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Cancer survivor dies after contracting Covid from dishonest friend

<p><em>Image: Facebook</em></p> <p>A US woman who survived cancer has died of Covid-19 after contracting the illness from an infected friend who hid the diagnosis to play cards at a social gathering.</p> <p>The woman’s grieving family has reported that Barb Bartolovich, 82, of Ohio, who had previously overcome blood cancer, was vaccinated and took all necessary precautions against Covid.</p> <p>Barb made sure to only socialise with like-minded people amid the pandemic, WXYZ reports.</p> <p>As reported by the<span> </span><em>New York Post</em>, she decided to get together with friends to play cards and asked everyone beforehand if they were vaccinated, with everyone saying they were – but the family claims one of them had lied.</p> <p>“Somebody decided that testing positive for Covid is something they can hide,” Ms Bartolovich’s granddaughter, Lauren Nash, told<span> </span><em>WXYZ</em>. “The only way we found out is that the person owned up after Nana got sick.”</p> <p>Ms Bartolovich was hospitalised, placed on a ventilator and died on December 21, according to the report.</p> <p>“She was just everything to everyone. As everyone says, if you knew Barb, you were loved. She was taken too soon,” said Ms Nash, who wants to spread the message about the importance of safety measures.</p> <p>“It is not worth it. It is not worth knowing you hurt someone, potentially hurt someone, or killed someone because you want to go out and have fun.</p> <p>“I am just horrified at where we are and what is going on, that we are not taking into account people’s lives.”</p> <p>Ms Bartolovich, who lost her husband, Frank “Moose” Bartolovich in 2014, “cherished her role as a wife, mother and grandmother”, according to her obituary on<span> </span>WKBN.</p> <p>“A little firecracker, Barbara was always raring to go for family gatherings, vacations and impromptu outings. She was their support system throughout life and she taught them many lessons,” it said.</p> <p>“Barbara’s motto was, ‘There is nothing so bad in life that can’t be fixed,’” it continued.</p> <p>“She was considered cool and fun to her grandchildren and they described her as, ‘To know her was to love her and to be loved by her was the most special feeling in the world. She made every one of us feel special in her own Nana way.’”</p> <p>Ms Bartolovich leaves behind her four children and 10 grandchildren.</p>

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Is it ever ok to lie as a caregiver?

<p>No matter how honest and truthful you may believe yourself to be, the fact is, everyone has told at least one lie in their life. Whether it’s something small like, “I don’t remember you asking me to take the bins out,” or a much more serious betrayal like cheating on a partner, we’re all guilty of being dishonest from time to time. When it comes to caregiving, however, is it ever ok to tell a lie?</p> <p>According to a survey of more than 700 carers by <a href="https://www.agingcare.com/articles/why-caregivers-lie-157559.htm" target="_blank"><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;">AgingCare.com</span></strong></a>, 73 per cent of people taking care of ageing family members have lied to them – and 43 per cent admit they fib at least once a week.</p> <p>So, what are they lying about? For many, it’s all about concealing how they really feel. “65 percent of frequent fibbers say that they tell untruths in order to hide their real emotions from the ones they're taking care of,” the survey found. And, given the vast array of emotions (both <a href="http://www.oversixty.com.au/health/caring/2016/05/the-4-negative-feelings-every-caregiver-experiences/" target="_blank"><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;">negative</span></strong></a> and positive) that caregiving can evoke, it’s not exactly surprising.</p> <p>However, it turns out lying to the person being cared for isn’t necessarily always a bad thing. Researchers have found that “therapeutic lying,” <a href="http://www.psychiatrictimes.com/forensic-psychiatry/therapeutic-lying-contradiction-terms" target="_blank"><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;">defined</span></strong></a> as “the practice of deliberately deceiving patients for reasons considered in their best interest,” may be beneficial when communicating with sufferers of neurodegenerative conditions like dementia.</p> <p>“While therapeutic fibbing isn’t appropriate for every circumstance, when used correctly, it offers a much kinder, practical way to stop troubling behaviour and reduce emotional distress,” Dr Amy D’Aprix writes in a column for <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/dr-amy-d/white-lies-when-fibbing-is-therapeutic_b_3381458.html" target="_blank"><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;">The Huffington Post</span></strong></a>.</p> <p>That being said, however, Dr D’Aprix admits there are some situations in which you should avoid lying – even it if it’ll make your loved one feel better. “It’s not appropriate to tell a therapeutic fib because “the truth will hurt.” In these instances, it denies someone their full human experience. So, when a woman with dementia loses her husband, she’s entitled to know. It may cause significant emotional pain, but grieving is part of the human experience. On the other hand, when therapeutic fibbing positively impacts health and well-being, it’s very useful.”</p> <p>Are you a caregiver? Have you ever used “therapeutic lying” as a method of calming your loved one down? Share you experiences with us in the comments below.</p>

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