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Wed, 25 Nov, 2020

Meghan Markle opens up about "unbearable grief"

Meghan Markle opens up about "unbearable grief"

The Duchess of Sussex has revealed she had a miscarriage in July, and shared her experience in a piece for The New York Times.

She said she had a feeling of "an almost unbearable grief" and explained her reason for sharing something so personal.

"I knew, as I clutched my firstborn child, that I was losing my second," she wrote.

The Duchess felt a "sharp cramp" while looking after her son Archie, who was born on 6th May 2019.

"Hours later, I lay in a hospital bed, holding my husband’s hand. I felt the clamminess of his palm and kissed his knuckles, wet from both our tears. Staring at the cold white walls, my eyes glazed over. I tried to imagine how we’d heal."

She's urged people to "commit to asking others 'are you okay?" over the Thanksgiving holidays in the US.

An insider confirmed to the BBC that Meghan is currently in good health despite going through the miscarriage.

A Buckingham Palace spokesman said: "It's a deeply personal matter we would not comment on."

Clea Harmer, chief executive of stillbirth and neonatal death charity Sands, said that it was a "sad reality" that there was a stigma around pregnancy loss and baby death.

"The isolation we have all felt this year has made it even more difficult for parents whose baby has died during the Covid-19 pandemic and has brought back painful emotions for all those who have lost precious loved ones," she said.

Dr Christine Ekechi, of the Royal College of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists, said it was "important" that any stigma or shame surrounding this issue was removed.

"Sadly, early miscarriages are very common and they can be a devastating loss for parents and their families," she said.

And Alice Weeden, from charity the Miscarriage Association, told the BBC: "When somebody, particularly in the public eye, talks about it openly, it's helpful for other people to know that they are not alone."