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"Too busy marching": Debate rages over fiery Anzac Day post

<p>A man has shared a controversial claim on Twitter about Australia’s relationship to Anzac Day, sparking a fiery debate.</p> <p>Australians and New Zealanders gathered to commemorate the 108th anniversary of the landing of Anzac troops at Gallipoli in World War I on April 25th. Services were held all over both countries to mark the day of remembrance.</p> <p>On May 34th, Brad Turner, who says he is a former Navy submariner and AFP officer, took to Twitter to argue that the values of the annual celebration were “no longer reflected” by Australia.</p> <p>He notably called out Australia’s confrontation with China on behalf of the US.</p> <blockquote class="twitter-tweet"> <p dir="ltr" lang="en">Australia is a society that dutifully gets up early every April 25 to gather, Mach & remember our Dead. Speeches are made, politicians speak of sacrifice & honour whilst possessing or embodying neither. That same society that holds paramount ideals of egalitarianism, mateship &… <a href="https://t.co/sbHHbRiYAF">pic.twitter.com/sbHHbRiYAF</a></p> <p>— Brad Turner (@tur14865416) <a href="https://twitter.com/tur14865416/status/1650394428841037826?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">April 24, 2023</a></p></blockquote> <p>“Australia is a society that dutifully gets up early every April 25 to gather, march and remember our dead,” he wrote in the post, which has been viewed more than 20,000 times.</p> <p>“Speeches are made, politicians speak of sacrifice and honour whilst possessing or embodying neither. That same society that holds paramount ideals of egalitarianism, mateship and sacrifice is forgotten on the other 364 days of the year.</p> <p>“On those days Australia marches right past veteran suicides, war crimes, illegal wars and widespread inequality and corruption. Is it really a day of remembrance? Or is it theatrics so society can pretend they care about victims of war or our conduct as a country with an aim to feel better about apathy and inaction as a nation towards these things.</p> <p>“We don’t notice any of these things because we are too busy marching. But this time it’s headlong into another pointless American war with China. The things we celebrate about our nation on Anzac Day are sadly no longer reflected in Australia’s actions. They have not been in some time.”</p> <p>Several people online took the same stance as Mr Turner.</p> <p>“I don’t like Anzac Day. It overlooks our follies in joining Britain and US wars. WWII was noble. The rest were con jobs to enrich the industrialists. Our people have all these solemn events only to assuage their ‘je ne c’est quoi’ because they don’t feel any guilt but should,” one wrote.</p> <p>“Our politicians spend more on memorial monuments and museums that they can put their name on a plaque on the wall than they do for the actual veterans who are suffering from PTSD or other ‘souvenirs’ they have brought back from their tours,” another said.</p> <p>“Flag waving patriotism has taken over Anzac Day. We are one step away from parades of military hardware while the populace salute. What should be a reflection on the horrors of war has become it‘s celebration. John Howard did this,” a third added.</p> <p>“Listening to the Labor government yesterday follow in the footsteps of the Coalition, justifying spending billions antagonising China at America’s request is not the ‘lest we forget’ I think about,” a fourth wrote.</p> <p>Others fired back and said Anzac Day was still important.</p> <p>“Mate … it’s about remembering the sacrifice and loss of our mates … lest we forget,” one wrote, adding, “I don’t worry about [politicians] anymore grandstanding on the day. It’s our day not theirs to remember our mates.”</p> <p>Another wrote, “It is tradition. It separates the fluff of ordinary living to reflect on sacrifice not only of the dead, of lives unlived, of the unfathomable grief but also of the living dealing with the trauma and moral injury of tooth and claw war. It is not a celebration which distracts.”</p> <p>“I understand this perspective, but at the same time I ask myself — is there any harm in this form national reflection? I agree there have been some military follies following the absolute necessity of WWII, but would add that there is no guarantee that the next engagement is such,” a third wrote.</p> <p><em>Image credit: Shutterstock</em></p>

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Debate rages over "most reclined seat in the history of aviation"

<p dir="ltr">Frustrated travellers have called out a passenger for reclining his seat all the way on a short flight.</p> <p dir="ltr">The Pointer Brothers shared a video to TikTok saying it’s the “easiest red card of all time” when someone reclines their seat when there’s not enough room to begin with.</p> <p dir="ltr">“5 hour flight home…is this the most reclined seat in the history of aviation,” their caption read.</p> <p dir="ltr">The video shows one of the brothers annoyed at being squished in his seat because of the person in front of him being reclined.</p> <p dir="ltr">At one point he moves really close to the passenger's head to show his frustration.</p> <div><iframe title="tiktok embed" src="https://cdn.embedly.com/widgets/media.html?src=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.tiktok.com%2Fembed%2Fv2%2F7156382025732132142&amp;display_name=tiktok&amp;url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.tiktok.com%2F%40thepointerbrothers_%2Fvideo%2F7156382025732132142%3Fis_copy_url%3D1%26is_from_webapp%3Dv1%26lang%3Den&amp;image=https%3A%2F%2Fp16-sign.tiktokcdn-us.com%2Fobj%2Ftos-useast5-p-0068-tx%2F0f73e1499904406bb843f4d28028f3d4_1666225042%3Fx-expires%3D1667966400%26x-signature%3DK1evkklXcSTqSnlVDK5VeUqWwl4%253D&amp;key=59e3ae3acaa649a5a98672932445e203&amp;type=text%2Fhtml&amp;schema=tiktok" width="340" height="700" frameborder="0" scrolling="no" allowfullscreen="allowfullscreen"></iframe></div> <p> </p> <p dir="ltr">Viewers said the brothers have a point in calling the issue out as planes are already cramped enough.</p> <p dir="ltr">“Those seats should just not recline, it’s cramped enough and I already don’t have leg room,” someone wrote.</p> <p dir="ltr">“That's when passive-aggressive tray adjustments commence,” another commented.</p> <p dir="ltr">“I’m 6’3” and I have never reclined my seat. I can’t bring myself to push into others' space, the dang planes are small the way it is,” someone else pointed out.</p> <p dir="ltr">Others however said the brothers were in the wrong and everyone is entitled to recline their seat.</p> <p dir="ltr">“So many people in this comments section don't understand how legroom works... reclining your seat doesn't keep your knees from being smashed,” someone said.</p> <p dir="ltr">“Wah people are using the seats for what they're for. Want more room, get first class,” another wrote.</p> <p dir="ltr"><em>Images: TikTok</em></p>

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Should you HAVE to pay for your daughter’s wedding? The debate rages on

