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Early indicators of dementia: 5 behaviour changes to look for after age 50

<p><em><a href="https://theconversation.com/profiles/daniella-vellone-1425451">Daniella Vellone</a>, <a href="https://theconversation.com/institutions/university-of-calgary-1318">University of Calgary</a> </em></p> <p>Dementia is often thought of as a memory problem, like when an elderly person asks the same questions or misplaces things. In reality, individuals with dementia will not only experience issues in other areas of cognition like learning, thinking, comprehension and judgement, but they may also experience <a href="https://www.alzint.org/u/World-Alzheimer-Report-2021.pdf">changes in behaviour</a>.</p> <p>It’s important to understand what dementia is and how it manifests. I didn’t imagine my grandmother’s strange behaviours were an early warning sign of a far more serious condition.</p> <p>She would become easily agitated if she wasn’t successful at completing tasks such as cooking or baking. She would claim to see a woman around the house even though no woman was really there. She also became distrustful of others and hid things in odd places.</p> <p>These behaviours persisted for some time before she eventually received a dementia diagnosis.</p> <h2>Cognitive and behavioural impairment</h2> <p>When cognitive and behavioural changes interfere with an individual’s functional independence, that person is considered to have dementia. However, when cognitive and behavioural changes don’t interfere with an individual’s independence, yet still negatively affect relationships and workplace performance, they are referred to as <a href="https://alzheimer.ca/sites/default/files/documents/other-dementias_mild-cognitive-impairment.pdf">mild cognitive impairment (MCI)</a> and <a href="https://doi.org/10.1186/s13195-021-00949-7">mild behavioural impairment (MBI)</a>, respectively.</p> <p><a href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC9169943/">MCI and MBI can occur together</a>, but in one-third of people who develop Alzheimer’s dementia, the behavioural symptoms come <a href="http://dx.doi.org/10.1016/j.jagp.2019.01.215">before cognitive decline</a>.</p> <p>Spotting these behavioural changes, which emerge in later life (ages 50 and over) and represent a persistent change from longstanding patterns, can be helpful for implementing preventive treatments before more severe symptoms arise. As a medical science PhD candidate, my research focuses on problem behaviours that arise later in life and indicate increased risk for dementia.</p> <h2>Five behavioural signs to look for</h2> <figure class="align-center zoomable"><a href="https://images.theconversation.com/files/551071/original/file-20230928-17-jmy46j.png?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&q=45&auto=format&w=1000&fit=clip"><img src="https://images.theconversation.com/files/551071/original/file-20230928-17-jmy46j.png?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&q=45&auto=format&w=754&fit=clip" sizes="(min-width: 1466px) 754px, (max-width: 599px) 100vw, (min-width: 600px) 600px, 237px" srcset="https://images.theconversation.com/files/551071/original/file-20230928-17-jmy46j.png?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&q=45&auto=format&w=600&h=525&fit=crop&dpr=1 600w, https://images.theconversation.com/files/551071/original/file-20230928-17-jmy46j.png?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&q=30&auto=format&w=600&h=525&fit=crop&dpr=2 1200w, https://images.theconversation.com/files/551071/original/file-20230928-17-jmy46j.png?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&q=15&auto=format&w=600&h=525&fit=crop&dpr=3 1800w, https://images.theconversation.com/files/551071/original/file-20230928-17-jmy46j.png?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&q=45&auto=format&w=754&h=659&fit=crop&dpr=1 754w, https://images.theconversation.com/files/551071/original/file-20230928-17-jmy46j.png?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&q=30&auto=format&w=754&h=659&fit=crop&dpr=2 1508w, https://images.theconversation.com/files/551071/original/file-20230928-17-jmy46j.png?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&q=15&auto=format&w=754&h=659&fit=crop&dpr=3 2262w" alt="Illustration of five behaviour changes that may indicate risk of dementia" /></a><figcaption><span class="caption">Spotting behavioural changes can be helpful for implementing preventive treatments before more severe symptoms arise.</span> <span class="attribution"><span class="source">(Daniella Vellone)</span></span></figcaption></figure> <p>There are <a href="https://doi.org/10.3233%2FJAD-160979">five primary behaviours</a> we can look for in friends and family who are over the age of 50 that <a href="https://doi.org/10.1186/s13024-023-00631-6">might warrant further attention</a>.</p> <h2>1. Apathy</h2> <p><a href="https://doi.org/10.1002%2Ftrc2.12370">Apathy</a> is a decline in interest, motivation and drive.</p> <p>An apathetic person might lose interest in friends, family or activities. They may lack curiosity in topics that normally would have interested them, lose the motivation to act on their obligations or become less spontaneous and active. They may also appear to lack emotions compared to their usual selves and seem like they no longer care about anything.</p> <h2>2. Affective dysregulation</h2> <p><a href="https://doi.org/10.1016/j.jad.2023.03.074">Affective dysregulation</a> includes mood or anxiety symptoms. Someone who shows affective dysregulation may develop sadness or mood instability or become more anxious or worried about routine things such as events or visits.</p> <h2>3. Lack of impulse control</h2> <p><a href="https://doi.org/10.1002%2Ftrc2.12016">Impulse dyscontrol</a> is the inability to delay gratification and control behaviour or impulses.</p> <p>Someone who has impulse dyscontrol may become agitated, aggressive, irritable, temperamental, argumentative or easily frustrated. They may become more stubborn or rigid such that they are unwilling to see other views and are insistent on having their way. Sometimes they may develop sexually disinhibited or intrusive behaviours, exhibit repetitive behaviours or compulsions, start gambling or shoplifting, or experience difficulties regulating their consumption of substances like tobacco or alcohol.</p> <h2>4. Social inappropriateness</h2> <p><a href="http://dx.doi.org/10.1017/S1041610217001260">Social inappropriateness</a> includes difficulties adhering to societal norms in interactions with others.</p> <p>Someone who is socially inappropriate may lose the social judgement they previously had about what to say or how to behave. They may become less concerned about how their words or actions affect others, discuss private matters openly, talk to strangers as if familiar, say rude things or lack empathy in interactions with others.</p> <h2>5. Abnormal perceptions or thoughts</h2> <p><a href="https://doi.org/10.1038/s44220-023-00043-x">Abnormal perception or thought content</a> refers to strongly held beliefs and sensory experiences.</p> <p>Someone with abnormal perceptions or thoughts may become suspicious of other people’s intentions or think that others are planning to harm them or steal their belongings. They may also describe hearing voices or talk to imaginary people and/or act like they are seeing things that aren’t there.</p> <p>Before considering any of these behaviours as a sign of a more serious problem, it’s important to rule out other potential causes of behavioural change such as drugs or medications, other medical conditions or infections, interpersonal conflict or stress, or a recurrence of psychiatric symptoms associated with a previous psychiatric diagnosis. If in doubt, it may be time for a doctor’s visit.</p> <h2>The impact of dementia</h2> <p>Many of us know someone who has either experienced dementia or cared for someone with dementia. This isn’t surprising, given that dementia is predicted to affect <a href="https://www.ctvnews.ca/health/nearly-one-million-canadians-will-live-with-dementia-by-2030-alzheimer-society-predicts-1.6056849#:">one million Canadians by 2030</a>.</p> <p>While people between the ages of 20 and 40 may think that they have decades before dementia affects them, it’s important to realize that dementia isn’t an individual journey. In 2020, care partners — including family members, friends or neighbours — spent <a href="https://alzheimer.ca/sites/default/files/documents/Landmark-Study-1-Path-Forward-Alzheimer-Society-of-Canada-2022-wb.pdf">26 hours per week</a> assisting older Canadians living with dementia. This is equivalent to 235,000 full-time jobs or $7.3 billion annually.</p> <p>These numbers are expected to triple by 2050, so it’s important to look for ways to offset these predicted trajectories by preventing or delaying the progression of dementia.</p> <h2>Identifying those at risk</h2> <p>While there is currently no cure for dementia, there has been progress towards <a href="https://alzheimer.ca/en/about-dementia/dementia-treatment-options-developments">developing effective treatments</a>, which <a href="https://alzheimer.ca/en/about-dementia/do-i-have-dementia/how-get-tested-dementia-tips-individuals-families-friends/10">may work better earlier in the disease course</a>.</p> <p>More research is needed to understand dementia symptoms over time; for example, the online <a href="https://www.can-protect.ca/">CAN-PROTECT study</a> assesses many contributors to brain aging.</p> <p>Identifying those at risk for dementia by recognizing later-life changes in cognition, function as well as behaviour is a step towards not only preventing consequences of those changes, but also potentially preventing the disease or its progression.<!-- Below is The Conversation's page counter tag. 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Stepson of billionaire trapped on sub called out for gross behaviour

<p>The stepson of the billionaire trapped onboard the OceanGate Titanic submersible has been called out online for attending a rock concert while his step-father remains missing in the Atlantic Ocean. </p> <p>Brian Szasz is the stepson of billionaire Hamish Harding, who is trapped on the missing vessel along with four others, days after the group left on an expedition to the wreckage of the Titanic. </p> <p>While rescue efforts continue to locate the group, Szasz has caused a stir online after being spotted with a beaming smile attending a Blink-182. </p> <p>Among those furious and confused by Szasz's actions was rapper Cardi B, who slammed the man on Instagram to her 167 million followers. </p> <p>"One of the billionaires that's missing underwater from that submarine s–t …Their stepson is at a concert, right?" Cardi B starts.</p> <p>The rapper noted that she felt that attending a concert, and post about it online amid the search and rescue of a loved one felt tone deaf.</p> <p>"People is like, um, 'What is he supposed to do? Be sad at the house? Is he supposed to go look for him himself?' Yes," she said.</p> <p>"Isn't it sad that you a whole f—ing billionaire and nobody gives a f–k about you?" the rapper asks. "That's crazy. I'd rather be broke. I'd rather be broke and poor, but knowing that I'm loved."</p> <p>Szasz fired back at the rapper, telling her to "show some class for once in your life", while he responded to the media storm after he claimed his family "would've wanted him to go" to the concert. </p> <p>"Yes, I went to @Blink182 last night. What am I supposed to do, sit at home and watch the news? Not sorry this band has helped me through hard times since 1998."</p> <p>Just hours after the online backlash over attending the concert, Szasz was once again being slammed online for flirting with an OnlyFans model on Twitter.</p> <p>Szasz retweeted an image of Only Fans it-girl Brea flashing her backside in a G-string with the caption, “can i sit on u” on the social media site, with Szasz responding, “Yes please!”</p> <p>The post came just minutes after he asked followers to “please keep my family in your prayers.”</p> <p>One commenter wrote of the unusual behaviour, “Lmao quote tweeting a thirst trap while your stepdad is lost at sea is wild business”, as another slammed, “Unreal to be tweeting this [right now.]”</p> <p>Another user added, “This guy loves blink-182 and having ladies sit on his face and he’s not afraid to let the world know.”</p> <p style="box-sizing: border-box; margin: 16px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 28px; vertical-align: baseline;"><em>Image credits: Facebook / Action Aviation</em></p>

