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Britney Spears’ memoir is a reminder of the stigma and potential damage of child stardom

<p><em><a href="https://theconversation.com/profiles/jane-oconnor-1483447">Jane O’Connor</a>, <a href="https://theconversation.com/institutions/birmingham-city-university-920">Birmingham City University</a></em></p> <p>Britney Spears’ new memoir, The Woman in Me, illustrates once again the potential lifelong damage that can be caused by being a child star. Like many before her, including <a href="https://www.britannica.com/biography/Judy-Garland">Judy Garland</a> and <a href="https://www.britannica.com/biography/Michael-Jackson">Michael Jackson</a>, Spears was ushered into the dangerous terrain of childhood fame by the adults who were supposed to be protecting her, and was utterly unprepared to deal with the fallout.</p> <p>Spears’ <a href="https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-us-canada-53494405">father’s conservatorship</a>, controlling every aspect of her personal and professional life, was finally rescinded in 2021. She is now able to share the details of her extraordinary years in the limelight and beyond.</p> <p>From a sociological perspective, childhood is considered socially constructed. This means that there are specific ways of raising children which are socially and culturally defined. We discard these conventions surrounding the early years of life at our peril.</p> <p>The boundaries and rules around what is and is not acceptable during childhood, and the normal activities and institutions that shape the experience of being a child have developed over the centuries for a reason – to try and keep children safe from the harsh realities of the adult world.</p> <p>Being sexualised and valued for your appearance, being paid to work, having to deal with criticism and unwanted attention from strangers – these are all difficult aspects of growing up. Children and teens need careful support and guidance if they are to navigate safely into their adult lives and identities.</p> <p>The experience of childhood fame throws aside this social safety net for children in every possible way, and the consequences can be disastrous.</p> <h2>The price of child fame</h2> <p>From the earliest child stars of Hollywood’s golden age, through the television sitcoms and shows of the mid-20th century, the rise of the pop and film industries in the following decades and the burst in popularity of reality TV and talent shows of the early 21st century, <a href="https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/17482798.2011.584378">children have always featured</a>. Many have paid a heavy price for their often short period of fame.</p> <p>Sad stories of <a href="https://www.or-nc.com/why-do-child-stars-become-addicted-to-drugs/">drug and alcohol addiction</a>, <a href="https://www.hitc.com/en-gb/2022/11/02/uncle-fester-star-jackie-coogans-tragic-life-child-fortune-to-horror-crash">family disputes</a>, <a href="https://www.ranker.com/list/child-actors-who-became-criminals/nathan-gibso">criminal activity</a> and <a href="https://www.dailystar.co.uk/showbiz/us-showbiz/former-nickelodeon-star-drake-bells-29769568">toxic relationships</a> are frequently reported by the media. These reinforce the stereotypical “child star gone bad” and “too much too young” narratives that the wider public has come to expect.</p> <p>For example, stories abound of <a href="https://metro.co.uk/2020/02/11/macaulay-culkin-reveals-never-divorced-parents-emancipated-12222457/">Macaulay Culkin “divorcing” his controlling parents</a> and his difficulties transitioning into adult life, <a href="https://www.belfasttelegraph.co.uk/entertainment/film-tv/why-it-was-not-a-wonderful-life-for-macaulay-culkin-after-he-found-fame-in-the-hit-christmas-film-home-alone/37620091.html">feeling trapped</a> in the image of boyhood innocence of his most famous character, Kevin in the Home Alone movies.</p> <p><a href="https://books.google.co.uk/books?id=kSJ8XjTw10kC&amp;printsec=frontcover&amp;redir_esc=y#v=onepage&amp;q&amp;f=false">In her autobiography</a> actor Drew Barrymore has written about her casual acceptance at Hollywood parties and consumption of alcohol at a very young age, following her role in <a href="https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0083866/">E.T.</a> (1982) aged five.</p> <p>There is also the tragic life and death of <a href="https://www.theguardian.com/tv-and-radio/2010/may/29/gary-coleman-obituary">Gary Coleman</a>, cute kid star of the American sitcom <a href="https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0077003/">Diff'rent Strokes</a> (1978-1986).</p> <p>Coleman, who died at 42 following a history of <a href="https://nypost.com/2010/05/29/troubled-80s-child-star-gary-colemans-life-is-cut-short-at-42/#:%7E:text=In%202005%2C%20Coleman%20moved%20to,and%20%22wanted%20to%20die.%22">substance abuse</a> and <a href="https://www.salon.com/2010/05/28/gary_coleman_dies/">depression</a>, reported being <a href="https://www.theguardian.com/tv-and-radio/2010/may/29/gary-coleman-obituary">deeply humiliated</a> by people asking: “Didn’t you used to be …?” when he was working as a security guard at a supermarket as an adult.</p> <h2>Other possibilities</h2> <p>It’s important to note, however, that a difficult trajectory is not the experience of all child stars and former child stars. The actors from the Harry Potter films, for example, seem <a href="https://www.theguardian.com/film/2021/oct/22/the-not-so-cursed-child-did-harry-potter-mark-the-end-of-troubled-young-actors">largely to have transitioned well</a> into adult lives and careers – some in the spotlight, others not.</p> <p>And the new generation of famous children and teens such as <a href="https://www.gq.com/story/stranger-things-millie-bobby-brown">Millie Bobby Brown</a>, star of the Netflix show <a href="https://theconversation.com/stranger-things-is-the-upside-down-to-disneys-cute-and-cuddly-universe-83417">Stranger Things</a> (2016-present), seem more prepared for fame than their predecessors, in control of their images and identities via their own social media platforms and <a href="https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-44045291">potentially protected to some extent</a> from extreme sexualisation by the MeToo movement.</p> <p>Even so, Brown <a href="https://www.popbuzz.com/tv-film/news/millie-bobby-brown-birthday-instagram-post/">commented on her 16th birthday</a> that: “There are moments I get frustrated from the inaccuracy, inappropriate comments, sexualization, and unnecessary insults.”</p> <p>For Spears though, these were more than moments. She details in her memoir how the constant public scrutiny of her body and physical appearance, being valued for her sexuality and treated as a commodity have characterised her entire life.</p> <p>It is no wonder <a href="https://people.com/britney-spears-reveals-why-shaved-off-hair-in-2007-exclusive-8362494">she shaved her head</a> in 2007, a move interpreted by the media as her having “gone mad”, but in fact a powerful indication of her anger at being perceived as nothing more than a dancing sex-doll. As she writes in her memoir: "I knew a lot of guys thought long hair was hot. Shaving my head was a way of saying to the world: fuck you. You want me to be pretty for you? Fuck you. You want me to be good for you? Fuck you. You want me to be your dream girl? Fuck you."</p> <p>The sociologist Erving Goffman wrote about the stigma of having a “<a href="https://www.howcommunicationworks.com/blog/2020/12/16/what-is-stigma-explaining-goffmans-idea-of-spoiled-identity">spoiled identity</a>” whereby people carry with them the public shame of transgression or physical difference.</p> <p>Being a former child star can be stigmatising for many reasons, including being constantly compared to an ideal younger version of yourself and not having had a “normal” childhood or conventional family relationships.</p> <p>In this memoir, Britney attempts to face down that stigma and reclaim her identity and person-hood as an adult. In doing so, she demonstrates that it can be possible to leave the dangerous terrain of early fame behind – but the journey is a tough one.</p> <p><em><a href="https://theconversation.com/profiles/jane-oconnor-1483447">Jane O’Connor</a>, Reader in Childhood Studies, <a href="https://theconversation.com/institutions/birmingham-city-university-920">Birmingham City University</a></em></p> <p><em>Image credits: Getty Images / Instagram, </em></p> <p><em>This article is republished from <a href="https://theconversation.com">The Conversation</a> under a Creative Commons license. Read the <a href="https://theconversation.com/britney-spears-memoir-is-a-reminder-of-the-stigma-and-potential-damage-of-child-stardom-216545">original article</a>.</em></p>