<p dir="ltr">A retired mother has been left confused on whether or not she should help pay for her daughter’s wedding. </p> <p dir="ltr">She took to <a href="https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4559614-to-not-pay-for-my-daughters-wedding?page=1" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Mumsnet</a> to explain that her daughter, who is in her 30s is planning her wedding to her boyfriend of 10 years. </p> <p dir="ltr">The mother explained that she and her husband have retired and don't have a stream of income to help as much as they possibly would have loved. </p> <p dir="ltr">“My husband and I are both retired so no more money is coming in. We do still go on holidays, but don't have anything like as much money as we used to have,” she wrote.</p> <p dir="ltr">“We happily paid for private education and private healthcare and plenty more for all our children and were happy to do so but am I being unreasonable to think that by now we've done our bit and our daughter should pay for her own wedding?”</p> <p dir="ltr">Several people responded to the woman’s thread saying she wasn’t being unreasonable to not pay for her daughter’s wedding. </p> <p dir="ltr">“No you’re not being unreasonable at all. I got married a few years ago and wouldn’t ever have expected my family to put money towards it, I chose to get married so I should pay. Don’t see how she can view it any differently,” one woman wrote. </p> <p dir="ltr">“My dad did pay for my dress as a token but I would never have expected it and we made sure we saved and budgeted appropriately.” </p> <p dir="ltr">“I got married at 28, wouldn’t have dreamed of asking for a penny, let alone expecting it!” another commented. </p> <p dir="ltr">“I don't plan on paying for weddings, I think it feels quite old-fashioned to do that. I would offer to give a donation, but the couple choose how big/small they want their celebration to be, so they should pay for that themselves,” someone else wrote. </p> <p dir="ltr">“Have you been parents of the bride or groom before? If yes, did you contribute to that? If not then now is the precedence to set. Instead of paying for the wedding can you offer a contribution or pay for one,” one explained. </p> <p dir="ltr">“Of course they should pay for their own wedding! Is your daughter expecting you to pay? If so, she's being utterly unreasonable,” someone else wrote. </p> <p dir="ltr"><em>Image: Shutterstock</em></p>

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“Get your facts straight!”: Homeowner rages at "dobber" neighbour who called police

<p>A landlord has made a furious sign in response to an anonymous complaint from a neighbour about the landlord leasing her holiday home in the Central Coast to an essential worker.</p> <p>Tanya Watson, landlord, rented her Woy Woy granny flat to holiday makers since March 2018 but decided to reserve it for essential stays only during the coronavirus pandemic.</p> <p>“I had very strict criteria about who I would accept,” Ms Watson told<span> </span><em><a rel="noopener noreferrer" href="https://au.news.yahoo.com/coronavirus-home-owner-furious-at-police-call-about-her-granny-flat-072726296.html?guccounter=1" target="_blank">Yahoo News Australia</a></em>.</p> <p>“Essential workers, essential family trips... they had to have a really good reason for coming and be able to provide me with ID and proof of that reason”.</p> <p>Watson decided to rent the flat out to an essential worker who was relocating to the Central Coast for three months, but the decision was only made after Watson checked the details with her future tenant’s employer.</p> <p>The granny flat was rented on a three-month lease, but on Good Friday, police knocked on the door just two days after the new tenant moved in.</p> <p>“They had received an anonymous complaint that I was operating as holiday accommodation during the COVID-19 lockdown on holiday properties,” Ms Watson said.</p> <p>Her new tenant was left shaken and Watson herself was “embarrassed”.</p> <p>“She was shocked, a young girl on her own who has moved from interstate, I had to make sure she was ok,” Ms Watson explained.</p> <p>To make sure no further accusations were made, Watson posted a sign on the front of her property which will remain there for as long as she needs it.</p> <p><img style="width: 500px; height: 281.25px;" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/7835613/sign.jpg" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/6b85663d3fc845d7846d8cddb3cac10b" /></p> <p>“For your information - Get your facts straight first,” the sign says.</p> <p>“Thanks to the dobber of our rental property. Yes - you are nosey. Yes - you reported us to the police with false facts. Yes - the police verified that I am a responsible owner who has a tenant in my granny flat on a lease.</p> <p>“Mind your own business and stop wasting police time.</p> <p>“This is a rental, not holiday accommodation, so keep walking,” the sign reads.</p> <p><em>Photo credits: <a rel="noopener noreferrer" href="https://au.news.yahoo.com/coronavirus-home-owner-furious-at-police-call-about-her-granny-flat-072726296.html?guccounter=1" target="_blank">Yahoo News Australia</a></em></p>

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Anger management: Why we feel rage and how to control it

<p>You’re at the park with the kids. Everyone’s having fun, and then a strange dog appears. There’s no owner around. It’s eyeballing the kids. Immediately your <a href="http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/26062169">threat system</a> becomes activated.</p> <p>You stand alert, fully focused on the dog; heart racing, fists clenched. The dog bolts in, baring its teeth, and you pounce. You’re in survival mode, full of rage and violence. You yell fiercely, and you kick and hit, or grab the dog by the scruff of the neck, not caring if you snap its jaw.</p> <p>The dog yelps its surrender and flees, while you stand guard in front of your children.</p> <p><a href="http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/bjc.12043/pdf">This type</a> of anger and aggression is the “fight” side of the “fight or flight response”. This <a href="http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/8318932">physiological response</a>, according to <a href="http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0896627312001298">evolutionary psychology</a>, prepares our bodies to fight off a threat or to flee.</p> <p>It’s such an important part of human survival, and yet it can come at a cost for modern humans. Anger, and aggression in particular, can have serious consequences when it manifests in violence <a href="http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/18855319">on the streets</a>, in <a href="http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/7806730">the home</a> and elsewhere in the community.</p> <p><strong>We all get angry</strong></p> <p>Anger is one of the seven universal emotions that are common across gender, ages and cultures, according to leading emotion researcher <a href="http://emr.sagepub.com/content/3/4/364.short?rss=1&amp;ssource=mfc">Paul Ekman</a>. Anger, he says, can be the result of something interfering with us achieving a goal we care about, or when we experience or perceive something threatening to us, either physically or psychologically.</p> <p>Anger is quick (think of the term “short-tempered”), it focuses all of our attention on the threat, and it manifests in our bodies, usually starting in the pit of our stomach, rising up to our face and causing us to grimace and clench our fists. When anger builds, it’s expressed physically with a yell, punch or kick.</p> <p>In the short term, anger <a href="https://www.newharbinger.com/compassionate-mind-guide-managing-your-anger">can be</a> powerful and rewarding; the person who is angry typically gets what they want.</p> <p>But do you like being in the company of an angry person? Most people say no, and that is one of the chief consequences of anger: it is often damaging to relationships and isolating for the angry person.</p> <p>So anger itself is not the problem, it’s how we manage it and express it.</p> <p><strong>Anger disorder</strong></p> <p>There is no clear diagnosis of an anger disorder, but the <a href="http://dsm.psychiatryonline.org/doi/book/10.1176/appi.books.9780890425596">psychiatric diagnostic manual</a> does include “intermittent explosive disorder”, which is characterised by recurrent behavioural outbursts representing a failure to control aggressive impulses. This <a href="http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/16754840">affects</a> 7.3% of the population at some point in their life and 3.9% in the past 12 months.</p> <p>Anger, however, is a <a href="http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1093/clipsy.10.1.70/epdf">common clinical presentation</a> that features across an array of different mental health problems, such as depression, anxiety, post-traumatic stress disorder, substance use disorders and many more.</p> <p>If you begin to notice that you are on edge quite a lot, do things that you later regret, are quick to react instead of respond, and that you have people in your life who have told you that you tend to get angry, it might be helpful to do something about it.</p> <p>You can begin by speaking to your general practitioner and, if needed, ask for a referral to see a psychologist. Or you can go straight to a psychologist if you’re happy to forgo the Medicare rebate.</p> <p><strong>Anger management</strong></p> <p>In therapy for anger, clients are asked:</p> <blockquote> <p>What would be your greatest fear in giving up or significantly reducing your anger?</p> </blockquote> <p>Many respond with a fear of being hurt, fear of not being able to stand up for oneself, or fear of unjust or unfair things happening. These are all reasonable responses.</p> <p>But anger is not aggressiveness. Anger may lead to aggressiveness, but when we feel angry, we can try to relate to it in a way that invokes feelings of wisdom, strength, courage and assertiveness.</p> <p>Group and individual anger-management programs, run by psychologists, have <a href="http://psycnet.apa.org/psycinfo/1976-28412-001">good success rates</a>. A <a href="http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1093/clipsy.10.1.70/epdf">meta-analysis</a> examining anger-management programs across 92 studies found that cognitive-behaviour therapy (CBT) strategies helped to significantly reduce anger and aggressiveness, and also to increase positive behaviours.</p> <p>Some clinicians are also using a newer technique called <a href="http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/bjc.12043/pdf">compassion-focused therapy</a> (CFT).</p> <p>CFT differs to past therapies, as it focuses on understanding how our brains are “tricky things” that can get us caught up in all sorts of difficult patterns and loops. So, from a CFT perspective, we need to first understand the brain and how it functions so we can better help ourselves when anger shows.</p> <p>Anger expert <a href="http://www.compassionatemind.co.uk/resources/video15.htm">Russell Kolts</a> has developed a new CFT-based anger-management program called <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QG4Z185MBJE">True Strength</a>, which he is evaluating with prisoners. The aim is to start directing compassion toward ourselves to help us self-soothe, feel more comfortable and work with the distress and negative feelings that fuel our anger.</p> <p><strong>Tips to manage your anger</strong></p> <p><a href="http://www.psychology.org.au/publications/tip_sheets/anger/">The Australian Psychological Society</a> has some tips to help manage anger for when it shows in everyday life:</p> <ul> <li><strong>Identify the triggers for your anger</strong>, such as environments and people.</li> <li><strong>Notice the bodily warning signs of anger</strong>: tightness in shoulders, increased heart rate, hot face.</li> <li><strong>Draw on a strategy that works for you</strong>. This could include slowing down your breathing, imagery, evaluating your thoughts, taking time out and changing your environment, or using relaxation skills.</li> <li><strong>Rehearse your anger strategies</strong>. Imagine being in a situation that makes you angry and draw upon one of your skills.</li> </ul> <p>Remember, anger in itself is not the problem. The problem lies in how we manage and express it. The Dalai Lama may have said it best: “The true hero is one who conquers his own anger.”<!-- Below is The Conversation's page counter tag. Please DO NOT REMOVE. --><img style="border: none !important; box-shadow: none !important; margin: 0 !important; max-height: 1px !important; max-width: 1px !important; min-height: 1px !important; min-width: 1px !important; opacity: 0 !important; outline: none !important; padding: 0 !important; text-shadow: none !important;" src="https://counter.theconversation.com/content/50209/count.gif?distributor=republish-lightbox-basic" alt="The Conversation" width="1" height="1" /><!-- End of code. If you don't see any code above, please get new code from the Advanced tab after you click the republish button. The page counter does not collect any personal data. 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Air rage: Bad behavior at 30,000 feet

