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Court short over Serena's final flourish

<p dir="ltr">Margaret Court has called out Serena Williams following her retirement after losing against Aussie Alja Tomljanovic.</p> <p dir="ltr">The US tennis champion’s career came to an end after she lost to Ajla Tomljanovic 7-5 6-7 (4-7) 6-1 in the third round of the US Open.</p> <p dir="ltr">This means Court will hold onto her grand slam record that Williams has tried besting for a long time.</p> <p dir="ltr">Despite the win for Court, she didn’t hold back when she called out the US player who she says should have spoken more about her opponent following her loss.</p> <p dir="ltr">“Serena, I’ve admired her as a player, but I don’t think she has ever admired me,” Court told The Telegraph UK.</p> <p dir="ltr">“I thought it was bad that Williams didn’t mention her opponent more when she spoke.</p> <p dir="ltr">“We were taught to be role models for the young, in how we behaved. We were taught to honour our opponent. You learned from your losses. We respected one another.”</p> <p dir="ltr">In her retirement speech, Williams mentioned Court and slammed those who said she doesn’t deserve to be the GOAT (greatest of all time) because of her loss.</p> <p dir="ltr">“There are people who say I’m not the GOAT because I didn’t pass Margaret Court’s record of 24 grand slam titles, which she achieved before the ‘open era’ that began in 1968,” Williams said.</p> <p dir="ltr">“I’d be lying if I said I didn’t want that record. Obviously I do. But day to day, I’m really not thinking about her. If I’m in a grand slam final, then yes, I am thinking about that record. Maybe I thought about it too much, and that didn’t help.</p> <p dir="ltr">“The way I see it, I should have had 30-plus grand slams.”</p> <p dir="ltr">Court went on to single out tennis organisers who she claims completely ignored her at Wimbledon, and the lack of invitations for other big tennis events.</p> <p dir="ltr">“It’s very sad, because a lot of the press and television today, particularly in tennis, don’t want to mention my name,” she said.</p> <p dir="ltr">“It’s only when they have to, because I still hold so many records. In 2020, I was meant to be coming to Wimbledon for the 50th anniversary of my calendar grand slam.</p> <p dir="ltr">“But then Covid hit, so the honour never happened. The French Open didn’t invite me, the US Open didn’t invite me. Rod Laver had won the slam and I was going to be honoured in the same way, but no.</p> <p dir="ltr">“I didn’t lose any sleep over it. But the honour has not been there for what I did do. In my own nation, I have been given titles, but they would still rather not mention me.”</p> <p dir="ltr"><em>Images: Getty</em></p>

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Help insects flourish from your backyard

<p>As winter phases into spring across the U.S., gardeners are laying in supplies and making plans. Meanwhile, as the weather warms, common garden insects such as bees, beetles and butterflies will emerge from underground burrows or nests within or on plants.</p> <p>Most gardeners know how beneficial insects can be for their plots. <a rel="noopener" href="https://www.fs.fed.us/wildflowers/pollinators/animals/flies.shtml" target="_blank">Flies pollinate flowers</a>. Predatory bugs, such as the <a rel="noopener" href="http://entnemdept.ufl.edu/creatures/beneficial/podisus_maculiventris.htm" target="_blank">spined shoulder bug</a>, eat pest insects that otherwise would tuck into garden plants.</p> <p>As a <a rel="noopener" href="https://scholar.google.com/citations?user=tzo9De0AAAAJ&amp;hl=en" target="_blank">scientist whose research involves insects</a> and as a gardener, I know that <a rel="noopener" href="https://doi.org/10.1073/pnas.2023989118" target="_blank">many beneficial insect species are declining</a> and <a rel="noopener" href="https://theconversation.com/is-an-insect-apocalypse-happening-how-would-we-know-113170" target="_blank">need humans’ help</a>. If you’re a gardener looking for a new challenge this year, consider revamping all or part of your yard to support beneficial insects.</p> <p><iframe width="440" height="260" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/H-iIgTNdmRo?wmode=transparent&amp;start=0" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen=""></iframe><em> <span class="caption">Ladybugs, lacewings, spiders, earthworms and honey bees are among the most beneficial common garden animals.</span></em></p> <p><strong>Lawns are insect food deserts</strong></p> <p>Some gardeners <a rel="noopener" href="https://plants.usda.gov/checklist.html" target="_blank">choose native plants</a> to attract and support helpful insects. Often, however, those native plants are surrounded by vast expanses of lawn.</p> <p>The vast majority of insect species find blades of grass as unappetizing as we do. Yet, lawns sprawl out across many public and private spaces. <a rel="noopener" href="https://earthobservatory.nasa.gov/features/Lawn" target="_blank">NASA estimated in 2005</a> that lawns covered at least 50,000 square miles (128,000 square kilometers) of the U.S. – about the size of the entire state of Mississippi.