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Everything you need to know before you travel to Vietnam

So you’ve booked your flight to Vietnam to experience the best of south-east Asia. When travelling to Vietnam, and other Asian countries, there are a handful of tips and tricks to be aware of to ensure you have a smooth sailing travel experience. In comparison to travelling around Western countries, exploring Vietnam comes with a unique set of circumstances, and being prepared for every situation will make sure your trip is one to remember. Cash is king When it comes to planning your trip to Vietnam, other than booking your flights, hotels and travel insurance, one of your first priorities should be getting your hands on cash. The Vietnamese Dong is a unique currency to get used to, given that $5 AUD is equal to approximately $82,000 VND. Most of the restaurants, cafes and tourist attractions you’ll be heading to will only accept cash, so make sure you seek out an ATM (most ATMs will let you translate to English) and always have a decent amount of cash on hand. Go off the beaten track Vietnam has so much more to offer than the major cities. While Hanoi and Ho Chi Minh City have a lot of interesting history, tourist attractions and unique cultural experiences, staying in these cities for the entirety of your Vietnam trip is limiting. Make sure you explore coastal towns such as Hoi An, Hue and Phu Quoc, explore the rolling rice fields of Sapa, and don’t forget to book your cruise around the picturesque Ha Long Bay. Don't be afraid of the food While Vietnamese food is maybe not what you’re used to eating everyday, part of experiencing a different culture is immersing yourself in the food scene. One of the best things you can do when you arrive at your destination is to book a food tour with a local guide (there are many available through TripAdvisor), to take you around and show you a variety of dishes to become accustomed to. Your food tour guide will also help ease your anxiety over ordering food in different places. Another top tip: Restaurants will often be called the name of the dishes they serve. For example, places that sell the delicious Bahn Mi bread rolls will have “Bahn Mi” in their name. Google Translate is your friend While your hotel staff will often speak good English, other vendors at restaurants or markets may not be as fluent. Downloading the Google Translate app on your phone will allow you to communicate with locals quickly and easily, by typing in what you want to say in English, and letting the app read out the sentence in Vietnamese. Also, the app’s camera feature lets you hover your smartphone camera over something written in Vietnamese, before translating it into English in seconds. Beware of scams One of the most common scams in Vietnam is taxi scams. Some people will claim to be a taxi and then jack up the prices once they take you to your destination. To avoid this, only get in registered taxis (that actually look like taxis and not just a random car), and download Grab, which is the Vietnamese version of Uber and is just as easy to use. Another common scam is for market vendors to hike up prices for food and souvenirs, so be ready to barter for a better price. Make friends with the locals The Vietnamese people are some of the loveliest, kindest and most accommodating in the world. People on the street, hotel staff and restaurant workers are always happy to help you with queries or concerns, so make the most of their local knowledge and don’t be afraid to approach people with a smile. Image credits: Getty Images

International Travel

A guide to overcoming loneliness during the holidays

<div> Navigating the holiday season during adulthood isn’t always smooth sailing. Often, the arrival of the festive period can bring with it a sense of loneliness. Whether it’s being away from family or missing out on celebrations, the holiday blues can be hard to shake and for many, the significance of togetherness during the holidays can accentuate feelings of isolation or detachment. </div> <div> Offering her insight on how to overcome these emotions, Jacqui Manning, resident psychologist at Connected Women, an organisation that facilitates friendships for women over 50 shares her top tips to help you enjoy a more connected and fulfilling holiday season. </div> <div> Acknowledge Your Feelings “It’s ok to admit that you feel lonely. In fact, it’s the first step to overcoming and accepting these feelings,” explains Jacqui. “Christmas is traditionally a time that is associated with togetherness and so recognising your emotions is the foundation for developing effective coping strategies. Reach out to the friends you do have, family or support groups and let them know you might need extra support during this time. You should also invest in your mental wellbeing, either by incorporating mindfulness techniques to help break any negative thoughts or creating a mindset of gratitude by reflecting on the positive aspects of your life. Both these techniques can shift your focus towards positivity.” </div> <div> Invest in Yourself If you’re feeling down, Jacqui suggests prioritising self-care. “Investing in yourself is an act of self-love and resilience. It shifts the focus from external pressures to internal fulfilment, fostering a deep sense of empowerment. This approach is particularly valuable during the holidays, as it allows you to create a positive and nurturing environment for yourself.” Find New Connections Prevention plays an essential role in mitigating the risks of social isolation before they take hold. When it comes to combating loneliness, it’s all about identifying the connections you might be missing and actively seeking ways to build them. Jacqui explains, “In the modern-day era that we are in, recognising the potential of technology is vital. If you don’t have anyone nearby, dive into the online world to explore nearby community meetups or virtual events; I assure you, you’ll discover something that aligns with your interests, and you'll find others who are in a similar situation to you,” Jacqui concludes. </div> <div> “Whether you want to relax in a bubble bath, use the holiday season as an opportunity to discover a new hobby or simply spend more time outdoors to connect with nature, remember that these intentional acts of self-investment are gifts to your own well-being. Taking time for yourself is not only a deserved treat but a crucial element of maintaining balance and happiness.” <div title="Page 2"> As the festivities draw near, it’s essential to tune in to your own needs, invest in self-care and actively seek connection, whether with new or pre-existing relations. These steps will not only contribute to your well-being but also serve to enrich and elevate your experience throughout the festive season. About Connected Women Phoebe Adams is the co-founder of Connected Women, an organisation providing a community for women over 50 to connect and build meaningful friendships. With a rapidly growing community in Perth, Sydney, Wollongong, Melbourne and Geelong, Connected Women provides a safe and welcoming space for women to come together and share experiences. To learn more about the organisation and how you can get involved, visit <a href="https://www.connectedwomen.net" target="_blank" rel="noopener">connectedwomen.net</a>. Image credits: Getty Images </div> </div>

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Embracing friendships in adulthood: A guide to making meaningful connections