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How to decode your pet's behaviour

<p>Ever wondered if your pet is trying to tell you something? We took a closer look at the meaning of pet behaviour - you might be surprised at what we found.</p> <p>Unless your pet is Ed the horse or Lassie the dog, you've probably found yourself in a situation where you have no clue what they are trying to tell you with a particular behaviour. The way your pet pants, rolls over and runs may all have something to do with a message they're trying to send you. Whether you're wanting to become a dog whisperer or are simply interested in what certain actions your cat does mean, take a look at what these behaviours may indicate:</p> <p><strong>Chewing Furniture<br /></strong>This could be because of discomfort in their gums as their adult teeth are settling into the jawbone. Other possibilities include, attention seeking; distress at being left alone; or an unbalanced diet. It’s also quite common for chewing to indicate that your pet is bored and needs more activity in their life. Make sure you’re taking your furry friend for plenty of walks and that, where you can, you give them space to roam free outdoors.</p> <p><strong>Peeing<br /></strong>As I am sure you know, pets urinate to mark their territory, but there are also times where they can pee as a negative response to the presence of someone they don't like. Just be mindful of people that come in contact with your animal and do everything you can to ensure everyone is comfortable. If you know someone is coming over to your place that your pet doesn’t like, perhaps it is a good idea to put them outside with some food and toys.</p> <p><strong>Licking<br /></strong>Animals don’t have the use of verbal communication so there way of communicating is through actions. Licking is their way of either showing affection, or it can also sometimes be a request for food.</p> <p><strong>Smiling<br /></strong>At one point or another many pet owners have claimed to have witnessed their little friend smiling back at them. And so it turns out, they’re right. When an animal is content their muscles relax and this is most commonly observed in the face. Instead of your pet clenching its teeth together, it will relax its mouth and might even let it hang open. The eyes will appear soft and the ears straight.</p> <p><strong>Growling/hissing or making an angry sound<br /></strong>Like humans when animals make an angry sound or face, they are trying to tell you they’re uncomfortable. This could be that they are scared, trying so show dominance, want to be left alone or feel in danger. If they are showing their teeth or claws, they are presenting their weapons and sending a clear message to back off – and you should do just that. Give your pet some space. Do this slowly though. Keep your arms folded, don’t make eye contact and keep calm. Don’t walk away straight away. Wait until the situation has settled or your pet walks away first.</p> <p><strong>Standing tall<br /></strong>An animal who wants to tell the world they are in charge is going to stand tall and try to make themself as big as possible. Cats might prance around and a dog might also raise its tail over its body like a flag to make certain no one fails to see it.</p> <p><strong>Lying low<br /></strong>It makes sense that if an animal wanting to be noticed it stands tall, and that one who goes low is trying to fly under the radar. A scared or shy animal will lower its body and drop its tail. Furthermore, if it is scared to the point of feeling anxious, it may even roll onto its back. Essentially they’re saying “I’m just a little animal, don’t hurt me.”</p> <p><strong>Tail wagging<br /></strong>If you think that a quick wagging, swaying or moving tail means you have a happy pet on your hands, well, you’re not alone. But more often than not it actually translates to an animal telling you to back off. The higher the tail, the more dominance your pet is trying to display. The faster the tail is moving, the more excited your fury friend is. However, if the tail is moving in a flicking like manner, this could possibly be a sign of aggression. On the other side of it, if your pet’s tail is low and moving slowly it could be a sign they’re feeling insecure or distressed. This is when you should stop what you’re doing and spend some time with your little friend.</p> <p><strong>Staring at you<br /></strong>Big puppy dog eyes or doe cats eyes gazing at you is likely to have you gushing and thinking, “Oh, how adorable” and then you’ll probably give them a treat. As cute as they might be, they might not be looking at you lovingly and rather letting you know that they are the boss.  So you might want to think twice before rewarding them with a treat for “being the boss” – as you that would prove them right. On the other hand, pets will also stare at you when they want to know what’s happening – for instance where you’re going; where you might throw a ball or whether you’re going to offer them some of that food you’re cooking.</p> <p><em>Images: Getty</em></p>

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"He was a mess": Harry's drunken behaviour outed by ex-soldier

<p dir="ltr">A former soldier has revealed Prince Harry accidentally triggered a panic alarm at St James’s Palace after a drunken night out.</p> <p dir="ltr">The Duke of Sussex reportedly stumbled into a sentry box when he returned from a night out, banging into the emergency response button.</p> <p dir="ltr">Three armed soldiers from the Guards Division dashed out to find Harry, who was 27 at the time, on the floor in a “mess”.</p> <p dir="ltr">Two armed police officers also attended the scene and helped carry the young prince back to his apartment.</p> <p dir="ltr">A former soldier, who served in the Guards Division and was part of the Quick Response Force that found Harry, revealed how the Prince was “blind drunk”.</p> <p dir="ltr">He recalled, “He was a mess, he was on the floor drooling on himself.”</p> <p dir="ltr">“When we tried to get him up he was uncooperative and abusive.”</p> <p dir="ltr">The ex-soldier, who did not want to be named, said, “It was around midnight. An alarm went off in the guard room, but we’d never heard it before.”</p> <p dir="ltr">“One of the senior lads said it was one of the sentry boxes.”</p> <p dir="ltr">“Within a couple of minutes three of us who were in the QRF were out the door. There were two Met Police guys there as well.”</p> <p dir="ltr">“But instead of an intruder or terrorist, we found Prince Harry.”</p> <p dir="ltr">“He was slurring his words, not making any sense.”</p> <p dir="ltr">“When we tried to pick him up he started yelling, ‘Get off me, I don’t need any help’.”</p> <p dir="ltr">“He was pushing us off and being very abusive.”</p> <p dir="ltr">The source said they took him inside and up to his apartment – which was in a “right state”.</p> <p dir="ltr">He said, “It was like student digs, it was sh*t.”</p> <p dir="ltr">“The double bed was unmade, there were clothes and socks over the floor, cans of lager and dirty coffee cups lying around and packs of cigs.”</p> <p dir="ltr">He said the team carried Harry to his bed where the royal “passed out” and was left to sleep it off.</p> <p dir="ltr">He said, “We all had a good laugh and a joke about it.”</p> <p dir="ltr">The ex-soldier, an injured veteran with more than a decade’s service, came forward about the incident after becoming enraged by claims Harry made in his memoir <em>Spare</em>.</p> <p dir="ltr">He said the Prince had a reputation among military circles for being a “social hand grenade” who would often make trouble with his drunken antics.</p> <p dir="ltr"><em>Image credits: Getty Images</em></p>

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James Corden's grovelling apology after being accused of "abusive" restaurant behaviour

<p>James Corden has made a grovelling apology after being blasted by a New York restauranteur for "abusive" behaviour towards his staff. </p> <p>Restaurant owner Keith McNally condemned Corden in a lengthy Instagram post in which he <a href="https://www.oversixty.co.nz/lifestyle/food-wine/james-corden-banned-from-restaurant-over-abusive-behaviour" target="_blank" rel="noopener">shared allegations</a> of the talk show host behaving unacceptably in his renowned restaurants, resulting in McNally banning Corden from attending his restaurants.</p> <p>After the post garnered global attention, the restauranteur shared another post in which he claimed Corden called him to apologise for his behaviour. </p> <p>The post reads, "James Corden just called me and apologised profusely. Having f***ed up myself more than most people, I strongly believe in second chances."</p> <p>"So if James Corden lets me host his <em>Late Late Show</em> for 9 months, I’ll immediately rescind his ban from Balthazar. No, of course not. But....anyone magnanimous enough to apologize to a deadbeat layabout like me (and my staff) doesn’t deserve to be banned from anywhere. Especially Balthazar."</p> <p>"So Come Back to the 5 &amp; Dime, Jimmy Corden, Jimmy Corden. All is Forgiven. xx"</p> <p>Despite hearing of his apology, many fans were suspicious of Corden's motives. </p> <p>One person commented, "Of course he apologised. He’s being dragged everywhere online. The only form of an acceptable apology is changed behaviour."</p> <p>Another said, "Funny how he was apologetic after every news outlet picked up this story."</p> <p>Others suggested that it wasn't McNally's place to forgive the behaviour when it was it staff who allegedly copped the brunt of it. </p> <p>One person said, "Why apologise to you and not the staff?" while another added, "He should attend Balthazar again and order just a beer and leave a $2000 tip and a written apology to your wonderful staff."</p> <p><em>Image credits: Getty Images</em></p>

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James Corden banned from restaurant over "abusive" behaviour

<p dir="ltr">James Corden has been called out by renowned restaurateur Keith McNally for his “abusive” behaviour in a well-known New York restaurant.</p> <p dir="ltr">The talk show host was reportedly “extremely nasty” to staff, with McNally calling Corden a “tiny cretin of a man” over his actions.</p> <p dir="ltr">In a lengthy Instagram post, McNally recounted instances of Corden behaving inappropriately at his former restaurant, Cafe Luxembourg, on several occasions which left one server “shaken”.</p> <p dir="ltr">He started by calling Corden a “hugely gifted comedian”, before ripping into the Tony winner for his unacceptable restaurant behaviours.</p> <p dir="ltr">He said, “James Corden is a Hugely gifted comedian, but a tiny Cretin of a man. And the most abusive customer to my Balthazar servers since the restaurant opened 25 years ago."</p> <p dir="ltr">"I don't often 86 a customer, to today I 86'd Corden. It did not make me laugh.”</p> <p dir="ltr">In two manager's reports, McNally shared that Corden had demanded free drinks, threatened to leave bad reviews, verbally abused staff and berated restaurant chefs.</p> <p dir="ltr">Corden, a big-time foodie, has not yet responded to the allegations.</p> <p dir="ltr">McNally’s post racked up over 18,000 likes in just six hours, as the comment section was flooded with people condemning Corden’s alleged behaviour.</p> <p dir="ltr">One person said, “One can tell the true character of a person based on how they treat their server.”</p> <p dir="ltr">Another commented, “I’m always astounded (and impressed) by the lengths you and your staff go to appease, what I deem to be, extremely high maintenance (and sometimes unreasonable) clientele.”</p> <p dir="ltr">“I’ve often wondered if there’s a limit to that tolerance and appeasement. I’m really glad to see that there is. No staff should be treated like this, no matter how fine an establishment.”</p> <p dir="ltr">Another called out McNally’s allegations, saying, “Come on Keith, you know this isn’t true. James Corden is NOT a ‘hugely gifted’ comedian.”</p> <p dir="ltr"><em>Image credits: Getty Images</em></p>

