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Groom slammed for arriving to his wedding in a coffin

<p>A groom has been blasted online for his "disrespectful" decision to be carried into his wedding ceremony in a coffin, which was hoisted up to the altar by his future wife's bridesmaids. </p> <p>The unnamed groom's bizarre entrance was captured on video by a wedding guest, as the man was carted up the aisle at his outdoor ceremony in a black casket, with two bridesmaids leading the eerie procession, while being helped by several groomsmen. </p> <p>The video, which was shared to TikTok, garnered a whopping 8.2 million views and although it didn't reveal the reactions of the bride, it certainly struck an unhappy chord with viewers, who were quick to blast the newlywed man's actions.</p> <div class="embed" style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; outline: none !important;"><iframe class="embedly-embed" style="box-sizing: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border-width: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; width: 617px; max-width: 100%; outline: none !important;" title="tiktok embed" src="https://cdn.embedly.com/widgets/media.html?src=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.tiktok.com%2Fembed%2Fv2%2F7163074385551641898&amp;display_name=tiktok&amp;url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.tiktok.com%2F%40tobz88%2Fvideo%2F7163074385551641898&amp;image=https%3A%2F%2Fp19-sign.tiktokcdn-us.com%2Fobj%2Ftos-useast5-p-0068-tx%2F6a5088edd5ab487b8c7f275ebee96326%3Fx-expires%3D1668553200%26x-signature%3DqdJJryU9a0IV5csE4DedsXQauf4%253D&amp;key=59e3ae3acaa649a5a98672932445e203&amp;type=text%2Fhtml&amp;schema=tiktok" width="340" height="700" frameborder="0" scrolling="no" allowfullscreen="allowfullscreen"></iframe></div> <p>The wedding guest shared the video along with the song Rest In Peace by Dorothy, while adding the caption, "Tell me you're dramatic without telling me you're dramatic.</p> <p>"They also wrote, "Is this a funeral? No, this is how my friend decided to walk down the aisle."</p> <p>Online critics were quick to offer up their own horrified reactions to the groom's idea of a joke, with several commenters insisting that they would have cancelled the wedding immediately if their partner had made a similar kind of entrance.  </p> <p>One user said, "We would be divorced before we said I do."</p> <p>Another user commented, "I would literally cancel the wedding", while another simply said, "The disrespect, the audacity."</p> <p><em>Image credits: TikTok </em></p>

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Coffin? Casket? Cremation? How to make your death more environmentally friendly