<p>People do disgusting and disruptive things on airplanes. They show little regard or patience for fellow passengers and their needs. Inconsiderate behavior on the part of passengers can make air travel an unpleasant hassle for everyone. The 2014 annual <a href="http://viewfinder.expedia.com/news/expedia-airplane-etiquette-study-2014">Expedia Airplane Etiquette Study</a> ranked the top on-board etiquette violators as reported by passengers:</p> <ol> <li>Rear Seat Kicker: cited by 67 per cent of study respondents</li> <li>Inattentive Parents: 64 per cent</li> <li>The Aromatic Passenger: 56 per cent</li> <li>The Audio Insensitive (talking or music): 51 per cent</li> <li>The Boozer: 50 per cent</li> <li>Chatty Cathy: 43 per cent</li> </ol> <p>The IATA received more than 8,000 complaints of <a href="http://www.iata.org/pressroom/facts_figures/Documents/Advocacy-presentation-gmd-2014.pdf">unruly passengers</a> in 2013. Is it any wonder <a href="http://dx.doi.org/10.1002/jtr.327">air rage</a> is on the upswing?</p> <p>Consider that up to 16 million Americans may have <a href="http://www.nimh.nih.gov/news/science-news/2006/intermittent-explosive-disorder-affects-up-to-16-million-americans.shtml">Intermittent Explosive Disorder</a>, which causes them lash out inappropriately at people and things – and that’s when they’re nowhere near an airport. The Federal Aviation Administration defines air rage as a passenger’s explosive and unpredictable behavior occasioned by congested travel, unexpected delays, or negative interactions with other passengers and flight personnel. From this point of view, the list of etiquette violators doesn’t really fall within the air rage definition. But from a psychological point of view, the story is different.</p> <p><strong>Mental air rage, silent epidemic</strong></p> <p>What safety and health officials call “explosive air rage” spills out into the public sphere for everyone to witness; these are the verbal attacks on passengers and personnel by someone yelling profanities, threats, complaints, and insults. “<a href="http://www.ashgate.com/isbn/9780754643715">Mental air rage</a>,” on the other hand, is emotional and private. Most people try to suppress mental air rage and prevent it from showing publicly for various reasons including fear, embarrassment, rational self control or compassion. It’s psychologically very real even though it’s far less visible than its explosive counterpart.</p> <p>Mental air rage is just one aspect of the stressed out feelings that go along with the uncertainties and negative emotions of travel and transportation. This charged negative emotional background exists below the surface of consciousness and can lead to a simmering feeling of resentment throughout the travel experience.</p> <p>So it’s not just “that guy” who could blow up at an airline employee when his plane is delayed yet again. Any traveler faces a real risk that at an unpredictable moment the silent air rage simmering below the surface may spring out suddenly as full-blown explosive air rage.</p> <p><strong>Changes for the worse in passenger environment</strong></p> <p>Airlines contribute to harsh and unfriendly traveling conditions when their economic policies create an artificial climate of scarcity, competition and enmity among passengers.</p> <p>The <a href="https://www.yahoo.com/travel/air-rage-isn-t-our-c1409837051635.html">list</a> of contributors to the deteriorating environment for airline passengers is a familiar one. Airlines have reduced legroom and seat width. Checked bag fees encourage passengers to bring more and more on board, leading to battles over limited storage space. The elimination of in-flight meals causes passengers to bring their own odorous food. Policies on personal electronic devices are unclear and inconsistently enforced. Bottomline, the cabins are overloaded.</p> <p>All of these factors increase the mental load on travelers. From there it’s a small step for inconsiderate actions to trigger negative and anti-social behaviors in waiting rooms, airplanes and lavatories. For instance, entering a lavatory on board an airplane and finding it in a disgusting used condition creates an emotional and psychological shock. We are not only repelled and annoyed, but we also feel aggressed against. This stressful situation can ratchet up the mental air rage.</p> <p><strong>How to peacefully prevent air rage</strong></p> <p>To reduce the unpleasantness of travel and the likelihood of air rage, passengers can bring things along to take care of their own comfort – reading materials, climate appropriate clothing, snacks, games and so on. Chatty passengers can form a mini-support group with one or more fellow travelers, sharing and consulting with each other on whatever travel problems are encountered. This tactic can help defuse stressful situations that could otherwise escalate. Even just having alternate scenarios worked out in case you don’t arrive when expected can minimize mental air rage.</p> <p>My <a href="http://www.aijcrnet.com/journals/Vol_4_No_10_October_2014/4.pdf">research</a> suggests some ways airlines can help prevent these incidents as well, via more enlightened crowd management techniques:</p> <ul> <li> <p>When people are waiting, they should be provided with a continuous stream of updated information every five minutes via a variety of formats and media: electric board, signs, announcements, and face-to-face interactions.</p> </li> <li> <p>Elevate the importance of the traveler’s comfort whenever implementing changes. Apologize if decent seating is unavailable. Make up for it by giving something else in return so the traveler doesn’t feel cheated or neglected.</p> </li> <li> <p>Manage lines with more compassion. People shouldn’t stand in line when they can sit and wait. People shouldn’t have to compete physically with each other for an airplane seat</p> </li> <li> <p>Follow compassionate principles to create a social group out of the anonymous people in the waiting room or on the airplane. Encourage discussion among the waiting people. Form a support group out of them so they can assist each other and give each other help, ideas, and support.</p> </li> </ul> <p>Airlines should train employees in techniques that can prevent air rage incidents in the first place as well as how safely to de-escalate episodes once they’ve begun. After all, air rage isn’t just another unpleasant aspect of traveling – it can put everyone onboard at risk.<!-- Below is The Conversation's page counter tag. 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Republished with permission of </em><a rel="noopener" href="https://theconversation.com/air-rage-bad-behavior-at-30-000-feet-35240" target="_blank"><em>The Conversation</em></a><em>. </em></p>