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9 common behaviours that are subtly sabotaging your relationship

<h2>Making your mobile phone the top priority</h2> <p>We live in a culture where we’re constantly checking our mobile phones. But, this obsession comes at a cost, and the casualty of a technology obsession can be your personal relationship. “The most prevalent habit that sinks relationships is keeping your mobile phone on, and looking at it every time it makes a noise while you’re with your partner,” says psychiatrist, Dr Carole Lieberman. “Answering your phone is even worse than just looking at text messages or emails, and this tells your partner that they are not as important as whoever else is trying to reach you.” Dr Lieberman says a solution is to turn off your phone when you’re having dinner, being intimate, or doing anything else where your partner expects your full attention.</p> <h2>Being jealous</h2> <p>Jealousy within relationships typically comes down to fear of abandonment and not feeling good enough, says psychologist, Dr Michele Kerulis. “Jealousy can stem from insecurity, lack of trust, fear of betrayal, low confidence, and can linger from past relationships and life experiences,” Dr Kerulis says. To smooth over a situation, she suggests talking to your partner about your feelings and concerns. “Take the time to have a conversation with your partner about specific situations that made you feel jealous and explain why you believe you felt that way,” suggests Dr Kerulis. “If you see patterns of feeling jealous throughout your life, whether it is within romantic relationships, friendships, or with family members, it is a good idea to talk with a counsellor to process your feelings and to get a better understanding of why jealousy plays a role in your life.”</p> <h2>Nagging and complaining</h2> <p>A nagging mate can quickly create tension and division. “I suggest practising the art of holding your tongue, prioritising, and considering your approach,” says relationship expert, Dr Melanie Ross Mills. She advises to consider waiting until a good time to discuss what is bothering you, instead of nagging. “Be patient if he or she is not ready when you are to discuss the matter. Ask them to let you know when a good time might be. You can circle back then, instead of nagging and complaining,” Dr Mills says.</p> <h2>Acting ungrateful</h2> <p>It can be challenging to appreciate the small things in your partner. “But, it’s a life discipline to cultivate,” says Dr Mills. “Seeing the good [he or she does] will help. I suggest making a conscious effort to thank your partner for the small things: from putting the cap back on to earning an honest living with hard work, from taking out the trash to helping prepare dinner for the family,” she adds.</p> <h2>Lacking communication</h2> <p>Not having an open dialogue or an effective communication system in place can cause feelings of resentment, misunderstanding, hurt, and feeling unappreciated. “Instead of letting the small offences fester, talk about them when the timing is right,” says Dr Mills. “Don’t let too much time pass which can cause you to internalise your true feelings. Share with your partner about what is going on with you daily.”</p> <h2>Losing yourself in the relationship</h2> <p>It’s common for people to lose their own sense of self if they don’t make an exerted effort to continue to grow, learn and evolve, says Dr Mills. “Don’t forget to have your own life. Make time to do things that fulfill you instead of waiting for your partner to get interested in your same interests,” she advises. “Believe it or not, this actually makes you more attractive. You contribute to the relationship dynamic because you have interests, you’re interesting and you’re confident.”</p> <h2>Fighting with your partner over text message</h2> <p>It’s never fun or desirable to fight with your partner, especially when you are not in the same room, town, or city. “Couples who are in long-distance relationships or couples who just are not in the same vicinity of their partner all the time will most likely engage in text-fighting,” psychiatrist, Dr Gabriella I. Farkas. “Text-fighting is one of the bad habits that people do that can eventually lead to a downward spiral in a relationship.” She says fighting via text is a terrible way to communicate your feelings for many reasons, including you aren’t sure how your partner is reacting. “So, you will keep texting incessantly even if something that has been said hurts the partner’s feelings,” Dr Farkas says. “Instead of fighting via text where there is no way to emphasise or relay emotion correctly, it’s important to sit back and wait until there is the opportunity to have the conversation face-to face.”</p> <h2>Overstepping social boundaries</h2> <p>Speaking on behalf of your partner can create a sense of resentment. This behaviour can be intrusive, because making decisions for you partner can be demeaning, disrespectful and impede a person’s sense of self, says an article in Psychology Today. “Without noticing it, we may be intrusive or controlling toward our partner, acting in a manner that is disrespectful or demeaning to the other person’s sense of self. When this happens, it not only hurts our partner and his or her feelings for us but it undermines our strength and feelings for our partner,” the article says.</p> <h2>Unwilling to try new things</h2> <p>While no one should force themselves to do something they don’t want to do, shutting down the part of ourselves that seeks new experiences and responds to a spark in our partner can drain us of our aliveness and spontaneity, says the same article in Psychology Today.</p> <p><em><strong>This article originally appeared on <a href="https://www.readersdigest.co.nz/true-stories-lifestyle/relationships/9-common-behaviours-that-are-subtly-sabotaging-your-relationship" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Reader’s Digest</a>. </strong></em></p> <p><em>Image: Shutterstock</em></p>

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Decode your dog's behaviour with this handy guide

