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Independent you: preventing, and recovering from, elder abuse

<p>From implementing safeguards to stop it from beginning to taking back control if it does, there is a lot of power in your hands to avoid elder abuse. </p> <p>Previously, we explored the warning signs of elder abuse and how <a href="https://www.oversixty.com.au/finance/retirement-income/are-you-a-victim-of-elder-abuse-without-even-realising-it">it is possible to be a victim without even realising it</a>.</p> <p>And with more wealth owned by people over 60 now than ever before, the potential for abuse only continues to grow.</p> <p>So, how can you prevent elder abuse happening to you? And if you are already experiencing it, what can you do to regain control over your finances, independence and wellbeing? </p> <p><strong>Prevention better than cure</strong></p> <p>The best way to avoid the impacts of elder abuse is to protect yourself against it beginning in the first place.</p> <p>Awareness is the first step, so having <a href="https://www.oversixty.com.au/finance/retirement-income/are-you-a-victim-of-elder-abuse-without-even-realising-it">read this article and knowing the warning signs</a>, you’re already ahead of the game!</p> <p>Other preventative actions include:</p> <ul> <li>Maintaining contact: social interactions are important not just for warding off loneliness but providing access to other points of view and avenues for support. </li> <li>External advisers: engage your own advisers – don’t simply employ who someone tells you to. They should be an impartial, qualified set of eyes to monitor things for you and point out anything that doesn’t seem right. This includes a financial advisor, lawyer, accountant, doctor and so on. A support person attending appointments with you may give you extra assurance.</li> <li>Power of attorney/guardianship: nominate multiple people, so that no one individual has all the say. It can be useful to include someone who is not a relative for impartiality, such as a trusted friend or your lawyer. </li> <li>Superannuation beneficiaries: super is separate from your will, but beneficiary nominations can only be spouse, child, dependent or interdependent otherwise it will go to you Will.  In your Will you can direct to other people or charities. Some beneficiaries lapse, so will need to be renewed.</li> <li>Wills: review your will to ensure it reflects YOUR wishes, not someone else’s. People can jostle over not only their own inheritance but may try to influence you to leave others out. </li> <li>Documenting everything: keep a written record, especially where money is concerned – such as acting as Bank of Mum and Dad for adult kids to purchase property. Outline how much is given, what if any interest/repayments are expected and when, and what happens if their relationship subsequently breaks down.</li> <li>Encouraging independence: people who have come to expect handouts can become abusive if those handouts stop or requests for more are denied. Support and encourage others, especially your kids, to be financially independent and self-sufficient.</li> </ul> <p><strong>Taking back control</strong></p> <p>Sadly, prevention is no longer an option for an <a href="https://www.aihw.gov.au/family-domestic-and-sexual-violence/population-groups/older-people?xd_co_f=YjAzZDU4YTUtYzA5YS00YTNkLWJkNDQtNjdiZTM5ZmY5ZjQx#abuse">estimated 598,000 Australians</a> already experiencing elder abuse. However, it is still possible to break the cycle.</p> <p>Don’t be embarrassed or stick your head in the sand hoping things will improve. You have done nothing wrong. You are entitled to enjoy your retirement years.</p> <p>To take back control over your affairs, your wellbeing and your independence:</p> <ul> <li>Ensure your physical safety first and foremost.</li> <li>Seek medical attention for your physical and mental health (the latter is crucial for making good decisions around the other points on this list).</li> <li>Get support from another relative, close friend, neighbour, or other trusted person. Don’t be alone.</li> <li>Secure a roof over your head. Having a stable place to live gives you the security and focus to tackle other concerns.</li> <li>Freeze access to your money – bank accounts, credit cards etc. This will stop (further) unauthorised withdrawals or purchases being charged to you.</li> <li>Seek professional advice. Your financial adviser, tax accountant and lawyer will be able to guide you through protecting your home, money, guardianship and estate planning matters.</li> <li>Make informed changes. Don’t do anything rashly – make necessary changes once you have sought independent advice and considered your options. This may involve making changes to your power of attorney, will, superannuation, bank accounts, even your phone number in extreme cases.</li> <li>Consider counselling. Your abuser may not realise the severity of their actions. An independent counsellor may be able to help them see this and change their ways, and ultimately salvage your relationship.</li> </ul> <p>If you or someone you know is experiencing elder abuse, seek help straight away. Speak to a trusted relative or friend. Seek independent legal and financial advice about your affairs. Or call the government’s free elder abuse line on 1800 353 374. And if your life is in danger, call triple zero (000) immediately.</p> <p><strong><em>Helen Baker is a licensed Australian financial adviser and author of On Your Own Two Feet: The Essential Guide to Financial Independence for all Women. Helen is among the 1% of financial planners who hold a master’s degree in the field. Proceeds from book sales are donated to charities supporting disadvantaged women and children. Find out more at <a href="http://www.onyourowntwofeet.com.au/">www.onyourowntwofeet.com.au</a></em></strong></p> <p><strong><em>Disclaimer: The information in this article is of a general nature only and does not constitute personal financial or product advice. Any opinions or views expressed are those of the authors and do not represent those of people, institutions or organisations the owner may be associated with in a professional or personal capacity unless explicitly stated. Helen Baker is an authorised representative of BPW Partners Pty Ltd AFSL 548754.</em></strong></p> <p><em>Image credits: Getty Images </em></p>

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Worrying news – ozone layer not recovering after all

