Mum with terminal brain cancer writes heartbreaking letter to two sons
<p>A Melbourne mother with terminal brain cancer has written a heartbreaking letter to her two young boys when they grow up but now, her youngest son is also fighting for his life.</p>
<p>Sara Chivers, 34, was diagnosed with incurable brain cancer in March, eight years after previously beating the disease.</p>
<p>As Sara underwent surgery to shrink one of three aggressive tumours growing on her brain, the health of her 18-month-old son Alfie began to deteriorate.</p>
<p>Alfie lost mobility in one side of his body and started shaking, so Sara rushed him to hospital, where a scan revealed the horrific news that Alfie also has brain cancer.</p>
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<p>Sara is now doing everything she can to create lasting memories with her family and save her little boy’s life.</p>
<p>In the emotional letter supplied to the <em>New Daily</em>, Sara explains to her two sons, Alfie and older brother Hugh, the kind of woman that she is.</p>
<p>“I won't be around to see you grow up. It's a hard thing to say and even harder to face,” her letter begins.</p>
<p>“I know your Dad, and our village of family and friends, will keep me alive for you as much as they can, but there are some things I want you to hear from me.”</p>
<p>Sara explains in the letter that her favourite perfume is Michael Kors, her favourite meal is spaghetti bolognese and her favourite season is winter.</p>
<p>“Don't be afraid of expressing your emotions. I will never tire of hearing 'I love you' from Leigh, you boys, my family, friends.</p>
<p>“Pay attention to study but know there is so much more to school life than textbooks. Play team sports. Try a musical instrument. Learn a language.”</p>
<p>Sara then encourages her boys to “love hard”, be brave in their convictions and always be strong as a family.</p>
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<p>“Be kind to your Dad. It won't be easy for him raising you alone, but every decision he makes will be with your best interests at heart,” Sara writes.</p>
<p>“He is an exceptional father and role model. Don't let him doubt himself or the wonderful job he will do shaping you into the men I dream of you growing up to be.</p>
<p>“There will come a time when he wants to find happiness again with a new partner. Accept and embrace his choice, and know she will be a positive female influence in your lives too.</p>
<p>“I have absolute faith that he will make the right decision, for him and you both, and I hope she enriches your lives as much as you've all enriched mine."</p>
<p>Her powerful letter finishes with a few words to her loving husband Leigh.</p>
<p>“He is my companion, my rock, my everything. It was always him. Always will be.”</p>
<p>While Sara’s chances of survival are slim, she is doing everything she can to save the life of Alfie saying, "I won't let him become a statistic.”</p>
<p>Sara has undergone surgery on the largest tumour, improving her mobility and quality of life as she fights for Alfie.</p>
<p>The brave little boy has had three surgeries to remove the fluid from his brain and give him a chance to beat the disease.</p>
<p>In the last three decades, the survival rates for brain cancer have not improved.</p>
<p>Sara’s sister Stephanie has set up a <a href="https://www.gofundme.com/sara-alfies-brain-cancer-battle" target="_blank"><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;">fundraising page</span></strong></a> for those hoping to help with the Chivers family’s costly battle against cancer.</p>
<p>For those wanting to financially support brain cancer research in Australia, Sara recommends <a href="http://www.curebraincancer.org.au/" target="_blank"><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Cure Brain Cancer</span></strong></a> or <a href="http://www.carriesbeanies4braincancer.com/" target="_blank"><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Carries Beanies 4 Cancer</span></strong></a>.</p>
<p><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Sara’s letter:</span></strong></p>
<p>I won't be around to see you grow up. It's a hard thing to say and even harder to face. You will have to hear from others the little things that made me me: my perfume of choice is Michael Kors, my favourite meal is spaghetti bolognese, winter is my preferred season. I wish I was a better cook. I'm a keeper of mementos – tiny hospital name tags, the poem Leigh wrote for my 21st birthday, first baby clothes.</p>
<p>I know your Dad, and our village of family and friends, will keep me alive for you as much as they can, but there are some things I want you to hear from me.</p>
<p>Don't be afraid of expressing your emotions. I will never tire of hearing 'I love you' from Leigh, you boys, my family, friends.</p>
<p>Love hard. As they say, it is better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all. That's how I feel about you both. Heartbroken doesn't come close to describing the pain I feel at not being in your lives in the future, but I would never change or forego the time we have spent together and the immense joy you have brought me. You are without a doubt my proudest accomplishments.</p>
<p>Pay attention to study but know there is so much more to school life than textbooks. Play team sports. Try a musical instrument. Learn a language.</p>
<p>Always try your best; I could never ask any more of you. Never fear failure – you will learn more from mistakes than successes. There's never anything more certain than change so embrace it. Don't be afraid to try new things. Travel as much as possible – it will shape who you are.</p>
<p>Be brave in your convictions and believe in yourself. Never tease or ridicule someone because they're different to you. You will be a better person by surrounding yourself with people who will challenge your views and beliefs.</p>
<p>I can never emphasise enough the importance of good table manners. Remember to say please and thank you. Address your friends' parents by Mrs, Ms or Mr unless told otherwise. Make your bed when you stay at other people's houses, and always offer to clear their table and do the dishes.</p>
<p>You will have friends for a season, friends for a reason, friends for life. It won't take too long to work out which ones fall into which category.</p>
<p>Family comes first. We will always be there for you to fall back on regardless of any mistakes or bad choices, and will help you through tough times and to celebrate life's wins.</p>
<p>Be kind to your Dad. It won't be easy for him raising you alone, but every decision he makes will be with your best interests at heart. He is an exceptional father and role model. Don't let him doubt himself or the wonderful job he will do shaping you into the men I dream of you growing up to be.</p>
<p>There will come a time when he wants to find happiness again with a new partner. Accept and embrace his choice, and know she will be a positive female influence in your lives too. I have absolute faith that he will make the right decision, for him and you both, and I hope she enriches your lives as much as you've all enriched mine.</p>
<p>Your Dad is the most admirable, courageous man I have ever known. He is my companion, my rock, my everything. He has shown true grit in the face of our adversities, and without him beside me I would have crumbled.</p>
<p>I will be forever grateful for the time we spent together, the memories we created, the love we shared. It was always him. Always will be.</p>
<p>Love,</p>
<p>Mum</p>
<p><em>Source: The New Daily</em></p>