Navigating the landscape of friendship in adulthood might initially appear daunting, but the profound impact that it can have on our mental well-being is huge. Not only do friendships foster a sense of camaraderie, but they nurture feelings of belonging and acceptance. Important at every life stage, it’s not uncommon to encounter challenges in building new friendships as we age and embark on differing paths. However, Jacqui Manning, Resident Psychologist at Connected Women, a female-driven organisation dedicated to cultivating friendships for women over 50, is here to impart her invaluable tips and tricks, paving the way for a friend-finding journey that unfolds with ease and fulfilment. “Forming new friendships in adulthood may take a little more time and effort, but it doesn’t have to be scary,” Jacqui explains. “Approaching the prospect of making a friend with genuine curiosity and a shared interest can transform the experience into an exciting journey rather than a daunting task. Focus on common ground, be open-minded, and embrace the adventure of getting to know someone new. By emphasising shared interests and creating a comfortable, judgment-free space, the process of making a friend becomes a welcoming exploration rather than an intimidating challenge." Stay Open It can be a slippery slope once we let our thoughts spiral into the possibility of rejection. Instead of worrying, why not consider all the opportunities to grow a connection? Jacqui explains, “As we age, the energy we have to make friends can dwindle, making it natural to withdraw into the comfort of our own shell. However, the need for connection is as strong as ever. This serves as an important reminder to be open. Deeper connections won’t have the chance to form if we keep one another at arm’s length so engage in conversations about hobbies and discuss any goals or anxieties openly, as it is through this openness that a profound connection is likely to be forged. Find Your Community Finding a group of new friends could be as simple as enjoying your favourite pastime. Like attracts like, and finding a like-minded group who share similar interests could be the key to unlocking more meaningful relationships. “Whether it’s joining a book club, cooking class, yoga, or bonding over a game of cards, whatever your passion may be, start by kicking off a conversation with someone who participates in a shared activity. While exploring a new hobby is fantastic, consider turning your attention closer to home and connecting with those who already share your interests,” Jacqui adds. Take Note Long-lasting friendships can fill gaps in our life we never knew existed. As Jacqui explains, “Take note of how supported you currently feel and if there are any areas that may need a little nudge. Reflection will invariably help to narrow down the type of friendship you may be seeking and allow you to better understand your own needs. Through self-reflection, you gain invaluable insights that not only pinpoint the specific type of friendship you might be yearning for but also enhance your understanding of your own emotional requirements. This conscious exploration becomes a compass, guiding you toward the relationships that can truly fulfil and enrich your life.” The journey of making friendships in adulthood is not without its challenges, but the rewards are immeasurable. As Jacqui reminds us, being open to new connections, actively engaging in shared interests, and conducting self-reflection are key elements in fostering meaningful relationships. “The path to forming long-lasting bonds involves stepping out of our comfort zones, whether by joining a new group, pursuing shared activities, or simply initiating conversations. Remember, the richness of these connections lies not just in the joy of shared experiences but also in the support and understanding they provide,” Jacqui concludes, Friendships in adulthood are well worth investing in, providing fulfilment, support, and the delight of shared moments. So, embrace the adventure, take note of your needs, and savour the delight of building connections that truly enrich your life. Ready to try your hand at building new friendships? Visit <a href="https://www.connectedwomen.net" target="_blank" rel="noopener">connectedwomen.net </a> About Connected Women Jacqui Manning is the Resident Psychologist at Connected Women, bringing with her over two decades of experience. Founded in 2022, Connected Women facilitates friendships for women over 50 through a range of online and in-person events. With the rising epidemic of loneliness impacting Australians now more than ever, Connected Women aims to provide a community in which women can feel free to be themselves, connect with like-minded women and build life-long friendships. Launched in Perth, Western Australia, Connected Women now also operates in New South Wales and Victoria, with plans to grow its network to Queensland, the Australian Capital Territory and South Australia in the coming year. With a small monthly membership fee, women can join Connected Women events, share, and connect over areas of interest, and connect with women in their local areas to arrange meet-ups. Whether members prefer big events with lots of action and adventure, or quiet meetups around the local neighbourhood, Connected Women is committed to providing a safe and inclusive space for women to find their feet and build new friendships in a space that feels most comfortable to them. Image credits: Getty Images

Relationships

A quick and easy guide to the holliest and jolliest Christmas cocktails

When it comes to the holiday season, nothing screams festive like Christmas-themed food and drinks. For your next holiday party, or if you're looking for a festive tipple on Christmas Eve to welcome in the big day, here's a list of our three favourite Christmas cocktails. All easy to make and undeniably delicious, these festive cocktails are guaranteed to have you in the Christmas spirit quicker than you can say "Another round!" Holiday Margarita Ingredients: · 30 ml Cointreau · 30 ml Blanco Tequila · 30 ml Fresh Lime Juice · 6 drops Aromatic Bitters Method: 1. Combine all ingredients in a cocktail shaker and add ice 2. Shake and strain into a cinnamon sugar-rimmed coupe glass 3. Garnish with rosemary sprig Holiday Cosmopolitan Ingredients: · 20 ml Cointreau · 40 ml Vodka · 20 ml Fresh Lime Juice · 20 ml Cinnamon Clove Cranberry Syrup Method: 1. To make the syrup: Add 1 cup cranberries, 1 cup water, 1 cup sugar, 1 stick cinnamon, 5 cloves in a saucepan and heat up until boiled 2. Add all ingredients into a cocktail shaker and shake until well chilled 3. Strain into chilled glass 4. Garnish with a cinnamon stick Holiday Jam Ingredients: · 20ml Cointreau · 40 ml Vodka · 20 ml Fresh Lime Juice · 10 ml Cranberry Juice · 1 Bar Spoon Blackberries Method: 1. Add all ingredients into a cocktail shaker and shake until well chilled 2. Strain into chilled glass 3. Garnish with a blackberry Image credits: Supplied

Food & Wine

“Proud of my wrinkles”: Twiggy’s guide to ageing gracefully

Twiggy first exploded onto the modelling industry when she was crowned “The Face Of 1966”. The icon has since developed a stellar career and was even made a dame in 2019. Despite her rapid rise to fame (her photo was spotted by a fashion journalist) and her trusty address book full of celebrity contacts, the '60s icon remains grounded as she shared her love for the “ordinary things”. “We’ve all met people in the entertainment business who are kind of flying, they’re not quite with the world, are they? And that’s not me,” she said in an interview for the Daily Mail. “I love going to the supermarket, just ordinary things. I love my job, but my life is real life with Leigh and my kids, my grandkids, my friends”. Twiggy, whose real name is Lesley Hornby, is a proud grandmother who clearly loves going by adorable nicknames as she prefers to be called “mimi” instead of grandma. When speaking about her grandchildren, her face lights up. The former model has two biological grandchildren from her daughter, Carly, and three step-grandchildren from her partner, Leigh Lawson’s son, Jason. “He’s got three now, so when we get a houseful, it is noisy. But I love it. It’s what life’s about, isn’t it?” she said. Twiggy also proudly shared how different her life as “mimi” looks. The usually glammed up star said that in her day-to-day life she is usually bare-faced, with a ponytail. “That’s me when I’m out and about. Sunglasses, hair just pulled under a baseball cap,” she said. Unlike other stars who may have opted to go under the knife, Twiggy is proud of her natural look. “I’m kind of proud of my wrinkles,” she said. “I understand when people have little tweaks and maybe I’ll even do it, I don’t know. “But what I don’t think I’d ever do is all the stuff they inject, when they get those funny cheeks that look like cotton wool balls have been stuffed in them. It would frighten me,” she shared. She also shared how she embraces ageing by never getting botox. “It’s botulism, isn’t it?” she said of the procedure. “And I never fancied the idea of that floating round my body." She also said that she does Pilates once-a-week which helped her eliminate back pain, which had plagued her since she turned 60. Twiggy’s life story is going to be told for the first time in a documentary made by actor-turned-filmmaker Sadie Frost, with the final footage for the film taken just last week at the Cannes Film Festival. In September a Twiggy musical, Close Up, written and directed by Ben Elton is set to be released. Images: Getty

