“I was floored”: Mother-in-law poses as husband to announce pregnancy online
A pregnant woman has asked the internet whether she was justified in losing her temper after her mother-in-law announced her pregnancy behind her and her husband’s back - all while pretending to be the husband.
Taking to Reddit’s ‘Am I The A**hole’ thread, the 23-year-old woman explained that her pregnancy wasn’t planned, and that since she and her husband still hadn’t decided whether they would go through with the pregnancy, that they wouldn’t tell anyone until they did.
But the husband told his mother about their pregnancy news, making her swear not to tell anyone either.
“He didn’t tell her we aren’t sure about it but just to stay quiet,” the woman wrote.
“Well, she begged and begged that she announce it on Facebook under the guise of using our permission but I said absolutely not, and lied and said my husband and I wanted to announce it ourselves later if we decide to go through with it.
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“Just a day ago I found out she logged into my husband’s Facebook account and dropped the bomb (made the announcement and yes she pretended to be my husband!) behind our back.”
The woman explained how “floored” she was by her mother-in-law’s actions and that she called her to confront her.
“I called her and she said she figured if she made the announcement using one of our social media accounts then we won’t mind and it’d still look like we made the announcement,” the woman continued.
“But like I stated earlier, we’re still trying to make a decision. I lost my temper and yelled at her which made her cry. I said she overstepped and messed up completely then hung up.”
Her husband then became upset and yelled about her “poor treatment and abuse” towards his mother.
“I told him it violated our privacy and put us in more pressure to finally make a decision for the baby since the family are now calling to say ‘congratulations’,” she wrote.
“He said that it was his fb (Facebook account) so none of my privacy was ‘violated’ and that I shouldn’t have yelled and hurt her feelings and made her cry no matter what, period.”
The husband asked her to apologise and that they’d “talk about the pregnancy later”, but she didn’t answer and wouldn’t go with him to his mother’s house to “grovel with apologies”.
Asking the forum whether she was in the wrong, she was met with numerous answers supporting her and some that questioned whether she should get a divorce.
“Think hard about whether you want to be tied to this family for the next 18 years,” one person said.
“Is your husband going to yell at you and side with his mom every time you disagree about your kid? Termination and say you miscarried is one option. Sounds like your husband’s family is trying to force your hand. This marriage sounds over already tbh (to be honest).”
Another commented: “Like she so clearly crossed a line and the fact that neither of them see it that way is very concerning.”
"Yes...why does she have his FB (Facebook) password?" another queried. "Sounds like she also has other SM (social media) passwords as well. This is so odd and a HUGE red flag. Add the fact that he feels mommy did nothing wrong and wife needs to apologize? I see an awful future ahead."
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