<p>Alarming news from New Zealand scientists suggests the ozone layer might not be recovering after all, with the problem exacerbated by bushfires, volcanic eruptions and greenhouse gas emissions.</p> <div class="copy"> <p>The research <a href="https://doi.org/10.1038/s41467-023-42637-0" target="_blank" rel="noopener">published</a> in <em>Nature Communications</em> suggests the Antarctic ozone layer has reduced by 26% since 2004, contrary to previous reports of recovery by actions taken under an agreement called the Montreal Protocol. </p> <p>The authors say wildfire and volcanic aerosols together with greenhouse gas emissions probably explain recent setbacks with record large, long-lived ozone holes re-emerging over Antarctica during Spring since 2020.</p> <p>Climate change is influencing the <a href="http://www.bom.gov.au/weather-services/fire-weather-centre/bushfire-weather/index.shtml" target="_blank" rel="noopener">severity and frequency</a> of bushfires.</p> <p>The ozone hole was previously thought to be under repair thanks to a global agreement signed in Montreal, Canada to limit ozone depleting substances. </p> <p>But the paper finds insignificant long-term change in the total ozone column since the early 2000s, “even where significant recovery has previously been reported”.</p> <p>The analysis of daily and monthly ozone changes between 2001 – 2022, show delays in the formation of the ozone hole. While early springtime shows signs of recovery in the ozone layer, this is followed by declines during late September.</p> <p>Researcher and author Hannah Kessenich from the University of Otago says: “by looking at detailed, daily ozone observations from the last 19 years, we find evidence of much less ozone in the centre of the Antarctic ozone hole compared to 19 years ago. This means that the hole has not only remained large in area, but it has also become deeper (i.e. has less ozone) throughout most of Antarctic spring.”</p> <p>But Atmospheric scientist, Dr Martin Jucker from the University of NSW is not convinced by the results of the study.</p> <p>He says: “Their results rely heavily on the large ozone holes we have seen in 2020-2022. However, existing literature has already found reasons for these large ozone holes: Smoke from the 2019 bushfires and a volcanic eruption (La Soufriere), as well as a general relationship between the polar stratosphere and El Niño Southern Oscillation […] The years 2020-22 have seen a rare triple La Niña, but this relationship is never mentioned in the study.”  </p> <p><a href="https://cosmosmagazine.com/earth/earth-sciences/ozone-hole-among-largest-on-record/">This Spring</a>, the European Space Agency reported yet another large ozone hole had formed, among the biggest on record.</p> <p>The layer of ozone high in the atmosphere protects the Earth from ultraviolet (UV) radiation from the Sun. Ozone depletion exposes people, particularly in the Southern Hemisphere, to a higher risk of skin cancer.</p> <p><em>Image credits: Getty Images</em></p> <div> <p align="center"><em><img id="cosmos-post-tracker" style="opacity: 0; height: 1px!important; width: 1px!important; border: 0!important; position: absolute!important; z-index: -1!important;" src="https://syndication.cosmosmagazine.com/?id=288486&amp;title=Worrying+news+%26%238211%3B+ozone+layer+not+recovering+after+all" width="1" height="1" loading="lazy" aria-label="Syndication Tracker" data-spai-target="src" data-spai-orig="" data-spai-exclude="nocdn" /></em><em><a href="https://cosmosmagazine.com/earth/climate/ozone-layer-not-recovering/">This article</a> was originally published on <a href="https://cosmosmagazine.com">Cosmos Magazine</a> and was written by <a href="https://cosmosmagazine.com/contributor/petra-stock/">Petra Stock</a>. </em></p> </div> </div>

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Dramatic first look at recovered Titan submersible

<p>The first glimpse of the wreckage of the ill-fated <em>Titan</em> sub was revealed on Wednesday, a full ten days after its tragic implosion claimed the lives of all five passengers during a deep-sea expedition to explore the <em>Titanic</em>. Large sections of the submersible were carefully transported to shore, lifted by a crane from the recovery ship upon its arrival in Canada.</p> <p>Despite efforts to conceal it, photographs unveiled the twisted remnants of electronic equipment, along with the distinctive circular window of the nose cone, according to reports from Canada Press.</p> <p>The retrieval operation was carried out by Pelagic Research Services, a US-based organisation. The crew aboard the Horizon Arctic vessel had tirelessly laboured for ten consecutive days, facing both physical and mental challenges.</p> <p>Utilising specialised remote-controlled vehicles, they located the shattered sub approximately 12,500 feet beneath the surface, several hundred feet away from the <em>Titanic</em> wreckage that the <em>Titan</em> sub had set out to explore.</p> <p>The debris retrieved will undergo examination as part of ongoing investigations conducted by authorities in the United States and Canada to shed light on the tragedy. The US Coast Guard has also recovered "presumed human remains" from the seafloor in the area of the Titan submersible's debris field.</p> <p>The remains were recovered "within the wreckage" of the submersible and <span style="font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, 'Segoe UI', Roboto, Oxygen, Ubuntu, Cantarell, 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', sans-serif;">will be analysed by medical professionals, the </span><span style="font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, 'Segoe UI', Roboto, Oxygen, Ubuntu, Cantarell, 'Open Sans', 'Helvetica Neue', sans-serif;">Coast Guard said in a news release.</span></p> <p>Officials believe the <em>Titan</em> sub experienced a "catastrophic implosion" early into its dive on Father's Day. The sub was piloted by Stockton Rush, the CEO of Titan sub, who has since faced growing controversy for allegedly disregarding significant safety concerns while allowing affluent tourists to pay a hefty sum of $250,000 per person for the ill-fated voyage.</p> <p><em>Images: Twitter</em></p>

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Feel like you don’t have control over your life following a breakup? You’ll recover, says science

<p>Losing a person in your life, from relationship breakup, divorce or death is a stressful event and now researchers have looked at how long it takes to recover a personal sense of control.</p> <p>Relationship breakups reduce your sense of control – but only temporarily.</p> <p>A study in PLOS One has found that people feel they have less control over their lives in the 12 months following a separation. But after this, their sense of control gradually recovers.</p> <p>Conversely, people feel more in control in the year following the death of a partner. Perhaps oddly divorce has no impact on one’s sense of control – although the research refers to the end of the process, not the often-traumatic beginning.</p> <p>The researchers, who are based at Humboldt-Universität zu Berlin, Germany examined data from the Socio-Economic Panel Study, a German longitudinal study which has been running since 1984. In 1994, 1995 and 1996, study participants were asked about their sense of control over their own lives.</p> <p>The researchers examined 1,235 people who had separated from their partners, 423 who divorced, and 437 whose partners died.</p> <p>Women were more likely to have lost some of their sense of control following a separation, but, like men, on average they regained this sense of control after a year. Younger people were more likely to report an increased sense of control after a breakup than older people.</p> <p>The opposite was true if a participant’s partner had died. In that case, older people were more likely to experience an increase in control and younger people were more likely to report a decrease.</p> <p>“After losing their spouse, individuals might not only regain capabilities to shape their own daily routines but also recognize to be able to deal with life despite this tragic experience, resulting into higher perceived control,” suggest the researchers in their paper.</p> <p>The researchers couldn’t find a link between perceived control and divorce. They state this is possibly because divorce is formalised at least a year after separating, meaning at this point people have recovered their sense of control.</p> <p>“Our findings suggest that people sometimes grow from stressful experiences – at least regarding specific personality characteristics,” write the authors.</p> <p>“In the years after losing a romantic partner, participants in our study became increasingly convinced in their ability to influence their life and future by their own behaviour.</p> <p>“Their experience enabled them to deal with adversity and manage their life independently, which allowed them to grow.”</p> <p><strong>This article appeared on <a href="https://cosmosmagazine.com/people/breakups-relationships-control/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">cosmosmagazine.com</a> and was written by Ellen Phiddian.</strong></p> <p><em>Image: Shuttertock</em></p>