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How to write a memoir

<p><strong>How to start a memoir</strong></p> <p><em>My Story </em>by Russell Durling is my 85-year-old father’s account of the highlights of his life. He is writing and editing it, by hand, in several notepads I gave him as a Christmas gift to encourage the memoir project he had talked about for years.</p> <p>In it, my dad shares stories of summer jobs when he was a teenager, breaking up log jams on the Saint John River near his hometown of Meductic, New Brunswick. He’d move from log to floating log to reach shore again safely – and he loved every minute of this adventure, even when he’d land in the water.</p> <p>Reading an early draft, I learned new details of his history, like how when they were children, his cousin Clara had a pet crow. He also wrote about lessons learned from his Royal Canadian Mounted Police career, which was spent mostly in Nova Scotia, and shared insights about how to retire well. Pro tip from my father: to add a decade to your life, ditch the city (if you can).</p> <p>This memoir will be a treasure for our family, and I’m glad my father was finally able to start writing it, after spending a long time talking about wanting to. And I get it. Writing your life story can feel like a daunting project. But it’s worth it, both to the writer and their potential readers. If you’re having a hard time putting pen to paper, here’s advice on how to start a memoir.</p> <p><strong>First, ask yourself why you're writing a memoir </strong></p> <p>Esmeralda Cabral is a writer who works with people who wouldn’t normally consider themselves writers through her workshop, <em>Writing Your Life</em>. Often, she helps people create written treasures for their families, and sometimes they’re writing just for themselves. To her, and those she teaches, memoir writing can be a way of remembering and reflecting on experiences both positive and negative.</p> <p>“There is a clarity that comes when you put something down on paper,” says Cabral. “Remembering and writing helps us make sense of things. If you don’t write it down or tell it, it’s lost. And that’s a shame.”</p> <p>Begin by jotting down your reasons for writing your story. You could summarise those reasons on a Post-It and stick it on your fridge as an encouraging reminder to stay motivated. After all, there are many good reasons to write: to remember and reflect on your past, to capture your adventures, to share life lessons with family and friends, or maybe even to be published. Consider sharing your plan with a friend or family member who can check in and cheer your progress.</p> <p><strong>Where to start</strong></p> <p>You don’t have to start a memoir with day one. In fact, as much as your future readers love you, they may find that approach less than gripping.</p> <p>In her workshops, Cabral helps people to start a memoir by using a photo that is meaningful to them. She asks them to imagine sitting down with a good friend and telling them the story behind it. Or begin your writing with an event or story you are particularly interested in sharing. What grabs you as a big moment? Select a vivid memory and start there.</p> <p>“Plug your nose and jump in and write down all your memories as truthfully as you can,” summarises New York Times bestselling author Anne Lamott in <em>Bird by Bird: Some Instructions on Writing and Life</em>. Maybe start with a birthday party you remember, or your first-grade classroom. Try writing at the same time every day, so you can build a routine that will keep you putting words on the page.</p> <p><strong>Write what you want </strong></p> <p>In every life, there is light and shadow, joy and grief. If you are hesitant to write your memoir because you have difficult stories that might hurt others, there is a solution. First, “You don’t have to write about everything,” says Cabral. “It’s okay to have secrets that go with you to the grave.”</p> <p>Simply knowing you have the freedom to not go to the darkest of places in your writing can lift you over those psychological hurdles of hesitation. However, writing often takes on a life of its own. If you find yourself standing outside a door you had marked as “Do Not Enter,” consider Cabral’s advice: “Write about the hard things as if the person you are writing about is reading it. Be as kind as you can. Leave them with dignity.”</p> <p><strong>Who is your audience?</strong></p> <p>If you’re writing for your eyes only, as a kind of personal therapy, then you may be purposely opening doors and exploring what’s on the other side. That’s okay, too. You are creating a treasure for yourself, and that can be very healthy. </p> <p>Besides, whether the writing is for you or for others, you can always hit the delete button or visit the paper shredder later, if you wish. For now, just get it down.</p> <p><strong>Stop yourself from sticking to rules</strong></p> <p>Avoid letting worries over style or structure stop you from writing. If you care enough about grammar, you can ask someone you trust to read it over later on, or even hire a freelance editor if you’re really fretting over verb tenses. Remember, perfection in writing is not your goal.</p> <p><strong>Readers are interested</strong></p> <p>Writers also might hesitate to share stories because they fear they are boring. “I hear a lot of people say, ‘Oh no, that wouldn’t be interesting to anyone but me,’” says Cabral. But our life stories are of interest to others, whether they feel ordinary to us or if they really are extraordinary. They remind us we are all in this together.</p> <p>Writer Pauline Dakin, author of the award-winning 2017 memoir <em>Run, Hide, Repeat: A Memoir of a Fugitive Childhood</em>, was surprised how much the unusual story of her childhood on the run connected with readers. She’s since heard from hundreds of people. “They often begin by saying, ‘My family wasn’t nearly as crazy as yours, but…,’” she says. “They are relieved to hear my story. It makes them feel they are not alone.”</p> <p>We are all far more interesting than we know, she adds. It’s just a matter of believing we have a story to tell.</p> <p><em>Image credits: Getty Images</em></p> <p><em>This article originally appeared on <a href="https://www.readersdigest.co.nz/uncategorized/how-to-write-a-memoir" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Reader's Digest</a>. </em></p>

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Girl, Interrupted interrogates how women are ‘mad’ when they refuse to conform – 30 years on, this memoir is still important

