6 tips for going to an event on your own
Whether you’ve always been single, or are recently single or widowed, taking those first steps out into the social scene can feel daunting.
1. Find opportunities to chat
Waiting at the bar or lining up for the toilet are two great chances to strike up a conversation with someone. Most people are happy to be distracted by their wait so why not try to make a friend there.
2. Mention your status
If you find someone nice to chat to, don’t be shy about dropping into the conversation that you came to the event on your own. This way they might make more of a point of introducing you to people they know or saving you a spot for a sit-down meal.
3. Ask questions
People generally love to talk about themselves (after all, it’s a topic that each person is an expert on) so a great way to get to know people is to ask questions. They don’t need to be too deep and meaningful, something as simple as where they are from, where they live, have you seen any good films lately is a good place to begin.
4. Bring something
For some reason, having something to hold in your hands or an object to talk about can make you feel less awkward in a social setting. It might be a great handbag, a fun scarf or even just a glass of wine. The one thing not to hold though? Your phone. It makes you look like you’d rather be somewhere else.
5. Keep up to date
Ensure that you have some interesting topics up your sleeve to chat about should you find yourself talking with someone. Have you been to a new restaurant near the venue? Are you about to travel overseas to somewhere interesting? Do you have some funny anecdote about the last time you went out on your own that you’d like to share?
6. Dress with confidence
Now isn’t the time to try out the super short mini-dress or 70’s Hawaiian shirt. Wear something that you know looks good and makes you feel great. This way you won’t be fidgeting with a scratchy collar or hitching up too-big tights. Another great idea is to wear an eye-catching colour, as it’s often a good conversation starter when everyone else is wearing mostly black.
What advice do you have for people attending an event solo? Share your ideas in the comments.
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