<p>We can all agree humans need to reduce their impact on the environment. And while most of us think of this in terms of daily activities – such as eating less meat, or being water-wise – this responsibility actually extends beyond life and into death.</p> <p>The global population is closing on <a href="https://www.un.org/en/un-chronicle/global-population-will-soon-reach-8-billion-then-what" target="_blank" rel="noopener">eight billion</a>, and the amount of land available for human burial is <a href="https://www.sciencefocus.com/the-human-body/deal-with-the-dead/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">running out</a>, especially in small and densely populated countries.</p> <p>To minimise environmental impact, human bodies should return to nature as quickly as possible. But the rate of decay in some of the most common traditional disposal methods is very slow. It can take <a href="https://www.businessinsider.com/how-long-it-takes-human-body-decompose-grave-coffin-2019-8" target="_blank" rel="noopener">several decades</a> for a body to decompose.</p> <p>In a one-of-its-kind study, our team analysed <a href="https://irispublishers.com/gjfsm/fulltext/a-taphonomic-examination-of-inhumed-and-entombed-remains-in-parma-cemeteries-italy.ID.000518.php" target="_blank" rel="noopener">408 human bodies</a> exhumed from grave pits and stone tombs in the north of Italy to find out what conditions help speed up decay.</p> <h2>The environmental cost of traditional burials</h2> <p>Funeral rituals should respect the dead, bring closure to families and promote the reaching of the afterlife in accordance with people’s beliefs. This looks different for different people. Although the Catholic church has allowed cremation <a href="https://www.nytimes.com/2016/10/26/world/europe/vatican-bans-scattering-of-human-ashes.html" target="_blank" rel="noopener">since 1963</a>, it still prefers burials. Muslims are always supposed to be buried, while most Hindus are cremated.</p> <p>In Australia, however, the latest census revealed almost 40% of the population identifies as “<a href="https://theconversation.com/no-religion-is-australias-second-largest-religious-group-and-its-having-a-profound-effect-on-our-laws-185697" target="_blank" rel="noopener">not religious</a>”. This opens up more avenues for how people’s bodies may be handled after death.</p> <p>Most traditional burial practices in industrialised countries have several long-lasting harmful <a href="https://apps.who.int/iris/bitstream/handle/10665/108132/EUR_ICP_EHNA_01_04_01%28A%29.pdf" target="_blank" rel="noopener">effects</a> on the environment. Wood and metal fragments in coffins and caskets remain in the ground, leaching harmful chemicals through paint, preservatives and alloys. Chemicals used for embalming also remain in the ground and can <a href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3315260/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">contaminate</a> soil and waterways.</p> <p>Cremation also has a large <a href="https://www.nationalgeographic.com/science/article/is-cremation-environmentally-friendly-heres-the-science" target="_blank" rel="noopener">carbon footprint</a>. It requires lots of trees for fuel and produces millions of tons of carbon dioxide each year, as well as toxic volatile compounds.</p> <p>There are several alternatives to traditional burials. These include “water cremation” or “resomation” (where the body is rapidly dissolved), human <a href="https://www.abc.net.au/news/2021-09-26/body-composting-a-green-alternative-to-burial-cremation/100486964" target="_blank" rel="noopener">composting</a>, mummification, cryonics (freezing and storage), <a href="https://eirene.ca/blog/space-burial-ashes-in-orbit" target="_blank" rel="noopener">space burials</a>, and even turning the body into <a href="https://edition.cnn.com/2017/05/03/world/eco-solutions-capsula-mundi/index.html" target="_blank" rel="noopener">trees</a> or the ashes into <a href="https://www.nationalgeographic.com/magazine/article/ashes-to-diamonds-reefs-rockets-how-we-will-memorialize-dead" target="_blank" rel="noopener">diamonds</a> or <a href="https://www.andvinyly.com/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">record vinyls</a>.</p> <p>However, many of these alternatives are either illegal, unavailable, costly or not aligned with people’s beliefs. The vast majority choose coffin burials, and all countries accept this method. So the question of sustainable burials comes down to choosing between the many types of <a href="https://australian.museum/about/history/exhibitions/death-the-last-taboo/burial-coffins-and-caskets/?gclid=CjwKCAjwx7GYBhB7EiwA0d8oe-mOKjLns2Gj5mpj-mu_kskmPPCKjhOqUrUAEjC05D4pnSXyBP3xrhoCE9oQAvD_BwE" target="_blank" rel="noopener">coffins available</a>.</p> <h2>What leads to faster decomposition?</h2> <p>Coffins range from traditional wooden caskets, to cardboard coffins, to natural coffins made from willow, banana leaf or bamboo, which decompose faster.</p> <p>The most environmentally sustainable choice is one that allows the body to decompose and reduce to a skeleton (or “skeletonise”) quickly – possibly in just a few years.</p> <p>Our research has presented three key findings on conditions that promote the skeletonisation of human bodies.</p> <p>First, it has confirmed that bodies disposed in traditionally sealed tombs (where a coffin is placed inside a stone space) can take more than 40 years to skeletonise.</p> <p>In these sealed tombs, bacteria rapidly consume the oxygen in the stone space where the coffin is placed. This creates a micro-environment that promotes an almost indefinite preservation of the body.</p> <p>We also found burial grounds with a high percentage of sand and gravel in the soil promote the decomposition and skeletonisation of bodies in less than ten years – even if they are in a coffin.</p> <p>That’s because this soil composition allows more circulation of air and microfauna, and ample water drainage – all of which are helpful for degrading organic matter.</p> <p>Finally, our research confirmed previous suspicions about the slow decomposition of entombed bodies. We discovered placing bodies inside stone tombs, or covering them with a stone slab on the ground, helps with the formation of corpse wax (or “<a href="https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/33596512/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">adipocere</a>”).</p> <p>This substance is the final result of several chemical reactions through which the body’s adipose (fat) tissues turn to a “soapy” substance that’s very resistant to further degradation. Having corpse wax slows down (if not completely arrests) the decomposition process.</p> <h2>A new, greener option</h2> <p>In looking for innovative burial solutions, we had the opportunity to experiment with a new type of body disposal in a tomb called an “<a href="https://www.mdpi.com/2673-6756/2/3/37" target="_blank" rel="noopener">aerated tomb</a>”.</p> <p>Over the past 20 years aerated tombs have been developed in some European countries including France, Spain and Italy (where they <a href="https://www.tecnofar-solutions.com/prodotti/sistema-aerato-loculi" target="_blank" rel="noopener">have</a> <a href="https://www.argema.net/loculi-aerati/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">been</a> <a href="https://www.ala-strutture-cimiteriali.com/loculi-aerati" target="_blank" rel="noopener">commercialised</a>). They allow plenty of ventilation, which in turn enables a more hygienic and faster decomposition of bodies compared to traditional tombs.</p> <p>They have a few notable features:</p> <ul> <li> <p>an activated carbon filter purifies gases</p> </li> <li> <p>fluids are absorbed by two distinct biodegrading biological powders, one placed at the bottom of the coffin and the other in a collecting tray beneath it</p> </li> <li> <p>once the body has decomposed, the skeletal remains can be moved to an ossuary (a site where skeletal remains are stored), while the tomb can be dismantled and most of its components potentially recycled.</p> </li> </ul> <p>Aerated tombs are also cheaper than ordinary tombs and can be built from existing tombs. They would be simple to use in Australia and would comply with public health and hygiene standards.</p> <p>Most of us don’t spend much time thinking about what will happen to our bodies after we die. Perhaps we should. In the end this may be one of our most important last decisions – the implications of which extend to our precious planet.</p> <p><strong>This article originally appeared on <a href="https://theconversation.com/coffin-casket-cremation-how-to-make-your-death-more-environmentally-friendly-188456" target="_blank" rel="noopener">The Conversation</a>.</strong></p> <p><em>Image: Shutterstock</em></p>