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One young woman's plight to recover her stolen Airpods

<p>A young woman who tirelessly tracked down her missing Airpods has captured the moment she confronted a Woolies worker who allegedly stole them from her.</p> <p>Juliette Fox shared a video on Sunday that showed her speaking to a Woolworths shift supervisor about the pair of missing earphones.</p> <p>The dramatic video showed Ms Fox telling the employee that she had been tracking her missing earphones via the 'Find My’ iPhone feature and knew they were in the store.</p> <p>Ms Fox said she had been at an arcade earlier that week while visiting friends and family in Melbourne and left her earphones, keys, and phone in her coat pocket next to her. Later the woman discovered the Airpods were missing.</p> <p>She said she then started receiving notifications that her AirPods were being used in a strangers apartment. The notifications and tracking were so specific that Ms Fox knew the apartment building the alleged thief lived in, the train stations the employee had walked in and out of, and where she had gone for dinner.</p> <p>"I've been clicking on this every single day, it became the bane of my existence," she said.</p> <p>"I have the receipts, I knew when you used them. So don't lie to me, don't pretend you didn't have them."</p> <p>Ms Fox said she had tried to recover her earphones from the couple's apartment but was unable to gain access so left her name and phone number with the doorman.</p> <p>However, being dedicated to the mission ,Ms Fox decided to take matters into her own hands and confronted the Woolworths employee at the store.</p> <p>"I know the AirPods are still here," she told the employee.</p> <p>"So you're either going to give them to me or I'm going to go back to the cop station."</p> <p>"You can look but I don't have it," the employee told her.</p> <p>Ms Fox then showed the employee her tracking notifications that alerted her the AirPods had recently been used in the store and the employee called her partner.</p> <p>"That lady whose the AirPods are, she's here," the employee said.</p> <p>"You know how you can track it? She tracked it."</p> <p>The employee ended the phone call and told Ms Fox that her partner had put the AirPods in her work bag, blaming him for making the situation "so messy".</p> <p>She then told Ms Fox that she would go look for the AirPods.</p> <p>"I don't know where he put it but if you want to go, I'm happy, you can go."</p> <p>"No, I want my AirPods," Ms Fox said, as the employee walked away.</p> <p>Luckily the employee was able to find the AirPods and return them to the rightful owner. </p> <p>Commenters were left shocked by the employee's dismissive behaviour and alleged she intentionally stole them.</p> <p><em>Image: TikTok</em></p>

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I just recovered from Omicron – how long does my immunity last?

<div class="copy"> <p>If you recently recovered from an <a rel="noreferrer noopener" href="https://cosmosmagazine.com/health/covid/omicron-update-170122/" target="_blank">Omicron infection</a>, do you now have free rein to do whatever you want without risk of reinfection? And if so, for how long?</p> <p>Two main factors affect how well your acquired immunity after Omicron infection will protect you.</p> <p>First, your antibody levels. “If high levels of neutralising antibodies are elicited to Omicron following infection, then we would expect to see some level of protection against reinfection with Omicron, but this is likely to be short-lived,” says Professor Gilda Tachedjian, a virologist at the Burnet Institute and past president of the Australian Virology Society.</p> <p>Generally, a more severe infection generates a higher level of antibodies than an asymptomatic infection, explains Professor Anthony Cunningham, an infectious diseases physician and clinical virologist at the University of Sydney. But when the level of neutralising antibodies begins to drop, your likelihood of reinfection rises.</p> <p>It’s simply too early to know how long Omicron immunity will last, he says.</p> <p>From vaccine studies, we know that antibody levels begin to drop after three to six months. A <a rel="noreferrer noopener" href="https://www.thelancet.com/journals/lanmic/article/PIIS2666-5247(21)00219-6/fulltext" target="_blank">recent study</a> published in <em>The Lancet</em> estimated that reinfection by SARS-CoV-2 under endemic conditions would likely occur between three months and five years after peak antibody response.</p> <p>Almost certainly, Cunningham says, there will be a lot of individual variation, similar to what has been observed with previous strains. This variation depends on the severity of the disease you experienced, and whether you have had a vaccine.</p> <p>The second factor: emerging variants. Our waning antibodies may not be able to target any new variants that come along. The Omicron variant, for example, largely evades immunity from past infection and vaccines. A recent <a rel="noreferrer noopener" href="https://www.imperial.ac.uk/mrc-global-infectious-disease-analysis/covid-19/report-49-Omicron/" target="_blank">report</a> from Imperial College London estimates that the risk of reinfection with Omicron is 5.4 times greater than that of the Delta variant.</p> <p>“The most likely outcome is that you won’t get re-infected with Omicron because the expectation is that the Omicron wave will decline, but then the greatest risk is that another strain comes along,” says Cunningham. “It all depends on what type of strain comes next.”</p> <p>Even if you have had a recent Omicron infection, don’t throw your mask away, warns Cunningham: “The more virus circulates in the world, the more likely it is that we’ll see new strains.”</p> <p>Although protection from reinfection might not last for long, experts think T-cells might come to the rescue.</p> <p>While antibodies directly bind and neutralise virions, preventing an infection, T-cells activate once the infection is established. They target and kill virus-infected cells, helping to clear the infection and reduce its severity. This arm of the immune response tends to be broader than antibodies – and thus more likely to recognise variants, and to last longer, Tachedjian explains.</p> <p>“Hopefully, you will be asymptomatic or have a less severe disease [the second time around].”</p> <em>Image credits: Getty Images </em></div> <div id="contributors"> <p><em>This article was originally published on <a href="https://cosmosmagazine.com/health/covid/immunity-after-omicron-infection/">cosmosmagazine.com</a> and was written by Dr Manuela Callari. </em></p> </div>

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Ellen’s wife recovering after being rushed to hospital