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Roger Federer's shock admission: “I was an angry person"

<p>Roger Federer has dominated the tennis world since 2003, but he recently reflected on his bad behaviour in an interview with <a rel="noopener" href="https://www.tennisworldusa.org/tennis/news/Roger_Federer/68395/roger-federer-i-was-an-angry-person-on-the-court-as-a-teenager-/" target="_blank">Tennis World USA.</a></p> <p>When the Swiss tennis legend was a teenager, the champion admitted he didn’t have a lot of control over his emotions. </p> <p>Federer explained:</p> <p>"I also had my bad times, I struggled with my temper, I was an angry person on the court and very sad once I lost.”</p> <p>Federer also mentioned that he would ruminate on the mistakes he made whilst he was playing.</p> <p>“I was more always very sad commentating every point I lost and I was like, 'Okay, play today is terrible.'</p> <p>“It took me a long time to get really serious and maybe that's the small regret I have, maybe that I did not realise or react earlier but with all the success I have had, I had a very normal and clear path.”</p> <p>This clear path to tennis success has helped him keep a clear head when it comes to his goals, although the 37-year-old did reflect on how long it took him to break through into the world of tennis.</p> <p>“It took me more time than other players maybe to breakthrough but once I broke through, everything was in place ... I did not become a superstar overnight so I think that helps me today."</p> <p>Federer has just recently won his 101st career title as he won the Miami Open over John Isner on April 1.</p> <blockquote style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" class="instagram-media" data-instgrm-captioned="" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/p/Bvr3WTMg15t/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading" data-instgrm-version="12"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"></div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"></div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"></div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"></div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"></div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <p style="margin: 8px 0 0 0; padding: 0 4px;"><a style="color: #000; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none; word-wrap: break-word;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/p/Bvr3WTMg15t/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading" target="_blank">1️⃣0️⃣1️⃣‼️😁💥</a></p> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;">A post shared by <a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/rogerfederer/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading" target="_blank"> Roger Federer</a> (@rogerfederer) on Mar 31, 2019 at 1:02pm PDT</p> </div> </blockquote> <p>Without his tennis idols, Federer might not have had the drive to be where he is today.</p> <p>His two idols were Stefan Edberg when he was growing up and Bjorn Borg later on. This is due to Federer’s coach Peter Lundgren telling stories about Berg.</p> <p>“I heard so many stories from my coach Peter Lundgren and all these great records and what an influential and great person he was for the game of tennis and this is obviously when I started to admire Bjorn as well and everybody who did such amazing things for tennis.”</p> <p>Federer maintains that without these two idols, the world of tennis would be very different today.</p> <p>“I am thankful too because they created the great platform we play in today and I hope I can do something similar for the next generation."</p> <p>With 101 career titles under his belt, Federer is well on the way to inspiring a new generation of tennis stars.</p>

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Why is so little being done about road rage?