Beauty & Style

A guide to pairing wine and food

When it comes to selecting wines for to go with your meals, there are no absolute rules – the only expert opinion that matters is your own. That said, there are definitely choices that pair better with certain dishes. Pairing wines to a rich, complicated supper is not as difficult as it may seem. In fact, choosing wines to go with your winter meals can be among the most enjoyable and more relaxing stages in planning the dinner. At a minimum, you want to provide refreshment – water and wines – that flatter the meal's flavours. In many cases, a good-quality, medium-bodied red wine is a great choice with a lot of winter dishes. Welcoming guests and relatives with flutes of crisp, sparkling wine always creates a nice sense of occasion, whether your hors d'oeuvres are just some biscuits and dips or a lavish selection or meat and cheeses. And if you’re thinking of serving bubbles throughout an entire meal, you might be onto something. Although a soup or shellfish starter might be its ideal partner, the sparkling's bubbly assertiveness allows it to hold its own with more robust dishes. A traditional roast dinner – a popular meal choice in winter – that comes with baked vegetables, tests the liveliness of a single wine, and so often it makes sense to offer two or more that way guests can sip from whichever glass suits what they are eating. A red wine made substantially from pinot noir grapes is a fine partner for the distinctive taste of dark meat, and the black cherry-like character of many pinot noirs, will evoke the yummy berry, rich sauces that are popular throughout the cooler months of the year. With the broad range of flavours in your meals, you may want to consider introducing maturity and complexity in your wines. Try either the sun-baked earthiness you find in an shiraz or a rioja, or a hint of mellow age, such as that found in many wines older than four or five years. A well-crafted white wine can be a star of a winter dinner table, especially if it picks up on the citrus tones that are often present in sauces and garnishes of meals. Rich, concentrated white wines, such as a viognier or a chardonnay, with higher alcohol and a wisp of butterscotch sweetness, can enhance white meat. If the white is elegant and floral enough, it can be the perfect chaser for more herbal dishes, too. With very little legwork, you can find wines like these in every price range, so once you’ve decided on your menu and before you commit to certain wines, sample a few options. Image credit: Shutterstock

Food & Wine

Travel tips everyone will want to know

Making sure you’ve crossed everything off your to-do list in preparation for travelling takes military-like precision. From arranging travel insurance to ensuring your hotel is locked in – and even making sure you’ve packed all of the right documents in your bag – there’s a lot to consider and arrange. To ensure you have a smooth holiday – and to give you some ideas on how to handle things should you encounter any hiccups – we have rounded up the Over60 community’s top travel tips – and there are some real gems in here! ‪Sandy Dalzell says… “1. I typed up a travel/packing list several years ago when we started to travel overseas and I have saved it on my computer, so that when it is time to start getting organised and pack, I simply print off my list. I have all weather contingencies covered so obviously if we are going somewhere in summer, I simply cross off the thermals, gloves, scarf etc. It also has listed on it jobs to be done like turn off the water to the dishwasher and the washing machine etc. 2. We also put all of our house and car keys in an envelope and give them to one of our daughters for safekeeping – if we get broken into, they won't be able to unlock doors to steal stuff easily nor will they be able to drive off in our car. 3. My husband and I always get our travel insurance organised at least a month before we have to pay our final payment for our tour.” ‪Debra Hall‪ says… “1. Coordinate your clothes around one or two basic colours. Black evening pants/skirt is all you need for dressy occasions. Scarves/shawls/sarongs also make great accessories. ‪2. Know the local laws/customs and abide by them. ‪3. Carry baby wipes/facewipes. ‪4. Carry tissues that can double up as toilet paper. Plus carry a hand sanitiser. ‪5. Pack thongs for use in beach/pool/showers. Showers can be gross. ‪6. Buy and wear good walking shoes. Blisters are not fun and high heels don’t work on Europe’s cobblestone. ‪7. Take Imodium, bandaids, antiseptic cream and Panadol. ‪8. Don’t have a strict fixed itinerary... be flexible enough to enjoy and spend extra time at special discoveries. ‪9. Sit and people watch. Absorb the wonderful surrounds. ‪10. Talk and eat with the locals.” <a href="../travel/travel-insurance/2014/12/travel-insurance-facts/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Related link: Surprising facts about travel insurance</a> ‪Judy Ward‪ says… “If travelling with a companion, put half of your clothes in their bag and vice versa. That way, if one bag gets lost you will still have some clothes until you can buy more.” ‪Ally Macklinsays… “I always get my doctor to give me a script for a general antibiotic – two doses. Get the script filled before you go. It has come in handy on two occasions. Better to have it on you than trying to find a doctor in a strange place. Also take a small first aid kit.” ‪Gai Brown says…‪ “Take one adaptor (or universal if you’re visiting different zones) and an Aussie power board with four to six outlets. Then you can charge all of your devices and use hair dryer/straightener at the same time – easy!” ‪Lesley Bradford‪ says… “ALWAYS photocopy every document – both sides. Leave one lot at home with a family member or trusted friend. And take a copy with you, in a separate area of your luggage. It is amazing the people who need the information when they lose passports, purses etc. And take out travel insurance – it is amazing the number of people who go overseas and spend thousands and complain about another few hundred dollars.” ‪Denise Trainor‪ says… “Be methodical and develop routines. Lists are invaluable, start about three before the trip. Don't forget to cancel the paper, gym membership and set up all household bills on direct debit. Organise someone to keep an eye on your house and collect your mail etc. Organise your SIM card for your overseas travel. Pack your suitcase and then take half out. Plan to take only comfortable clothes and shoes. Take old underwear and throw it out before you arrive home.” ‪Rosemary Thomas says..‪. “I pack an old towel in the bottom of my case. When I handwash clothing while away, I wring out as much as I can then put my clothes inside the towel then stomp on it – to remove most of the moisture. Clothes are usually dry by next day.” ‪Amanda Candy says…‪ “Less is more. I like to travel light. Leave room for serendipity if your entire trip is planned to the last second it doesn't leave room for those spontaneous opportunities that always happen when you are travelling. Don't be afraid to talk to people when you’re in new places – if you only spend time with your travel companion you miss out so many magical moments. Talk to the locals.” ‪Helen Newton‪ says… “Having just recently returned from overseas, in future I would have the following ready and accessible: travel insurance policy number, passport, and credit card. I had to call a doctor in the middle of the night for a medical emergency and it is very difficult to think of where each of these documents/cards are stored in your hotel room. If you have a copy of each of these things in a folder or envelope, it would make things less stressful.” ‪Kathie Wright says…‪ “I always take a photo on my iPhone of all the printed documents including passports and save to iPhone.” ‪Christine Maree Cieplucha says…‪ “I roll all of my clothes and put them in zipped bags that have names on them – for example, dresses, trousers, blouses, underwear. Plus, I have shoe bags and if possible I put the shoe colour in the same colour bag (yes a bit OCD) but it does help. I find I don’t have to reef through things to find a top or dress – instead, I know exactly where to look.” Related links: <a href="http://www.oversixty.co.nz/travel/travel-tips/2016/01/travel-scams-to-watch-out-for-in-2016/">16 travel scams to watch out for in 2016</a> <a href="http://www.oversixty.co.nz/travel/travel-tips/2015/12/how-credit-card-travel-insurance-works/">How does credit card travel insurance work?</a> <a href="http://www.oversixty.co.nz/travel/travel-tips/2015/12/how-to-stretch-your-travel-budget/">6 simple steps to make your travel budget go further</a> Image credit: Shutterstock