<p><span>Ellen DeGeneres’ wife, Portia de Rossi, is resting at home after she was rushed to hospital and underwent an unexpected surgery last week.</span><br /><br /><span>The actress is in recovery after a health scare revealed she had appendicitis.</span><br /><br /><span>A representative for the couple told People Magazine that the actress, 48, is “doing well”.</span><br /><br /><span>“Ellen rushed Portia to the hospital on Friday night, she was in a lot of pain,” the statement read.</span><br /><br /><span>“It was appendicitis and she had surgery.”</span><br /><br /><span>They added that DeGeneres, 63, is “taking care of her. It was a scare at first, but all good now.”</span></p> <blockquote style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" class="instagram-media" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/p/B3kRZP3pN59/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" data-instgrm-version="13"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"></div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"></div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"></div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"></div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"></div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;"><a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/p/B3kRZP3pN59/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" target="_blank">A post shared by Portia de Rossi (@portiaderossi)</a></p> </div> </blockquote> <p><br /><span>de Rossi’s health scare follows just three months after DeGeneres had her own concerning medical diagnosis, admitting to the world she had tested positive for coronavirus.</span><br /><br /><span>“Hi Everyone, I want to let you all know that I tested positive for COVID-19,” the television personality wrote.</span><br /><br /><span>“Fortunately, I’m feeling fine right now. Anyone who has been in close contact with me has been notified, and I am following all proper CDC guidelines.”</span><br /><br /><span>She added, “Please stay healthy and safe.”</span><br /><br /><span>It has been a rocky year for DeGeneres indeed, who praised her wife and thanked her for her support.</span><br /><br /><span>“I couldn’t have gone through everything I went through without her,” she told People, following toxic workplace allegations against the Ellen DeGeneres Show.</span><br /><br /><span>“It was a horrible time in my life, and she was a rock. She kept me going and tried to help me put things in perspective.”</span><br /><br /><span>de Rossi added: “We’ve grown together as a couple, and we really consider each other and put our relationship first.”</span><br /><br /><span>DeGeneres and de Rossi met in 2000 and have been together for 15 years.</span><br /><br /><span>The pair married in 2008.</span></p> <blockquote style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" class="instagram-media" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/p/B6uBfQQJtYr/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" data-instgrm-version="13"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"></div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"></div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"></div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"></div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"></div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;"><a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/p/B6uBfQQJtYr/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" target="_blank">A post shared by Portia de Rossi (@portiaderossi)</a></p> </div> </blockquote> <p><br /><span>de Rossi told Oprah in 2005: “(I knew Ellen was the one) when I first laid eyes on her, but it took me three years to actually tell her how I felt about her because I was on Ally McBeal at the time and I was not living as an openly gay person.</span><br /><br /><span>“I was closeted and very, very afraid that if I talked about being gay, it would be the end of my career, so I wasn’t about to date the most famous lesbian in the world.”</span><br /><br /><span>The couple married in 2008 after the Supreme Court of California legalised same-sex marriage in 2008.</span></p>

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Simon Cowell recovering after breaking his back

<div class="post_body_wrapper"> <div class="post_body"> <div class="body_text "> <p><em>America's Got Talent </em>judge Simon Cowell is recovering after undergoing back surgery after an electric bike accident.</p> <p>“He broke his back in a few places,” a spokesperson for Cowell said in a statement to Deadline. “They operated overnight, the surgery went well, and he is in the hospital recovering.”</p> <p>According to sources quoted by <a rel="noopener" href="https://people.com/tv/simon-cowell-recovering-after-5-hour-back-surgery/" target="_blank" class="_e75a791d-denali-editor-page-rtflink">People</a>, the surgery lasted five hours, and the <em>America’s Got Talent</em> judge “has had to have a number of fusions and metal rod put into his back.”</p> <blockquote style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" class="instagram-media" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/p/BJk_yXtBFxX/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" data-instgrm-version="12"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"></div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"></div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"></div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"></div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"></div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;"><a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/p/BJk_yXtBFxX/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" target="_blank">A post shared by @simoncowell</a> on Aug 26, 2016 at 9:08am PDT</p> </div> </blockquote> <p>The TV personality is reportedly doing fine.</p> <p>“Simon had a fall from his bike on Saturday afternoon whilst testing his new electric bike in the courtyard at his house in Malibu with his family,” a spokesperson for the <em>AGT</em> and <em>The X-Factor</em> creator said.</p> <p>“He hurt his back and was taken to the hospital. He’s doing fine, he’s under observation and is in the best possible hands.”</p> </div> </div> </div>

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Grandfather recovering from COVID-19 treated to special surprise

<div class="post_body_wrapper"> <div class="post_body"> <div class="body_text "> <p>A German grandfather who contracted coronavirus whilst on-board a cruise ship has celebrated a life milestone in hospital as he recovers.</p> <p>Johann Steinborn was one of 81 passengers and crew who contracted the virus, despite having no symptoms beforehand.</p> <p>Steinborn’s health quickly took a turn for the worse and he was evacuated and put on an incubator.</p> <p>"I only remember I was brought here from the ship and had to wait in a special room, then nothing – cut off, complete black," he told<a rel="noopener" href="https://www.9news.com.au/national/coronavirus-wa-artania-cruise-ship-fremantle-hospital-grandfather-recovery-80th-birthday-surprise-covid-19/02fdec57-4ecb-4cec-8ec6-8a45642d12dc" target="_blank"><span> </span>9News</a>.</p> <p>"I don't know what happened to me."</p> <p>His wife was flown home to Germany as she was healthy, but Johann remained behind as he has spent the last three weeks in a coma.</p> <p>"Four weeks ago, I couldn't stand," he said.</p> <p>"After lying in a coma, (my) muscles had disappeared."</p> <p>After recovering from coronavirus, he is celebrating his 80th birthday and despite being away from his family, the nurses who are caring for him surprised him with photos from home and his favourite traditional treats.</p> <p>Steinborn said that there were no signs of sickness during his time on the Artania until it docked in Sydney, where it took on an extra 100 passengers.</p> <p>When the boat had reached Perth, the virus had rapidly spread, with almost 15 percent of Western Australia’s cases being linked to the cruise ship.</p> <p>Three people died from the virus on-board.</p> </div> </div> </div>

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Aussie woman recovering from US train accident diagnosed with COVID-19

