Barbara Binland is the pen name of a senior, Julie Grenness, in Melbourne, Victoria, Australia. She is a poet, writer, and part-time English and Maths tutor, with over 40 years of experience. Her many books are available on Amazon and Kindle.
Sixty-plus and single? Do you want to meet someone for a successful relationship? But exactly where or how?
Of course, it is not compulsory to be half of a couple. But society and our parents conditioned us in certain ways. Women of our age were groomed to wed ‘the one’, our handsome prince, so we would not be old maids. We met the beloved in high school, in university, at work, at a party, or at a hotel. We believed in romance, in happy ever after, but did we ever glimpse beyond the wedding reception, with plastic chicken and phony foods?
Men over sixty were totally nurtured by their mothers, who cooked, baked, sewed, washed, ironed, made clothes, did housework, even gardened, rarely seeing beyond the picket fence. These men, despite living through the women’s liberation movement, can still subconsciously expect a nurturing female, making cakes and mashed potatoes every mealtime. But does this meet any woman’s emotional needs? Is this what women of any age really want to do for ‘love’?
So, where to meet this romantic companion? Even if we work, do you meet social contacts in the workplace? Do you go nightclubbing, or to parties? Fat chance. Where are all the 60-plus singles?
Why, on online dating websites. You can advertise yourself, as if in a stud book of rams and ewes at the Royal Show. Do these websites prey on emotionally vulnerable singles of any age to make money? Do we still have romantic notions, or are you realistically seeking a mature friendship or relationship, which is built on compromising our expectations? Do we hope for ‘chemistry’, or ‘sparks’, which are both umbrella terms? Maybe these expressions imply we could fancy someone if they sort of meet our expectations.
So, online dating is an experience. We must learn from the past, and use emotional smarts. Do we give up, if we are still seeking someone? No, never give up. We need our own warning signs, to beware of predators, or self-seeking individuals, or, indeed, gold diggers, male or female. Anyone’s path in life can change. Maybe sixty-plus singles are all hopeless romantics. Nothing wrong with that, we are all human. Never give up!
So, what are your online dating experiences? Let us know in the comment section below.
Image is a stock photo and not of Barbara Binland.