Should you feel obliged to pay your partner’s rent?
A woman has taken to Reddit to ask whether or not she should pay $3,000 for her boyfriend’s rent to avoid him being evicted.
In her post, the woman says she has been dating her partner for a year and that he lost his job in August.
Since then, he had been working odd part-time jobs to help pay the bills on the home he shares with two others.
The woman’s way of helping was paying for “everything” on their dates before realising he may have been taking advantage of her.
“I was okay with it at first, but seeing him get a little too comfortable made me have a conversation with him a few weeks ago about it,” she wrote.
Miraculously, a few days after the chat, her boyfriend was hired full-time in a higher-paying job.
“He’s working to get his bank account out of the negatives and catch up on bills.”
She also revealed that the trio have to front court to avoid eviction for being so far behind in their rent.
“Truthfully, I am conflicted. That’s a large sum of money, but I care about him and don’t want him to be evicted.”
The woman wanted to also clarify that her partner was not asking for help – but neither was he opposed to her offer.
Reddit users shared their opinions on the matter, with many saying she shouldn’t help her partner.
“Are you comfortable with the idea of never seeing that $3000 ever again? Moreover, have the other two guys fixed the fact they can't come up with rent money?” one wrote.
“I'm erring towards a no on this one. If your BF gets evicted, perhaps you can help him find a new place....but being involved in the finances of 3 grown men that can't pay rent sounds like a quick and painful way to ruin a relationship AND flush 3 grand down a toilet.”
“Only ‘lend’ him the money if you're OK with not getting it back. Never lend money you can't afford to lose. Also don't let him move in with you, he sounds like a bad financial risk,” another commented.
“Do. Not. Help. He was getting too comfortable and only got his sh*t together following a conversation about it,” another advised.
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