<p>An Australian woman who lost her legs in an accident on the New York subway has revealed she has been diagnosed with COVID-19.</p> <p>Visaya Hoffie, 23, had to have both of her lower legs amputated after she fell onto subway tracks and was struck by two trains in January. The artist also suffered skull, neck and vertebrae fractures.</p> <p>Visaya shared her coronavirus diagnosis on Tuesday. “After over a month in complete isolation from friends and family with [COVID-19] they’re finally discharging me ... despite the fact I’m still testing positive,” she wrote on Instagram.</p> <p>It was six weeks into Visaya’s recovery from the accident at Manhattan’s Bellevue Hospital when the intense coronavirus outbreak in the city forced a decision to return to Brisbane, her family told <em><a href="https://www.abc.net.au/news/2020-05-12/visaya-hoffie-coronavirus-new-york-train-accident-victim/12222182">7.30</a></em>.</p> <p>“It was a very difficult decision to make to leave, because Visaya’s wounds were so compromised,” Visaya’s mother Pat said.</p> <p>The doctors declared Visaya fit to fly, but said her legs needed to be elevated throughout the trip.</p> <p>Pat sought a flat-bed seat in business or first class for the trip and asked for assistance from figures such as former prime minister Kevin Rudd, Australia’s Ambassador to the US Arthur Sinodinos, and Australia’s representative to the UN Mitch Fifield.</p> <p>Pat secured three tickets for her, Visaya and a nurse for the flight to Brisbane via Chicago and Doha, which cost $64,000.</p> <p>On arrival, Visaya was taken to Princess Alexandra Hospital where she tested positive for the virus. Her symptoms have remained mild, the program reported.</p> <p>Pat said she was impressed by her daughter’s ability to bounce back from the accidents.</p> <p>“She’s just so resilient, so funny, so open to taking on the next hurdle,” Pat told the program.</p> <p>“I’ve managed because she’s with me. She’s in the world. The rest is mere detail.”</p>

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How 5 short intentions can help people recovering from depression stay on track

<p>About <a href="https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/statistics-and-facts-about-mental-health/how-common-are-mental-health-problems/">one in six people in England</a> report experiencing anxiety or depression in any given week, and depression is a <a href="https://www.who.int/en/news-room/fact-sheets/detail/depression">major cause of disability worldwide</a>.</p> <p>Some people have experienced very adverse experiences over their lives, leading to low self-esteem and other vulnerabilities which can make people susceptible to depression. Difficult life circumstances, such as financial problems, loneliness, stresses at work, among family or in relationships, poor physical health and genetic vulnerabilities also contribute. Even long-term depression can be treated, but the lifetime risk that the depression returns has been reported as <a href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2169519/">about 50 per cent for those experiencing one episode</a> of major depression, with the likelihood increasing with further episodes.</p> <p>Greater numbers of people experiencing mental health problems, and greater awareness of effective treatments, has increased demand for services. In recent years this has led to investment through the <a href="https://www.england.nhs.uk/mental-health/adults/iapt/">Improving Access to Psychological Therapies</a> programme, but because of huge demand, <a href="https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-50658007">waiting times can still be a problem</a> and it’s important that we develop new ways of helping people manage and overcome their mental health problems – to prevent problems occurring in the first place, and to prevent them returning. A lot of this comes down to teaching people to help themselves more effectively.</p> <p>To some extent this is already happening, for example with increases in self-help support within mental health services, and the use of self-help websites, online support and apps. Working with NHS staff, we have developed the <a href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/29665889">Self-Management after Therapy intervention</a>, or SMArT, designed to help people to stay well after they have recovered from an episode of depression.</p> <p>Like other relapse-prevention approaches, it assumes that many people continue to remain vulnerable to depression. Recovery is seen as a process that continues after the end of therapy that has its ups and downs. This approach helps prevent someone from feeling they are back to square one if they have a setback, a frame of mind that can increase the likelihood of a return to more severe depression.</p> <p>The approach, first developed by psychologist <a href="https://as.nyu.edu/content/nyu-as/as/faculty/peter-m-gollwitzer.html">Peter Gollwitzer</a> in the 1990s, has been <a href="https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0065260106380021?via%3Dihub">found to support changes in behaviour</a>, such as quitting smoking or doing more physical activity, through what are called implementation intentions. It is designed to help people turn an intention to act into a habitual behaviour. We know how hard it can be to make good intentions a reality (such as practically every New Year’s resolution), and when someone’s mood and motivation are low it can be even harder. As one mental health service user said during our research: “I know what to do, but when I’m down I just don’t do it.”</p> <p>Implementation intentions work by linking a specific situation to a specific response. For example: “Every evening between 7pm and 9pm I will write down all the positive things that have happened that day,” or “Every Thursday evening I will go to the pub quiz with my friend Katy”. They often take the form of “if …, then …” statements, such as: “If I feel down, then I will talk to my partner about why this might be.”</p> <p>When the situation comes up, the learned response is brought to mind, and is therefore more likely to be acted out. Using our SMArT intervention, people are encouraged to identify up to five of these implementation intentions. It’s important that they are realistic and that they will have an impact on the person’s wellbeing. The best way of thinking about them is to consider five things you do on a regular basis that are important to you. Then, imagine how you would feel if you didn’t do them. That is what tends to happen in depression, or when a person is at risk of a relapse.</p> <p>The use of the SMArT intervention is supported in mental health services by <a href="https://www.healthcareers.nhs.uk/explore-roles/psychological-therapies/roles/psychological-wellbeing-practitioner">psychological wellbeing practitioners</a>, and patients are encouraged to share their intentions with friends or family who can support them.</p> <p>SMArT is just one of a number of ways of helping people who are prone to depression to stay well and we’re carrying out more research to see how effective it is. It provides a bridge between the end of therapy and life without therapy and helps people see the importance of setting plans and having routine in their lives. It also emphasises that recovery is a process that includes learning about oneself and self-management strategies. It is something for the long-term – not just for all-too-soon-abandoned New Year’s resolutions.<!-- Below is The Conversation's page counter tag. Please DO NOT REMOVE. --><img style="border: none !important; box-shadow: none !important; margin: 0 !important; max-height: 1px !important; max-width: 1px !important; min-height: 1px !important; min-width: 1px !important; opacity: 0 !important; outline: none !important; padding: 0 !important; text-shadow: none !important;" src="https://counter.theconversation.com/content/129046/count.gif?distributor=republish-lightbox-basic" alt="The Conversation" width="1" height="1" /><!-- End of code. If you don't see any code above, please get new code from the Advanced tab after you click the republish button. The page counter does not collect any personal data. 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How to recover deleted photos on your phone