<p>Our car is heading into the city when a woman dashes across the intersection while the pedestrian light is red. The driver directly behind us leans on his horn. “That wasn’t a honk to say ‘I’m here,’” says former police driving instructor Richard Gladman. “That was a rebuke.”<br /><br />A driver’s impulse to honk at an errant pedestrian is to assert they are ‘right’, explains Gladman. It is an example of the type of low-level frustration that can – and does – escalate into full-blown road rage. And it’s happening every day on our overburdened roads and highways.<br /><br />Road rage is increasingly common, with more than 70 per cent of drivers in Australia and 20 per cent in New Zealand having experienced road rage in the past year. According to a survey by the NRMA (National Roads and Motorists’ Association), almost one in five drivers admitted to committing road rage, and 22 per cent of these incidents happened with children under the age of 15 in the car.<br /><br />The most common form of abuse for the ‘average person’? Leaning on the horn came in top at 75 per cent, followed by abusive ‘hand gestures’ at 44 per cent and mouthing abuse at 31 per cent. Disturbingly, after ­being a victim of road rage, more than 40 per cent of respondents reported ­losing confidence while driving.</p> <div class="view view-article-slider view-id-article_slider view-display-id-article_slider_block view-dom-id-f408992283afb58f40291d039bd69404"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="views-field views-field-field-slides"> <div class="field-content"> <div class="field-collection-view clearfix view-mode-full field-collection-view-final"> <div class="entity entity-field-collection-item field-collection-item-field-slides clearfix"> <div class="content"> <div class="field field-name-field-slide-title field-type-text field-label-hidden"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item even"><strong>Most annoying behaviour on the roads</strong></div> </div> </div> <div class="field field-name-field-slide-content field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item even"> <p>Last November, New Zealand AA asked its members to rank the most annoying behaviour on the roads – and running a red light topped the list. Other road-rage-inducing behaviour included drivers in the slow lane speeding up at the overtaking lane, tailgating, driving while using phones, not indicating, driving slowly and lane weaving. But our list of irritations didn’t just appear in recent years.</p> <p>Driver anger has a long history. British magazine<span> </span><em>The Oldie</em><span> </span>unearthed a case of ‘carriage rage’ dating back to 1817. It was an early indication that we humans can have trouble handling frustrations on our way from point A to point B. But the current term was coined in the late 1980s when news anchors in the US reported a grisly spate of freeway shootings.</p> <p>Today, with an ever-increasing number of cars on the road, more and more motorists find themselves trapped in traffic and at the mercy of another’s anger – or their own.</p> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="views-field views-field-field-slides"> <div class="field-content"> <div class="field-collection-view clearfix view-mode-full field-collection-view-final"> <div class="entity entity-field-collection-item field-collection-item-field-slides clearfix"> <div class="content"> <div class="field field-name-field-slide-title field-type-text field-label-hidden"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item even"><strong>The worst offenders</strong></div> </div> </div> <div class="field field-name-field-slide-content field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item even"> <p>A 2017 Australian study of almost 3000 drivers by the Monash University Accident Research Centre revealed the majority of people admitted to some form of aggressive driving. The worst offenders were male drivers aged between 22 and 39. More than a third of these admitted to extreme road rage and said they had driven after another driver at least once while angry.</p> <p>While several studies have shown male drivers are more likely to ­commit road violence, women tend to feel angrier behind the wheel.</p> <p>Most shockingly, 96 per cent of drivers who had been involved in a car crash reported they had experienced aggressive behaviour on the roads. Perhaps not surprisingly, the study also found overly aggressive drivers were much more likely to make bad choices, such as driving and holding a mobile phone, speeding and also drink-driving.</p> <p>Even when it doesn’t lead to violence, road rage has become more than just a strange quirk of driving behaviour, say advocates for road safety. It is a symptom of a self-­focused worldview, and because people feel anonymous in their cars, they feel they can be rude or worse – and not be held to account for their behaviour.</p> <p>Louis Bez, 34, says he often sees drivers shouting when trapped in traffic in the clogged-up city streets where he lives. The atmosphere sours, and words or gestures are exchanged. There was a moment when he realised he was doing just the same. “It’s in the privacy of my car, but still I swear out loud,” he ­admits. The protection of his car gives Bez the license he needs to vent when he wouldn’t do it otherwise.</p> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="views-field views-field-field-slides"> <div class="field-content"> <div class="field-collection-view clearfix view-mode-full field-collection-view-final"> <div class="entity entity-field-collection-item field-collection-item-field-slides clearfix"> <div class="content"> <div class="field field-name-field-slide-title field-type-text field-label-hidden"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item even"><strong>Can it be prevented?</strong></div> </div> </div> <div class="field field-name-field-slide-content field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item even"> <p>Dr Bridie Scott-Parker studies road rage and leads the Adolescent Risk Research Unit at the University of the Sunshine Coast. “As roads become busier and we experience more congestion, it’s only natural we have an increase in driver anger and driver aggression,” she says. “However, this is something we can – in many ­instances – prevent.”</p> <p>Merging lanes, in particular, can evoke strong anger in drivers. Going online to the local licensing authority to check the road rules will help you avoid making mistakes and attracting road rage from other drivers.</p> <p>“By travelling inside a vehicle we are affectively inside an insulated bubble,” says Dr Scott-Parker. “This isolation means we sometimes engage in behaviour that we wouldn’t normally engage in, say if we were in a queue in a supermarket standing right next to this person.” The feeling of being safe and protected by the shell of your vehicle can be a dangerous illusion.</p> <p>Road rage occurs when we feel that someone is getting in the way, with drivers generally placing the blame on others, not themselves. “Most venting is negative, and that’s the problem,” says Stan Steindl, adjunct associate professor in psychology at The University of Queensland. When a driver feels insulted or threatened, the brain’s fight-or-flight threat response system is triggered. “One aspect of the fight-or-flight response is anger.”</p> <p>The impulsiveness behind explosive road rage is usually prompted by an event that the offenders – often well-adjusted people with family, job, friends – view as a personal ­attack, says traffic psychologist Ludo Kluppels.</p> <p>Dr Scott-Parker adds it is important to remember good car karma. She says, “I’ve heard drivers of all ages say that if they let someone in and get a little ‘thank-you’ wave, that feeling of warmth, positivity and community engagement stays with them for the rest of the day.”</p> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="views-field views-field-field-slides"> <div class="field-content"> <div class="field-collection-view clearfix view-mode-full field-collection-view-final"> <div class="entity entity-field-collection-item field-collection-item-field-slides clearfix"> <div class="content"> <div class="field field-name-field-slide-title field-type-text field-label-hidden"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item even"><strong>Who is capable of road rage?</strong></div> </div> </div> <div class="field field-name-field-slide-content field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item even"> <p>Unfortunately, it seems most of us are capable of road rage if pushed enough on the right day. David Simpson, 49, is normally a quiet, well-behaved dad, but his inner-Hulk explodes when he gets behind the wheel of a car. Last year, as he was driving his 13-year-old son to a Saturday morning soccer game, he approached a busy intersection in an inner-city Sydney suburb.</p> <p>A late model European sedan was double-parked outside the local shops and was blocking traffic. A real estate agent was taking liberties with parking restrictions. With his son in the front passenger seat, David began shouting abuse and profanities at the man who had dared to slow down their journey. His son still talks about the incident – and the profanities.</p> <p>One evening in 2015 a motorcyclist threatened Martin Kracheel and his friend as they were driving to play pool. When they drew too close to the motorbike in front, the rider slowed down and gestured to them to pull over. The biker walked over to their car, swearing and demanding they get out. “He wanted to punch us,” says the 33 year old. “It was tense.” Martin knew they had to do something to diffuse the situation – and quickly.</p> <p>“We apologised, and he accepted the apology,” Martin says. It was a near miss. Drivers who get out of the car to make threats – and worse –  are at the extreme end of the spectrum.</p> <p>When anger is unleashed, it paves the way to a ‘tragic list’ of possible ugly outcomes we all need to be aware of, says traffic psychologist and educator Leon James.</p> <p>Dave Crawford, 42, is a mild-mannered single dad – though not always. One morning two years ago, he was driving along a highway with his seven-year-old son in the car. They were heading out for a day of trailbike riding and were towing a trailer carrying two bikes. “There were no other cars on the road and we were moving at around 100km/h, when we passed a pack of cyclists,” he says. Without warning, the leader of the pack pulled out into Crawford’s lane to let the pack pass. Crawford had to brake hard, swerve and drive defensively to avoid hitting the man.