<p>What is normal dog behaviour?</p> <p>It’s our natural tendency to project human traits and emotions onto dogs, yet we come to expect daily dog zoomies as normal dog behaviour. And while we can pick up on things like dog anxiety from dog body language, and understand why dogs howl, some dog behaviours – like rolling in stinky things or barking at nothing – are truly baffling.</p> <p>What’s classified as normal dog behaviour might surprise you. Here’s what canine experts have to say.</p> <p><strong>1. Barking at delivery drivers</strong></p> <p>Every day when letters and packages are delivered to your door your dog barks. Does this dog behaviour mean your four-legged friend hates delivery workers? “Barking at people outside is a protective behaviour,” says vet Gary Richter. “Dogs see their house as their territory, and anyone approaching or [coming] near their territory is a potential threat, so they bark to ward off the intruder.”</p> <p>Think about it from your dog’s perspective: a mail carrier delivers mail, the dog barks to ward off the intruder, and the mail carrier goes away. It creates a pattern that is reinforced over and over. “From the dog’s perspective, they are saving the house from invasion every day by driving away the invader. We never appreciate their efforts,” Dr Richter says.</p> <p><strong>2. Nipping and biting</strong></p> <p>Little love nips from your puppy are sweet and adorable, but if you don’t nip this dog behaviour in the bud, it’s a puppy-training mistake you’ll regret when your pet’s adult teeth come in. “Dogs may bite playfully at their owners’ hands or feet because they know it results in them getting attention, even if it is negative attention,” says vet Jo Gale. Playful biting can quickly become more serious as dogs become excited or overstimulated.</p> <p>Biting can also be a result of a dog’s anxiety and stress, or a warning sign your dog is in pain, especially if it nips at you when you touch or move it. As for biting as a form of aggression, you can usually identify it by paying attention to a dog’s facial expression and body language. “Always seek veterinary and behavioural advice for biting behaviour due to the risks of human injury,” advises Dr Gale.</p> <p><strong>3. Begging for food</strong></p> <p>“Dogs are, by nature, opportunistic feeders. Most will happily accept any type of food, at any time of day,” says Dr Gale, who notes that we can’t put all the blame on dogs. “Humans actually reinforce the begging behaviour when they react and share their food with the dog. The dog quickly learns that this is a successful tactic to get extra snacks.”</p> <p>Staring at you and waiting patiently to grab a morsel from the table or a treat after a job well done is an expected and common behaviour. Growing puppies, pregnant and nursing dogs, breeds with high energy requirements, and those that exercise a lot may have an increased appetite, says Dr Gale. “If your pet’s appetite changes or their weight looks to be increasing, be sure to get them checked by your veterinarian to investigate the cause.”</p> <p><strong>4. Going to the toilet inside the house</strong></p> <p>One of the things veterinarians want you to know about potty training is that you can expect accidents in the house. But what happens when your house-trained dog suddenly starts peeing and pooping inside? It’s not necessarily due to bad behaviour. “My biggest concern when I hear this complaint is that your dog may have an underlying medical problem, such as urinary incontinence, inflammatory bowel disease, urinary tract infections, or even kidney failure,” says vet Dana Varble. It is also important to spay and neuter pets at the age recommended by your veterinarian to reduce the chance of urine marking, which is especially common in male dogs.</p> <p><strong>5. Rolling in stinky things</strong></p> <p>It’s no wonder dogs can smell so many things that humans can’t. They have upwards of 300 million olfactory receptors in their noses – humans have a paltry six million. With all those receptors, you would think dogs’ high scent orientation would steer them away from vile and pungent smells, like dead animals, yet it’s like eau de cologne to them. “Their opinions about what constitutes an attractive scent are often different from ours,” says vet Jennifer L. Summerfield. “It’s thought that the behaviour of rolling in dead or especially stinky things may have originated as a way of disguising the dog’s scent, which could be useful for hunting.”</p> <p><strong>6. Eating gross things</strong></p> <p>Why do dogs eat poo and other gross things, like rotting food? Just as a dog’s sense of smell is highly advanced, its sense of taste is vastly different from ours. We both like a juicy burger, but dogs find a rotting chicken or even vomit quite tasty. “Dogs originally evolved as scavengers, eating scraps on the periphery of human settlements, and feral dog populations today still manage to survive quite well on less-than-ideal food sources, like rubbish, roadkill, and other unsavoury options,” explains Dr Summerfield.</p> <p>So why don’t they get sick when they eat nasty roadkill or expired food? “A dog’s GI tract can process bacteria and other contaminants that would make a human sick and is often able to extract some nutritional value from ‘gross’ things like poop or vomit.”</p> <p><strong>7. Searching for the perfect place to poo</strong></p> <p>Dr Summerfield says there are three possible reasons for this dog behaviour. One theory is that your dog is stamping down the grass for a clean place to defecate. The second is that it’s scanning the area for predators before it goes. But a study found what may be the most fascinating reason: “A study done in Europe found that dogs tend to align themselves in a north-south position when they poo,” says Dr Summerfield. Even more interesting, dogs rarely relieved themselves along the east-west alignment.</p> <p><strong>8. Sniffing crotches</strong></p> <p>Of all the things your dog actually wants from you, you wouldn’t think sniffing human crotches would be one of them. Although this dog behaviour presents an awkward situation, it’s totally normal and not something you should be embarrassed about. Dr Summerfield says dogs collect a lot of vital information via their noses, and the most concentrated sources of pheromones are in the crotch or bottom areas, whether you have two legs or four. “Although we might find this behaviour socially inappropriate, sniffing the anus or genital areas of another dog is a very polite and a normal way to say hello in the canine world, much like shaking hands for humans,” she says.</p> <p><strong>9. Running in their sleep</strong></p> <p>As you may have guessed, this usually means they’re dreaming, and fortunately, it’s not usually of any medical significance, says Dr Richter. Still, it makes you wonder what dogs dream about. Probably nothing too weird. Studies have revealed that certain dog breeds acted out their hallmark traits while dreaming, like an English springer spaniel flushing out prey or a pointer “pointing” in its sleep. If all that “running” during sleep seems excessive, Dr Richter says it could indicate underlying stress or a medical condition.</p> <p><strong>10. Being aggressive towards other dogs</strong></p> <p>“Many dogs are anxious or uncomfortable about interacting with other dogs,” says Dr Summerfield. “This can be due to genetics, negative past experiences, or a lack of adequate early socialisation as a puppy.” A dog may lunge forward and bark at another dog to keep it from getting too close – a dog park etiquette no-no you should watch for.</p> <p>Other dogs may hide or cower behind you, while some just lay down in an overly submissive posture because they’re fearful or uncomfortable with the situation. “It’s not uncommon for a dog to be wary of other dogs but very friendly towards humans – or vice versa,” she says.</p> <p><strong>11. Licking faces</strong></p> <p>Let’s start with the most licked area of the body: the face. “Licking the face, especially around the mouth, is a normal, friendly greeting behaviour that dogs often display towards other dogs when saying hello. This is usually seen as a submissive gesture, a way of saying, ‘Hi there! I’m no threat to you!’” says Dr Summerfield. So it’s perfectly natural (and adorable) for a dog to lick a human face too.</p> <p>What about other body parts? As far as feet, fingers and in between toes: the stronger the smell, the higher the attraction. “This may be due to the higher concentration of scent in these areas, which is also why many dogs are attracted to dirty socks and dirty laundry,” she says.</p> <p><strong>12. Scooting their bums</strong></p> <p>The bottom scooting boogie is a comical dog behaviour to watch, but it may also be one of those things dogs do to let you know they’re sick. What’s going on? The answer is kind of gross: They have plugged or infected anal glands.</p> <p>“Normally, these sacs express their contents, a very pungent-smelling brown fluid, when the dog defecates. But occasionally the sacs might become plugged or infected and have a hard time emptying on their own,” says Dr Summerfield. To relieve the discomfort, they scoot their butt on the floor. “If this happens, your veterinarian can normally resolve the problem by expressing the glands manually.</p> <p><strong>13. Pawing at you</strong></p> <p>Why does your dog put its paw on you? All dogs are quite tactile, so this is their version of holding hands, according to Dr Varble. “Have you ever seen pictures of foxes or wolves playing or sleeping side by side in the wild? Although most dogs don’t like the restraint of a hug, they like to make contact with their closest friends by placing a paw on their friends, and human companions are no different,” she says.</p> <p>Your pup may also put its paw on you to let you know it’s ready to play or to ask you to keep petting it after you stop. It’s one of the telltale signs you’re not showing your dog enough attention. “It is a great way to get our attention, and it always seems to work,” says Dr Varble.</p> <p><strong>14. Hiding things</strong></p> <p>Why do some dogs bury their bones (and other treasures) or stash them behind chairs or under a stack of pillows on the sofa? Dr Richter says this is a purely instinctual dog behaviour. “They are keeping track of their stuff,” he says.</p> <p>To prevent their treasures from being stolen by another animal, they hide them for safekeeping. Dachshunds, a breed known for stashing, may have a cache of toys and treats nestled in the corner of a dog bed. Some breeds known for hunting, like hounds and terriers, are prone to digging and hiding, as the prey they hunt lives underground.</p> <p><strong>15. Running to the door</strong></p> <p>Dogs can be dead to the world when they’re sleeping, but they’ll instantly come to life and sprint to the door when it opens. This dog behaviour is similar to ours when we’re surprised by something – we jolt into action to see what’s up. But for a dog, there’s a little more to it. “This is an instinctive self-protection behaviour. Something has moved suddenly and unexpectedly, and they don’t know what may be coming through the door,” says Dr Richter. Some dogs, including guard dog breeds, take it further and bolt through the door because they want to investigate potential threats and defend their space.</p> <p><strong>16. Picking up stuff on a walk</strong></p> <p>There’s a good chance you’ve seen your pooch collecting found objects during its walk. These could be anything, really, from a stick to a used mask someone dropped. “Dogs use their mouths in much the same way that human children use their hands. Many dogs are naturally curious about the world, and if they find an object interesting, they may want to pick it up, hold it, or carry it for a while,” says Dr Summerfield.</p> <p>Wonder what your dog is thinking about while collecting these treasures? It’s probably less complex than you imagine. They’re really curious, like toddlers. And they’re attracted to certain objects the way toddlers are to their blankets. That’s especially true of sporting and retrieving dog breeds.</p> <p><strong>17. Wagging their tails to the left</strong></p> <p>A dog’s tail can express a wide variety of emotions, and with close observation, you can decipher the secrets of what your dog’s tail is trying to tell you. For example, a low-wagging tail with a wide, sweeping arc is a friendly wag, while a high, stiff tail may indicate aggression or arousal. But why do dogs wag their tail to the left?</p> <p>“Recent studies on dog body language do suggest that there may be a difference as to how the left- and right-sided tail wags are interpreted by other dogs and in how the dogs feel when wagging their tails to the left versus the right,” says Dr Summerfield. In the study, dogs remained relaxed when they saw images of another dog wagging its tail to the right, but when dogs saw the image of the tail wagging to the left, it stirred up anxiety. More research is needed, but it indeed points to the tail as a key communicator.</p> <p>This article originally appeared on <a href="https://www.readersdigest.com.au/food-home-garden/pets/decode-your-dogs-behaviour-17-dog-behaviours-explained?pages=1" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Reader's Digest</a>. </p> <p><em>Image: Getty</em></p>

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Children whose parents smoke have lower test scores and more behavioural issues than kids of non-smokers

<p>Children whose parents smoke have lower academic test scores and more behavioural issues than children of non-smokers.</p> <p>These are the findings of our research published in the journal of <a href="https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S1570677X21000022?via%3Dihub">Economics and Human Biology</a>. Smoking is prevalent in lower socio-economic groups whose characteristics (such as lower IQ and poorer motivation on average) <a href="https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/29058397/">are correlated with</a> lower academic scores and more behavioural issues in children. This can bias the results as the sample of children whose scores are lower is no longer random.</p> <p>After addressing such concerns, our broad finding remained the same. Because of the model we used, this means there is a causal – rather than merely correlational – relationship between parental smoking and children’s academic scores and behavioural outcomes.</p> <h2>How we did our study</h2> <p>We used data from the <a href="https://growingupinaustralia.gov.au/">Longitudinal Study of Australian Children</a> (LSAC), which tracks children from birth to monitor their development and well-being. It also surveys them and their parents on a range of cognitive (such as academic) and non-cognitive (such as behavioural) performance measures, and records other data such as their NAPLAN test results.</p> <p>We wanted to find the effects of parental smoking on children’s cognitive and non-cognitive skills in early life – from 4-14 years old.</p> <p>We measured children’s cognitive skills using the given NAPLAN literacy and numeracy test scores in grades 3, 5, 7 and 9. We also used the Peabody Picture Vocabulary Test (PPVT), which is designed to measure a child’s knowledge of the meaning of spoken words and his or her receptive vocabulary. The test is carried out as part of the LSAC survey when the children are 4-9 years old.</p> <p>Non-cognitive skills include social behaviour, hyperactivity or inattention, and peer problems. We took the measures of these as reported by parents.</p> <h2>What we found</h2> <p>We found, across all measures of cognitive skills, children living with non-smoker parents had a higher average score than children living with at least one smoker parent. We found smoking can reduce academic scores by up to 3%.</p> <p><a href="https://images.theconversation.com/files/442417/original/file-20220125-13-t7tqwa.jpg?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&amp;q=45&amp;auto=format&amp;w=1000&amp;fit=clip"><img src="https://images.theconversation.com/files/442417/original/file-20220125-13-t7tqwa.jpg?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&amp;q=45&amp;auto=format&amp;w=754&amp;fit=clip" alt="Girl writing test at desk." /></a> <span class="caption">Kids’ test scores were lower if their parents were smokers than those of non-smoking parents.</span> <span class="attribution"><a href="https://www.shutterstock.com/image-photo/school-students-taking-exam-writing-answer-536624842" class="source">Shutterstock</a></span></p> <p>Likewise, we found children with at least one parent who smokes are likely to experience more behavioural issues. We found smoking can reduce behavioural scores by up to 9%.</p> <p>Our findings are consistent even when we look at mums’ and dads’ smoking behaviour separately. But the effect is stronger for mothers, as expected. Maternal smoking in pregnancy has <a href="https://jhu.pure.elsevier.com/en/publications/low-birthweight-preterm-births-and-intrauterine-growth-retardatio-3">direct effects</a> on the child’s brain development and birth weight. Pre-natal ill-health and sickness in early childhood may affect cognitive, social and emotional outcomes through poorer mental well-being.</p> <p>Second-hand smoke exposure at home can <a href="https://actbr.org.br/uploads/arquivo/659_Pesquisa_fumo_passivo_OMS_2010.pdf">also cause numerous health problems</a> in infants and children, such as asthma and ear infections. This could lead <a href="https://publications.aap.org/pediatrics/article-abstract/128/4/650/30703/School-Absenteeism-Among-Children-Living-With?redirectedFrom=fulltext">them to take more time out of school</a>.</p> <p>We used information on the number of school days missed because of health reasons and children’s physical health assessments in the LSAC survey to test whether parental smoking and absenteeism due to health were related.</p> <p>We found children from households with at least one smoker were more likely to have lower school attendance and poorer physical health, both of which have adverse consequences on their cognitive and non-cognitive development.</p> <p>Our findings did not change across various measures, such as the frequency or number of cigarettes parents smoked per day.</p> <p>But we did find parental smoking had a stronger influence on boys than girls. This is consistent with <a href="https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s11199-015-0509-6?email.event.1.SEM.ArticleAuthorContributingOnlineFirst&amp;error=cookies_not_supported&amp;error=cookies_not_supported&amp;code=8484cb89-b3f1-41ff-b1ce-6d9916f9aa2a&amp;code=70985a21-e7c8-490e-b579-58a8a7e6f6d7">growing evidence</a> that girls are more resilient to environmental pressures than boys.</p> <h2>How parental smoking affects kids’ skills: the three pathways</h2> <p><a href="https://images.theconversation.com/files/442419/original/file-20220125-27-1iaivrz.jpg?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&amp;q=45&amp;auto=format&amp;w=1000&amp;fit=clip"><img src="https://images.theconversation.com/files/442419/original/file-20220125-27-1iaivrz.jpg?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&amp;q=45&amp;auto=format&amp;w=237&amp;fit=clip" alt="Top of shopping trolley with woman's hand on it." /></a> <span class="caption">Spending on tobacco can leave less money for food.</span> <span class="attribution"><a href="https://www.shutterstock.com/image-photo/closeup-female-shopper-trolley-supermarket-92894512" class="source">Shutterstock</a></span></p> <p>There are three pathways through which parental smoking has an effect on children’s academic, social and emotional skills.</p> <p>The first is that the child’s health may already have been affected before birth if the mother was a smoker. And some other negative effects of ill health come from exposure to second-hand smoke, as described above.</p> <p>The second pathway for parental smoking affecting a child’s acquisition of cognitive and non-cognitive skills is through a reduction in household income. Tobacco spending can <a href="https://link.springer.com/article/10.2165/00148365-200403040-00009">displace spending on food, education and health care</a>.</p> <p>The third pathway is that children’s ability to develop skills <a href="https://www.econstor.eu/bitstream/10419/63853/1/321132386.pdf">depends on their parents’</a> cognitive and non-cognitive skills, which are determined by their own health and education. Parental smoking can <a href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK53017/">affect their own well-being</a>, such as through impacting their respiratory health. This, in turn, <a href="https://www.econstor.eu/bitstream/10419/63853/1/321132386.pdf">can influence the way they parent</a>.</p> <p>Our findings highlight the role of the family environment in early childhood development, which sets the foundation for long-term health, as well as social and economic success. Campaigns, programs and policies aimed at reducing tobacco use should emphasise the inadvertent harm smoking habits can have on children’s present and future.<!-- Below is The Conversation's page counter tag. 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Friends monkey trainer calls out David Schwimmer “despicable” behaviour

