p> <p><strong>Do you have enamel damage?</strong></p> <p>Things like teeth grinding, or using your teeth to open bottles (yikes!) can cause damage to the enamel on your teeth. You should also avoid bleaching your teeth if you already have issues with sensitivity.</p> <p><strong>Have you just had a procedure (or do you need one)?</strong></p> <p>If you’ve just had a trip to the dentist you can feel sensitive for weeks afterwards. This is perfectly normal but always ask your dentist if you feel it has been going on for some time.  If you know you need an extraction or crown, it’s very common to feel sensitivity in the lead up to the procedure.</p> <p><strong>Have you got any tips for dealing with teeth sensitivity that you’d like to share?</strong></p> <p><strong>RELATED LINKS:</strong></p> <p><a href="http://www.oversixty.co.nz/news/news/2016/01/pains-you-should-never-ignore/"><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em><strong>6 Pains you should never ignore</strong></em></span></a></p> <p> </p> <p><a href="http://www.oversixty.co.nz/health/body/2016/06/rules-for-denture-care/"><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><span>7 top tips for keeping your dentures like new</span></span></strong></a></p> <p><a href="http://www.oversixty.co.nz/health/body/2017/01/calcium-and-maintaining-your-bone-health/"><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em><strong>What you need to know about calcium and good bone health</strong></em></span></a></p>

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Tips to discuss sensitive money matters with family

<p>Money is a touchy subject, which can divide even the closest families. To protect your finances and preserve your close relationships, it’s crucial you tackle these conversations the right way. Here are five ways to display decorum when talking money with your family.</p> <p><strong>1. It all comes down to timing</strong></p> <p>There’s a time and place for everything, and so too is this true for discussions about money. Asking your adult children about their finances as they walk through the door or in the middle of dinner probably isn’t a good idea. Finding the right moment to broach the topic can be as hard as bringing it up itself, but it makes the conversation much easier. </p> <p><strong>2. Remember to have a conversation</strong></p> <p>Especially with adult children, it’s important to remember you’re having a conversation. While you may be well within your right to criticise, it can really send the conversation down the wrong path. Remember that you’re having a conversation. By avoiding the urge to criticise there’s a better change you can find common points you agree on.</p> <p><strong>3. Honesty and openness is key</strong></p> <p>Lies and deceit too often find their way into money matters regarding family members. If you’re being honest and open with your family members they’re more likely to reciprocate. Honest and openness is the key to success when discussing money.</p> <p><strong>4. Don’t expect to come to a resolution straight away</strong></p> <p>Good things take time, and you need to understand that you won’t be able to solve all your problems at once. By being mindful of the fact that you’re probably not going to come to a resolution straight away in your money talk, the conversation can be more practical, useful and help you come to a goal that is significantly more realistic.</p> <p><strong>5. Make sure you also listen</strong></p> <p>And, as is the key with any important conversation, when you’re talking money with family members it’s important to make sure you also listen. With both parties at pains to listen to each other, there’s a far better chance that the conversation will be constructive and the two of you will be able to come to a conclusion that meets everyone’s expectations. </p> <p>Have you ever had to have a tough conversation with a family member regarding money? What was your approach, and did you think it worked?</p> <p>Let us know in the comments.</p> <p><strong>Related links:</strong></p> <p><a href="/finance/legal/2016/07/how-to-talk-to-grandchildren-about-money/"><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em><strong>How to talk to grandchildren about money</strong></em></span></a></p> <p><a href="http://www.oversixty.co.nz/finance/legal/2016/06/3-things-you-must-do-before-moving-in-with-family/"><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em><strong>3 things you must do before moving in with family</strong></em></span></a></p> <p><a href="http://www.oversixty.co.nz/finance/legal/2016/04/guide-to-getting-approval-for-renovations/"><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em><strong>Guide to getting approval for renovations</strong></em></span></a></p>

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Tips for dealing with scalp sensitivity and dandruff

