Over60 community reveal their 6 biggest relationship deal-breakers
What’s your biggest deal-breaker when it comes to love? That’s what we asked the Over60 community recently, and the responses were overwhelming. Here are six of the biggest red-flags in relationships according to our readers.
1. No communication
“The lack of communication, often people think their partner should understand how they feel, without actually articulating it.” – Anne McKeon.
“Communication. Talk to each other and more importantly listen.” – Debbie Bryant.
“My mum always told me that a good marriage meant: give, take and communicate.” – Christa Caldecott.
2. Emotional and physical abuse
“Domestic violence. Some people need to look up the meaning of these two words. Emotional blackmail.” – Rozanne Kevill.
“Violence it's the only thing I can’t see being able to work through. Married 24 years and still working through new issues.” – Teresa Grudzinski.
“Emotional and psychological abuse, financial abuse, physical and sexual abuse, these are killers.” – Patricia Simmons.
3. Dishonesty and unfaithfulness
“Destruction of trust. Honesty and love is paramount.” – Tony Saddington.
“Infidelity. It destroys trust which is the foundation of a relationship.” – Jayne Connerton.
“Lying. It destroys trust and a lack of trust can destroy love, so tell it how it is.” – Rob Fitzpatrick.
4. Financial incompatibility
“When one partner has a different attitude to spending money and running up debt than the other. It’s never going to get better.” – Felicity Weston.
“Money wasting or perceived money wasting.” – Barbara Easthope.
5. Pride and ego
“Pride, some people are too proud to admit they are wrong, or that something said hurt them so they simply let little things fester and become so big they explode and say the most awful things that usually aren’t true. Then resentment builds between both partners.” – Vonnie Bateman.
“One partner’s unshakeable belief in his/her own perfection and a complete refusal to discuss issues.” – Dianne McDonald
6. Lack of respect
“Lack of consideration, lack of control of bodily functions and body odour, taking over conversations and definitely not knowing when to shut up!” – Christine Speers.
“Lack of respect for the other’s differing opinion.” – Helen Miles.
“The root cause of all of these things is lack of respect and consideration of one’s partner.” – Marlee Marley.
Tell us in the comments below, what would you add to our list?