</p> <p>A well-manicured lawn is a sure sign that humanity has imposed its will on nature. Lawns provide an accessible and familiar landscape, but they come at a cost for our six-legged neighbors. Grasses grown as turf provide very few places for insects to safely tuck themselves away, because homeowners and groundskeepers cut them short – before they send up flowering spikes – and apply fertilizers and pesticides to keep them green.</p> <p>Entomologists have a recomendation: Dig up some fraction of your lawn and convert it into a meadow by <a rel="noopener" href="https://doi.org/10.1073/pnas.2002547117" target="_blank">replacing grass with native wildflowers</a>. Wildflowers provide pollen and nectar that feed and attract a variety of insects like ants, native bees and butterflies. Just as you may have a favorite local restaurant, insects that live around you have a taste for the flowers that are native to their areas.</p> <p>This bold choice will not just benefit insects. Healthier insects support local birds, and meadows require fewer chemical inputs and less mowing than lawns. The amount of attention lawns demand from us, even if we outsource the work to a landscaping company, is a sign of their precarity.</p> <p>A meadow is a wilder, more resilient option. Resilient ecosystems are better able to respond to and recover from disturbances.</p> <p>Entomologist <a rel="noopener" href="https://scholar.google.com/citations?user=3EsB164AAAAJ&amp;hl=en" target="_blank">Ryan Gott</a>, integrated pest management and quality control specialist at Maitri Genetics in Pittsburgh, describes lawns and meadows as two opposite ends of a resiliency spectrum. “As far as basic ecological functions go, a lawn does not have many. A lawn mainly extracts nutrition and water, usually receiving outside inputs of fertilizer and irrigation to stay alive, and returns very little to the system,” he told me.</p> <p>Native flowers, by definition, will grow well in your climate, although some areas will have more choices than others and growing seasons vary. Native plants also provide a palette of colors and variety that lawns sorely lack. By planting them as a meadow, with many different flowers emerging throughout the growing season, you can provide for a diverse assortment of local insects. And mowing and fertilizing less will leave you more time to appreciate wildlife of all sizes.</p> <p>There are many different types of meadows, and every wildflower species has different preferences for soil type and conditions. Meadows thrive in full sunlight, which is also where lawns typically do well.</p> <p><strong>Making insects feel at home</strong></p> <p>Not every yard can support a meadow, but there are other ways to be a better, more considerate neighbor to insects. If you have a shady yard, consider modeling your garden after natural landscapes like woodlands that are shady and support insects.</p> <p>What’s important in landscaping with insects in mind, or “entoscaping,” is <a rel="noopener" href="https://www.amentsoc.org/insects/insects-and-man/gardening-for-insects.html" target="_blank">considering insects early and often</a> when you visit the garden store. With a few pots or window boxes, even a balcony can be converted into a cozy insect oasis.</p> <p>If you’re gardenless, you can still support insect health. Try replacing white outdoor lights, which <a rel="noopener" href="https://www.smithsonianmag.com/smart-news/light-pollution-contributes-insect-apocalypse-180973642/" target="_blank">interfere with many insects’ feeding and breeding patterns</a>. White lights also lure insects into swarms, where they are vulnerable to predators. <a rel="noopener" href="https://www.sciencealert.com/scientists-have-figured-out-the-type-of-light-bulb-to-use-if-you-want-to-avoid-insects" target="_blank">Yellow bulbs or warm-hued LEDs</a> don’t have these effects.</p> <p>Another easy project is using scrap wood and packing materials to create simple “hotels” for <a rel="noopener" href="https://modernfarmer.com/2017/02/build-native-bee-hotel/" target="_blank">bees</a> or <a rel="noopener" href="https://www.hgtv.com/design/make-and-celebrate/handmade/craft-a-ladybug-hotel" target="_blank">ladybugs</a>, making sure to carefully sanitize them between seasons. Easiest of all, <a rel="noopener" href="https://ucanr.edu/blogs/blogcore/postdetail.cfm?postnum=26345" target="_blank">provide water for insects to drink</a> – they’re adorable to watch as they sip. Replace standing water at least weekly to prevent mosquitoes from developing.</p> <p><a href="https://images.theconversation.com/files/390417/original/file-20210318-23-16piil9.jpg?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&amp;q=45&amp;auto=format&amp;w=1000&amp;fit=clip"><img src="https://images.theconversation.com/files/390417/original/file-20210318-23-16piil9.jpg?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&amp;q=45&amp;auto=format&amp;w=754&amp;fit=clip" alt="Butterflies on a pebbled pathway." /></a> <em><span class="caption">Giant swallowtail (left) and Palamedes swallowtail (right) drinking water from a puddle.