<p>David Schwimmer was not a big fan of Marcel the Monkey, labelling it the “worst thing” that happened during the filming of <em>Friends</em>.</p> <p>When on the reunion, the star admitted he did not enjoy filming scenes with the monkey, as he often “messed up” filming.</p> <p>“Here is my problem: The monkey, obviously, was trained. It had to hit its mark and do its thing right at the perfect time,” Schwimmer said during the reunion.</p> <p>“What inevitably began to happen was we would all have choreographed bits kind of timed out, and it would get messed up, because the monkey didn’t do its job right. So we would have to reset, we’d have to go again, because the monkey didn’t get it right.</p> <p>“It was time for Marcel to f**k off.”</p> <p><img style="width: 500px; height: 281.25px;" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/7842335/friends-monkeu-1.jpg" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/d32e56fbc3284465ad4048f38b68f18f" /></p> <p><em>Image: Friends screengrab</em></p> <p>Marcel’s trainer, Mike Morris, has called out Schwimmer for his “despicable” words.</p> <p>Morris told The Sun that the two monkeys who portrayed Marcel only had a problem with Schwimmer but the other cast members.</p> <p>“I didn’t watch the reunion interview but I heard from others what Schwimmer said. I just don’t agree with it, if anything he threw off their timing if we want to be truthful,” Morris said.</p> <p>“Schwimmer was fine with the monkeys for the first couple of episodes and happy to be there, but people would laugh at the monkey and I think he got jealous because it wasn’t him getting the laughs.</p> <p>“He seemed to get a little bitter about them being there after that, and of course the monkeys didn’t like working with him after he turned on them.</p> <p>“It made it harder to do the work. A five-camera show is hard to work on with animals anyway so if you have an actor that’s not very helpful, it makes it even worse.</p> <p>“My colleague who also worked on the show says that people would laugh at the monkey and throw Schwimmer off. He’s not the kind of actor who can improvise.”</p> <p>Morris went on to say Schwimmer only despised working with the monkeys, as he was not talented enough to ad lib.</p> <p>“I think a good actor can play off an animal,” Morris said.</p> <p>“We did a shot with Seinfeld and he played off the monkey and went with what the monkey was doing.</p> <p>“I think David had a little problem with that, he was very regimented and had to do what the script said.</p> <p>“I think he had a problem improvising with the monkey.”</p> <p>A capuchin named Katie was one of the two adorable monkeys to play Marcel, and she is still working in the film business.</p> <p>Sadly, the other monkey, known as Monkey, died of cancer in August of 2020.</p> <p>“Schwimmer was talking ill of the dead when he made those comments,” Morris said.</p> <p>“I find it despicable for him to still be speaking ill of her.”</p> <p>The reunion special wasn’t the first time Schwimmer has spoken of his experience with the monkeys.</p> <p>Morris admitted he will never watchthe ’90s sitcom due to Schwimmer claiming the monkeys threw poop and tried to bite him.</p> <p>“I have refused to (watch <em>Friends</em>) ever since he did an interview after the animals got written out of the show and he said they tried to bite him and throw poop at him,” Morris said.</p> <p>“They didn’t do any of that. None of it is true, when I was there none of that ever happened.”</p> <p>Morris said Katie doesn’t hold any bad blood toward Schwimmer despite his comments.</p> <p>“Katie can’t speak for herself so that’s why I’m talking out for her,” Morris said.</p> <p>“The monkeys definitely wouldn’t hold a grudge against David, if Katie had to work with him again tomorrow she would do it no problem.</p> <p>“I know he holds a grudge against the monkeys but they definitely don’t hold one against him.</p> <p>“They’re just good-natured animals and probably don’t even remember him.”</p>

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Playful behaviour could be why we’re so brainy

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;"> Though being called a birdbrain is insulting, birds can be quite clever which might be due to how playful they are. </span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Studies in animal cognition have traditionally tested the cognitive abilities of different animals by seeing how well they can use tools, birds included.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">But, recent research published in </span><a href="https://www.nature.com/articles/s41598-020-76572-7"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Nature Scientific Reports</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;"> suggests that the brain size of different Australian native birds might have more to do with their ability to play than knowing how to use tools.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">In particular, scientists found that birds who played with others (called social play) had the largest brains relative to body size and lived the longest.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">It also found that there was no significant association between tool use and brain mass, and that play behaviour could be a significant driver in how larger brains evolved in a number of species, including humans.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Research investigating the effect of tool use on brain size follows a classic theory called the “technical intelligence hypothesis”, which posits that humans and other animals developed larger brains because circumstances forced them to use increasingly sophisticated tools.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">In this new study of 77 native Australian bird species found that there was no link between tool use and brain size or life expectancy.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Instead, different kinds of play were found to be associated with brain size, where birds that didn’t play at all had the smallest average brain size, followed by birds that played on their own, then birds that play with objects and birds that play in groups of two or more.</span></p> <p><strong>What does this mean for humans?</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Though more research is needed to establish a connection between human and bird behaviour and brain size, both species have similarities in their stages of development, which could be significant.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Human offspring, along with offspring of great apes and other primates, develop slowly, have lengthened childhoods and play extensively, just like a surprising number of Australian antive birds.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">While playing with others might just be a good way to pass the time, embracing our playful side could be a evolutionary driver for intelligence and a long life.</span></p>

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5 signs of passive-aggressive behaviour