<p><em><strong>Lisa Du is director of <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><a href="https://readytechgo.com.au/" target="_blank">ReadyTechGo</a></span>, a service that helps people gain the confidence and skills to embrace modern technology. </strong></em></p> <p>It can be easy to accidentally delete a photo from your iPhone as you swipe through your images.</p> <p>Deleting photos is one of the fastest ways to free up storage space, but people are sometimes too aggressive in pruning old photos. That can lead to mistakes and regret.</p> <p>If you've deleted a photo that you need to hold onto, you may be worried that it's gone forever.</p> <p>But don't despair.</p> <p>Depending on a number of factors, you can save deleted photos on your iPhone.</p> <p>Here are a few options for how you can do this.</p> <p><strong>How to save deleted photos on your iPhone</strong></p> <p>Apple is aware that we all accidentally delete photos sometimes, so there is a feature built into the iOS to help us out.</p> <p style="text-align: center;"><img width="500" height="413" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/40100/how-to-recover-deleted-photos-in-text-image_500x413.jpg" alt="How To Recover Deleted Photos In Text Image"/></p> <p>The Photos app has a Recently Deleted Photos album.</p> <p>This stores your deleted photos for 30 days, giving you time to restore them before they're gone for good.</p> <p>You need to be running iOS 8 or higher in order to use this feature. If you are, follow these steps to recover your deleted photos:</p> <p>1. Tap the Photos app to launch it.</p> <p>2. On the Albums screen, scroll down to the bottom. Tap Recently Deleted.</p> <p>3. This photo album contains all the photos you've deleted in the last 30 days. It shows each photo and lists the number of days that remain until it will be permanently deleted.</p> <p>4. Tap Select in the top right corner.</p> <p>5. Tap the photo or photos you want to save. A checkmark appears on each selected photo.</p> <p>6. Tap Recover in the bottom right corner. (Alternatively, if you want to delete the photo right away, rather than waiting 30 days, and free up storage space, tap Delete in the bottom left.).</p> <p>7. In the pop-up menu, tap Recover Photo.</p> <p>8. The photo is removed from Recently Deleted Photos and is added back to your Camera Roll and any other albums it was a part of before you deleted it.</p> <p>Have you ever lost an important image?</p>

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How to bounce back from a horror date

<p><em><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><a href="http://www.johnaiken.com.au/" target="_blank">John Aiken</a></span>, is an RSVP dating and relationship expert, as seen on Channel Nine’s series Married At First Sight. He is a best-selling author, regularly appears on radio and in magazines, runs a private practice in Sydney, and is a sought-after speaker.</strong></em></p> <p>We’ve all been there at some stage of our single lives. Having made the effort to put yourself out there to meet someone special, the date itself has been a complete disaster, and you’re left feeling embarrassed, rejected, disillusioned and heartbroken.</p> <p>It would be great if we could all avoid the pain of horror dating experiences. But alas, if you’re going to put yourself in the game, then at some stage you’re going to get hurt. That doesn’t mean you’re not going to end up with your ideal partner, it just means you may get some knockbacks along the way.</p> <p>So when everything goes wrong on a date – how do you turnaround a disaster? To keep you positive and upbeat about a dating setback, keep these five tips in mind.</p> <p><strong>1. Don’t take it personally</strong></p> <p>Dating is all about sifting through the bad to get to the good. It’s a process of elimination not rejection. So look at the big picture and remind yourself “it’s a marathon not a sprint”, and that you’re slowly learning what you want and don’t want in your ideal partner.</p> <p><strong>2. Get support from friends</strong></p> <p>Lean on your friends after a dating disaster and get their support and re-assurance. They’re objective and can help you pick yourself and stay positive after a setback. Don’t try and be the staunch hero – let them be there for you.</p> <p><strong>3. Learn from your mistakes</strong></p> <p>Take a moment to dissect the disaster and make sense of what happened – and learn from it. Think about why it didn’t’ work out, what could you do different next time, why were they wrong for me, and what you want different in your next dating partner?</p> <p><strong>4. Take the pressure off</strong></p> <p>Too many singles put immense pressure on themselves to make every date perfect – and to make each person “the one”. Instead of this mindset, look at dating as fun, a way to get to know what you like and don’t like in a partner, and let things evolve naturally.</p> <p><strong>5. Have a dating holiday</strong></p> <p>If you find that you’re getting cynical or bitter about dating after this recent disaster, then allow yourself a little break to re-gather yourself. You’re not giving up, but rather having a few weeks off dating to relax and focus on yourself. The jump back in refreshed!</p> <p><em>Written by John Aiken. First appeared on <a href="http://www.datehub.com.au/" target="_blank"><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Datehub</span></strong></a>. </em></p> <p> </p>

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8 steps to recover your losses after a disaster

<p>While it’s probably the last thing on your mind while you’re still in the wake of a natural disaster, ensuring your losses are recovered is of the upmost importance.</p> <p>When Mother Nature strikes it’s important to be on the front foot. Follow these simple steps to recovering your losses after a natural disaster and you can make the recovery process as seamless as possible, ensuring you will be back on your feet in no time.</p> <p><strong>1. Collect any evidence of your possessions</strong></p> <p>Even at the best of times the claims process can become quite a strenuous one, so if you have any pictures, videos or documents you can use to help prove ownership of your possessions, then it’s important to collect these as soon as possible.</p> <p><strong>2. Return to your property to survey the damage</strong></p> <p>If the disaster forced you out of your home it’s in your best interest to return as soon as the emergency services have declared it safe to do so. That being said, you should only ever enter the property if you’re certain you’re not at risk.</p> <p><strong>3. Contact your insurance company</strong></p> <p>It’s important to do this as soon as possible as well, as odds are you won’t be the only person trying to get in touch with your insurer. Your insurance company can provide valuable information regarding what your policy includes and excludes, as well as what you need to do to get the wheels rolling on the whole claims process.</p> <p><strong>4. Start cleaning up around your home</strong></p> <p>Now it’s time to start cleaning, but as you do so be sure to take pictures or videos of any damaged items or damage to the property. It’s a good idea to make an inventory of this as you do so and try to be specific as possible, noting brands, models and serial numbers.</p> <p><strong>5. Remove certain goods</strong></p> <p>Any items that have been damaged that pose a health risk (for instant water or mud-damaged goods) must be removed as soon as possible.</p> <p><strong>6. If necessary request emergency repairs</strong></p> <p>That being said, emergency repairs should only really be undertaken if there’s a risk to your own or neighbouring properties. It’s important to be aware of the fact that unauthorised repairs may significantly complicate the claims process.</p> <p><strong>7. Store items</strong></p> <p>If there are items that have been damaged or destroyed in the disaster, store them somewhere safe for the time being as they may assist with your claim.</p> <p><strong>8. If you can’t find your insurance papers</strong></p> <p>If you can’t find your insurance papers or they’ve been damaged in the disaster, don’t worry as your insurer will have their own electronic records on hand.</p> <p>Have you ever had to face a natural disaster? How did you find the claims process? Were you able to recover all your possessions?</p> <p>Share your story in the comments.</p> <p><strong>Related links:</strong></p> <p><span><em><strong><a href="/finance/insurance/2016/06/10-foods-to-help-you-get-to-sleep/">10 foods to help you get to sleep</a></strong></em></span></p> <p><a href="/finance/insurance/2016/06/driving-in-australia-as-a-senior/"></a></p> <p><a href="http://www.oversixty.co.nz/finance/insurance/2016/03/common-insurance-traps-to-avoid/"><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em>8 common insurance traps to avoid</em></span></strong></a></p> <p><a href="/finance/insurance/2016/06/driving-in-australia-as-a-senior/"></a></p> <p><a href="http://www.oversixty.co.nz/finance/insurance/2016/03/how-to-avoid-hidden-costs-at-the-hospital/"><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em><strong>How to avoid hidden costs at the hospital</strong></em></span></a></p>

