“Berserk” reason mum banned from son’s wedding
A wedding is a momentous celebration, highlighting two people's love for each other, but it can also be a horribly toxic experience when some people start to make ridiculous demands in the hopes to make their big day perfect.
Turning to online parenting forum Mumsnet, a woman recounts the story of how she is now uninvited to her son’s wedding.
“My only son has met, got engaged to and then moved in with a girl he met through work,” she began.
“At first she was OK and stayed at ours,” she continued, adding that her future daughter-in-law was “not very sociable” but she respected his choice and is happy, as long as he is.
“I went out bought a new dress, and all the works ready for it, then he turns up and says no-one can wear certain colours as that’s what she wants,” wrote the woman.
“Fine, except one of those was the base colour of my new outfit,” she wrote.
“Obviously I wouldn’t wear plain white or cream, but it has a cream underlay and the rest is pink and grey floral.”
She said her son asked her not to wear it.
The situation has gotten so out of hand that the son will constantly call her throughout the week to ask if she’s found another dress yet. “I reply not yet – still looking, which I am and it’s still over a month away,” she wrote.
“I agreed not to wear it after hearing her throw a tantrum whilst on the phone to him and thought that it should be fine.
"Now she's gone bezerk, and yesterday she sent a text telling me not to turn up as I will not be allowed in."
The mother of the groom said the situation is making her incredibly upset and asked fellow users for advice on whether she should attend the wedding anyway.
The majority of users were on the mother’s side, as they failed to understand how not yet finding a replacement dress is enough to uninvite the mother of the groom.
“Since when did brides tell their husbands to be family what to wear? She’s batsh*t!” wrote one person.
Another said, "Someone who is so rude and stroppy about a dress, is not going to turn into a reasonable and polite person the minute the wedding is over. There will be tantrums over everything, and everyone having to walk on eggshells around this very volatile young woman."
Others commented that there must be more to the story, but the woman made it very clear that she agreed not to wear the dress the first time she was asked. She even shared a photo of her dress for those who doubted her, and once users saw the photo, they couldn’t understand what the issue was.
"God, I hope a load of guests ignore the colour rules lol will she have bouncers on the door kicking people out," said one user.
One said at this point she would text her son the following: "I wish you a happy marriage and wedding, but I don’t support it and won’t be attending. My door is always open to you both but I’m stepping away until you both behave I’m a more adult and reasonable way."
Others advised her to be the bigger person for the sake of maintaining a relationship with her son.
"I would look at keeping the peace and get a new dress. However, are u still invited to the wedding?"
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