<p>Thirty years ago, American writer Susanna Kaysen published her memoir <a href="https://www.hachette.com.au/susanna-kaysen/girl-interrupted">Girl, Interrupted</a>. It tells the story of her two years inside McLean Hospital in Boston as a psychiatric patient.</p> <p>She was admitted, aged 18, in 1967. A few months earlier, she had taken 50 aspirin in a state of despair. Late in the book, she reveals she had a sexual relationship with her male English teacher at school.</p> <p>Kaysen was interviewed briefly by a doctor before she was admitted as a “voluntary” patient: a legal category used to indicate a person’s status in the institution. Despite what the term implies, “voluntary” doesn’t mean a patient can leave without the consent of their medical team, as Kaysen explains. People admitted as voluntary patients acknowledge their own need for treatment.</p> <p>During Kaysen’s stay, she was treated with an <a href="https://theconversation.com/story-of-antipsychotics-is-one-of-myth-and-misrepresentation-18306">antipsychotic</a> medication, chlorpromazine, and received psychotherapy. In her memoir, the stories of other young women confined with her at McLean convey sympathetic and recognisable experiences of the institutional world and its regime.</p> <p>Girl, Interrupted is one of the most famous memoirs of hospitalisation and mental illness. More <a href="https://www.euppublishing.com/doi/abs/10.3366/ircl.2019.0310?journalCode=ircl">recent interpretations</a> describe it as a narrative of “trauma”.</p> <h2>‘Mad’ or refusing to conform?</h2> <p>Kaysen did not anticipate the book’s reception at the time of its publication in 1993. It seemed to open readers up to tell their own stories, and they wrote to her from many places around the world to tell her about their hospitalisation. Looking back in a new edition published this year by Virago Books, she writes “it was surprising to me how many people had been in a mental hospital or had what used to be called a nervous breakdown”.</p> <p>When it appeared, her book was widely reviewed as “funny”, “wry”, “piercing” and “frightening”. Set out as a series of short vignettes, the book allowed readers the space to “insert themselves” into this story of human suffering.</p> <p>Investigating whether she had ever really been “crazy” – or just caught up in an oppressive approach to girls whose lives strayed from expectations – likely meant possible personal exposure, admission of frailty, and fear of judgement for Kaysen.</p> <p>Thirty years later, we have better understandings of trauma and of care for people with mental illness. So what can this book tell us now?</p> <p>Kaysen had waited almost three decades after these experiences before sharing her story in the early 1990s. This may be one reason it resonated with readers. The book was published at a time when most large institutions had closed as part of a worldwide trend towards deinstitutionalisation. Many people were starting to talk more openly about their own episodes of mental illness and recalling periods of hospitalisation that were sometimes grim and harrowing.</p> <p>By the 1990s, there was also much greater awareness of the uneven power relationships in psychiatric treatment. Women and girls, subject to gendered social expectations, have historically received different forms of medical and psychiatric treatment. Women have been described as “mad” for centuries when they refused to conform to gender norms.</p> <p>The book – an account of adolescent turmoil, with girlhood at the centre – can tell us about the lived experiences of teenage girls who face interior struggles over their mental health and wellbeing. Published in 1993 about the events of the late 60s, its insights are enduringly relevant.</p> <h2>A controversial diagnosis</h2> <p>In 1993, The New York Times ran an article titled “<a href="https://www.nytimes.com/1993/06/20/books/a-designated-crazy.html">A Designated Crazy</a>” that explained Kaysen had hired a lawyer to access her patient clinical records, 25 years after being at McLean. These appear in the book.</p> <p>Placed at intervals in the narrative, these notes show the objectifying medical practices of admission, collecting information and establishing a diagnosis. The information in these clinical pages is deeply personal. Sharing them is an act of resistance and defiance.</p> <p>“Needed McLean for [the past] 3 years ... Profoundly depressed – suicidal ... Promiscuous … might get herself pregnant ... Ran away from home ... Living in a boarding house.”</p> <p>Kaysen’s father, an academic at Princeton, wrote these notes in April 1967.</p> <p>In June 1967, the formal medical notes from her admitting doctor stated she had “a chaotic and unplanned life”, was sleeping badly, was immersed in “fantasy” and was isolated.</p> <p>Kaysen was admitted as “depressed”, “suicidal” and “schizophrenic”, with “borderline personality disorder”.</p> <p>While the psychiatric diagnoses used in the 1960s still exist, the borderline diagnosis is <a href="https://theconversation.com/borderline-personality-disorder-is-a-hurtful-label-for-real-suffering-time-we-changed-it-41760">now controversial</a>. Progressive psychologists and feminist psychologists are more likely to use the term “complex trauma”. Some of the other young women in the memoir had traumatic life experiences of sexual abuse and violence, which manifested as <a href="https://theconversation.com/how-many-people-have-eating-disorders-we-dont-really-know-and-thats-a-worry-121938">eating disorders</a> and <a href="https://theconversation.com/explainer-what-is-self-harm-and-why-do-people-do-it-11367">self harm</a>.</p> <p>Diagnostic labels have evolved over time. The first edition of the <a href="https://theconversation.com/explainer-what-is-the-dsm-and-how-are-mental-disorders-diagnosed-9568">Diagnostic and Statistical Manual</a> (DSM) was published in 1952. In 1967, the year of Kaysen’s committal, the DSM did not include “borderline personality disorder”, though the borderline concept had been <a href="https://www.press.jhu.edu/newsroom/dsm-history-psychiatrys-bible">theorised from the 1940s.</a></p> <h2>McLean’s famous patients</h2> <p>We can also read the book as an exposé of the controlling world of psychiatric institutions for people in the 1960s. The vast majority of people with psychiatric conditions were confined in public institutions, in often overcrowded conditions. Abuses happened, and violence was common.</p> <p>One distinction for those hospitalised at McLean in Boston, a private institution, was that it housed people whose families could afford the steep fees. Kaysen’s father had to declare his salary when he signed the paperwork. Famous patients included the mathematician <a href="https://theconversation.com/the-legacy-of-john-nash-and-his-equilibrium-theory-42343">John Forbes Nash</a> (whose story was told in the film, <a href="https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0268978/">A Beautiful Mind</a>), and New England poets Robert Lowell and <a href="https://theconversation.com/60-years-since-sylvia-plaths-death-why-modern-poets-cant-help-but-write-after-sylvia-199477">Sylvia Plath</a> in the late 1950s.</p> <p>McLean’s own “biography” is the subject of another book. <a href="https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2002/01/the-asylum-on-the-hill/303058/">Gracefully Insane</a> shows its reputation as housing sometimes idiosyncratic and wealthy people whose families wanted them to be hidden, fearful of the stigma of mental illness in the family.</p> <p>Plath’s <a href="https://www.allenandunwin.com/browse/book/Sylvia-Plath-Bell-Jar-9780571268863">The Bell Jar</a> fictionalises her hospitalisation at McLean in the 1950s, following a suicide attempt.</p> <p>"Doctor Gordon’s private hospital crowned a grassy rise at the end of a long, secluded drive that had been whitened with broken quahog shells. The yellow clapboard walls of the large house, with its encircling verandah, gleamed in the sun, but no people strolled on the green dome of the lawn."</p> <p>Like Kaysen, Plath’s character Esther Greenwood has been involved in sexual relationships with men that made her uneasy, affecting her confidence and sense of self. Skiing with Buddy Willard, she falls and breaks her leg: “you were doing fine”, someone says, “until that man stepped into your path”.</p> <p>Later, floundering at college, she too is admitted by a male doctor acting on the advice of her mother: she has not slept, she is exhausted, she is not herself. He advises she needs shock therapy.</p> <p>In her new biography of Plath, <a href="https://www.penguin.com.au/books/red-comet-9781529113143">Red Comet</a>, Heather Clark describes McLean in the 1950s as reliant on shock therapy and activities, rather than psychoanalysis and careful therapeutic interventions. It was reputedly only a “notch above” a public institution, though it had the veneer of being for elite residents.</p> <p>Just a few years before Kaysen’s admission to McLean, Plath died by suicide in 1963, aged 30. The Bell Jar had been published one month earlier, under a pseudonym. By the late 1960s, teenage admissions were a focus for McLean’s doctors.</p> <p>Did adolesence present a new challenge for families and authorities, making young women vulnerable to institutionalisation?</p> <h2>Psychiatry and romantic love</h2> <p>Revisiting Girl, Interrupted, I am struck by its raw and honest recognition of the way women have sometimes experienced relationships with men as inherently oppressive. The structures of psychiatry and romantic love intersect throughout this book.</p> <p>Kaysen, like Plath, sees the family as a toxic institution. Male psychiatrists loom over both women, imposing in their authority to diagnose. “He looked triumphant”, wrote Kaysen of her doctor. “Doctor Gordon cradled his pencil like a slim, silver bullet”, wrote Plath.</p> <p>Women writing about their own madness has a long history. American writer Charlotte Perkins Gilman (1860–1935) penned the story <a href="https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/286957.The_Yellow_Wall_Paper">The Yellow Wallpaper</a> in The New England Magazine in 1892. It <a href="https://www.theguardian.com/artanddesign/2020/feb/07/charlotte-perkins-gilman-yellow-wallpaper-strangeness-classic-short-story-exhibition">tells the tale</a> of a woman’s mental and physical exhaustion following childbirth.</p> <p>Historians such as Elizabeth Lunbeck <a href="https://press.princeton.edu/books/paperback/9780691025841/the-psychiatric-persuasion">write about</a> the way a “psychiatric persuasion” came to dominate thinking about gender in the early 20th century. Psychiatrists began to see everyday life difficulties – such as the changes experienced during adolescence – as signalling illness (we might say, pathologising “normal” responses to stressful events). The rise of psychiatric expertise paralleled their professional reactions to women (and men) who struggled with life.</p> <p>In Australia, the history of “good and mad women” up to the 1970s by <a href="https://books.google.com.au/books/about/Good_and_Mad_Women.html?id=NIZ9QgAACAAJ&amp;redir_esc=y">Jill Julius Matthews</a> showed that women who experienced hospitalisation as a result of mental breakdown were perceived as having “failed” to meet the gendered expectations of them. Femininity and its constraints left some women unable to function or live authentic lives.</p> <h2>Institutions on film</h2> <p>Girl, Interrupted was released <a href="https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0172493/">as a film</a> by Columbia Pictures in 1999, with a cast of rising and established young actors, including Winona Ryder, Angelina Jolie and Brittany Murphy. It dramatised the interpersonal relationships inside the hospital described by Kaysen.</p> <p>The film script was not only the perfect vehicle for an ensemble cast of these women. It was also another opportunity to make mental illness visible on the screen. Another page-to-screen adaptation in 1975, Milos Forman’s film of Ken Kesey’s <a href="https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0073486/">One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest</a>, brought to life the dramatic environment of institutional control and violence personified by the character of Nurse Ratched.</p> <p>Girl, Interrupted’s screenplay surfaced different women’s experiences of abuse, neglect, trauma and violence to explain their behaviours and responses to institutional constraints.</p> <p>Like One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest, the film also emphasised the theme of resistance to institutional control. Patients hid pill medications under the tongue, broke into the hospital administration office to look at their case files, and found ways to circumvent the routines of institutional life. The film depicted the drama of group therapy, and the power dynamic between staff and patients.</p> <p>Not everyone who was institutionalised reacted the same way to being in hospital.</p> <p>Kaysen wrote "For many of us, the hospital was as much a refuge as it was a prison. Though we were cut off from the world and all the trouble we enjoyed stirring up out there, we were also cut off from the demands and expectations that had driven us crazy."</p> <p>A recent collaborative history of institutional care by Australian poet <a href="https://theconversation.com/secrecy-psychosis-and-difficult-change-these-lived-experiences-of-mental-illness-will-inspire-a-kaleidoscope-of-emotions-191011">Sandy Jeffs</a> and social worker Margaret Leggatt, <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/am/podcast/out-of-the-madhouse-with-sandy-jeffs/id992762253?i=1000501765764">Out of the Madhouse</a>, challenges the idea of the institution as a place of alienation. Jeffs found community and solace at Larundel Hospital in Melbourne in the late 1970s and 1980s. However, the book also acknowledges this is not a universal response for institutionalised people.</p> <p>Like Kaysen, people with lived experiences of mental illness and hospitalisation have found it therapeutic to write about their personal challenges. For some, it provides an opportunity to embrace the “mad” identity, to find empathy for others. And to create a new self out of the chaos of mental breakdown.</p> <p><em>This article originally appeared on <a href="https://theconversation.com/girl-interrupted-interrogates-how-women-are-mad-when-they-refuse-to-conform-30-years-on-this-memoir-is-still-important-199211" target="_blank" rel="noopener">The Conversation</a>. </em></p> <p><em>Images: Getty</em></p>