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King Charles’ final words to his mother

<p dir="ltr">King Charles III bid farewell to his mother Queen Elizabeth II by leaving a note on her coffin.</p> <p dir="ltr">The UK’'s longest reigning monarch was laid to rest on September 19 and was privately buried at King George VI Memorial Chapel in St George's Chapel. </p> <p dir="ltr">During the funeral proceedings, a note was spotted atop a wreath on the coffin which read: “In loving and devoted memory. Charles R.”</p> <p dir="ltr">The King had also specifically requested flowers and foliage for the wreaths which were cut from the gardens of Buckingham Palace, Clarence House and Highgrove House.</p> <p dir="ltr">There was also rosemary for remembrance, and myrtle cut from a plant that was grown from a sprig of myrtle in the Queen's wedding bouquet in 1947.</p> <p dir="ltr">Around 2000 people from around the world were invited to the historical event to bid farewell Queen Elizabeth II. </p> <p dir="ltr">Almost one million people were expected in London for the state funeral as mourned the loss of the Queen. </p> <p dir="ltr">The Queen’s coffin was carried on the State Gun Carriage of the Royal Navy, drawn by 142 sailors.</p> <p dir="ltr">King Charles III and his siblings Princess Anne, Prince Andrew and Prince Edward walked behind the hearse. </p> <p dir="ltr">Followed closely behind was the King's sons Prince William and Prince Harry, and Princess Anne’s son Peter Philips. </p> <p dir="ltr">The emotional service included recollections of the Queen’s coronation as a young woman back in 1953, as close family said their final goodbyes.</p> <p dir="ltr"><em>Images: Twitter/Nine</em></p>