</span> <span class="attribution"><a rel="noopener" href="https://flic.kr/p/PGuLZ" target="_blank" class="source">K. Draper/Flickr</a>, <a rel="noopener" href="http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/4.0/" target="_blank" class="license">CC BY-ND</a></span></em></p> <p><strong>A refuge in every yard</strong></p> <p>Many resources across the U.S. offer advice on converting your lawn or making your yard more insect-friendly.</p> <p>The Xerces Society for Insect Conservation publishes a <a rel="noopener" href="https://xerces.org/publications/guidelines/establishing-pollinator-meadows-from-seed" target="_blank">guide to establishing meadows</a> to sustain insects. Local university extension offices <a rel="noopener" href="https://extension.unh.edu/resource/planting-pollinators-establishing-wildflower-meadow-seed-fact-sheet" target="_blank">post tips on growing meadows</a> with specific instructions and resources for their areas. Gardening stores often have experience and carry selections of local plants.</p> <p>You may find established communities of enthusiasts for local plants and seeds, or your journey could be the start of such a group. Part of the fun of gardening is learning what plants need to be healthy, and a new endeavor like entoscaping will provide fresh challenges.</p> <p>In my view, humans all too often see ourselves as separate from nature, which leads us to relegate biodiversity to designated parks. In fact, however, we are an important part of the natural world, and <a rel="noopener" href="https://www.si.edu/spotlight/buginfo/benefits" target="_blank">we need insects</a> just as much as they need us. As ecologist <a rel="noopener" href="https://www.udel.edu/canr/departments/entomology-and-wildlife-ecology/faculty-staff/doug-tallamy/" target="_blank">Douglas Tallamy</a> argues in his book, “<a rel="noopener" href="https://www.workman.com/products/natures-best-hope" target="_blank">Nature’s Best Hope</a>,” the best way to protect biodiversity is for people to plant native plants and promote conservation in every yard.<!-- Below is The Conversation's page counter tag. Please DO NOT REMOVE. --><img style="border: none !important; box-shadow: none !important; margin: 0 !important; max-height: 1px !important; max-width: 1px !important; min-height: 1px !important; min-width: 1px !important; opacity: 0 !important; outline: none !important; padding: 0 !important; text-shadow: none !important;" src="https://counter.theconversation.com/content/153609/count.gif?distributor=republish-lightbox-basic" alt="The Conversation" width="1" height="1" /><!-- End of code. 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Emotional vaccine: 3 ways we can move from ‘languishing’ to ‘flourishing’ in these testing times

<p>If you’re feeling uninspired, stagnant and joyless, you’re not alone. A sense of languishing is one of the dominant emotions of 2021 as we navigate life in an ongoing pandemic and process other terrible world events alongside.</p> <p>But although many people are struggling and these struggles are not to be ignored, the pandemic has also provided a chance to flourish — functioning well and feeling good, with a sense that life is meaningful and worthwhile, despite challenging circumstances.</p> <p>Flourishing operates at the top end of the mental health continuum, with languishing at the bottom end.</p> <p>A separate but related continuum relates to the experience of mental illness symptoms (from zero to severe). Key to this thinking is that mental health (languishing versus flourishing) and mental illness are independent from each other, and it is possible to flourish with mental illness symptoms and vice versa.</p> <p>Recently published <a href="https://www.stats.govt.nz/reports/wellbeing-statistics-a-year-in-review-june-2020-to-march-2021-quarter">Stats NZ data</a> provide an overview of New Zealanders’ well-being during the pandemic and conclude: "New Zealanders have remained resilient, with most people remaining happy, healthy and satisfied with their lives, despite the challenges [of the pandemic]."</p> <p>For Māori in New Zealand, who generally experience <a href="https://minhealthnz.shinyapps.io/nz-health-survey-2019-20-annual-data-explorer/_w_22bff3fa/#!/key-indicators">disproportionate rates of poor mental health</a> compared to other groups, recent <a href="https://cdn.auckland.ac.nz/assets/psych/about/our-research/MIFAS/Tech-Docs/MIFAS-Covid-19-2021-Report.pdf">research</a> highlights that positive outcomes following the 2020 COVID-19 lockdown were nearly as frequent as adverse ones.</p> <p>So, here are three strategies we can use to acknowledge the languishing but nevertheless move towards more experiences of flourishing.</p> <p><strong>1. Hold the ‘and’</strong></p> <p>Holding the “and” is a psychological practice commonly used in several therapies, including dialectical behaviour therapy (<a href="https://psycnet.apa.org/fulltext/2010-18457-001.html">DBT</a>). At its simplest, DBT encourages a balance between opposites.