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Meghan Markle’s “gentle concerns” over Harry’s memoir

<p>Meghan Markle expressed concern over the release of Prince Harry’s memoir Spare, a royal insider has revealed to The <em>Telegraph</em>. </p> <p>The source, who declared Meghan to be “media-savvy”, claimed the duchess had previously raised “gentle concerns” over the bombshell publication, and had questioned whether or not it was the right time to go ahead with its release.</p> <p>The couple have moved as a united front since revealing their engagement to the media in 2017, and so it raised some eyebrows when Meghan was noticeably absent from Harry’s press tour for <em>Spare</em>. </p> <p>The insider reports that Meghan kept her distance to avoid anyone assuming she was “trying to steal the limelight” during Harry’s big moment. And a big moment it was, with <em>Spare </em>shattering sales records across the globe on its release as readers sought to learn more about the royals. </p> <p>Despite its success on a sales front, the fallout from the book has seen Harry’s popularity slump across both the United Kingdom and the United States. </p> <p>Some suspected that Meghan was somehow behind all of it, but as Camilla Tominey wrote for <em>The Telegraph</em>, this “could not be further from the truth.”</p> <p>“No stranger to taking on her enemies,” it was said of Meghan, whose every move has been dissected and commented on for years, “she is understood to have been more wary than the Duke about this particular project.”</p> <p>Despite Meghan’s concerns, it is reported that once Harry had made up his mind to go ahead with the project, the duchess offered him “her full support and is immensely proud of his achievements.” </p> <p>As a source confessed to Camilla Tominey, “is this the way she would have approached things? Possibly not. But she will always back him.</p> <p>“This was about his own life, his journey and his own perspective,” they added. </p> <p>Although Harry has his wife’s support, the same cannot be said of his father and brother, who reportedly did not take well to some of the bombshell revelations and allegations made in the book. As another source told <em>Vanity Fair,</em> King Charles was left “deeply hurt”, and Prince William “cannot speak to his brother”. </p> <p>Only time will tell what this means for the royal family, but with experts predicting that Harry and Meghan will be in attendance at King Charles’ coronation in May, it is certain that fans and critics from all over will be watching to find out. </p> <p><em>Image: Getty Images</em></p>

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"This is his story": Details on Prince Harry's memoir released

<p>The details of Prince Harry's highly anticipated memoir have been announced, with his publisher finally releasing the name of the book and when it will be published. </p> <p>The news of the memoir has been an object of obsession for royal fans since it was first announced last year, with eager readers not having to wait much longer. </p> <p>The memoir, titled <em>Spare</em>, will be published on January 10th 2023: three years to the date that Harry and Meghan took a step back from the royal family. </p> <p><em>Spare</em> is being billed by Penguin Random House, as an account told with “raw, unflinching honesty” and filled with “insight, revelation, self-examination, and hard-won wisdom about the eternal power of love over grief.”</p> <p>In a statement released on Thursday, Penguin Random House announced the details of the book as they summoned memories of the death of Princess Diana in 1997 as Harry and his brother, William, “walked behind their mother’s coffin as the world watched in sorrow - and horror.”</p> <p>“As Diana, Princess of Wales, was laid to rest, billions wondered what the princes must be thinking and feeling - and how their lives would play out from that point on,” the statement reads in part.</p> <p>“For Harry, this is his story at last.”</p> <p>The memoir's title is a nod to William and Harry’s roles as ‘heir and the spare’, with William as heir to the throne, and Prince Harry as his spare.</p> <p>The 416-page book will come out in 16 languages, from Dutch to Portuguese, and also will be released in an audio edition read by Prince Harry.</p> <p>The hardback copies of <em>Spare</em> will be retailing for $50, with Harry has previously confirming he will be donating proceeds from the sales of <em>Spare</em> to various British charities. </p> <p><em>Image credits: Getty Images / Penguin Random House</em></p>

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Ash Barty’s memoir cover revealed

<p dir="ltr">Ash Barty has revealed the cover of the memoir titled <em>My Dream Time</em> due for release later in the year. </p> <p dir="ltr">The retired athlete used her Indigenous heritage in naming her autobiography <em>My Dream Time </em>which will be published by HarperCollins.</p> <p dir="ltr">The stunning cover shows a smiling Ash with the beautiful Queensland sunset in the background.</p> <p dir="ltr">“I’m so happy to share the cover for My Dream Time,” Ash wrote on Instagram.</p> <p dir="ltr">“This is the story of my journey to be the best I could be, not just as a tennis player but as a person. </p> <p dir="ltr">“I’m now working on the final manuscript and selecting photos, I’m excited to share the finished book with you soon!</p> <p dir="ltr">“We shot the cover at sunset in Queensland with the talented @nics_mindset. </p> <p dir="ltr">“I hope you like it.”</p> <blockquote class="instagram-media" style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); 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margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;"><a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none;" href="https://www.instagram.com/tv/ChJl1i4BqWW/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" target="_blank" rel="noopener">A post shared by Ash Barty (@ashbarty)</a></p> </div> </blockquote> <p dir="ltr">The book is ready for pre-order from <a href="https://www.harpercollins.com.au/9781460762820/my-dream-time-a-memoir-of-tennis-and-teamwork/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">here</a> but will be released in Australia and New Zealand on November 3, in the UK on November 10 this year.</p> <p dir="ltr">Fans in the USA and Canada will have to wait a while longer for its release on January 10, 2023.</p> <p dir="ltr">Ash already has a series of children’s books titled <a href="https://oversixty.com.au/entertainment/books/ash-barty-s-books-released" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Little Ash</a>.</p> <p dir="ltr"><em>Images: HarperCollins/Instagram</em></p>

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Queen Elizabeth anxious over the release of Prince Harry's book