Travel Tips

A guide to affordable art

The art world can seem intimidating from the outside, but buying striking pieces of art is one of life’s great pleasures and can transform a room instantly. What’s your style? Go and see as much art as you can to help determine the style you’re most drawn to. Look for student sales at art schools, auctions, antiques fairs and local galleries. Flick through art history books, go to museums and do some online research about any artists you like. Keep an open mind. When we think of art we tend to think of paintings, but look at photography and sculptures too. You might discover that’s where your art heart lies. Prints vs originals Many people write off prints as nothing more than posters, but a print is still an original work of art. The artist creates each print by hand, creating an original image on a surface such as wood, rubber, stone or metal, applies colour and then creates a print on paper. They make great entry-level art. Reproductions are more like inexpensive posters, and there’s nothing wrong with starting off with some posters you love, beautifully framed and well positioned. Original works are naturally the most expensive way to buy art as they are one of a kind. Imagine a best-selling author only allowing one person to own their book, or a director only letting one person see their movie. You are buying the art in its entirety: the idea, the craftmanship, the artists’ time, talent and the materials and any future gain in value. How do I make a good investment? Unless you’re planning to become a serious art collector, the most important two questions you should ask yourself when buying art are: do I love it? Can I afford it? Buying something in the hope its value might go up is risky. If there’s an emerging artist you like whose career trajectory seems to be on the up, then go for it and you might get lucky. But still don’t buy it unless you love it. Should I buy online? You’ll find an enormous choice online. Research the artist, try to see some of their work in the flesh before you take the plunge, and make sure you measure up so you know exactly the size of the artwork and whether it will look good in your space. How do I display it? If you buy from a gallery, ask them for framing advice or to frame it for you, or take it to a framer to make sure you’re making the most of it. Talk to them about whether UV glass would be suitable, to protect the art from sun damage. Always hang art at eye level and in a place where you will get the most enjoyment from it, and never in the bathroom where there’s too much moisture. Image credits: Getty Images

Art

A dating coach’s guide to making a lasting impression with that special someone

Monica Parikh is a lawyer, writer, and dating coach. She started the <a href="http://www.schooloflovenyc.com" target="_blank" rel="noopener">School of Love in New York City</a> to help men and women develop happier and healthier relationships. When my ex-husband disappeared, I unexpectedly got divorced at 36 years old. I went back on the dating market--after a 10-year hiatus. Flirting was the best tool in my arsenal (besides an optimistic attitude). Before long, I was meeting men in all sorts of places—the subway, elevators, the gym, and airports. In my coaching practice, I often see women and men who have forgotten how to flirt. Oh, the pity! Flirting adds spicy intrigue to the mundane. If you’re single, it’s a wonderful way to signal availability and interest. If you’re in a relationship, it helps maintain spark and fuels passion. A little simple flirting says to the world, “I’m alive!” Flirtation is simply the art of conversation amped up a notch. I’ve always been a good flirt, but as I’ve gotten older, I’ve become a better—mostly because I’ve grown in confidence and self-esteem. A few key tips: 1. Radiate strength Naked selfies aren’t sexy. Neither is telling your life story on a first date. Real sexiness stems from the ability to tickle the imagination and create intrigue. Less exhibitionism, fewer words, and more confidence fuel desire. 2. Smile Smile big and often — it lights up your face and says that you’re approachable and warm. It is the green light that gives others confidence to approach you and start conversation. 3. Be playfully combative When we’re attracted to someone, we often veer toward being overly agreeable and conciliatory. Talk about throwing cold water on a spark! Being challenging, feisty, and a bit unpredictable (while still being nice) is very sexy. My partner and I often playfully spar with words. Intelligent banter makes for a very flirtatious (and fun) relationship. 4. Create an air of mystery When I was single, a stranger on an elevator once offered to walk me to the subway with his umbrella during a rainstorm. When we arrived, he asked for my number. I demurred, saying that I don’t talk to strangers. (Wink.) He offered his card. I took it but made no promises. He was handsome and charismatic, so I knew he was used to having women chase him. I waited several days (to build intrigue) and sent him a one-sentence email. He responded immediately, admitting that he checked his email constantly for word from me. Not knowing where the other person stands fuels desire. So, hold your cards close to your chest. 5. Laugh We’re all a little too serious. Take a ribbing. Give a ribbing. Laugh until your sides ache. Dating and romance are supposed to be fun, after all. 6. Tap into your feminine (or masculine) energy I have a serious job as a lawyer during the day, so I make deliberate efforts to tap into my softer side after work. I often go home, take a bath and change clothes before a date. I love jewel-colored dresses, red lipstick, and French perfume. This little ritual “washes” the 9-to-5 off me and helps me tap into a different energy/vibration. Each person’s formula is unique, but spend time figuring out the clothing, style, and rituals that bring about the most authentic and empowered you. 7. Ask questions Conversation with a stranger can be daunting. My advice? Show interest in your beloved’s work, hobbies, family, and interests. Sit back and relax while they open up. You will glean key insights. And I guarantee they will remember you as an amazing conversationalist while they have performed the bulk of the work. 8. Say a person's name — often My game changed for the better after reading Dale Carnegie’s How to Win Friends and Influence People. While technically not a dating book, it’s a wonderful guide on how to be a more engaging person. Carnegie says that someone's name is "to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.” Pay attention when someone introduces themselves. Repeat their name back immediately. Sprinkle it throughout conversation. Be amazed at the result. 9. Show warmth Gently touching someone’s hand or back is a wonderful way to show interest. Be respectful of another person’s space. It’s not about draping yourself all over them (or being clingy), which is a big turn-off. It’s about small signals of interest, respectfully scattered here and there. 10. Be original Successful flirting is about being 100 percent you. Personally, I’m an extroverted nerd who loves the public library, backpacking through Asia, Wes Anderson films, and 1970's soul music. Don’t be afraid to stand out from the crowd. Accept that what makes you unique also makes you memorable. That is the most powerful vibrational frequency you can live in — and one that will surely attract an ideal partner. Images: Getty