<p><strong>What is passive-aggressive behaviour?</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">It’s easy to recognise aggressive behaviour: Somebody raises their voice, says intimidating things, or maybe even resorts to physical abuse and violence. Passive-aggressive behaviour, on the other hand, is subtler, sneakier – and a lot harder to recognise.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“Aggressive behaviour is easy to call out. Behaviour that is passive-aggressive is much more difficult to put into words,” says Jessica L. Griffin, a clinical psychologist and associate professor of psychiatry and pediatrics. “Simply put, passive-aggressive behaviour refers to behaviour that is indirect and typically results from negative feelings that the individual has difficulty directly – or openly – expressing.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">For those on the receiving end, passive-aggressive behaviour can be emotionally destabilising, says Abisola Olulade, MD, a family medicine physician.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“The fact that it is often subtle and not direct yet very hostile causes victims to question whether they are imagining things. They may not realise or understand what is happening at first, which is part of why it can be traumatising.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Here, some signs of passive-aggressive behaviour you need to know, along with expert tips on how to deal with it.</span></p> <p><strong>Backhanded compliments</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">There’s a big difference between a compliment (“That’s a beautiful dress”) and a back-handed compliment (“That’s a beautiful dress – I had the same one in high school”). One makes you feel better; the other leaves you feeling worse.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“There’s no better example of passive-aggressive behaviour than the backhanded compliment,” says Griffin. “My personal favourite is the communication that starts with ‘I’m not trying to be mean, but….’ Or ‘I’m not judging you.…’ Or ‘I mean this in the best way…’ when in fact, what is about to come out of their mouth is mean, judgmental, and not the best.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">So how can you deal with insults hidden in compliments? Dr Olulade recommends expressing your feelings if it’s somebody you otherwise feel safe with.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“If it’s a pattern with this person, then you may express that this was hurtful to you. You can also choose to ignore it, but it’s important not to internalise it and use it as a point of self-criticism,” she says. “Don’t go into a self-critical spiral. Remember, it’s about them and their inappropriate behaviour – not about you.”</span></p> <p><strong>Refusal to state feelings</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">You know the drill: A person is clearly bothered by something, but when you ask them what’s wrong, they shrug it off or say “nothing.” Why do some people keep their feelings bottled inside?</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“It may be because they are themselves depressed or anxious. It may also be because they are scared of confronting a negative feeling or emotion and don’t have the right tools or coping skills for doing so,” says Dr Olulade. “This is why it’s important not to tell children to ‘just get on with it’ or ‘just get over it’ and to welcome their expression of both negative and positive emotion. It’s important to acknowledge, validate and listen to others’ feelings.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Emotions are an important part of the human experience, says Dr Olulade. We can learn a lot from allowing people to express both positive and negative ones. “When we don’t allow others to express their negative feelings in a healthy way and when we don’t give them a safe outlet to do that – or when we say expressing sadness, anxiety or anger is ‘weak’ – this can have a harmful effect and lead people to behave in a passive-aggressive manner.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Some people are less comfortable directly expressing their feelings, says Griffin. She recommends providing a safe space for your friend, partner, or co-worker to talk about what’s going on. “You could try saying, ‘It seems as if you’re upset and I want to make sure you’re OK.’”</span></p> <p><strong>Stonewalling or freezing someone out</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Even worse than someone pretending nothing is wrong is someone refusing to engage with you, period. Getting that cold shoulder can hurt, and passive-aggressive people have often mastered this behaviour, says Griffin. Take, for instance, stonewalling.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Described by renowned relationship researcher John Gottman in the early 1990s, “stonewalling is a primary problematic communication style, which can erode a relationship over time as it sets up a pattern of poor communication,” Griffin says. Instead of dealing with the problem directly, people might ignore it – or you. “This is unsettling for the person on the receiving end and just builds resentment while eroding trust.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">To deal with stonewalling, it’s important to be direct and honest, as uncomfortable as it might feel, Griffin advises. “Encourage your loved ones to share their feelings with you,” she says. “Let them know directly that you want more honesty in the relationship and you can handle it if they are angry, upset, resentful, or annoyed with you.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">But if it’s a repeated pattern of behaviour and interferes with your relationship, you should address it, says Dr Olulade. “If you have persistent worry and a sad mood about it, then it may be time to seek professional help for it.”</span></p> <p><strong>Avoiding responsibilities or being chronically late</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Forgetting to turn in assignments, always running late, lacking follow-through – these can all be signs of passive-aggression. While, of course, everyone is maxed out these days and even the best-intentioned people can run late or become overwhelmed, it might be worth bringing up if there’s a pattern of irresponsibility.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Griffin recommends understanding that the behaviour may not come from a negative place, but instead from one of discomfort or learned behaviour. She advises clear communication, naming feelings, and asking for more directness.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">You might say something like, “I’ve noticed you’ve been late to Sunday dinner for the last several weeks. I’m wondering if you’re feeling upset or annoyed by something and I’m hoping we can talk about it,” Griffin suggests.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Or you might say, “When you’re late, I feel frustrated because I’ve spent a lot of time cooking and we all wait to eat until you get here. You’re important to me and I’d like to resolve this and want us to be honest with each other. Is Sunday dinner something you want to do? If it’s not on your priority list, that’s OK with me. I just want to resolve this so that I’m not bothered by it and you’re also feeling good about being here.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">On the flip side, the passive-aggressive person might set up a situation to make you look bad. For example, “you may have indicated to your mother-in-law that you can’t attend a family dinner at the time she desired because of your child’s scheduled nap time,” says Griffin. “Despite your directness, she sticks to her guns and sets the dinner for when she wants it.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">So “you do your best to get there and, of course, you arrive late because your child had their scheduled nap. Your mother-in-law comments about how the food has gotten cold and that your daughter is too old for a nap.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">How should you react to this sort of passive-aggressive behaviour? “The same principles apply,” says Griffin. “Be direct about your observation and the impact on you and your wish to resolve this.” This type of honest, direct communication can be scary. But it also proactively opens up room for positive results.</span></p> <p><strong>Feeling as though you’re walking on eggshells</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">If you’re always on eggshells around another person, worried about how they’ll react to things, their behaviour might be considered passive-aggressive. Repeated overreactions – or inappropriate lack of reactions, such as ignoring you – can do a number on your self-confidence and sense of security.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">It’s important to take note of how you feel around the other person, says Griffin. “If you’re struggling with a relationship in which someone else is being passive-aggressive – despite your intentions to solve the issue with them – and it’s negatively impacting you, consider talking with a professional to determine how to set better boundaries for yourself.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">While therapy is a good first step, it’s possible the other person might not be willing to work with you. Ultimately, if you always feel awkward or uncomfortable around somebody, you might decide that it’s time to move on from the relationship.</span></p> <p><strong>How to recognise passive-aggressive behaviour in yourself?</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Sometimes it’s the people around you who are behaving inappropriately. But what if you realise that you frequently fall back on passive-aggressive behaviour yourself?</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Dr Olulade recommends paying attention to subtle cues people may give off when they’re with you. “Do people tense up when you are around? Do your co-workers avoid talking to you or making eye contact with you?” Dr Olulade asks. “If you find that you are constantly making snide or negative remarks, being sarcastic, sabotaging tasks and projects, or avoiding healthy self-expression, then these may all be signs of passive aggression.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">If you’re someone who avoids confrontation, you may unknowingly fall back on passive-aggressive behaviour rather than tackle the problem head-on, says Inger Burnett-Zeigler, MD, a licenced clinical psychologist and associate professor. “People who are passive-aggressive are often trying to send a message about how they feel through their actions rather than their words. Often this message can be unclear or misconstrued.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“When you are feeling consumed by a negative feeling and you don’t know how to express it,” that can also be passive aggression, says Jennifer Tomko, a clinical psychotherapist. “You may have difficulties setting a boundary in a way that is mutually helpful. You may also feel that you are doing something kind out of obligation, so you may not perform as the best version of yourself.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Having the courage to confront negative behaviour in yourself is scary but valuable, Griffin says. “If you are finding you have a hard time being direct in your communication and continue to avoid others, are late in your work or obligations, and notice your relationships are being impacted, you could seek professional assistance with a trained therapist to assist you in understanding the roots of your passive-aggressive behaviour,” she recommends. A therapist can also help you “work on increasing your level of ‘appropriate’ assertiveness and directness in your relationships.”</span></p> <p><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">Written by Nadine Jolie Courtney. This article first appeared in <a href="https://www.readersdigest.co.nz/healthsmart/conditions/mental-health/5-signs-of-passive-aggressive-behaviour">Reader’s Digest</a>. Find more of what you love from the world’s best-loved magazine, <a href="https://readersdigest.innovations.co.nz/c/readersdigestemailsubscribe?utm_source=over60&amp;utm_medium=articles&amp;utm_campaign=RDSUB&amp;keycode=WRA93V">here’s our best subscription offer</a>.</span></em></p>

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Neighbour's bizarre behaviour over rubbish bin spat

<p>A woman has shared a video revealing the damage caused by her next-door neighbour after she parked on the street outside their house.</p> <p>While the US TikToker, who goes by Lena Cuisine on social media, didn’t do anything wrong, her frustrated neighbour claimed she parked in the spot for his rubbish bin.</p> <p>The neighbour then decided to stick an angry note on the window of her car and wrote a scathing message on the side of her white vehicle in Sharpie.</p> <p>“You illegally occupied our garbage canister location, please move your car ASAP,” both messages read.</p> <p>In the video, Lena said she attempted to talk to her neighbour who wouldn’t answer the door and asked for tips because the pen wasn’t coming off her car.</p> <p>“This is where I’m legally allowed to park, but my neighbours like to leave lots of notes saying I’m illegally parking where their garbage can goes – it’s not even garbage day,” she explains, showing the green bin pulled up right behind her car.</p> <p>The video has since gone viral, being viewed over 4 million times since it was shared on November 17.</p> <p>“A garbage can doesn’t get a reserved parking space,” one person raged.</p> <p>“This is so wrong, people can’t just write with permanent ink on your car,” another stated.</p> <p>While another said: “I don’t understand why they’re upset with you when you’re literally parked outside your own house.”</p> <p>Lena went ahead and shared a second video, showing footage of police asking the neighbour if he had vandalised the car with a marker - to which he replied: “Yes, they occupied my garbage location. I cannot put my garbage on the location.”</p> <p>The officer then informs him that what he did was illegal, to which the neighbour tries to argue she had broken the law first by parking in the spot - a point police state “no” to.</p> <p>After calling Lena a “bad woman”, the clip cuts to her neighbour – whose identity has been protected – cleaning her car.</p> <p>He even went one step further and sprayed perfume on the vehicle to make it smell nice, later gifting her the perfume to keep for herself.</p> <p>Many praised Lena for being kind when she could have been rightly angry.</p> <p>“He is clearly old, was bitter and confused. You handled it with grace and maturity, I’m honestly inspired,” one said.</p> <p>“This kind of hurts my heart, the confusion in old age is hard. Be kind always,” a woman wrote.</p> <p>“Aww, he sounded like a grumpy old man, he was so nice to give the perfume,” another said.</p> <p>“I think he feels bad now,” someone else mused, while one declared the update was “nothing I expected and everything I needed”.</p> <p>Many others agreed they were torn, writing he was in the wrong but couldn’t help but feel bad for him.</p> <p>Lena later shared another video updating everyone saying she was nice because she only ever wanted to have a “civil conversation” with her neighbour and for him to “clean up my car”.</p>

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"I'm horrified": Airline passengers disgusted by mid-flight behaviour