<p><em>Image: Getty</em></p> <p>Queen Elizabeth is understood to be feeling “a lot of anxiety” around the publication of her grandson Prince Harry’s memoir, coming later this year.</p> <p>Last year Prince Harry revealed he was writing a tell-all book about his life, saying it would be an “accurate and wholly truthful” account of his royal upbringing. The Duke of Sussex said it would be about “the highs and lows, the mistakes, the lessons learned” from his life so far.</p> <p>The book will come in the wake of a rift between Harry and his wife Meghan, and the rest of the royal family following their controversial interview with Oprah Winfrey last year.</p> <p>In it, the Duke and Duchess of Sussex made a number of explosive claims, including allegations of racism and a lack of appropriate mental health support from the rest of the Royal Family.</p> <p>Prince Harry also claimed his brother<span> </span>Prince William, and father<span> </span>Prince Charles, were “trapped” inside the so-called “Firm”, and by moving away from the royal family he wanted to “break the cycle of pain and suffering.”</p> <p>Royal commentator and biographer Katie Nicholl has told Closer magazine that the book is causing a lot of concern for Queen Elizabeth, aged 95.</p> <p>“The book will no doubt be full of more intimate and shocking revelations,” Nicholl said.</p> <p>“Harry wouldn’t have got a multi-million pound advance without promising some juicy details.</p> <p>“There’ll be more shocking claims to come, perhaps their biggest yet.</p> <p>“I’m sure the Queen has a lot of anxiety over that and the royals will be braced for more bombshells.”</p> <p>Prince Harry’s memoir will be the first of a number of books published by the Duke and Duchess after they signed a lucrative deal with Penguin Random House.</p> <p>The book is expected to be available later this year, most likely in the Australian spring.</p> <p>The Queen’s former footman, Paul Burrell, told<span> </span><em>Closer</em><span> </span>it was not a good time for such a book to come out.</p> <p>“This should be a wonderful year for the Queen, and there’s no doubt she’ll be looking forward to the Jubilee enormously,” he said.</p> <p>“But I’m sure she’s also very aware of what’s in store.</p> <p>“The year will be bookended by two very difficult events for her.</p> <p>“In January, we have all the drama surrounding Prince Andrew and, towards the end of the year, we’ll have Harry’s memoir, no doubt with more intimate bombshells.</p> <p>“I’m sure she’ll be very apprehensive about the year ahead, and other royals – especially William and Kate – will step up to support her more than ever.”</p>

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Queen Elizabeth ‘seeks legal advice’ over Harry's memoir

<p>It’s been reported Queen Elizabeth has sought legal advice to prepare for more “hurtful attacks” from Prince Harry - and Meghan Markle - when Prince Harry's new memoir is released next year because the feeling at the palace is “enough is enough.”</p> <p>A source has told <em>The Sun</em>: "The feeling, coming right from the top, is that enough is enough. There is a limit to how much will be accepted and the Queen and Royal Family can only be pushed so far."</p> <p>The source says Harry and Meghan will be "made aware and know repeated attacks will not be tolerated".</p> <p>Libel and privacy experts have reportedly been consulted by the royal legal team and the clock is ticking following confirmation Harry, 36, is working on a tell-all memoir which he promises will be an "accurate and wholly truthful" account of his time as a royal.</p> <p>The memoir is due out in 2022 and will be published by Penguin Random House. It’s understood the royal legal team plans to contact the publishers to request an advance copy so they have a right to reply.</p> <p><strong>Some damaging comments have already been made</strong></p> <p>Since Prince Harry and Meghan Markle resigned as senior working members of the British royal family, they’ve made a number of comments which have been considered damaging to the monarchy.</p> <p>They have now relocated to the US where they operate under the brand Archewell and reside in a lavish home in Montecito, California, with Archie, two years, and daughter Lilibet, two months.</p> <p>During the couple's interview with Oprah Winfrey in early 2021, the pair spoke of Meghan's mental health struggles with the duchess claiming her request for private treatment was rejected.</p> <p>They also claimed racist comments were made by a senior royal regarding the colour of son Archie's skin before his birth but refused to name the royal. Winfrey later stated the culprit wasn't the Queen or Prince Philip.</p> <p>During a podcast interview with Dax Sheppard on Armchair Expert, Harry spoke out about his upbringing, saying his father Prince Charles had treated him the way in the same way he had been treated as a child.</p> <p>"It's a lot of genetic pain and suffering that gets passed on anyway," Harry said</p> <p><em>Photo: Getty Images</em></p>

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“The no going back moment”: Palace insiders slam Prince Harry’s memoir

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Palace insiders have described Prince Harry’s new memoir as the “final nail in the coffin” for his relationship with the Royal Family.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The Duke of Sussex announced that he will release an “intimate and heartfelt” memoir next year, which he says will be “accurate and wholly truthful”.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“I’m writing this not as the prince I was born but as the man I have become,” the 36-year-old said in a statement.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Royal sources have spoken out about a “growing sense of shock and fury” within the family about the book, claiming Harry’s decision ruined any hope of reconciliation.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“This is the no going back moment - the final nail in the coffin of the Royal Family’s relationship with Harry,” a “senior royal source” told </span><a rel="noopener" href="https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-9806777/DAN-WOOTTON-reveals-growing-royal-fury-Harrys-tell-book.html" target="_blank"><span style="font-weight: 400;">The Daily Mail</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;">.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“The emotional turmoil as they wait over a year for publication is going to be torturous.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Another source told the publication: “Prince Charles didn’t know anything about it. This is really painful, it’s going to be difficult for him to take. The assumption is that he will take another kicking from Harry.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“The real disappointing thing for Charles is that he used to get on with Harry so well, actually far better than William. He feels so let down by the whole thing.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Insiders also claim that the book will damage Harry’s relationship with Prince William.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“Harry’s been going around to people saying he can’t remember his childhood and his mother that much. Now he’s going to write a book about it. How does that stack up?” a source said.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“What’s really telling is even the relatives he remains closest to, like princesses Eugenie and Beatrice, are stunned by what he’s up to.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">With the book expected to be published in 2022, there are said to be concerns that it could “overshadow” significant royal events, such as the Queen’s Platinum Jubilee, Prince William’s 40th birthday, and the 25th anniversary of Princess Diana’s death.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“With that mix, it should have been a really positive year for the Royal Family,” a source said.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“But Harry doesn’t care. He’s acting like a child. We need to remember he’s a nearly 37-year-old man, not a 21-year-old. He’s on the cusp of middle age.”</span></p>

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5 gripping memoirs by women with grit

<h2>1. Wave by Sonali Deraniyagala</h2> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Sonali Deraniyagala’s devastating memoir recounts the unthinkable losses she endured during the 2004 Sri Lankan tsunami. She’s on holiday with her parents, husband, and two young children when everything changes forever. With generous clarity she relays a peaceful, normal morning, and then the confusion that turns to horror as the wave comes in. Deraniyagala’s account takes you through unbearable, agonising losses. Her straightforward narration pulls you close to what would otherwise remain unimaginable.</span></p> <h2>2. The Suicide Index by Joan Wickersham</h2> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Joan Wickersham’s riveting memoir goes over the circumstances of her father’s unexpected death by his own hand. She artfully captures the enigma of this unbearable act and its aftermath. In doing so, she takes the reader along on her attempt to make sense of her father’s passing. She structures her book like an index as a way to organise her father’s life and understand its mysteries. Wickersham’s beautifully haunting narration keeps you riveted.</span></p> <p><a href="https://www.readersdigest.com.au/true-stories-lifestyle/65-books-everyone-should-read-before-they-die"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Here are 65 books everyone should read before they die</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;">.</span></p> <h2>3. Tomorrow Will Be Different by Sarah McBride</h2> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">If Sarah McBride’s name sounds familiar, it’s because she just made history (or, herstory) as the first-ever transgender person elected to the United States Senate. Sworn into office in January 2021, she’s also the National Press Secretary of the Human Rights Campaign. Before she ran for office, she wrote this moving book, telling her own coming-out story, her journey into activism, and her husband’s tragic battle with cancer. Also, not for nothing, but now-President Joe Biden wrote the foreword.</span></p> <h2>4. I Feel Bad About My Neck by Nora Ephron</h2> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The screenwriter responsible for </span><span style="font-weight: 400;">Silkwood</span><span style="font-weight: 400;">, </span><span style="font-weight: 400;">When Harry Met Sall</span><span style="font-weight: 400;">y, and </span><span style="font-weight: 400;">Sleepless in Seattle</span><span style="font-weight: 400;"> was also an insightful novelist, director and essayist. This hilarious essay collection depicts Nora Ephron’s reflections on ageing. As usual, Ephron is relatable and charming while dishing out insights on parenting and relationships and their inevitable changes. You can’t go wrong with Ephron’s wit and charm showing you how to deal.</span></p> <h2>5. Blackout by Sarah Hepola</h2> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Sarah Hepola’s memoir is addictive as it chronicles the ups and downs of the drinking habit she needs to curb. It’s one of those can’t-put-it-down, just-one-more-page, keep-you-up-all-night books. Her voice is relatable and funny, honest and open. Hepola manages to be critical of her alcoholism while at the same garnering all your sympathy. The book is also about how the author finds her voice as a writer and a woman. It’s a stunning debut from a fantastic writer.</span></p> <p><a href="https://www.readersdigest.com.au/true-stories-lifestyle/thought-provoking/13-books-we-bet-you-never-knew-were-banned"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Here are 13 books you never knew were banned</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;">.</span></p> <p><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">Written by Molly Pennington. This article first appeared in <a href="https://www.readersdigest.co.nz/book-club/15-gripping-memoirs-by-women-who-overcame-the-impossible">Reader’s Digest</a>. Find more of what you love from the world’s best-loved magazine, <a href="https://readersdigest.innovations.co.nz/c/readersdigestemailsubscribe?utm_source=over60&amp;utm_medium=articles&amp;utm_campaign=RDSUB&amp;keycode=WRA93V">here’s our best subscription offer</a>.</span></em></p>