Relationships

Must-have food experiences when in Rome

There are only two reasons people go to Rome – for the sights such as the Trevi Fountain, the Colosseum, St Peter’s Basilica. The second, people will tell you, is the culture. But that’s a lie. Don’t believe them. They’re really just there for the food. Not that we’re judging, we’re just pointing out the obvious. And it is obvious, because Rome’s food scene is wonderful. To help you do Rome like a foodie, here are four absolutely essential things to do when you’re there. Eating tours Got some time to spare and a stomach that needs serious filling? Go on one of Rome’s many eating tours. There are loads to choose from so do your research about which one is best for you, then eat your way around the city. TOP TIP: If you go back a day or two later, it’ll be a different group or people and possibly a different tour guide, so no one will judge you for doing it all again. The Pasta Museum Got a love for carbs that is as high as the Tower of Pisa? Then you might want to visit the Pasta Museum – one of Rome’s more obscure tourist destinations. You can lean about all things pasta: its history, nutritional values, how it’s made. You can see pasta-making machines from different eras and pick up some, you guessed it – pasta – from the gift shop on your way out. WHERE: Piazza Scanderbeg 117 (not far from the Trevi Fountain) Mozarella madness Perfect for when you want a light meal, mozzarella bars will serve you out-of-this-world cheese with salad, smoked salmon or prosciutto. Treat yourself and add a glass of wine for the ultimate indulgence. Gelato everywhere If you don’t know the nutritional benefits of gelato, let us give you a refresher: it’s delicious. When you’re in Rome, you have to eat as much gelato as you can so you can rave about it to your friends and family when you get home. Try to avoid the tourist traps that charge through the nose – do your research and find out where the locals go for their gelato. Image credit: Shutterstock

International Travel

Golfers guide to lower back pain

Dr Richard Parkinson is a highly trained neurosurgeon who has performed ground breaking and complex surgery on some of Australia's elite sportspeople and recognised as a leading expert in sports injuries. Golf is a great sport for general fitness, including muscular endurance and cardiovascular wellbeing. However, it’s time we talked about golf back pain, which is a fairly common affliction, exacerbated by the more advanced age of the average amateur golfer. Fortunately, the pros of getting out there on the green outweigh the cons. Lower back pain in golfers is common, as are a range of other injuries to areas including the neck, shoulders, elbows, head and eyes. Interestingly enough, injuries to the knees are pretty rare. Golf back pain and neck pain are usually related to bending or twisting injury and both are, in turn, often related to current swinging of the club. Golf is, unfortunately, a fairly asymmetric sport. The price of the swing The problem is that the swinging action causing the pain is unavoidable in golf. You can't hold your back completely still while you swing. Having said that, though, it's not a tremendously high impact sport by any reach of the imagination, and the exercise you get from being outdoors and getting some gentle exercise is very beneficial. So for people who are a bit older, golf remains an excellent way to get some exercise and have some fun. Equally, however, that twisting can increase the problem with lower back pain and really the only thing you can do is, if you're hurting, work on your short game and minimise your swing. Other solutions might be to work on your putt and to try to improve your score by avoiding the big screen with the three wood. Most people can do a short swing with an iron and get three quarters of the way. The core of the problem When I discover lower back pain in golfers, I usually tell them to go and see a physio and get some work done on their core. In the meantime, they can still work on their short game while they gradually find their way back to full strength with the assistance of a physio. Core strength is the key to avoiding golf back pain. Golfers need to learn how to turn their core on—to engage it, in other words—when they swing, and to start approaching their game in a physiological way with a bit of knowledge about how their body works. There are a lot of golfers out there, and it is, generally speaking, a low-risk game for injuries—but what if you have an established back problem or disc herniation, what should you do about your golf? After I perform disc surgery, I usually tell patients to have three months off golf, because the twisting can predispose you to golf back pain. Your first step If you do have an injury, it's always worthwhile giving it some physiotherapy and, as a Sydney neurosurgeon, I can definitely refer my patients to a physio with an interest in golfing injuries. There are physios out there that specialise in asymmetric sports; then there are those that specialise in over-arm sports − and there are those physios that specialise in bending and twisting type sports. Images: Getty

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The ultimate travel guide for film fanatics

More often than not, the stunning landscapes and sweeping vistas in film and television leave audiences craving a trip to fantasy worlds, with little to no idea how to get there. And for the talented team over at SetJetters, this was a problem they had to tackle. From their efforts came “the best way to search for, navigate to, and share your trips to the great film and television locations around the world”, all with their handy dandy “handheld travel guide”. SetJetters is a free app that allows people all across the globe to find the real-world locations where some of their favourite moments from the screen were filmed, and even offers them the opportunity to upload their own images and share their thoughts with fellow film fanatics. “Whether you’re a location geek out in the field or a film buff binge-watching at home and wondering where a great scene was filmed, SetJetters will not only help you find the answer – but also help you get to the location and right into the action,” SetJetters’ official Instagram account explained in a post. “Whether it’s close to home or across the globe, SetJetters is designed to be your handheld travel guide to the most exciting film locations, from the biggest studio franchises – like Lord of the Rings, Star Wars, Game of Thrones, and Mission: Impossible – to smaller independent films and classics.” And as Erik Nachtriev - a former filmmaker and co-founder of SetJetters - explained to Andrew Bucklow on the I’ve Got News For You podcast, the idea came about for the group during the height of the Covid-19 pandemic. And they have no intentions of slowing down any time soon, with so much more still to be added to their passion project. “We have 91,000 movies, but we only have 6000 published, so you can see we have a lot of work to do as far as movies [go],” he said. “We actually intend to have movies in the hundreds of thousands eventually.” The team also hope to one day have enough data that they can determine the world’s most popular scenes and locations, something they believe may assist local economies in understanding the impact of big screen tourism in their area. “The biggest scenes, I would say, the craziest people about scenes are Twilight people. And the people who love the movie The Goonies from the ’80s,” he said of their findings so far, before adding that while their app has a global reach, most of its locations are focussed where the app originated - the United States of America. As well as its innovative map, the app also features something it calls the ‘ShotSync camera’, which allows users to place themselves directly into their favourite on-screen scenes. “We find that a lot of users like to take a picture immersing themselves in the scene. They want to be right where their favourite actor stood or inside their favourite scene,” Nachtriev explained. “There’s a really large emotional attachment to the scene and reliving it, so this was a way that we could develop this for them. “You bring up your camera and there’s a slider on your camera that comes up inside the app, and it shows the image of the scene. Whoever is taking the picture can slide the slider back and forth to make it transparent, so you can line it up almost exactly. You can even cosplay with your favourite costume. “Take the picture. It’ll show [it] like how it was in the movie and how it is with you there. A lot of the background changes. “People love that ‘then and now’ kind of thing.” Images: setjetters.com, @setjetters / Instagram