<p>Fellow plane passengers were left disgusted after an anonymous passenger put their bare dirty feet on a headrest.</p> <p>The photo went viral after being posted, with many wondering how the barefoot passenger even managed to get their feet up on the headrest.</p> <blockquote style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" class="instagram-media" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/p/B4zze4wlhLa/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" data-instgrm-version="12"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"></div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"></div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"></div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"></div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"></div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;"><a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/p/B4zze4wlhLa/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" target="_blank">A post shared by Passenger Shaming (@passengershaming)</a> on Nov 13, 2019 at 6:45am PST</p> </div> </blockquote> <p>“Damn you Yoga! Nobody was doing this when I was a kid.</p> <p>“Those seats are so tiny and tight. I cannot figure out how they even manage to do this.”</p> <p>Others were quick to comment that this behaviour on planes is “disgusting and disrespectful”.</p> <p>“This is disgusting and disrespectful in 99% of the world. I would never!” one user wrote.</p> <p>One person said that they would take matters into their own hands if they were this passenger.</p> <p>“It would take me 2.2 seconds to stand up and properly embarrass this person to the entire plane,” they said.</p> <p>The identity of the barefoot head-rester has been hidden due to the way the photo was taken, but it’s not the first time that plane passengers have been called out for their shocking behaviour.</p> <blockquote style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" class="instagram-media" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/p/B8bQZzWFWhe/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" data-instgrm-version="12"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"></div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"></div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"></div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"></div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"></div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;"><a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/p/B8bQZzWFWhe/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" target="_blank">A post shared by Passenger Shaming (@passengershaming)</a> on Feb 11, 2020 at 4:07am PST</p> </div> </blockquote> <div class="post_body_wrapper"> <div class="post_body"> <div class="body_text "> <p>In the video above, a woman appears to be drying a set of underwear in the air conditioning above her seat.</p> <p> “This is not real. It can’t be I’m horrified. WHY GOD WHY??,” one person commented.</p> <p>Another person preferred to use it as fuel for their life goals.</p> <p>“One more reason to save up for a private jet,” they said.</p> </div> </div> </div>

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How music can impact your behaviour

<p>We all know music can move us emotionally. But how does it impact on our behaviour? That relationship’s not immediately clear.</p> <p>A YouTube clip was doing the rounds on social media a while ago – the music from one of the most chilling scenes in the 1975 film Jaws had been quite cleverly changed. Instead of the <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A9QTSyLwd4w">original hair-raising theme</a> that we all know by composer John Williams, the scene was accompanied by the delicate ballet music of Tchaikovsky.</p> <p>The effect was startling. It could have been a completely different film – one about a fun-loving dolphin. It’s a good example of what an incredibly powerful mood-setter music is. So many of our favourite films just wouldn’t have the same impact without the music.</p> <p>It’s the same outside of the cinema – a fact that has been instinctively understood by humans since written records began. In ancient China, more than 4,000 years ago, <a href="http://www.unboundmedicine.com/medline/citation/8402699/The_sick_child_and_music_">flute music was prescribed</a> to calm an over-excited foetus.</p> <p>The Egyptians also seemed to use music for therapeutic purposes at least as early as 1500 BC. Then there is the much-loved biblical tale of King Saul being soothed by the playing of David’s harp in the Old Testament.</p> <p>Today, we often use music to “get into” a mood – using soft music and lyrics to set the scene for romance which, as a seduction tactic, can be quite effective. <a href="http://pom.sagepub.com/content/38/3/303.refs">Researchers in France found</a> that women who were exposed to love songs were more likely to respond to a request for a date than those who were in a control group and did not hear this music.</p> <p>At other times, we may use a fast, up-tempo piece of music at the gym to get us working harder. Music has also been used across the centuries to <a href="http://vimeo.com/72609411">pump up soldiers in the face of battle</a>, the same energising facets of the music being drawn upon, in this context to promote aggression (see famous Wagner scene from Apocalypse Now (1979) below).</p> <p><iframe src="https://player.vimeo.com/video/72609411" width="100%" height="281" frameborder="0" webkitallowfullscreen="" mozallowfullscreen="" allowfullscreen=""></iframe></p> <p>So does that mean that music can be both good and bad for you? Potentially, yes.</p> <p>But music exists within a socio-cultural context and it is how the music interacts with other factors that produces a particular result.</p> <p>So, at the gym it is how and why the music is framed that helps to promote its invigorating qualities for the desired work-out ends. Where it could lead to aggression, there are contextual factors that influence the way in which it’s processed and in turn how it affects us.</p> <p>Recent anti-noise bans that <a href="https://theconversation.com/live-music-in-australia-offensive-noise-or-good-vibrations-13530">prevented live music being played</a> in many Australian pubs connected loud music with aggressive behaviour.</p> <p>The truth is that rock music might indeed encourage patrons to move faster, be more pumped up, and perhaps drink more, be less inhibited, louder, and so manifest a whole range of behaviours than might be regarded as anti-social, leading to an aggression response. But, these are not generated from the music itself, rather in the context and the alignment of many interacting factors.</p> <p>Perhaps the most useful way to reflect on the positives of music is that it can be part of a “healthy process of self-regulation” as American music therapist <a href="http://mtp.oxfordjournals.org/content/21/2/69.abstract">Bridget Doak says</a> and, when negative, it may be part of an “unhealthy, distress-addiction cycle”.</p> <p><a href="https://kb.osu.edu/dspace/bitstream/handle/1811/52950/EMR000125a-Garrido.pdf">Researchers have found</a> that people listen to sad music for a variety of reasons. Some may find that having a good cry while listening to a piece of music is a good way to let go of bad feelings. For others it may give them a chance to think through things that are making them feel sad in their own lives and reach a point of resolution.</p> <p>But some people do not have such effective ways of making themselves feel better. People with mood disorders, for example, often engage in behaviours that can make them feel worse, and music can be a part of that behaviour.</p> <p>Music can have such a powerful impact on mood. Whether or not our lives resemble a light-hearted ballet or a scene of terror in shark-infested waters may have much to do with the music that surrounds us on a daily basis.</p> <p><em>Professor Davidson will give <a href="http://vca-mcm.unimelb.edu.au/events?id=707">a public talk</a> on the use of music in daily life at the University of Melbourne on Tuesday May 20 at 6.30pm. <a href="http://uwap.uwa.edu.au/books-and-authors/book/my-life-as-a-playlist/">My Life As A Playlist</a> (2014) by Jane Davidson and Sandra Garrido is published by UWA Publishing. You can participate in research and learn more about the interaction between music listening choices and personality <a href="http://www.abc.net.au/arts/playlist/#!/home">here</a>.</em><!-- Below is The Conversation's page counter tag. 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More info: http://theconversation.com/republishing-guidelines --></p> <p><em><a href="https://theconversation.com/profiles/jane-davidson-100007">Jane Davidson</a>, Deputy Director ARC Centre of Excellence for the History of Emotions, <a href="http://theconversation.com/institutions/university-of-melbourne-722">University of Melbourne</a> and <a href="https://theconversation.com/profiles/sandra-garrido-126001">Sandra Garrido</a>, Postdoctoral Research Fellow , <a href="http://theconversation.com/institutions/university-of-melbourne-722">University of Melbourne</a></em></p> <p><em>This article is republished from <a href="http://theconversation.com">The Conversation</a> under a Creative Commons license. Read the <a href="https://theconversation.com/music-is-the-soundtrack-to-your-life-whats-on-your-playlist-26893">original article</a>.</em></p>

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Why alcohol is no excuse for bad behaviour

<p>Many of us know that feeling of waking up, headache in tow, struggling to remember what we said and did after that extra drink the night before. And then suddenly, the memories vividly resurface.</p> <p>Alcohol disinhibits us, making us say and do things that we’d otherwise keep under wraps. People will often drink to gain “Dutch courage” in a demanding situation. Many of us can understand the appeal of having a drink before a blind date or a social event – it can help to calm our nerves and cultivate confidence. That’s because alcohol has a depressant effect which makes us feel more relaxed.</p> <p>Of course, alcohol’s effects aren’t all positive. We’ve all adopted nicknames for the characters that we become after a few drinks. Maybe you’re the “happy drunk”, or perhaps you’ve built a reputation for being the “aggressive drunk” who takes everything the wrong way after a pint.</p> <p>The relationship between alcohol and antisocial behaviour is well documented – both anecdotally and <a href="https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0277953600003300">in research</a>. Plenty of arguments and fights stem from someone having had one too many. Scientists believe we behave like this when drunk because we misinterpret social situations and lose our sense of empathy. In essence, once we start slurring words and stumbling, our ability to understand or share the emotions of others goes out the door, too.</p> <p><strong>Own your drunken decisions</strong></p> <p>If someone has done something wrong while under the influence of alcohol, we tend to give them a “get out of jail free card”, rather than <a href="https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/0146167283093016">hold them accountable for their actions</a>. We also extend these excuses to ourselves.</p> <p>But in our research, we’ve attempted to paint a clearer picture of how drinking alcohol, empathy, and moral behaviour are related. In turns out that while consuming alcohol might affect our empathy, making us respond inappropriately to other people’s emotions and reactions, this doesn’t necessarily change our moral standards, or the principles we use to distinguish between what is right and what is wrong.</p> <p>In a <a href="https://link.springer.com/epdf/10.1007/s00213-019-05314-z?shared_access_token=oYcskAVkhizN4C3QUE4omfe4RwlQNchNByi7wbcMAY79mqcJ6CjoCtvwzAVeRDcdkIwptPJ8MNB6w-8ulA0FnoD-WhCD-4_TH7WH0TQd01S0dsgyHXR2Tm5uoR-kkuvhFl06oVfAEMRLFDbqacExIg%3D%3D">recent experiment</a>, we gave participants shots of vodka and then measured their empathy and their moral decisions. We presented images showing various people expressing emotions to our participants. After having a higher dose of vodka, people began to respond inappropriately to these emotional displays, reporting that they felt positively about sad faces and negatively about happy faces. The more intoxicated people were, the more impaired their empathy became – having a few drinks weakened people’s abilities to understand and share the emotions of others.</p> <p>But did this then have an effect on their morality?</p> <p>We had people tell us what they thought they would do in moral dilemmas and then also looked at what they actually did in a <a href="https://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal.pone.0164374">simulation of a moral dilemma in Virtual Reality</a>. Consider what you might do in one of these situations:</p> <blockquote> <p>A runaway trolley is heading down some rail tracks towards five construction workers who can’t hear it approaching. You’re standing on a footbridge in between the approaching trolley and the workers. In front of you, is standing a very large stranger. If you push this stranger onto the tracks below, their large bulk will stop the trolley. This one person will be killed but the five construction workers will be saved. Would you do it?</p> </blockquote> <p>While alcohol might have impaired the empathy of our participants, it didn’t have an effect on how they judged these moral situations or how they acted in them. If someone chose to push the person off the footbridge in order to save more lives while sober, they did the same thing when drunk. If people refused to sacrifice the person’s life in the same situation because they believed that killing was wrong regardless of the consequences, they also did the same when drunk.</p> <p>It turns out that while we might believe that alcohol changes our personalities, it <a href="https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/2167702616689780">doesn’t</a>. You’re still the same person after a drink – your existing sense of <a href="https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s00213-019-05314-z">morality left intact</a>. So while alcohol might affect how we interpret and understand the emotions of other people, we can’t blame our immoral behaviours on alcohol.</p> <p>Drunken you has the same moral compass. And so you are responsible for your moral and immoral actions, whether you’ve had a few drinks or not.<!-- Below is The Conversation's page counter tag. 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Republished with permission of </em><a rel="noopener" href="https://theconversation.com/alcohol-really-is-no-excuse-for-bad-behaviour-research-reveals-youre-still-the-same-person-after-a-drink-122298" target="_blank"><em>The Conversation</em></a><em>.</em></p>

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Are cats to blame for your impulsive behaviour?