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5 memoirs you won’t want to put down

<h2>1. Men We Reaped by Jesmyn Ward</h2> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Jesmyn Ward writes about coming to terms with the loss of five young men she was close to – including her brother. Each young man comes from her close-knit community in small-town Mississippi – a location fraught with a racist history. Ward’s acclaimed and award-winning memoir captures a strong sense of place and the cultural problems that ensnare it. Her moving account honours the lives lost as it examines them. It’s a poignant call to understand the intricacies of history and its constant impact on the present.</span></p> <h2>2. Happens Every Day by Isabel Gillies</h2> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">You may recognise author Isabel Gillies from </span><span style="font-weight: 400;">Law &amp; Order SVU</span><span style="font-weight: 400;"> where she played Det. Stabler’s wife. The actress has writerly talents that come out in her can’t-put-it-down memoir about her husband’s affair. He was a poet-professor who took up with a colleague. Meanwhile, Gillies was trying to be the perfect homemaker in their big house with their two small children. The book’s title comes from what the “other woman” told Gillies when she mentioned fears that her husband was straying: happens every day. Gillies fills her story with strength and humour in the midst of a shocking loss that leads her and the kids back to her parents’ New York City apartment after the truth comes out.</span></p> <h2>3. Under Red Skies by Karoline Kan</h2> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Kan, a former </span><span style="font-weight: 400;">New York Times</span><span style="font-weight: 400;"> reporter, tells the story of strife in China as the country grows into a global superpower, through the stories of three women in her own family, and her own story. Her grandmother struggles to support her family during the Great Chinese Famine; her mother gives birth to her in defiance of the one-child policy; and her cousin, who works in a shoe factory, is scraping by on wages equivalent to 88 cents an hour. Kan examines their legacy in her journey to make her way in a changing country and world.</span></p> <h2>4. The Long Goodbye by Meghan O’Rourke</h2> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Meghan O’Rourke’s The Long Goodbye is a lovely meditation on grief itself and how to do it. She chronicles her mother’s shocking diagnosis and eventual passing. The book is a moving companion for anyone dealing with the loss of a beloved parent. O’Rourke’s background in poetry gives her memoir a lyrical quality that captures the layers of grief. This acclaimed book tells the author’s personal story as it examines the ways our culture is often inept at preparing us to go through the demanding and intense process of grieving.</span></p> <h2>5. Comfort: A Journey Through Grief by Ann Hood</h2> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Ann Hood’s beautiful and unbearable book begins by relaying the tragic circumstances that led to the passing of her young and vivacious daughter. You’ll mourn the loss with her as you learn about the infection that arose without warning. Hood writes with generosity as she carries you through the details of an unthinkable shock. This book will clutch your heart and stay with you long after you’ve closed the cover.</span></p> <p><a href="https://www.readersdigest.com.au/true-stories-lifestyle/inspirational/I-Would-Like-to-Help-Find-You-Some-Good-Books"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Next, be inspired by how a woman started a bookclub for prisoners, and how it changed her life</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;">.</span></p> <p><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">Written by Molly Pennington. This article first appeared in <a href="https://www.readersdigest.co.nz/book-club/15-gripping-memoirs-by-women-who-overcame-the-impossible">Reader’s Digest</a>. Find more of what you love from the world’s best-loved magazine, <a href="https://readersdigest.innovations.co.nz/c/readersdigestemailsubscribe?utm_source=over60&amp;utm_medium=articles&amp;utm_campaign=RDSUB&amp;keycode=WRA93V">here’s our best subscription offer</a>.</span></em></p>

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5 gripping memoirs by women who overcame the impossible

<h2>1. Wild by Cheryl Strayed</h2> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Readers fell in love with Cheryl Strayed’s lovely and lyrical prose in this best-seller about finding healing when you’re out on your own – like really on your own. Strayed’s best-seller recounts her months on a solo hike on the Pacific Northwest Trail from Montana to the Pacific Ocean. She comes to terms with a past filled with the wrong men and other choices she’d rather forget. Most of all, her epic hike allows her the time and space to grieve the loss of her beloved mother who passed way too young. A nature trail provides the path for what becomes an incredible journey.</span></p> <p><a href="https://www.readersdigest.com.au/true-stories-lifestyle/book-club/10-best-romance-novels-all-time"><span style="font-weight: 400;">You’ll also love these novels featuring strong fictional female characters</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;">.</span></p> <h2>2. I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings by Maya Angelou</h2> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">This is the book that launched Maya Angelou’s astonishing literary career. Her gorgeous memoir debuted in 1969 and captured the experience of growing up as a young Black girl in the South. Angelou’s poetic language expertly portrays details and events that are riveting and powerful. Though the book chronicles pain, it’s also about strength and resilience in the face of trauma. The book is a truly inspirational force about self-love and finding your intrinsic courage.</span></p> <h2>3. The Girl Who Smiled Beads by Clemantine Wamariya</h2> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">In this powerful memoir, subtitled “A Story of War and What Comes After,” Wamariya writes about fleeing the Rwandan genocide as a young child, travelling through multiple African countries with her sister as refugees, and eventually ending up in the United States. Her circumstances do a complete 180 as she ends up being taken in by an affluent family and attending Yale. In this </span><span style="font-weight: 400;">New York Times</span><span style="font-weight: 400;"> bestseller, she tries to reconcile the vastly different experiences of her life.</span></p> <h2>4. The Liar’s Club by Mary Karr</h2> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Mary Karr’s funny and moving memoir about a tough childhood was hugely successful when it debuted in 1995. Readers connected with Karr’s witty and masterful storytelling about life in a volatile Texas family. She writes about drama and dysfunction with a poignant eye that captures details that will stay with you long after you’ve finished. It’s a story of a child’s resilience in the midst of alcoholism, mental illness, and other assorted chaos.</span></p> <p><a href="https://www.readersdigest.com.au/uncategorized/25-bestselling-books-of-the-decade"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Here are 25 bestselling books everyone should read</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;">.</span></p> <h2>5. The Year of Magical Thinking by Joan Didion</h2> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Joan Didion and John Gregory Dunne were a happily married literary power couple. Then suddenly, within a period of a few days, the famed writer lost her husband to a heart attack while her daughter was gravely ill with a sudden infection. Didion’s beautiful and acclaimed memoir records the year after these events during which her daughter continues a long and difficult recovery. Didion takes us through the heartbreak and shock of loss and love in this meditation on surviving grief. Sadly, Didion’s daughter passed after the book’s completion — the tragedy she chronicles in the companion book, </span><span style="font-weight: 400;">Blue Nights</span><span style="font-weight: 400;">.</span></p> <p><a href="https://www.readersdigest.com.au/true-stories-lifestyle/ten-inspirational-quotes-worlds-strongest-women"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Here are 10 inspirational quotes from strong women</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;">.</span></p> <p><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">Written by Molly Pennington. This article first appeared in <a href="https://www.readersdigest.co.nz/book-club/15-gripping-memoirs-by-women-who-overcame-the-impossible">Reader’s Digest</a>. Find more of what you love from the world’s best-loved magazine, <a href="https://readersdigest.innovations.co.nz/c/readersdigestemailsubscribe?utm_source=over60&amp;utm_medium=articles&amp;utm_campaign=RDSUB&amp;keycode=WRA93V">here’s our best subscription offer</a>.</span></em></p>

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Elton John’s ex-wife demands millions over film and memoir