Domestic Travel

6 step guide to travelling in developing countries

Developing countries are endlessly fascinating and a travel experience not be missed, though you will need to be prepared. 1. Do your research In developing countries, it’s rare that you can just buy a plane ticket, arrive and wing it. You’ll need to research destinations, accommodation, transport options and safety in much more depth than you would for your typical holiday spot. This research should continue right up until you depart. The situations in these countries can change overnight, so you want to be up to date with any dangerous incidents or government warnings. 2. Learn the local customs A little consideration goes a long way. You don’t want to be the obnoxious tourist who is offending locals without even realising it. As part of your research, look into things like appropriate dress code, cultural conventions around touching or the correct type of language to use. You’ll also need to make some observations during your first few days in a country and ensure you’re behaving in an appropriate way. Remember that you are a guest in their community and should be respectful of their beliefs and customs. 3. Be prepared for limited facilities Be prepared for a different level of comfort than you would expect at home or in a first world country. You’ll mostly need to avoid drinking the tap water and the toilets may leave something to be desired. Toiletries can also be hard to come by, so come with your own supply of wet wipes, hand sanitisers or any personal items you need. 4. Choose wisely This applies to everything from your choice of hotel to buying a snack on the street. Even if you’ve booked a hotel online, make sure that you check the security features and quality of the room before you commit to spending the night. Do your own research or ask a travel agent about the safest transport options. Many developing countries don’t have the same standards for their airlines or trains as we do. And when you’re choosing a restaurant, find somewhere that looks clean, busy and is well patronised by locals (not just tourists) – they are the best judges of where to eat. 5. Beware of begging Poverty can be a big problem in many developing countries, so it’s common to see people begging on the street. It’s tempting to give people money, especially when it’s children. While it might seem that you are helping them, handouts from travellers can create an ongoing culture of begging. Instead, look for a local charitable organisation to donate to or approach a local school or church and see if there are any supplies you can purchase for them. 6. Understand bartering and bribery Bartering is a part of life in many developing countries and is expected everywhere from the local market to taxi drivers. Vendors often like to get tourists to play the game and will encourage you to bargain with them, even if you are happy to pay the original price. You don’t want to be ripped off but also remember that while saving a dollar or so means little to you, it can be a big difference to them. You also need to be aware that many of these countries operate on an unofficial system of bribery, so you might be expected to pay a small fee to make a transaction go smoothly. If the amount is small enough, just pay it and move on. 7. Register your travel New Zealand government organisation SafeTravel encourages all travellers to register with them, but this is most important if you’re visiting developing countries. In the event of a disaster, communication can become impossible so it is a good idea if the local embassy knows you are in the country. They may be able to provide assistance or just let your family back home know that you are safe. It’s free and only takes a couple of minutes. Image credits: Getty Images

Travel Tips

Time to focus: The accidental photographer’s guide to taking great travel shots

Interested in photography? Travelling overseas? Freelance travel writer, photographer and content queen Carolyne Jasinski shares some of the best tips to get great shots wherever you are. What makes the perfect photograph? Is it a complicated combination of aperture settings to determine depth of field or shutter priority to choose between blurred movement or keeping everything in focus? No. It’s much simpler than that. The perfect photo is the one you like best. But there is a knack to getting those pics. I am a travel journalist, so words are my main focus. But most stories need good photos to get published, so I have had to learn how to take photos for publication. I am the accidental photographer. I have taken courses, sat in on workshops and even been on a photography-based expedition to the Arctic. I have travelled with landscape photographers, wildlife snappers, photojournalists who cover war zones, news “togs” and those who shoot food and fashion. Each has taught me something different. So how do we get those great shots? Here are some simple tips to help budding photographers – and you might be surprised at how many of these you are already doing. 1. Don't knock the automatic setting Digital cameras have made life easy. If you’re happy with what your camera produces on automatic, stick to it. That’s what you’ve paid for. But, if you want to learn the “how and why” of photography, play with all those extra dials. Take a course or better still, go on a photography weekend and learn from the professionals. It’s really interesting knowing how to be in control. 2. Horizontal and vertical Take horizontal and vertical shots of the same subject — you’ll be surprised at how different the photos turn out. It’s especially important if you are going to try and sell them to a magazine or online site. More than once I’ve heard designers despair because they have the perfect image to go alongside a story, but it’s oriented the wrong way. Give them both and double your chances of getting published. If you want to make it to the cover of a magazine, take a vertical (portrait) photo. Horizontal (wide) shots are best for inside pages, especially a spread. 3. Rule of thirds Divide your frame into thirds — both horizontally and vertically. Place the focus of your pic on one of those third lines rather than in the middle of your frame. 4. Change your angle... Move A photo that looks ordinary from front-on can be much more interesting from a different angle. The trick is to move. Get in closer — unless it’s a wild animal. If there are big teeth or horns involved, just zoom in with your camera. Try getting down on the ground or taking the shot from a high point 5. People For me, travel is all about people. Photos always look better with people in them as they add perspective and “life”. Take snapshots to help remember the people you meet. But be kind. Lift chins and cover cleavages. Be aware of what shooting from down low does to your friends — no-one will thank you for highlighting their double chin or looking up their nostrils. 6. Zoom in Get up close and personal with your zoom lens. It can be a powerful tool for capturing the nitty gritty. 7. Shapes & patterns Look for interesting shapes. Natural patterns make naturally great shots. 8. Diagonals and leading lines Diagonals create visual flow and add the illusion of movement and dimension to photos. No matter where they start in a frame, they can pull you in and act as a leading line to where you want the focal point to be. Not all leading lines have to be diagonals … a curving river, for example can lead you to a spectacular backdrop. 9. Work with the light The general rule when it comes to working with light is: Don’t shoot into the light. Unless it works. Sunsets are a great example. But when shooting sunsets, always turn around and look at what the light is doing behind you. Sometimes it’s even prettier than what’s in front. Bright sunny days will often give the most ordinary pics. Early morning, shadows and evening light offer the best contrasts. 10. Contrast If you see contrast, capture it — look for light and dark, colour and mono. It might be a bright green shoot coming out of a blackened tree trunk, or a pop of colour in a sea of grey. They always make for interesting shots. 11. Framing Use natural elements to frame your shot. Same goes for man-made structures — they often make perfect boundaries for your pics. Natural props make your job easy. 12. Location markers Signs or souvenirs (with names) can help you remember where you are. Pics of information boards are great memory joggers and the best notes when trying to write your journal or travel story later. 13. Aim for something different Shoot the obvious but aim for more and shoot that, too. 14. Ask permission when shooting people Cultural cringe — if you are in a foreign country, always ask for permission to take a photo. It’s common courtesy. And before including children, always ask their parents and explain what you are doing. If you want to publish those photos, you’ll need written permission. 15. Surprise element Try to capture people (you know) when they are unaware that you are there. Candid shots are often the best. 16. Capture the moment It’s all about being in the right place at the right time. If you see a great photo opportunity, don’t think, “I’ll come back and get that later.” Later might be too late. 17. Reflections Use reflections to reflect on the moment. 18. Mood Let photos reflect how you feel. 19. Aperture and shutter priority It had to get technical somewhere. As you increase the size of your aperture (increasing the hole you shoot through) you let more light into your image sensor. That means you need a shorter shutter speed. If you increase the length of time your shutter is open, you decrease the aperture needed to get a well exposed shot. Aperture and Shutter Priority modes are semi-automatic on most cameras. If you set one, your camera will set the other. Or it will have a dial or meter to show where the perfect setting is. 20. Depth of field Aperture Priority — ‘A’ or ‘AV’ on your camera program dial. When would you use it? To get “depth of field”. If you want a shallow depth of field — an object in front in focus but the background blurred — choose a large aperture (f/1.4) and let the camera choose an appropriate shutter speed. If you want an image with everything in focus, choose a smaller aperture (f/22) and let the camera choose an appropriate shutter speed (generally a longer one). Or you can use Portrait mode on your iPhone. 21. Movement Shutter Priority — ‘TV’ or ‘S’ on your camera dial. When would you use it? To capture movement. If you want to photograph a moving object but want to freeze it so there is no motion blur, choose a fast shutter speed (1/2000) and let the camera decide how much light there is available and set an appropriate aperture. If you want to photograph the object but include some motion blur, choose a slower shutter speed (1/125) and let the camera choose a smaller aperture as a result. The slower the shutter speed, the more need for a tripod. 22. High resolution photos What does high resolution mean? It means a photo with a lot of information — showing a lot of detail. For publication in magazines, you need a photo with at least 300 dpi (dots per inch) that means your photos need to be at least 2MB in size (but the more, the better). All images: Carolyne Jasinski