</p> <p>He managed to avoid hitting the cyclists but his car and trailer ended up facing the wrong way on the highway. Despite everyone being safe, Crawford was livid.</p> <p>“I experienced a mix of rage and terror,” he says. “I checked my son was safe, then got out and marched through the pack of now stationary cyclists and found the reckless rider, an older man. “I heard someone apologise but I was seeing red,” he says. “I abused him until I felt better.”</p> <p>Kirstie Robb, 38, was on the other side of the road-rage experience when she was driving her three kids home from school and the car in front of her stopped suddenly. The teaching assistant slammed on the brake, flinging her arm out to protect her 16-year-old son sitting next to her in the front seat.</p> <p>Shaken, she pulled over to the side of the road when the other car did, and got out to see what the problem was. She could hear the other driver swearing at her angrily in his car and accusing her of not keeping a safe distance. The man, still sitting in his car, sliced his hand towards her face threateningly and continued to yell at her.</p> <p>She told him to calm down, before offering him some unfriendly advice of her own. “Then before I could do anything he picked up an aerosol can and sprayed me in the face with red paint,” says Kristie. “When I opened my eyes, all I could see was red. I couldn’t breathe for a few seconds. I could hear my children screaming.”</p> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="views-field views-field-field-slides"> <div class="field-content"> <div class="field-collection-view clearfix view-mode-full field-collection-view-final"> <div class="entity entity-field-collection-item field-collection-item-field-slides clearfix"> <div class="content"> <div class="field field-name-field-slide-title field-type-text field-label-hidden"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item even"><strong>Why is so little being done about it?</strong></div> </div> </div> <div class="field field-name-field-slide-content field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item even"> <p>There remains an astonishing lack of research and government attention to road rage, which is surprising given the magnitude of the problem. “Road rage has only been studied in the United States, Australia and Belgium,” says Kluppels.</p> <p>In Australia, road rage is officially an unacknowledged killer. In NSW a motorist received a 25-year jail sentence in 2010 after murdering a pedestrian with their car.</p> <p>Despite incidents like this, most countries, including Australia and New Zealand, do not have a dedicated offence called ‘road rage’: official statistics aren’t collected and – worst of all – little is being done to prevent it.</p> <p>However, in Singapore, road rage is a criminal offence and ranges from verbal exchanges between drivers to driver assaults as a result of a traffic dispute.</p> <p>Aloysuis Fong, founder of the website<span> </span><a rel="noopener" href="http://roads.sg/" target="_blank" title="" data-original-title="">ROADS.sg</a>, created an interactive platform so anyone on the road can upload a witness report or video to shame bad driver behaviour and encourage everyone to be safer on the roads, including cutting back on road rage.</p> <p>“Laws here are strict with regards to road rage,” says Fong. “If you get out of your car in an aggressive manner, curse, give a rude gesture or kick the car you can be held accountable to the police. Once a physical fight happens then you’ll be charged.”</p> <p>Technology is potentially helping to catch offenders as car-cam owners are able to submit videos to ROADS.sg for the traffic police to investigate. It has already shown a 32.5 per cent increase in red-light running violations by the Singapore Police, so erring on the side of caution on the road is key.</p> <p>“Police advise drivers to stay calm, not to make eye or verbal contact,” he says. “Keep in your lane and stay in your car. If the road rage continues then park the car in a safe zone and call the police for help.”</p> <p>In 1990, Belgium – which had one of the worst road-safety records in Europe at the time – introduced anti-road-rage billboards for a public education campaigns to combat the problem.</p> <p>Eight years later, judges still found themselves faced with an unprecedented wave of road-rage cases, including as-sault and battery. In Antwerp this made up eight per cent of the total assaults in the city. Since then, new programs – including seeing a psychologist who talks offenders through their actions and offers alternative ways to deal with frustration – are thought to have helped reduce Belgium’s road traffic deaths. Between 1990 to 2014, for example, road traffic deaths were reduced by a whopping 72 per cent. Although it is difficult to say exactly how much of this improvement is due to a decline in road rage, it is believed to have helped.</p> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="views-field views-field-field-slides"> <div class="field-content"> <div class="field-collection-view clearfix view-mode-full field-collection-view-final"> <div class="entity entity-field-collection-item field-collection-item-field-slides clearfix"> <div class="content"> <div class="field field-name-field-slide-title field-type-text field-label-hidden"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item even"><strong>Back seat road ragers</strong></div> </div> </div> <div class="field field-name-field-slide-content field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item even"> <p>Driver aggression is being reinforced by popular culture: Portrayals of aggressive driving are shown in a fun context, such as car chases in the movies and in children’s video games. And the young learn it from their parents. “The back seat of the car is road rage nursery,” says Leon James.</p> <p>“Children start their first driving instruction in the car with parents who drive aggressively and talk badly about other drivers.”</p> <p>James says that the key to countries’ dealing with road rage is the introduction of graduated licences, with several licensing phases: learner’s permit, intermediate or provisional license, and then full licence. It would increase the number of supervised hours a pupil spends behind the wheel before being ‘signed off’ as a qualified driver. The outcome? Learning respect and obedience for the rules and, more importantly, being introduced to the concept of ‘lifelong learning’ in driving.</p> <p>Since 2009, it has been mandatory that Swedes working towards getting a driver’s license attend a risk awareness course and at least three hours of tuition with a government-approved instructor. Even earlier, since 2006, the Swedish driving test syllabus included topics such as impulse control and understanding motives. Once qualified, drivers are on probation for two years.</p> <p>Karin Michaelsson, investigator for driver licensing, says the Swedish Transport Agency shifted its focus from driving skills and car mechanics to “who you are as a person and how you behave in traffic, because who you are will impact how you drive”.</p> <p>Every driver must be responsible for starving the ‘cycle of conflict’, he says. Road rage starts with one driver and escalates from there.</p> <p>Kirstie Robb suffered no lasting physical damage from the spray paint attack, but she and her family were traumatised. Her youngest son had nightmares, while her eldest felt guilty at being unable to protect his mother. “It was a very upsetting experience – and an unnecessary one,” says Kirstie.</p> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="views-field views-field-field-slides"> <div class="field-content"> <div class="field-collection-view clearfix view-mode-full field-collection-view-final"> <div class="entity entity-field-collection-item field-collection-item-field-slides clearfix"> <div class="content"> <div class="field field-name-field-slide-title field-type-text field-label-hidden"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item even"><strong>Golden rules for managing road rage</strong></div> </div> </div> <div class="field field-name-field-slide-content field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item even"> <ul> <li>Rule 1:<span> </span><strong>Never get out of your car</strong><span> </span>and do not engage in a conversation or respond to rude hand gestures.</li> <li>Rule 2:<span> </span><strong>Do not make eye contact.</strong><span> </span>Maintain your attention on the road in front of you, even if you are stopped at traffic lights, and lock all your doors and close your windows.</li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> <div class="views-field views-field-field-slides"> <div class="field-content"> <div class="field-collection-view clearfix view-mode-full field-collection-view-final"> <div class="entity entity-field-collection-item field-collection-item-field-slides clearfix"> <div class="content"> <div class="field field-name-field-slide-title field-type-text field-label-hidden"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item even"><strong>Common driving behaviour that incites road rage</strong></div> </div> </div> <div class="field field-name-field-slide-content field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item even"> <ol> <li>People who slam on the brakes unnecessarily</li> <li>People who merge without indicating</li> <li>Drivers who don’t keep a constant speed</li> <li>People who drive under the speed limit</li> <li>Those who don’t allow others to merge</li> <li>Drivers who cut other drivers off</li> <li>People who text and drive</li> <li>Drivers who use the right-hand lane incorrectly<span> </span><em>(Source: NRMA)</em></li> </ol> <p><em>Written by <span>Eleanor Rose and Kathy Buchanan</span>. This article first appeared in </em><span><em><a href="http://www.readersdigest.com.au/road-rage">Reader’s Digest</a></em></span><em>. For more of what you love from the world’s best-loved magazine, </em><span><em><a href="http://readersdigest.innovations.co.nz/c/readersdigestemailsubscribe?utm_source=over60&amp;utm_medium=articles&amp;utm_campaign=RDSUB&amp;keycode=WRN87V">here’s our best subscription offer.</a></em></span></p> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> <p><img style="width: 100px !important; height: 100px !important;" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/7820640/1.png" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/f30947086c8e47b89cb076eb5bb9b3e2" /></p>