<p><span>Sir Elton John's ex-wife, Renate Blauel, is seeking an estimate of £3m in damages after claiming the legendary singer broke the terms of their divorce deal.</span><br /><br /><span>The sound engineer was wed to Sir Elton for four years and is suing her ex-husband over passages in his memoir <em>Me</em>, and his film centering around his life, <em>Rocketman</em>.</span><br /><br /><span>Ms Blauel says both of Elton’s works revealed details of the marriage, breaking an agreement they made when they divorced in 1988.</span><br /><br /><span>She says those disclosures triggered long-standing mental health problems.</span><br /><br /><span>However Sir Elton's defence has hit back, saying they acknowledge the existence of the divorce agreement that the pair both signed, but deny any breaches or causing "psychological harm".l</span><br /><br /><span>Sir Elton previously agreed to remove certain passages from his autobiography before it was published last year, according to papers filed at the High Court in London.</span></p> <p><img style="width: 500px; height: 281.25px;" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/7837071/elton-john.jpg" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/199363a06c5340bab7ca7a8d1d4dd930" /><br /><br /><span>In the final draft, Ms Blauel only appears on eight pages.</span><br /><br /><span>Sir Elton describes her in positive terms throughout the book, calling her "dignified", "decent" and "someone I couldn't fault in any way".</span><br /><br /><span>However, Ms Blauel says some of the remaining passages "seriously misrepresented the nature of their relationship".</span><br /><br /><span>Sir Elton claimed in his book that he did not enter their marriage with the intention of starting a family.</span><br /><br /><span>Ms Blauel denies this saying they both "did attempt to have children during their relationship but were unable to do so".</span><br /><br /><span>A request to have this passage removed was rejected, according to court documents.</span><br /><br /><span>Ms Blauel also claimed not to have been consulted about her appearance in Rocketman, although her character, played by Celinde Schoenmaker took up less than five minutes of screentime.</span><br /><br /><span>Ms Blauel also said that she had felt “great anxiety” after the release of the movie resulted in a journalist attempting to “locate her in her local village.”</span><br /><br /><span>Her lawyer, Yisrael Hiller, told the BBC that Sir Elton had "ignored" his promise to keep the details of their marriage private.</span><br /><br /><span>"Renate is particularly upset by the film," he said.</span><br /><br /><span>"In her mind, the film seeks to portray their marriage as a sham, which she wholeheartedly disputes and considers a false and disrespectful portrayal of their time together.</span><br /><br /><span>"Renate wants the privacy that was promised to her - that is why she is seeking an injunction. Any claim for monetary relief is secondary, and would just cover damages and future expenses caused by Elton's breaches."</span><br /><br /><span>Elton and Miss Blauel met in 1983, after Sir Elton recorded his comeback album Two Low For Zero at London's Air Studios.</span><br /><br /><span>Ms Blauel worked as an engineer.</span><br /><br /><span>The couple married the following year in Australia, and Ms Blauel told United Press International at the time: "He's the nicest guy I've ever met".</span><br /><br /><span>However, the pair divorced four years later.</span><br /><br /><span>Sir Elton, who had told Rolling Stone magazine in 1976 that he was bisexual, went on to admit to the publication that he was "quite comfortable being gay".</span><br /><br /><span>The star went on to marry filmmaker David Furnish in 2005, and the couple have two children.</span><br /><br /><span>Ms Blauel has maintained a low profile since the divorce, however Sir Elton has previously spoken of his "huge guilt and regret" over the pain he caused her.</span></p>

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Elton John opens up in hilarious memoir about Queen Elizabeth and beloved friend Princess Diana

<p>In Elton John’s new autobiography titled<span> </span><em>Me</em>,<span> </span>the famous musician offered up some salacious information about Queen Elizabeth and his dear friend, Princess Diana. </p> <p>John, 72, recalled some of his favourite memories and first-hand experiences with members of one of the world’s most famous families. </p> <p>In a refreshing twist, the musician shared a delightful story about the British Monarch and her nephew, Princess Margaret’s son Viscount Linley. </p> <p>The Queen requested he check on his sister, Lady Armstrong-Jones, who had left a party early feeling sickly. </p> <p>However, despite Linley doing his best to avoid fulfilling the request, the Queen did not back down and instead asserted her authority. </p> <p> "When [Linley] repeatedly tried to fob her off," John wrote, per the<span> </span><a rel="noopener" href="https://go.redirectingat.com/?id=74968X1525087&amp;xs=1&amp;url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.thetimes.co.uk%2Farticle%2Felton-john-tells-gobsmacking-tales-about-the-queen-and-diana-grpn0k5j7&amp;sref=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.townandcountrymag.com%2Fsociety%2Ftradition%2Fa29388157%2Felton-john-queen-elizabeth-princess-diana-memoir-me-stories%2F" target="_blank">Times</a>, "the Queen lightly slapped him across the face, saying: “‘Don't'—slap—'argue'—slap—'with'—slap—'me'—slap—'I'—slap—'am'—slap—'THE QUEEN!'"</p> <p>After the Queen had noticed John had witnessed the entire situation, she winked at him playfully. </p> <p>"I know the Queen’s public image isn’t exactly one of wild frivolity, but... in private she could be hilarious”. </p> <p>The 72-year-old also shared some heartfelt memories of his late royal friend, Princess Di, who passed away in 1997. </p> <p>John wrote the royal was "blessed with an incredible social ease, an ability to make people feel totally comfortable in her company.”</p> <p>He also noted it was a quality both Prince William and Harry possess as well. </p> <p>The celebrity met Princess Di at a party in 1981, and apparently they were both quickly taken with her. </p> <p>He recalled the pair “immediately clicked,” and "ended up pretending to dance the Charleston while hooting at the disco’s feebleness.</p> <p>"She was fabulous company... a real gossip: you could ask her anything and she’d tell you."</p> <p>Elton John also recalled a specific instance where actor Richard Gerge and<span> </span>Rocky’s<span> </span>Sylvester Stallone fighting over Princess Di at one of John’s wedding parties. </p> <p>"Straight away, Gere and Diana seemed very taken with each other," the 72-year-old wrote. </p> <p>It was a rapport that did not go down well with Stallone. </p> <p>"I think he may have turned up to the party with the express intention of picking Diana up, only to find his plans for the evening ruined”. </p> <p>The musician added he was soon having to step in between the two actors who were seen "squaring up to each other, apparently about to settle their differences over Diana by having a fist-fight".</p> <p>Scroll through the gallery above to see Elton John with the royal family.</p>

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Queen “fuming” over David Cameron's tell-all memoir

<p>The former British Prime Minister David Cameron has landed himself in hot water with the monarchy over his admission about his relationship with the Queen in his new memoir.</p> <p>The politicians<span> </span>For The Record<span> </span>was published on Thursday, causing a stir as it is the first time the former PM has spoken about the 2016 Brexit referendum and its aftermath. </p> <p>The lengthy autobiography, spanning over 703 pages, has dished out a number of juicy details from his six years in office - from the internal workings of the Conservative Party to the rise of ISIS. </p> <p>However, what left the Queen “displeased” in Mr Cameron’s work was his comments about the 93-year-old Monarch. </p> <p>In a BBC interview which accompanied publication, Mr Cameron said he sought the sovereign’s guidance and help ahead of the 2014 Scottish independence vote. </p> <p><img style="width: 500px; height: 281.25px;" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/7830978/david-cameron-queen-1.jpg" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/6fde0c8726684ab6a241a887ded780e8" /></p> <p style="text-align: center;"><em>Queen Elizabeth greeting David Cameron, 2010. </em></p> <p>He said he’d asked the Queen whether she could “raise an eyebrow” about what leaving the UK might mean for the Scots.</p> <p>According to Mr Cameron, the discussion with the Queen’s officials was not “anything that would be in any way improper … but just a raising of the eyebrow even … a quarter of an inch.”</p> <p>A royal source stated conversations between Queen Elizabeth and the PM being made public would “serve no one’s interests”.</p> <p>“It makes it very hard for the relationship to thrive,” the palace source said.</p> <p>This wasn’t the only detail to slip about the private affairs between the 93-year-old and the former PM. </p> <p>Mr Cameron wrote details about holidaying at the Queen’s “summer haven,”<span> </span><a rel="noopener" href="/travel/travel-trouble/a-full-royal-household-how-is-balmoral-castle-handling-all-their-guests" target="_blank">Balmoral Castl</a>e - a place where she would drive at “breakneck speed” across the countryside. </p> <p>His book also said Prince Philip would host barbecues and flip burgers, before cleaning up himself. </p> <p>“Literally, the Queen of the United Kingdom and Commonwealth Realms topping up your drinks, clearing up your plates and washing up,” he wrote.</p> <p>The politician revealed the key preparations for the famous “audience” the Queen has held with every Prime Minister since Winston Churchill. </p> <p>“One: always check the BBC headlines, in case you’ve missed something (I usually turned up just after the 6 o’clock news, and in any event, she is phenomenally well-informed).</p> <p>“Two: always check what’s going on in the horseracing world. A quick call to Tom Goff, my racing expert friend, would bring me up to speed on whether one of the Queen’s horses had won that week, or another had recently had a foal. Her knowledge of the turf is prodigious.</p> <p>“During a separate conversation, the week after my father died, the Queen said how sorry she was, and asked if his horse was running at Windsor that evening. It was. I had absolutely no idea about it, and was completely lost for words.”</p> <p>Mr Cameron added Her Majesty was “better informed than most politicians” and wrote he would always leave with a “spring in his step”. </p> <p>The former country’s leader admitted in an interview with John Humphry, some of his comments about the monarch - particularly the one where he said the Queen “purred down the line” to him after informing her Scotland had voted no to independence - was a “terrible mistake”. </p>