Travel Tips

How to save money when travelling solo

It seems unfair that if you travel alone you can end up paying twice as much. Single surcharges, set room prices and taking taxis can all add up and make solo travel an unappealing prospect. But it doesn’t have to be so. These are our top tips for saving money when you’re on your own. Buddy up If you’re taking an organised tour or a cruise, you’ll need to avoid the dreaded single supplement; this can add anywhere from 25 per cent to 100 per cent to the rate. If you don’t mind sharing, many companies offer roommate matching where they will pair you with another traveller of the same sex and save you both some cash. Many will also do their best to match you with someone similar to you in age and language, so you’re more like to get on. G Adventures, Intrepid Traveller and Holland America Line are just some that offer this service, so do your research and see what suits you. Be flexible If you don’t mind booking at the last minute or aren’t too set on a destination, some tour companies will waive the single supplement if they still have empty spots close to departure. It’s unlikely that they will publish these discounts on their website, so call the company directly and see if they have any spots available at a discounted rate. Let the deal dictate your destination – you might discover a fantastic place you’d never even thought of. Get the room right Most hotels have a set room rate regardless of how many guests are staying, which can mean singles pay double the cost. Airbnb is a great option for solo travellers – you can rent a room in someone’s house for a fraction of the cost of a hotel room, and you’ll also get to mix with the locals. Backpacker hostels are also real moneysavers. We’re not suggesting you share a dormitory, but they often have decent single rooms available for a very reasonable rate (though you may have to share a bathroom). You probably won’t be spending much time in your room as you’ll be out exploring, so as long as it’s clean and safe there’s no need to spend a fortune. Share the ride If you are taking a taxi or car service from your hotel to the airport, ask at the front desk if anyone else has requested one for the same time. You can see if they are willing to share and split the bill. Or if you hear someone at baggage claim or in the taxi line mention your hotel, be bold and ask if you can join them. Food for thought Food can be a big expense when you’re on the road, but you also don’t want to miss out on trying delicious local cuisine. In many countries (especially in Asia) street stalls offer tasty food at a fraction of the price of a restaurant. In Europe solo diners can often sit at the bar instead of a table and choose from a cheaper menu. Produce markets and supermarkets are a great option for putting together a cheap meal – make yourself a picnic and head to a sunny park to enjoy it. Find a deal Discount sites like Groupon or Living Social offer deals on everything from meals and spa treatments to tours and concerts. Sign up to the relevant site for the city you’re visiting a few weeks before you go and you could be able to nab yourself some great experiences at a fraction of the cost. Image credits: Shutterstock

Travel Tips

8 money-saving landscaping tips

Changing up your garden can be a costly exercise (not to mention tiring and time-consuming) but a beautiful garden where you can relax and enjoy is worth the price. However, it still doesn’t have to cost you an arm and a leg. Just take on board our money-saving landscaping tips for a new garden at half the price. Do your research Look to gardening books, magazines, websites and <a href="../lifestyle/technology/2015/02/beginner-guide-pinterest/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Pinterest</a> for endless inspiration! Cut out (or bookmark if you’re on the internet) pictures you like and get an idea for what you’re after. This will help you narrow the list of what you need to buy and what you need to do. Keep that in mind when you get free advice from under-trained or overzealous staff at garden centres. Trust your instincts! You know your garden. Make a plan Sketch a landscape design so you know exactly what you need and where it’s going. This will stop wastage on materials, effort and time. It will also stop you impulse buying – remember don’t buy anything that doesn’t already have a planned place in the garden. Re-arrange plants An easy way to get a new garden look without purchasing more plants is to re-arrange the plants you have now. Remember to check if plant types are compatible though. Time your purchases Price and quality can vary quite drastically at different places and different seasons. Comparison shop to see if you’re getting the best deal or wait until sale season and stock-up. Check alternate resources Look beyond stores - you can find great deals on plants, tools or bric-a-brac for decorations at garage sales, car boot sales and markets. If you’ve got a green thumb neighbour, they might be happy to share some perennials and some local council’s offer free mulch and compost. Make your own compost Compost is easy to make yourself and has so many uses for your garden. Test the soil A simple test will tell you what your soil lacks, saving you from spending money on the wrong plants. Check the pH level as well to ensure it’s not too acidic or alkaline. Choose native plants Select plants that grow naturally in your region will means less maintenance cost. Ask your local nursery and check out which plants are thriving in neighbouring gardens. Image: Getty Images