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Why you shouldn't let "air rage" get the better of you

<p>Going on flights can be a stressful and frustrating experience. But there’s a reason why you should keep it together – losing your cool on the plane comes with a hefty cost.</p> <p>Delays, confined space and close contact with other passengers could send you fuming, but having a meltdown above the clouds may leave you with massive bills, travel bans and even jail sentences.</p> <p>A disruptive or violent passenger may be responsible for the costs incurred by their air rage incidents. “Diverting an aircraft in order to offload an unruly passenger not only presents safety and security risks but also incurs substantial costs for the airline,” a 2016 report by the Australian Institute of Criminology said.</p> <p>“Costs may include fuel loss, airport-related costs and payments to other passengers for inconvenience caused.”</p> <p>Last year, a Perth court ordered a man to pay almost $26,000 after a <a href="https://www.oversixty.com.au/travel/domestic-travel/qantas-flight-forced-to-turn-back/">Brisbane-bound Qantas flight</a> was forced to divert back to Western Australia due to his erratic behaviour. The man was also banned from flying with Qantas and Virgin.</p> <p>The report also said that flight bans “are not uncommon” for disruptive passengers across all Australian airlines.</p> <p>Under the Crimes (Aviation) Act 1991 and the Civil Aviation Act 1988, assaulting, intimidating or threatening a cabin crew member with violence could warrant 10 years of imprisonment. If you’re heading to an overseas destination, the authorities in that country will take charge.</p> <p>In Korea, a woman served five months in jail for disrupting a Seoul-bound flight in New York, where she ordered the plane to return to the gate so a flight attendant that served her food incorrectly could be ejected.</p> <p>Air rage incidents are on the rise. According to the International Air Transport Association (IATA), unruly passenger incidents occurred on one out of every 1,075 flights in 2017, with 10 per cent of the incidents involving physical aggression or damage to the aircraft. Incidents involving violent threats or weapons also increased from 1 per cent the year before to 3 per cent.</p> <p>The IATA said the top three issues were disobedience to safety regulations, alcohol or other intoxication, and smoking.</p> <p>However, a 2017 study published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences of the United States found that airplane design might be the problem. It revealed that air rage incidents are 3.84 times more likely to happen when there is a first-class section on the plane, emphasising the class difference between passengers.</p> <p>What do you think of these rules around air rage? Let us know your thoughts in the comments.</p>

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Why incidents of “air rage” are on the rise

<p>On New Year's Day, a kerfuffle on an international flight led a San Francisco-bound plane departing from Sydney to divert to Auckland.</p> <p>On what would have been a 13-hour flight, an agitated middle-seat passenger – who was recorded on video – exchanged terse words with a flight attendant and was subsequently arrested when the plane made an early landing.</p> <p>The encounter was the latest incident of air rage – something that flight attendants say is on the rise.</p> <p>"The conditions on board just lead to more potential for air rage," says Sara Nelson, international president of the Association of Flight Attendants-CWA.</p> <p>Nelson ticks off the reasons: tight seating, fuller flights, alcohol consumption, fewer flight attendants, human nature.</p> <p>"Any time you get a whole bunch of humanity packed in together there's opportunity for a conflict," Nelson says.</p> <p>According to data from the International Air Transport Association, a trade association that represents 265 airlines and 83 percent of global air traffic, unruly passengers on planes worldwide increased 14 per cent in 2015 over the previous year.</p> <p>In 2015, there were 10,854 reported cases of such incidents, or one in every 1205 flights. In 2014, there were 9316 incidents, or one per 1282 flights. Alcohol or drug intoxication was reported in 23 per cent of the cases; physical aggression was reported 11 per cent of the time.</p> <p>Verbal abuse and failure to follow the instructions of the flight crew were cited in a majority of the incidents.</p> <p>A recent study published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences of the United States found that airplane design may play a role in air rage.</p> <p>The study found the mere presence of a first-class section in a plane mattered: The chance of an air rage incident happening in economy is 3.84 times greater when there is a first-class section.</p> <p>"Making class difference more salient can be bad for everyone," research author Katherine DeCelles says.</p> <p>For the study, the researchers had access to a database containing about five years of air-rage incidents from a major airline. For every 1000 flights, there were 1.58 incidences of air rage in economy and .31 in first class.</p> <p>The researchers found that when passengers enter the plane through the front and pass through a first-class section, rather entering in the middle of the plane and into their own designated section, the odds of air rage increase, both in economy and in first-class: Economy passengers are 2.18 times more likely to become unruly and first-class passengers are 11.86 times more likely to act out than when they board from the middle.</p> <p>DeCelles points out that these results statistically account for a number of other factors that might relate to first class and boarding patterns, such as leg room, flight size and flight length.</p> <p>In describing the emotions of the passengers in the reports, flight crews classified disruptive first-class passengers more frequently as "belligerent," and described economy upsets as "emotional outbursts." (Beyond the report, the researchers didn't have any additional information on the passengers' actual emotions or other factors, such as alcohol intake, says DeCelles.)</p> <p>Based on the correlational results, DeCelles theorises that first-class passengers may have felt a sense of entitlement, which led to their reactions, while those in economy may have felt a sense of deprivation and frustration.</p> <p>"We all know we live in a class-based society, but it's never quite so in your face as when you board an airplane," says DeCelles.</p> <p>Whatever the cause, Nelson, who is also a flight attendant with United Airlines, says that employees are trained to handle passenger interruptions of all types, and they are also presented with the option of taking a self-defense class offered by the Transportation Security Administration.</p> <p>She adds that the Federal Aviation Administration takes poor passenger behaviour seriously: Passengers who interfere with the duties of the flight crew could face criminal charges or be fined up to $25,000 by the FAA.</p> <p>Any type of unexpected behaviour in-flight could be cause for concern, says Nelson. Flight attendants are taught that if someone is acting out, it may be a distraction for a larger threat.</p> <p>"We are in a metal tube hurtling through this space, an object that has been used as a weapon of mass destruction," says Nelson. "That is the new world."</p> <p>Do you agree with this research? Let us know in the comments below.</p> <p><em>Written by Kate Silver. First appeared on <a href="http://www.stuff.co.nz/" target="_blank"><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Stuff.co.nz</span></strong></a>.</em><em><strong> </strong></em></p>

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This is the reason why you get so grumpy on planes

<p>What is it about flying on planes that turns people into a grumpy version of their former self?</p> <p>According to new research published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, it can be pinpointed to one single thing: first-class seats.</p> <p>Research has found that air rage incidents are four times likelier to happen on planes with first-class cabin than planes without them. 84 per cent of air rage cases occur in economy class.</p> <p>The researchers’ note that passing through a first-class cabin makes other passengers aware of what they don’t have – which makes them keenly alert to any unfairness they encounter. You suddenly note the different queues, the extra time spent waiting to board, and you’re smaller, less comfy seats as you walk through first-class.</p> <p>But it turns out that forking out for first-class seats won’t make you happier either, as people who sit in first-class tend to have higher expectations of their experience and when they don't measure up, they too can get quite angry.  </p> <p>Of course, there are other factors that contribute to the feeling of air rage – delays, lack of luggage space, tiny seats and annoying plane companions. But perhaps the answer to a happy flight is to try and focus on the joy of flying. After all, isn't it simply amazing that all we have to do is board a plane to travel across the world? </p> <p><strong>Related links: </strong></p> <p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><a href="http://www.oversixty.co.nz/travel/domestic-travel/2016/06/10-lesser-known-new-zealand-holiday-spots/"><em>10 lesser-known New Zealand holiday spots</em></a></strong></span></p> <p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><a href="http://www.oversixty.co.nz/travel/international/2016/06/japan-beach-illuminated-by-mysterious-natural-phenomenon/"><em>Japan beach illuminated by mysterious natural phenomenon</em></a></strong></span></p> <p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><a href="http://www.oversixty.co.nz/travel/international/2016/06/10-breathtaking-photos-celebrate-the-beauty-of-britain/"><em>10 breathtaking photos celebrate the beauty of Britain</em></a></strong></span></p>