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13 steps to recover from betrayal

<p><strong><em>Dr Carmen Harra is a best-selling author, clinical psychologist, and relationship expert.</em></strong></p> <p>Khalil Gibran said, “Doubt is a pain too lonely to know that faith is his twin brother.” Reminiscent of his words is the truth that we can sway between unshakable faith and extreme doubt in mere seconds. Under certain circumstances we can’t even tell doubt and faith apart, or we may feel consumed by both at the same time.</p> <p>Betrayal is one of these circumstances. We suffer quietly through disloyalty from a partner, friend, or family member, but this embeds harmful emotions deeply into our being. Our trust in others erodes if we don’t process the reality of betrayal and work through its painful impressions. And who hasn’t been betrayed? After one partner is unfaithful, we just can’t imagine our next love interest remaining loyal. If our best friend deceives us, we begin to think all friends are capable of this sinister act. In this way, we set ourselves up for a vicious cycle and program our minds to believe that betrayal is something we’ll just have to learn to live with. But infidelity of any kind can bring about wisdom and invaluable lessons to be learned. And we can take action to cleanse our spirit of the grim past and, in a sense, betray our own betrayal.</p> <p>Betrayal leaves us at a fork in the road. We can choose to act in ways that either favour or impede personal growth: we can become stuck in a bad moment forever or we can put it behind us for good. We decide our path. Act on my 13 steps to recover faith after betrayal:</p> <p><strong>1. Erase the imprints of betrayal.</strong> The wounds of betrayal can be so submerged in our subconscious mind that they might be difficult to extract. Meditation can help to reach the root of former deception and jumpstart the healing process. I recommend quietly meditating for a few minutes each day, digging into the contents of your brain and wiping out old memories or thought patterns that keep you stagnant.</p> <p><strong>2. Forgive.</strong> Forgiving does not mean accepting the wrong behaviour of others; it means detaching from the pain, frustration, and bitterness buried within. Forgiveness breaks us free like a ship dislodging from a dock; life is our open sea when we pardon the past. But as long as we harbor hatred or anger against others, personal progress is stifled. Strive to forgive one person a day.</p> <p><strong>3. Throw betrayal away.</strong> I mean, literally throw it away! Try this exercise: write down on a piece of paper your worst case of betrayal. Capture the emotions, describe the terrible moment, and highlight the magnitude of the event. Get it out of your system, no matter how long ago it occurred. Then, fold this paper and get rid of it in a dramatic way. You can toss it in a dumpster, throw it into the ocean, even flush it down the toilet. I’m not encouraging you to litter the streets with letters of betrayal (or clog your bathroom), but I do want you to eliminate any traumatic traces by disposing of an object that holds your darkest emotions.</p> <p><strong>4. Start faith slow.</strong> Your faith wasn’t damaged in one day, so it can’t be rebuilt in such a short time. Like a puzzle, you have to start piecing your faith back slowly. At first, you might find it hard to trust anyone, but slowly and surely you’ll redevelop a sense of confidence in the good will of others. All you have to do is be willing to rediscover faith.</p> <p><strong>5. Find others who have faith.</strong> You’re not the only one who’s been betrayed, and you’re certainly not the only one who wants to regain faith in others. There are many wonderful, honest people who want to earn your trust. Surround yourself with a positive group of people on the same faithful path as you.</p> <p><strong>6. Regain faith in yourself.</strong> The first person you have to trust is yourself. Develop a deep, unbreakable bond with your outstanding abilities and your own self-vows. Make a new promise to yourself each month. Keep that promise and take small, daily steps until it becomes habit. Because if you can’t trust yourself, who can you trust?</p> <p><strong>7. Detach from people you don’t trust.</strong> There’s no reason to put up with people who act in bad faith. If you feel someone is not trustworthy, you don’t need them in your life. Be selective about the people you bring in for your own well-being. Choosing to cling to people who don’t inspire faith will only lead you to distrust everyone as a whole. Walk away from those you know are not right for you.</p> <p><strong>8. Don’t betray.</strong> Remember the phrase, do unto others as you would have them do unto you? Never forget it! Whether you’ve been betrayed or not, don’t resort to betraying another. If you’re unhappy in your relationship, simply move on. But do not knowingly deceive or mislead to satisfy your ego. Revenge only perpetuates bad karma and traps you in a cycle of recurring action.</p> <p><strong>9. Envision a future free of betrayal.</strong> It’s okay to daydream. Being able to visualize an ideal future despite current drawbacks is one of the most beautiful elements of life. Imagine each day that no one will ever hurt you again. The images you create in your mind become projections of reality in the future, so be careful of the thoughts you send out into the universe. What you fear most, you most attract, and if you quiet your fears, you can control what you draw in. Instead, the peaceful, harmonious thoughts you choose to portray in your mind will manifest into your reality.</p> <p><strong>10. Control your emotions.</strong> Your emotions can be your best friend or your worst enemy. Emotions are the essence of our existence, but when they’re taken to the extreme, they can downright block our lives. We can easily become stuck in our feelings, mentally and even physically. When we’re depressed, we have trouble going about our daily routines or we overeat to try and steady our feelings. In order to heal from betrayal and keep it from reoccurring in the future, you have to keep your emotions in check. If you obsess over something that happened in the past, you become stuck in that moment in time. But if you can think logically and understand the need to move forward, you can indeed master your emotions.</p> <p><strong>11. Take a leap of faith.</strong> Make a decision based on pure faith. Don’t over-analyze or think too much. Follow the voice of your intuition; this can be leaving a job you feel isn’t right for you, moving to a new home if your gut keeps telling you to relocate, or even separating from your partner if you just know the relationship is wrong. You will see that acting on faith rather than fear fosters better decisions.</p> <p><strong>12. Trust two people unconditionally.</strong> While you should always be rational in your level of trust towards others, pick two people to trust without limits. They can be family members, your spouse, friends — any two people you know would never harm you in any way. Putting your hopes in your loved ones teaches you that yes, there still exist goodhearted folks you can confide in.</p> <p><strong>13. Reaffirm your faith each day.</strong> Every morning when you wake up, speak an affirmation to yourself in a loud voice. Affirm your strong faith in others, in yourself, and in your future. Waking up with a faithful phrase each day will wipe away lingering doubts in your mind.</p> <p>A painstaking experience, betrayal is felt by all in time. But whether we remain trapped in the emotions of betrayal or we break through its barriers becomes our choice. Implement my 13 actions above to wipe away the negative effects of a former infidelity and restore your faith in both others and yourself.</p> <p><em>To find more information about Dr Carmen Harra, visit her <a href="http://www.carmenharra.com/" target="_blank"><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;">website here.</span></strong></a></em></p> <p><strong>Related links:</strong></p> <p><a href="/lifestyle/relationships/2016/05/common-reasons-why-people-stay-in-a-bad-marriage/"><strong><em><span>Common reasons why people stay in a bad marriage</span></em></strong></a></p> <p><a href="/lifestyle/relationships/2016/05/gary-chapmans-five-love-languages/"><strong><em><span style="text-decoration: underline;">5 ways giving love is the key to relationship success</span></em></strong></a></p> <p> </p> <p><a href="http://www.oversixty.co.nz/lifestyle/relationships/2016/04/6-reasons-to-give-someone-a-second-chance/"><em><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;">6 reasons to give someone a second chance</span></strong></em></a></p> <p> </p>