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Stunning scenes as the Queen arrives home for the final time

<p>As Queen Elizabeth returned home to Buckingham Palace for the final time, thousands of well wishers congregated to pay their respects to Her Majesty. </p> <p>Her coffin had taken days to travel from Balmoral in Scotland where she died, to London's Buckingham Palace, as mourners cheered and clapped in the rain for the late monarch as the hearse travelled around the Queen Victoria memorial before entering the gates of the palace. </p> <p>Outriders stopped with their heads bowed at the end of the journey, while a police officer at the gate saluted. </p> <p>People also cheered "hip hip hooray" after the coffin drove under the arch, with many putting down their umbrellas as a sign of respect.</p> <p>Others could be seen wiping tears from their eyes as phone camera lights lit up the crowds lining the streets in central London.</p> <p>The royal family began the procession, as King Charles, Queen Consort Camilla, Prince Harry, Kate Middleton, Prince Harry and Meghan Markle waited in the Grand Entrance of the palace for the Queen's final return. </p> <p>For one night the coffin, which is draped in the Royal Standard flag, will lie at rest in the palace's Bow Room.</p> <p>Then, the monarch is handed to the nation to allow the public to pay their respects when she lies in state at the ancient Westminster Hall for four days until Monday September 19th - the day of her state funeral at Westminster Abbey and burial at St George's Chapel in Windsor.</p> <p><em>Image credits: Getty Images</em></p>

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"Last great journey": Queen’s coffin arrives in Edinburgh

<p dir="ltr">Queen Elizabeth II's coffin arrived in Edinburgh on Sunday following a six-hour journey from her summer home in the Scottish Highlands.</p> <p dir="ltr">Her solemn arrival was greeted by thousands of people at the city's Royal Mile; Her Majesty's body will remain there for two days to allow people to pay their final respects.</p> <p dir="ltr">The queen's daughter Anne and her sons, Princes Andrew and Edward, curtsied and bowed as the coffin was carried inside by soldiers from the Royal Regiment of Scotland.</p> <p dir="ltr">This is just ahead of the Queen’s state funeral at Westminster Abbey in London on September 19.</p> <p dir="ltr">Following her <a href="https://oversixty.com.au/news/news/queen-elizabeth-ii-dead-at-96" target="_blank" rel="noopener">death</a>, the Queen's son, King Charles III, spoke of her long 70-year reign.</p> <p dir="ltr">"Her dedication and devotion as Sovereign never wavered, through times of change and progress, through times of joy and celebration, and through times of sadness and loss,” he said.</p> <p dir="ltr">He also spoke about looking forward to following in his mother’s footsteps.</p> <p dir="ltr">"It will no longer be possible for me to give so much of my time and energies to the charities and issues for which I care so deeply,” King Charles III continued.</p> <p dir="ltr">"But I know this important work will go on in the trusted hands of others.</p> <p dir="ltr">"And to my darling Mama, as you begin your last great journey to join my dear late Papa, I want simply to say this: Thank you.</p> <p dir="ltr">"Thank you for your love and devotion to our family and to the family of nations you have served so diligently all these years.</p> <p dir="ltr">"May flights of angels sing thee to thy rest."</p> <p dir="ltr"><em>Images: Getty</em></p>

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Earl Spencer says he was lied to over princes following coffin