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Why venting can make you more mad

<p>Another day, another nut job on the road in a rage, swearing at the person on the other end of the phone or having an angry outburst at their waitress, colleague, partner, friend or family.</p> <p>The problem is, it is not just nut jobs who cannot control their temper. It's all of us.</p> <p>A very yogic, chilled out friend of mine recounted how he lost it and began screaming at a female driver on the road last week after she became the last in a line of people who'd cut him off or behaved badly during a frustrating car trip.</p> <p>Even the Dalai Lama has admitted to struggling with anger.</p> <p>"Oh, yes, of course," he told Time magazine in 2010. "I'm a human being. Generally speaking, if a human being never shows anger, then I think something's wrong. He's not right in the brain."</p> <p>Anger is a natural, healthy emotion that has its place and is sometimes warranted.</p> <p>The problem is when it hijacks us, small things start to set us off and it starts to affect our relationships and gnarl our insides.</p> <p>It is a "very common" problem, according to Dr Tim Sharp of the Happiness Institute.</p> <p>A problem that loves an outlet.</p> <p>How often have you fired off a text message or email that momentarily alleviates your anger at a person or situation, only to regret it later?</p> <p>Often enough that there is now a recall app that allows you to "share what you want with who you want and take it back, if you want."</p> <p>Easy as venting (and now retracting) is, it is bad for us.</p> <p>"Just because something makes you feel better doesn't mean it's healthy," Brad Bushman, a professor of communication and psychology at The Ohio State University in Columbus tells the Wall Street Journal.</p> <p>Bushman has conducted a number of studies on the subject and concluded that venting often exacerbates the situation.</p> <p>In one, he had 600 university students write a paper that was purposely put down and criticised by a 'partner', who was actually on the research team.</p> <p>The students were then divided into three groups.</p> <p>The first was told to vent by picturing their partner while hitting a punching bag, the second was told to think of becoming physically fitter while hitting the bag and the third group did nothing.</p> <p>Afterwards, it was found that the venting group felt the most hostility and irritation while the group that did nothing felt the least.</p> <p>Sitting on it, without suppressing it, is an idea embraced in eastern philosophy.</p> <p>"We cannot overcome anger and hatred simply by suppressing them. We need to actively cultivate the antidotes to hatred: patience and tolerance," the Dalai Lama has said.</p> <p>"I believe that generally speaking, anger and hatred are the type of emotions which, if you leave them unchecked or unattended, tend to aggravate and keep on increasing. If you simply get more and more used to letting them happen and just keep expressing them, this usually results in their growth, not their reduction."</p> <p>Buddhist teacher, Pema Chodron agrees.</p> <p>"It hurts so much to feel the aggression that we want it to be resolved," she has said of her own experience with anger.</p> <p>"So what do we usually do? We do exactly what is going to escalate the aggression and the suffering. We strike out; we hit back...</p> <p>"Patience has a lot to do with getting smart at that point and just waiting: not speaking or doing anything.</p> <p>"On the other hand, it also means being completely and totally honest with yourself about the fact that you're furious. You're not suppressing anything—patience has nothing to do with suppression. In fact, it has everything to do with a gentle, honest relationship with yourself.</p> <p>"If you wait and don't feed your discursive thought, you can be honest about the fact that you're angry. But at the same time you can continue to let go of the internal dialogue. In that dialogue you are blaming and criticising, and then probably feeling guilty and beating yourself up for doing that.</p> <p>"It's torturous, because you feel bad about being so angry at the same time that you really are extremely angry, and you can't drop it. It's painful to experience such awful confusion. Still, you just wait and remain patient with your confusion and the pain that comes with it."</p> <p>Tim Sharp says the approach also has roots in western psychology.</p> <p>"I'd probably use slightly different language but essentially, it's largely consistent with contemporary approaches like mindfulness-based cognitive therapy and/or acceptance commitment therapy," Sharp explains.</p> <p>"That is, I talk to clients where and when appropriate about (1) the fact that the so called 'negative emotions', including anger, are normal and appropriate at times, (2) fighting or denying such experiences rarely, if ever, proves useful and that (3) accepting and observing them, without judgement, can be very helpful.</p> <p>"A metaphor that's often used in this context is 'surfing'; if you surf the waves of negative emotions like anger they'll rise … but then fall. So in some ways this is like the author's reference to patience, or 'riding it out'.</p> <p>Cognitive therapy "to shift what are often unrealistic and unhelpful assumptions (e.g. It should or shouldn't be like this! It's not fair!)", also helps, Sharp says.</p> <p>Sharp says that these approaches, combined with relaxation techniques, are the most effective for treating unruly anger. Anger that only ends up biting us back in the long run if left untamed.</p> <p><em>Written by Sarah Berry. Appeared on <a href="http://www.stuff.co.nz/" target="_blank"><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Stuff.co.nz.</span></strong></a></em></p> <p><strong>Related links:</strong></p> <p><em><strong><a href="/health/mind/2015/12/positive-thinking-and-mental-health/"><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Can positive thinking improve your mental health?</span></a></strong></em></p> <p><a href="/health/mind/2015/11/expert-tips-to-stress-less/"><em><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;">5 expert-approved ways to stress less</span></strong></em></a></p> <p><a href="http://www.oversixty.co.nz/lifestyle/relationships/2016/01/bad-habits-that-ruin-relationships/"><em><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;">4 bad habits that will destroy your relationship</span></strong></em></a></p>

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Lack of respect and etiquette on New Zealand roads

<p>While I agree to a certain extent that we consider everyone else on the road to be "in our way", you can also fail when it comes to good etiquette on New Zealand roads.</p> <p>I personally get frustrated with people "in my way" - the cyclist who owns the road, the delivery truck that takes too long to accelerate at the lights - and I have to consciously hold my frustration to a manageable level, because we all have to share.</p> <p>The problem in New Zealand is a lack of respect for etiquette. It's one thing to make a mistake, quite another to obviously drive like an arse.</p> <p>I like to get to the speed limit quickly and I like to change lanes in order to be five cars closer to the red light. But I ALWAYS merge like a zip, always look to allow people to turn across heavy traffic, usually will allow buses in front, and always use the little flashing orange lights to "indicate" to other drivers what my intentions are, even when going straight at roundabouts.</p> <p>It's the people who think that the speed limit plus 25 per cent is ok, even on residential streets; the people who cut in front and then slow down; the people who cross three lanes in 40m in order to exit the motorway; the people who have to be first off the line at motorway on ramps, regardless of which lane they're in or how busy the on ramp is; the people who stop on yellow lines, park over driveways, never indicate, tailgate, brake heavily, don't offer room to turn across traffic, don't stop at pedestrian crossings and don't consider anyone but themselves... They are the menaces that need a good spanking and an enrollment in driver etiquette school.</p> <p>I once found a car in Kingsland with one wheel on the curb and its rear end poking out into traffic. I couldn't help myself, I left a note under their wiper that simply said: "You park like s**t."</p> <p>Written by Ollie Dale. First appeared on <a href="http://www.Stuff.co.nz"><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>Stuff.co.nz</strong></span></a></p>

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