<p>Ah, the dreaded “D” word. Sure, it's not the most pleasant of topics, but those tiny white flecks are a pervasive problem for over 50 per cent of the population.</p> <p>Any number of things can cause dandruff – from metabolic and hormonal fluctuations, to stress, a weakened immune system, and seasonal change.</p> <p>The most common cause is the overgrowth of a natural, yeast-like fungus called malassezia, which intensifies the overproduction of skin cells.</p> <p>When skin cells begin to divide too rapidly, there's a build-up on the scalp, which leads to those unsightly and often itchy white flakes. </p> <p>The good news is, there's a number of ways to treat it. Change up your routine and go on wearing as much black as you want.</p> <p><strong>1. Change your shampoo</strong></p> <p>You could always go down the Head &amp; Shoulders route, but does anyone actually enjoy using that stuff?</p> <p>There are alternatives out there that won't dry out your hair, irritate your scalp, and will look infinitely prettier perched on your shower shelf. Choose a Sofium Lauryl Sulfate-free shampoo that's gentle on your scalp. </p> <p><strong>2. End with a rinse</strong></p> <p>Is there anything apple cider vinegar can't do? Treating your dandruff may be a matter of re-establishing the acid mantle on your scalp with a cheap and easy, flake-busting, shine-restoring rinse.</p> <p>Dilute one-part vinegar to four parts water and use it as a final rinse after washing. And don't worry if it gets everywhere – apple cider vinegar is great for your skin, too!</p> <p><strong>3. Treat yourself to a mask</strong></p> <p>Your scalp should be treated the same way you treat the rest of your skin – with regular conditioning and cleansing with chemical exfoliants. If it's feeling dry, itchy or sensitive, treat it to an anti-inflammatory, hydrating mask once a week.</p> <p>Apply chosen mask onto your scalp and massage it in, then leave for 20 minutes before washing it out thoroughly.</p> <p><strong>4. Avoid products with alcohol</strong></p> <p>Steer clear of hairsprays, perfumes and other products that contain alcohol, as they tend to further dry out and irritate your sensitive scalp. Also avoid heat styling tools as much as possible.</p> <p>This means air drying your hair and not reaching for the moisture-stripping blow dryer.</p> <p><strong>5. Change up your diet</strong></p> <p>Pay attention to your diet and avoid dandruff 'trigger' foods – anything spicy, sugary and rich in dairy, which can exacerbate the condition. Trichologists also recommend taking supplements such as borage oil and evening primrose oil, which increase your essential fatty acid levels and help to minimise dryness.</p> <p>Fermented foods, such as kimchi and kombucha, are also beneficial, as they work to counter the overproduction of yeast.</p> <p><strong>6. Take a breather</strong></p> <p>Scalp sensitivity is known to stem from stress. If products aren't working for you, try relaxation techniques such as yoga and Pilates.</p> <p>As well as keeping your mind at ease and your body's chemical balance in check, they work to strengthen your immune system, lessening the chance of flaky flare-ups. And if the problem persists, do book in time with your dermatologist. </p> <p>Do you have any remedies for dandruff to share with us? Let us know in the comments below.</p> <p><em>First appeared on <a href="http://Stuff.co.nz" target="_blank"><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Stuff.co.nz.</span></strong></a></em></p> <p><strong>Related links:</strong></p> <p><a href="/lifestyle/beauty-style/2016/02/ageless-hairstyles-for-over-60s/"><em><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Ageless hairstyles for over-60s</span></strong></em></a></p> <p><a href="/lifestyle/beauty-style/2016/04/things-to-do-with-shampoo/"><strong><em><span style="text-decoration: underline;">9 surprising things you can do with shampoo</span></em></strong></a></p> <p><a href="/lifestyle/beauty-style/2016/03/natural-remedies-to-cure-dandruff/"><em><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;">12 natural remedies for dandruff</span></strong></em></a></p>

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“Sensitive Santa” brings Christmas joy to children with autism

<p>For children with autism, the Christmas ritual of sitting on Santa’s knee to get a photo is often too distressing. The hustle and bustle of the shopping centres can send children with autism into a sensory overload. But now a Sensitive Santa program in Australia is ensuring no one misses out on this childhood rite of passage – and best of all, it’s proving a hit with the kids.</p> <p>Kiri Cottril’s two-year-old son Jack was diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder last August and as Christmas approached, she worried how he’d cope with the festivities. But her worries were assuaged once Jack met Sensitive Santa.</p> <p>"It was beautiful. It was magical for him," she told SBS.</p> <p>“He connected with Santa, he looked into his eyes, he touched his hand, and he wasn't scared."</p> <p>The program is gaining momentum with Sensitive Santa’s popping up throughout Australia, with plans to expand. The Sensitive Santa area is set up to ensure no distressing triggers for autistic kids. Santa doesn’t force contact with children, instead talking and playing with them until they’re comfortable enough to get closer. Photographers don’t use flashes, the area is quiet and families have a long 30 minute time slot. Parents are interviewed before the meeting to find out the specifics of the child – their interests and potential triggers – to make sure it’s the best possible experience for the child.</p> <p>"All our volunteers on the day - the photographers and staff - all know the specifics about that child and talk to that child. It might be Thomas the Tank Engine they love so Santa will talk to them about Thomas the Tank to make them feel comfortable,” says Kylie Carlson, branch manager at Mill Park Library in Victoria, which holds a popular Sensitive Santa program.</p> <p>Not only is Sensitive Santa bringing Christmas joy to children who might normally miss out, it makes the whole family happy.</p> <p>"The biggest response comes from the parents and siblings. Obviously some of the children have never had that experience with Santa before, and mum and dad have a few tears and Santa has to hold them back too," says the big man himself, Santa. </p> <p><strong>Related links: </strong></p> <p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><em><a href="/lifestyle/family-pets/2014/12/retro-christmas/"></a></em></strong></span></p> <p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><em><a href="http://www.oversixty.co.nz/lifestyle/family-pets/2014/12/retro-christmas/">Nostalgic Christmas things not to miss</a></em></strong></span></p> <p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><em><a href="/lifestyle/family-pets/2014/12/retro-christmas/"></a></em></strong></span></p> <p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><em><a href="http://www.oversixty.co.nz/lifestyle/family-pets/2015/05/sibling-relationships-important/">The reasons why sibling relationships are so special</a></em></strong></span></p> <p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><em><a href="/lifestyle/family-pets/2014/12/retro-christmas/"></a></em></strong></span></p> <p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><em><a href="http://www.oversixty.co.nz/lifestyle/family-pets/2014/09/why-family-traditions-are-so-important/">Why family traditions are SO important</a></em></strong></span></p>

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