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World’s oldest message in a bottle recovered

<p>108 years after it was first released, the world’s oldest message in a bottle has been recovered. But rather than an SOS from some unlucky sailor, this message in a bottle was actually part of a science experiment that helped us understand ocean currents.</p> <p>The bottle was discovered by retired post office worker Marianne Winkley, on the shores of Amrum, which is a relatively small island in the German North Sea.</p> <p><img width="497" height="280" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/18509/message-in-a-bottle_497x280.jpg" alt="Message In A Bottle" style="display: block; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"/></p> <p>The bottle was originally released as part of an experiment from the British marine biologist George Parker Bidder III, who at the turn of the 20th century set over 1,000 bottles loose off the eastern shores of England to see where they would travel.</p> <p>The message inside contained clear instructions to return the included postcard, along with a description of where they found it, to the Marine Biological Association.</p> <p>Guinness World Records confirmed that this bottle was from the original experiment, after spending 108 years at sea.</p> <p>Communications Officer at Marine Biological Association, Guy Baker said, “Bidder released a total of 1020 bottles between 1904 and 1906 and he reported that his bottles were trawled up by the fishermen at the rate of 55% per annum. Some bottles were never returned, assumed to be lost in the open ocean forever. The bottle discovered in Germany was from a set of trails released on the November 30th 1906.”</p> <p><strong>Related links:</strong></p> <p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><em><a href="/lifestyle/family-pets/2016/02/vintage-photos-capture-pure-innocence-of-children/">Vintage photos capture the pure innocence of children</a></em></strong></span></p> <p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><em><a href="/lifestyle/family-pets/2016/02/how-to-bring-up-a-happy-child/">22 tips for bringing up a happy child</a></em></strong></span></p> <p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><em><a href="/lifestyle/family-pets/2016/02/heartwarming-photos-that-prove-every-child-needs-a-pet/">15 heartwarming photos that prove every child needs a pet</a></em></strong></span></p>

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Baby orangutan recovering after kidnapped

<p>In this video you can clearly see an adorable baby orangutan. What you don’t know is how deeply traumatised she is, after being kidnapped and used in inappropriate and illegal ways. Joss has since been rescued from a home in West Borneo, where she was reportedly treated like a ragdoll, dragged, carried and squeezed without being respected or treated like a living, breathing animal.</p> <p>Despite the fact that the video graphically portrays how deeply damaged Joss is (as she is unable to sit still and constantly injuring herself) you’ll be glad to hear that there’s a dedicated team of professionals working towards her full recovery.</p> <p><strong>Related links:</strong></p> <div> <div class="advert"> <div id="adspot-300x250-pos3" class="ad"> <div id="google_ads_iframe_/6411/oversixty/news_2__container__"><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><em><a href="/lifestyle/family-pets/2014/11/gifts-under-10-dollars/"></a></em></strong></span></span> <p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><em><a href="http://www.oversixty.co.nz/news/news/2016/01/find-cat-hiding-in-this-kitchen/">Can you find the cat hiding in this kitchen?</a></em></strong></span></p> <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><em><a href="/lifestyle/family-pets/2014/11/gifts-under-10-dollars/"></a></em></strong></span> <p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><em><a href="http://www.oversixty.co.nz/news/news/2016/01/man-leaves-wife-at-service-station/">Man accidentally leaves wife at service station, drives 100km before realising</a></em></strong></span></p> <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><em><a href="/lifestyle/family-pets/2014/11/gifts-under-10-dollars/"></a></em></strong></span> <p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><em><a href="http://www.oversixty.co.nz/news/news/2016/01/25-worst-online-passwords-used-in-2015/">25 worst online passwords used in 2015</a></em></strong></span></p> <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><em><a href="/lifestyle/family-pets/2014/11/gifts-under-10-dollars/"><br /></a></em></strong></span></div> </div> </div> </div>

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Aussie geologists win a race against time to recover rare 4-billion-year-old meteorite

<p>Aussie geologists have found a meteorite estimated to be 4.5 billion years old.</p> <p>The team, from Perth’s Curtin University, found the 1.7 kilogram space rock in a remote part of Lake Eyre in South Australia, hours before heavy rains would have washed it away.</p> <p>The meteorite was spotted falling to Earth in late November and geologists have been trying to find it ever sense, at times feeling like looking for a needle in a haystack.</p> <p>The team eventually tracked the meteorite down where the team’s leader, geologist Phil Bland frantically dug it out by hand as a storm approached the site. </p> <p>“It was an amazing effort,” Professor Bland said in a press release from the university. “We got there by the skin of our teeth. This recovery will be the first of many and every one of those meteorites will give us a unique window into the formation of the solar system.”</p> <p><strong>Related links:</strong></p> <p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em><a href="/news/news/2016/01/clever-dog-performs-a-handstand/"><strong>Watch gorgeous toy poodle perform a perfect handstand</strong></a></em></span></p> <p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em><a href="/news/news/2016/01/alarm-clock-rug/"><strong>You won’t believe this new rug that’s an alarm clock</strong></a></em></span></p> <p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em><a href="/news/news/2016/01/make-your-smartphone-battery-last-longer/"><strong>How to make your smartphone battery last longer</strong></a></em></span></p>

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