Home Hints & Tips

7 tips to make fresh flowers last longer

It’s always such a nice treat to have fresh flowers in the house – whether they’ve been bought for you by a special someone, you’ve treated yourself, or you’ve just cut them straight from your very own garden. But many people don’t know the correct way to look after a bunch of flowers to ensure they get to enjoy their beauty for as long as possible. So here are some simple tips to remember. <ol> <li>Start with the right kind of vase. Don’t try to cram too many flowers into a small vase – make sure the flowers have room to open fully so you can see as much of them as possible.</li> <li>Remove any low-hanging leaves. You don’t want any leaves to be sitting in the water, so be sure to prune them before putting your bouquet into your vase.</li> <li>Change the water daily. Flowers don’t like to sit in the same water day after day.</li> <li>Trim the stems. Every few days, trim the stems a little, cutting at an angle.</li> <li>Keep the flowers away from direct heat and sunlight. A room that is too warm will lead to wilted flowers, so be sure to choose somewhere that stays cool if possible. If you really want to stretch things, consider keeping the flowers in your fridge when you’re not in the house.</li> <li>When flowers start to wilt, remove any that don’t look so hot and transfer the bouquet to a smaller vase to freshen things up.</li> <li>If you’re left with just one or two late-opening blooms, you can float it in a decorative teacup full of water.</li> </ol> Image: Getty

Home & Garden

Top tips for growing tomatoes

Nothing beats the flavour of home-grown tomatoes, so start your own crop today with our top tips for growing tasty tomatoes. Don’t crowd seedlings – Crowded conditions inhabit growth so be sure to give your seedlings plenty of room. For each plant, prepare at least a 60 centimetre by 60 centimetre plot. Prime location – Tomatoes need at least eight hours of direct sunlight daily and shelter from strong wind. Plant a few varieties – There’s so many different types of tomatoes available so grow a few varieties. You’ll soon find that some types just suit your garden better, while others may be susceptible to disease. Staking – This is essential for tall-growing varieties of tomatoes. Add the stake at planting time and as the plant grows, tie it to the stake. Use soft ties, such as old stockings rather than string. This trains your plant, keeps it stable, takes up less space, prevent damage from strong winds and escapes the adverse effects of damp soil. Water well – Tomatoes need regular deep watering, especially during the warmer months. Even letting plants go thirsty for a few days will affect the quality of fruit. Water the soil, not the plant. Inspect often – Check daily for signs of pest or diseases. Remove dead leaves, unwanted shoots and harvest anything that is ready. Companion plant – Plant marigolds around tomatoes to reduce whitefly infestations. Or sacrifice some basil which will attract white flies away from your tomato. Garlic, nasturtiums or tagetes will repel aphids. Pot plants – Tomatoes grown in pots are more likely to dry out than those in the ground. However, if that’s not possible, the small bush type do best in pots. Use a big pot and water well. Yellowing leaves – Once tomato plants reach around a metre tall, the leaves at the bottom might turn yellow and die. This is normal so just snip them off. When to give up – If there are many yellowing leaves and the plant on a whole looks unhealthy, it may have contracted a bacterial, fungal or virus disease. The plant generally won’t flourish now and it’s best to be pulled out and disposed of. Don’t attempt to grow tomatoes in the same spot for at least a couple of years. Image: Getty

Home & Garden

Five tips for successful and safe solo travel

Planning an adventure on your own? Here’s your guide to friend-making, risk-taking and positive thinking while you’re off discovering yourself. Safety Unless you positively invite danger – i.e. strolling around a pitchblack park at 4am with headphones on – travelling alone isn’t actually that risky. The biggest peril is being taken for a ride. Literally, in the case of taxi drivers: always ask for an estimated fare before setting off. Otherwise, try to never look like a tourist; instead, exude assurance. Carry ID and always keep a back-up. Ensure that someone else knows your itinerary and commit to regular contact with them. Plan Being alone means you can’t use your cohort’s phone when yours runs out of juice, or rely on them should you lose your wallet. Put emergency systems in place: write down key numbers (friends, hotels, embassies, emergency services), have change for phone boxes and always keep some back-up money in your bag or, better still, in a locker. Eating Solomangarephobia. That’s the official, medical term for a fear of eating alone – a fear that many single travellers have. If you can get over your fear, it is very possible to enjoy the experience. Bring a book to dodge boredom, sit at counters to be less conspicuous or use the opportunity to practice your French or Filipino on a waiter. And scoff all the bread yourself. Making friends This is another common and very valid worry when travelling alone: what if no-one likes me? Acquiring new companions is always easier than feared, but still a scary proposition. It helps to look approachable – smile at people, have open body language and lose the sunglasses. Read something interesting to spark conversation, or ask strangers a question. More hands-on tactics include visiting expatriate bars, joining tours or using apps designed to help people make friends, such as Meetup. Enjoy it! Without realising it, most of us humans are very co-dependent: we worry whether our partner or friend is having a good time, and always balance their needs in decision-making. The joy of solo travel is that you can be entirely selfish: walk at your preferred pace, eat what and when you want, see the sights that interest you, use the entire hotel wardrobe. If you want to skip that museum of tractor history, you can. Take time to appreciate your independence and revel in that freedom. But, however well you plan in advance, things will go wrong. Missed trains, delayed planes, lost luggage, whatever. The trick is not to over-stress it; roll with the punches, laugh at it all, and draw up a new plan. Who knows: maybe Plan B will work out better anyway? Image credits: Getty Images This article originally appeared on <a href="https://www.readersdigest.co.nz/travel/activities/five-tips-successful-and-safe-solo-travel" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Reader's Digest</a>.

Travel Tips

A beginners guide to herb gardening

There’s an indescribable pleasure in sauntering out to your garden to pick freshly grown herbs to throw into your homemade dish. Anyone with an herb gardens would agree herbs from your personal garden gives food that extra oomph even freshly bought herbs don’t bring. What’s better is growing herbs is easy! How to grow herbs will depend on the particular herb you’re growing but here are some general rules to consider: Choose herbs you will use Think about what herbs you use for daily cooking. Popular options that enhance many dishes include oregano, basil, thyme and rosemary. Provide sunshine Most herbs need at least 6 or more hours of sunlight a day. There are some shade-loving exceptions like mint but Mediterranean herbs, such as rosemary, thyme, lavender and oregano, are drought-hardy and thrive in full sun. However, don’t scorch herbs. Place in an undercover area which receives sunlight. Invest in a good sized pot Don’t crowd your seedlings into a small sized pot. Provide room for them to grow and ensure it is deep enough for the roots to grow. Good drainage Herbs do not enjoy consistently damp or wet soil. Place gravel or stones at bottom of the pot to ensure good drainage. Quality soil Without good soil herbs will not grow properly. Supplement the soil with compost to give seedlings a boost. Water moderately During the early stages of growing herbs, you should water well. Once they are grown though, water moderately making sure you don’t over-water or under-water. Wait before harvesting Allow your herbs to grow before you start harvesting them. Wait into they are well and truly established (around twice the size) before plucking. Prune regularly Once your herbs have grown though don’t skimp on the pruning. This is what makes them grow faster and means more herbs for you to use! Image: Getty

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