</p> <p>Often, when we are coping with difficult experiences we fall into a habit of “all or nothing” or “black and white” thinking and we find it hard to see the grey. Lockdowns and the Delta variant are good examples of challenges where we might find it hard to see a balance between both extremes, oscillating between thinking “things will never get back to normal” or “everything is fine”.</p> <p>Holding the “and” in this scenario might look like acknowledging that our normal is being disrupted right now, and knowing that we have the tools to make it through in one piece. This style will give you permission and encouragement to feel frustrated and grateful, angry with moments of calm, and cautiously optimistic while feeling scared.</p> <p><strong>2. Practice active acceptance</strong></p> <p>When we have some ability to influence or control a situation, active coping or problem-solving strategies are generally best. But this approach of taking charge is much less effective when we are managing in circumstances beyond our control, like the current pandemic.</p> <p><a rel="noopener" href="https://doi.org/10.1016/j.cpr.2019.05.001" target="_blank">Research</a> shows a style of coping called “acceptance coping” results in significantly less distress during such times.</p> <p>Importantly, acceptance isn’t a passive process. It’s not giving up. Rather, it’s reminding ourselves “this is how things are right now”. Psychologists call this helpful, active acceptance, as opposed to resigning acceptance.</p> <p>Key steps to acceptance are to notice and acknowledge thoughts and feelings about a situation and then focus on what is important as we tackle the challenge. For example you may notice feeling sad, allow yourself to experience that emotion (acceptance) and then focus on something that is important for that day, for example dialling into a team meeting to check on colleagues.</p> <p><img src="https://images.theconversation.com/files/423247/original/file-20210927-125051-1ch29fw.jpg?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&amp;q=45&amp;auto=format&amp;w=754&amp;fit=clip" alt="Young child talking to others on device." /></p> <p><em><span class="caption">Connecting with others helps us stay resilient in times of crisis.</span> <span class="attribution"><span class="source">Shutterstock/SewCream</span></span></em></p> <p><strong>3. Connect with others</strong></p> <p>A third strategy that helps nudge us towards flourishing is connecting with others. In our world of physical distancing, the good news is that with connection, it’s quality over quantity. The benefits of being with others come largely from the emotional connection you make with another person.</p> <p>Significant <a rel="noopener" href="https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/1745691617692106" target="_blank">research</a> has shown that experiencing frequent positive emotions (hope, joy and achievement) help people stay resilient and thrive even in times of crisis. Recent <a rel="noopener" href="https://bpl.berkeley.edu/docs/2021%20-%20Shared%20Emotions%20in%20Shared%20Lives.pdf" target="_blank">studies</a> show co-experienced positive emotions – the good feelings you get when you really connect with someone – may be even more important than positive emotions experienced alone.</p> <p>In even more compelling evidence, recent <a rel="noopener" href="https://www.massgeneral.org/news/press-release/Study-of-more-than-100-modifiable-factors-for-depression-identifies-social-connection-as-the-strongest-protective-factor" target="_blank">research</a> examining more than one hundred risk factors for mental illness found that social connection was the strongest protective factor against depression. Finding ways of feeling connected with people in your bubble, as well as staying connected online with others, is one of the best strategies.</p> <p>These key strategies of balance, acceptance and connection help us to move from languishing towards flourishing. Focusing on practising these skills may serve as a psychological vaccine in these pandemic times.</p> <p><em>Gaynor Parkin and Dr Amanda Wallis, from Umbrella Wellbeing, have both contributed to this article.</em><!-- Below is The Conversation's page counter tag. Please DO NOT REMOVE. --><img style="border: none !important; box-shadow: none !important; margin: 0 !important; max-height: 1px !important; max-width: 1px !important; min-height: 1px !important; min-width: 1px !important; opacity: 0 !important; outline: none !important; padding: 0 !important; text-shadow: none !important;" src="https://counter.theconversation.com/content/168733/count.gif?distributor=republish-lightbox-basic" alt="The Conversation" width="1" height="1" /><!-- End of code. If you don't see any code above, please get new code from the Advanced tab after you click the republish button. The page counter does not collect any personal data. 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12 questions to assess the health of your relationship