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New Prince memoir to be released this October

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The unfinished memoir of Prince, titled </span><span style="font-weight: 400;">The Beautiful Ones</span><span style="font-weight: 400;">, will finally be released this October just three years after the iconic musician’s passing.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Publisher Random House confirmed to </span><span style="font-weight: 400;">The Associated Press</span><span style="font-weight: 400;"> that </span><span style="font-weight: 400;">The Beautiful Ones</span><span style="font-weight: 400;"> will be released in October.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The memoir will go into detail from Prince’s childhood to his final days as one of the world’s most successful musicians. The memoir will also contain Prince’s unfinished manuscript as well as photos from his personal collection, scrapbooks and lyrics.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">There is also original handwritten treatment for his 1984 hit </span><span style="font-weight: 400;">Purple Rain.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Prince first announced the book in 2016, when he told the audience in New York City that the publishers had made him “an offer I can’t refuse”.</span></p> <blockquote style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" class="instagram-media" data-instgrm-captioned="" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/p/Bw531T9lCRv/" data-instgrm-version="12"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"></div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"></div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"></div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"></div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"></div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <p style="margin: 8px 0 0 0; padding: 0 4px;"><a style="color: #000; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none; word-wrap: break-word;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/p/Bw531T9lCRv/" target="_blank">"When you don't talk down to your audience, then they can grow with you. I give them a lot of credit to be able to hang with me this long, because I've gone through a lot of changes, but they've allowed me to grow, and thus we can tackle some serious subjects and try to just be better human beings, all of us."</a></p> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;">A post shared by <a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/prince/" target="_blank"> Prince</a> (@prince) on Apr 30, 2019 at 8:07pm PDT</p> </div> </blockquote> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“This is my first [book]. My brother Dan is helping me with it. He’s a good critic and that’s what I need. He’s not a ‘yes’ man at all and he’s really helping me get through this,” he said. </span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“We’re starting from the beginning from my first memory and hopefully we can go all the way up to the Super Bowl.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Random House has described the book as: “The deeply personal account of how Prince Rogers Nelson became the Prince we know: the real-time story of a kid absorbing the world around him and creating a persona, an artistic vision, and a life, before the hits and the fame that would come to define him”.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The book’s editor, Chris Jackson, has also called the book, “a beautiful tribute to his life … It’s a treasure not just for Prince fans but for anyone who wants to see one of our greatest creative artists and original minds at work on his greatest creation: himself.”</span></p>

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6 of the most jaw-dropping Hollywood memoirs

<p>It’s always fun when a Hollywood heavyweight breaks ranks and pulls back the curtain to show us common folk the behind-the-scenes carnage of life on the A-list with juicy tell-all memoirs. If, like us, you’re into the kind of revelations that shock and intrigue, these six tell-alls are the ones for you.</p> <p><strong>1.<em> I, Tina</em> by Tina Turner with Kurt Loder</strong></p> <p>This memoir from music icon Tina Turner exposed the truth of a seemingly charmed life to shine a light on the abuse Turner suffered at the hands of her husband, Ike, while struggling against seemingly insurmountable odds to forge a career for herself. Simply the best.</p> <p><strong>2. <em>Tab Hunter Confidential</em> by Tab Hunter</strong></p> <p>When people talk about explosive tell-alls about Hollywood and what it’s like to be treated as a sexual commodity, you’d be forgiven for imagining that the book in question would come from a woman. But, if we’ve learned anything from the experiences of Anthony Rapp, Terry Cruise, et al, it’s that men can also be victims of sexual assault, manipulation and control. This one shows that today’s problems have been around for decades.</p> <p><strong>3. <em>My Life in Tights</em> by Burt Ward</strong></p> <p>Playing Robin to Adam West’s Batman on the 1960s television series would seemingly be an altogether wholesome experience for Burt Ward. But in 1995, the onetime sidekick published this memoir that tells of orgies with large groups of sex workers, being seduced while still in costume, and the struggle that was trying to contain his “package” within the tight, spandex costume.</p> <p><strong>4.<em> Elvis &amp; Me</em> by Priscilla Presley</strong></p> <p>If you think you know the true story of Elvis, but you haven’t read <em>Elvis &amp; Me</em>, you’re kidding yourself. Hearing about the life of “The King” directly from his former wife gives insights into the life of the music and film legend you’re not likely to get anywhere else.</p> <p><strong>5. <em>Dropped Names</em> by Frank Langella</strong></p> <p>If you like your memoirs full of juicy tales of sexual escapades and jaw-dropping revelations, then this highly enjoyable read from thespian Frank Langella is compulsory. From the time when Elizabeth Taylor invites him to “come on up and put me to sleep”, to the flirtations with Laurence Olivier, Langella holds nothing back in this memoir that will have you hot under the collar and loving every minute.</p> <p><strong>6. <em>In Spite of Myself</em> by Christopher Plummer</strong></p> <p>Fans of <em>The Sound of Music</em> will be scandalised by Plummer’s account of his life on stage and screen, much of which is spent drinking and having sex. It seems that Plummer found no need to hold back any details, meaning this book will likely have you blushing while cackling at the petty gossip Plummer peddles about Shirley MacLaine, Glynis Johns, and Deborah Kerr (among many, many others).</p> <p>What’s the best celebrity memoir you’ve ever read?</p>

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4 reasons you should write your memoir

<p>Memoirs reveal the depth of one person’s experience in life. It also reveals how much humanity has in common and the similar thoughts, emotions and obstacles we face. Here are four reasons why you start writing your memoir today.</p> <p><strong>1. You can just write about one story in your life</strong></p> <p>A memoir differs from an autobiography as memoirs focus on one event in your life, whereas an autobiography covers your whole life story. Instead of covering your whole life you can write as many memoirs as you like of the events that matter most to you. Writing a memoir is much less intimidating that writing an autobiography and you also get the added bonus of being able to skip over anything you don’t feel passionate about writing.</p> <p><strong>2. You don’t need to have a dramatic life</strong></p> <p>Most people do not have drama-filled lives that would make for a salacious read. So scrap the idea something amazing (or horrible) must have happened in your life in order to write a memoir. Your experiences and reflections on your life are worthy to be written about.</p> <p><strong>3. You get to reflect on your thoughts and feelings on past events</strong></p> <p>Novelist Stephen King once said, “I write to find out what I think.” Through writing a memoir you will be able to dissect and reflect on the events in your life. As they say, hindsight is 20/20. By spending the time thinking on hidden motives, subtext, emotions and relationships, you gain a greater comprehension on your past. You might even find out a lot about yourself that you didn’t know before.</p> <p><strong>4. It is cathartic</strong></p> <p>By releasing your deepest joys, anguish, expectation and surprises on paper how can you not expect to feel a sense of relief as you let out your heart. By being vulnerable enough to reveal your deepest thoughts and emotions, as raw as they may be, you won’t only help yourself understand certain events but you might also help someone else going through a similar situation.</p> <p>Are you in the process of writing a memoir? What made you decide to start writing it? Let us know in the comments below. </p>

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