<p>Earl Spencer, the brother of Diana, Princess of Wales, claims he was lied to about the William and Harry wanting to walk behind their mother’s coffin.</p> <p>Spencer said he raised his objections with royal officials but was told her sons wanted to do it. He  later realised this was not the case.</p> <p>As the 20th anniversary of Diana’s tragic death nears, Spencer told BBC Radio 4’s Today programme it was a “very bizarre and cruel thing” for William and Harry to be asked to walk behind her body.</p> <p>He said his sister would not have wanted it, but royal officials told him otherwise.</p> <p>“Eventually I was lied to and told they wanted to do it, which of course they didn’t but I didn’t realise that.”</p> <p>He also described walking behind Diana’s coffin as the “most horrifying half hour of my life”, admitting he still has nightmares about the “harrowing” event 20 years on.</p> <p>But he said the experience must have been a “million times worse” for Diana’s sons.</p> <p>He said: “The feeling, the sort of absolute crashing tidal wave of grief coming at you as you went down this sort of tunnel of deep emotion, it was really harrowing and I still have nightmares about it now.</p> <p>“So there was the inner turmoil of thinking, ‘My God this is ghastly’, but then the point of thinking these two boys are doing this and it must be a million times worse for them.</p> <p>“It was truly horrifying, actually.</p> <p>“We would walk a hundred yards and hear people sobbing and then walk round a corner and somebody wailing and shouting out messages of love to Diana or William and Harry, and it was a very, very tricky time.”</p> <p><span>Prince Harry has recently opened up about the emotional trauma he experienced after the death of his mother, Princess Diana, and the <strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><a href="http://www.oversixty.com.au/news/news/2017/06/prince-harry-mental-health-struggles-after-diana-death/">agony of being forced to walk behind her coffin at the funeral.</a></span></strong></span></p> <p><span>“My mother had just died, and I had to walk a long way behind her coffin, surrounded by thousands of people watching me while millions more did on television,” he recalled to <em><span>Newsweek</span></em> magazine. “I don't think any child should be asked to do that, under any circumstances. I don't think it would happen today.”</span></p>

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The club where seniors turn coffins into works of art

<p>Seniors in New Zealand are enthusiastically embracing a new pastime to help combat loneliness (which admittedly is a little bit out of left field) – coffin construction.</p> <p>Scores of retirees around New Zealand have formed clubs to get together and build their own coffins, as a means of meeting new people and saving on funeral costs.</p> <p>The original coffin club was reportedly founded in 2010 in Rotorua by former palliative care Nurse Katie Williams, and since then the model has spread around the country.</p> <p>Williams told <a href="https://www.theguardian.com" target="_blank"><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>The Guardian</strong></span></a>, “Because of my work and my age I had become a perpetual mourner. I had seen lots of people dying and their funerals were nothing to do with the vibrancy and life of those people. You would not know what they were really like. That they had lived and laughed and loved.</p> <p>“I had a deep-seated feeling that people’s journey’s deserved a more personal farewell. There is a lot of loneliness among the elderly, but at the coffin club people feel useful, and it is very social. We have morning tea and lunch, and music blaring, and cuddles.</p> <p>“Our motto is; it’s a box until there is someone in it. And while it’s just a box, it brings us together.”</p> <p>What an interesting initiative. Could you ever see yourself being interested in joining something like this? Let us know your thoughts in the comments section. </p> <p><em>Image credit: Guardian / Facebook </em></p> <p><strong>Related links:</strong></p> <p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em><a href="/health/caring/2016/06/why-is-talking-about-death-still-so-taboo/"><strong>Why is talking about death still so taboo?</strong></a></em></span></p> <p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em><a href="/health/mind/2016/04/how-i-crawled-back-from-a-grief-stricken-black-hole/"><strong>How I crawled back from a grief-stricken black hole</strong></a></em></span></p> <p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em><a href="/news/news/2015/08/dying-man-holds-own-wake/"><strong>Dying man holds his own wake (before he dies)</strong></a></em></span></p>

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