<p><em><strong>Susan Krauss Whitbourne is a professor of Psychology and Brain Sciences at the University of Massachusetts Amherst. She writes the <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/experts/susan-krauss-whitbourne-phd" target="_blank">Fulfilment at Any Age</a></span> blog for Psychology Today.</strong></em></p> <p>If you’re lucky enough to make it into midlife with your closest relationship intact, you know that over the course of the decades, that relationship has changed. The factors that spelled success in your earlier years no longer seem to apply once you’ve made it through your 40s, 50s, and beyond. Acknowledging that the rules for relationship success in midlife and beyond are not the same as those of youth, University of Miami family psychologist Blaine Fowers and colleagues (2016) developed a measure of relationship health especially designed for mature couples. With their measure of relationship “flourishing,” or the Relationship Flourishing Scale (RFS), the Fowers team hope to capture the key qualities, in a good long-term partnership, of being able to grow and change as a couple as well as individuals.</p> <p>The University of Miami researchers propose that a positive relationship science needs to become established in which it’s recognised that over time, couples experience fulfillment in ways that may not appear synonymous with “satisfaction” or “happiness.” Instead, they propose that consistent with the Aristotlean notion of “eudaimonia,” the quality of long-term relationships should be measured in terms of such qualities as meaning and purpose, personal growth, goal sharing, and relational giving (prioritising the partner more than oneself).  It doesn’t necessarily take decades, but it’s more likely that long-term couples will develop a shared identity in which they find it impossible to imagine themselves without their partner, regard their partner as essential to their daily existence, and regard their goals as mutually compatible. They also share a history and, just as our memory is a part of our identity, that shared history becomes part of their identity as a couple. Imagine returning to your favorited family vacation spot without your partner. It just wouldn’t seem the same.</p> <p>Relationships that are floundering, by contrast, don’t have that quality of mutual growth and connectedness. They feel stale, empty, and confining. You and your partner share hardly anything of importance to each other anymore, and you could be just as happy alone as you are when you’re together, if not happier.</p> <p>The RFS provides 12 simple behaviorally-based items that will allow you to judge your own relationship’s health with this new, made-for-midlife, measure. Rate each item from 1 (never or strongly disagree) to 5 (always or strongly agree):</p> <p>1. I have more success in my important goals because of my partner’s help.</p> <p>2. We look for activities that help us to grow as a couple.</p> <p>3. My partner has helped me to grow in ways that I could not have done on my own.</p> <p>4. It is worth it to share my most personal thoughts with my partner.</p> <p>5. When making important decisions, I think about whether it will be good for our relationship.</p> <p>6. It is natural and easy for me to do things that keep our relationship strong.</p> <p>7. Talking with my partner helps me to see things in new ways.</p> <p>8. I make it a point to celebrate my partner’s successes.</p> <p>9. I really work to improve our relationship.</p> <p>10. My partner shows interest in things that are important to me.</p> <p>11. We do things that are deeply meaningful to us as a couple.</p> <p>12. I make time when my partner needs to talk.</p> <p>This scale pretty much scores itself, as you can see, but it does divide up into these 4 areas of relationship flourishing, as determined by the statistical analyses of the over 400 married individuals in the Fowers et al. sample:</p> <p>Goal sharing= 1, 6, 10</p> <p>Personal growth= 2, 3, 7</p> <p>Meaning= 5, 9, 11</p> <p>Relational giving= 4, 8, 12</p> <p>Once you’ve given yourself this scale, try this next step in the process. Ask your partner to complete it as well but on his or her own time (i.e. not with you present). If you want to add a layer of complexity to the process, see if you can guess how he or she would respond. Then sit down and compare notes. You may find that despite what you perceive of as celebrating your partner’s success is seen, instead, as apathy —or worse, as jealousy or competitiveness. If you and your partner can go through the items of greatest discrepancy in a constructive and non-confrontational manner, you should be able to identify two or three key areas in which both of you could work harder to achieve greater alignment.</p> <p>Midlife can be a time of relationship stress, given the many pressures operating on all of us to keep up with our obligations, routines, and demands. However, by taking advantage of your shared lives, identities, and histories, it can also be a time of your greatest relationship fulfillment, a fulfillment that will continue to flourish.</p>

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