<p>Consider yourself a cat person? Be careful – your feline friend might make you more reckless.</p> <p>Cats are well-known carriers of Toxoplasma gondii, a parasite that has been associated with a rise in adventurous and impulsive tendencies. People can pick up the parasite from cats’ feces as well as a variety of other sources, such as undercooked meat and gardening soil.</p> <p>According to <span>a <a href="http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/24231154">study</a> published in the journal <em>Brain, Behavior, and Immunity</em>, Toxo spreads across the brain and increases dopamine production.</span></p> <p>Because of this, the parasite has been found to have interesting effects on both animals and humans. Infected mice become more adventurous and less wary of cats – ironically, this is what increases rats’ likelihood to become prey and allow Toxo to reproduce in the cat’s body.</p> <p>Toxo also influences human behaviour. A <span><a href="https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2012/03/how-your-cat-is-making-you-crazy/308873/?single_page=true">study</a></span> by Charles University in Prague suggested that Toxo infection could lead to <span><a href="https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2012/03/how-your-cat-is-making-you-crazy/308873/?single_page=true">heightened anxiety</a></span>. This manifests in different ways for men and women. Infected men tend to turn more suspicious, withdrawn, <span><a href="https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2013/12/do-cats-control-my-mind/282045/">prone to breaking rules</a></span> and oblivious to how other people see them, while infected women have been found to be more outgoing, rule-abiding and image-conscious – for example, dressing up more or wearing expensive, designer brands.</p> <p>Another <span><a href="https://royalsocietypublishing.org/doi/full/10.1098/rspb.2018.0822">study</a> by the University of Colorado re-emphasised Toxo’s effect on risk taking behaviour. It found that infected students were 40 per cent more likely to study business – a relatively risky field – than other disciplines, and 70 per cent more likely to specialise in management and entrepreneurship over other related studies such as the more stable accounting.</span></p> <p>It has also been shown that infected men and women are also more likely to get in traffic accidents, develop schizophrenia and engage in self-directed violence.</p> <p><span>The way that Toxo influences our brain responses <a href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1635495/#bib29">led researchers at the University of California to conclude</a> that “parasite’s subtle effect on individual personality appears to alter the aggregate personality at the population level”.</span></p> <p><span>While humans on average would not be seriously harmed by Toxo infection, the parasite can cause serious illness in those who are pregnant or have weakened immune systems – such as the sick or the elderly – as it can attack their brain, eyes and other organs.</span></p> <p><span>To prevent getting infected, <a href="https://www.healthdirect.gov.au/toxoplasmosis"><em>healthdirect</em></a> recommends cooking meat and poultry well as well as maintaining hygiene – for example, washing hands after handling food or wearing gloves when changing the cat litter.</span></p>

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Rome introduces new rules to curb unruly tourist behaviour

<p><span>Rome has introduced a slew of new rules and regulations in the city to crack down on unruly tourist behaviour.</span></p> <p><span>Visitors are now banned from carrying out a range of activities, including eating messily around monuments, touching lips on public fountains and dragging wheeled suitcases down historic steps.</span></p> <p><span>Locals who dress up as Roman legionnaires with breastplates and swords to demand money from tourists from photos are also banned along with public transport buskers and illegal street-traders and ticket-touters outside tourist sights.</span></p> <p><span>Fines will also apply for tourists who attach “<a href="https://www.lonelyplanet.com/news/2019/06/12/rome-new-tourist-rules/">love padlocks</a>” to monuments and men who walk around the city bare-chested.</span></p> <p><span>The new rules, which are part of the updates and expansions on the statute since 1946, are aimed at reducing anti-social behaviour and managing tourist strains on Rome’s historic sites. </span></p> <p><span>“Old regulations have been updated to adapt to the needs of a modern society,” said Marco Cardilli, deputy chief of staff and security delegate at the city’s council.</span></p> <p><span>Virginia Raggi, the mayor of Rome, said <a href="http://www.traveller.com.au/rome-new-rules-for-tourists-ban-on-bare-chests-sucking-on-drinking-fountains-and-eating-in-public-h1f7vc">she would write to foreign embassies</a> to raise awareness of the new regulations.</span></p> <p><span>“Rome is, and always will be, welcoming, but that does not mean tolerating bad behaviour and damage being done to our city,” she said.</span></p> <p><span>“The Rome city centre is an area protected by UNESCO, so clearly our centre is our business ticket. For sure there will be zero tolerance for those marring our city.”</span></p> <p><span>While it remains unclear how these new rules will be enforced, it has been announced that the police will be patrolling historic sites for any infractions.</span></p>

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Body language expert's verdict on The Queen and Donald Trump: "She mirrored his behaviour"

<p>All eyes were on Donald Trump while he carries out his annual visit to the UK and visits the Queen.</p> <p>Queen Elizabeth held a state banquet last night to welcome the US President and his family. She also had spent the day escorting him and the First Lady Melania Trump to sites around the UK, which included Westminster Abbey.</p> <p>As the US President delivered his lengthy speech at the State Banquet, which was held in Buckingham Palace, a body language expert has weighed in on the body language displayed between Trump and the Queen.</p> <p>Judi James, body language expert, told <a rel="noopener" href="https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-7100833/Trumps-thinking-election-state-banquet-says-body-language-expert.html" target="_blank"><em>The Daily Mail</em></a> that the pair seem to “genuinely be enjoying each other’s company”.</p> <p>“The Queen and Trump chatting at the banquet shows high signs of rapport. Trump continued what he'd done earlier – bending down to speak to her at her level and leaning forward,” James explained.</p> <p>“I haven't seen him smile like that before, it looked like genuine enjoyment and the Queen mirrored his behaviour. They looked as though they were chuckling about something together.”</p> <blockquote style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" class="instagram-media" data-instgrm-captioned="" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/p/ByQ5vjjnuuY/" data-instgrm-version="12"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"></div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"></div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"></div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"></div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"></div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <p style="margin: 8px 0 0 0; padding: 0 4px;"><a style="color: #000; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none; word-wrap: break-word;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/p/ByQ5vjjnuuY/" target="_blank">‘Tonight we celebrate an alliance that has helped to ensure the safety and prosperity of both our peoples for decades, and which I believe will endure for many years to come.’ This evening, a State Banquet was held in the Ballroom at Buckingham Palace in honour of the State Visit of the President and Mrs Trump. In her speech at the banquet, The Queen spoke of the mutual aims and beliefs of both countries, saying, ‘Mr President, as we look to the future, I am confident that our common values and shared interests will continue to unite us.’ The Prince of Wales, The Duchess of Cornwall, The Duke and Duchess of Cambridge, The Duke of York and The Earl and Countess of Wessex also attended the banquet. 📸 Press Association</a></p> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;">A post shared by <a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/theroyalfamily/" target="_blank"> The Royal Family</a> (@theroyalfamily) on Jun 3, 2019 at 3:18pm PDT</p> </div> </blockquote> <p>James also pointed out that we are seeing a different side to Trump.</p> <p>“We saw a different Trump when he stood to make his speech. He was aware of the worldwide audience and the impact it may have on his elections in the US.</p> <p>“The showboating Trump was gone, he normally has a very exaggerated speaking style but this time we got a soft voice, raised chin and raised eyebrows. He was very sombre with serious emphasis on his words. Clearly overall, he was going for a look of dignity.”</p> <p>There was even a moment when Trump made the Queen laugh.</p> <p>“He made the Queen laugh once but I think it was unintentional, when he spoke about the beautiful weather,” said James.</p> <blockquote style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" class="instagram-media" data-instgrm-captioned="" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/p/ByP3zD9nfRT/" data-instgrm-version="12"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"></div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"></div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"></div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"></div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"></div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <p style="margin: 8px 0 0 0; padding: 0 4px;"><a style="color: #000; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none; word-wrap: break-word;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/p/ByP3zD9nfRT/" target="_blank">Today marks the start of the #USStateVisit. President Trump and Mrs. Melania Trump were met by The Prince of Wales and The Duchess of Cornwall on the lawn before being welcomed by The Queen on the West Terrace of Buckingham Palace. Upon arrival a Royal Salute was fired by The King’s Troop Royal Horse Artillery from Green Park (41 guns) and at the Tower of London by The Honourable Artillery Company (62 guns). The Guard of Honour, found by Nijmegen Company, Grenadier Guards, gave a Royal Salute before the US National Anthem, The Star-Spangled Banner, was played by the Band of the Regiment. The President @realdonaldtrump accompanied by The Prince of Wales, inspected the Guard of Honour watched by The Queen, the First Lady and The Duchess of Cornwall.</a></p> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;">A post shared by <a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/theroyalfamily/" target="_blank"> The Royal Family</a> (@theroyalfamily) on Jun 3, 2019 at 5:42am PDT</p> </div> </blockquote> <p>However, things quickly turned sour.</p> <p>“She [The Queen] looked less amused when he called her a great, great woman. She did the modest British thing of sitting poker face.”</p> <p>Trump’s speech addressed over 170 dignitaries and spoke about the bombing of Buckingham Palace. He also offered a toast to the “eternal friendship of our people”.</p> <p>“On behalf of all Americans, I offer a toast to the eternal friendship of our people, the vitality of our nations and to the long cherished and truly remarkable reign of Her Majesty, the Queen,” Trump toasted.</p>

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